My ex-husband and I are currently going through family mediation to regulate child custody. We've been told that since April 2011 a new law has come out here in the UK that requires couples going through mediation first before being able to start a Court litigation. We had 2 sessions so far, but don't seem to go anywhere. The sessions are very expensive and I've got the impression that the mediators try to delay the whole process in order to get the maximum of money out of us. In these two sessions we were not even able to talk about the most important issues, but the mediators rather focused on some minor details and do not accept that we chose the prioritary topics.
Hence my question: how many sessions do we actually need? Do we need to regulate everything through the mediator, or are two sessions enough to show that we had the "good will" to go through mediation?
I have to say that it was actually my ex who wanted to go to mediation. We have 50/50 custody of our child (7), but have only verbally agreed on the details (when, how often, where, etc.). I have recently re-married and am currently expecting my second child with my new husband. My ex took it very badly and kind of "lost it", coming up with a list of totally unreasonable requests (i.e. my current husband not being allowed to stay alone with our child, etc.) pressing me to go into mediation to get his points through.
I know for a fact that no Court would anyway accept his requests, as our child is well, has a loving bond with my new husband and my husband is a very devoted and responsible stepfather. It irks me that I have to pay all this money for discussing futile requests, I'd rather go and see a family lawyer and put a document together that regulates the details of child custody and also keeps my ex from poisoning my newly found family happiness.
Anyone got any advice on this?
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Ukuleila · 11/11/2011 17:38
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