I am at the end of the line with my marriage.
Been married 14 years but kids are both under 10.
H is verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and there has been mild but undocumented episodes of him losing his temper and making threats of violence in the past. He is rough, shoves and pushes and barges when he is in a mood.
I've said I'm willing to go to couples counselling as my behaviour has not been exemplary in response to his vile treatment of me so an outsider could say I contribute to the situation.
H won't respond to any request to go to counselling, he's a master in stonewalling and long moody silences with a face like thunder.
I have now said that it's a) counselling or b) separation (in my mind obviously pending divorce in the long run). I have made it clear the staus quo does not feature as option (c).
As usual no response at all and he continues in the same pattern of behaviour.
I will not move out with the kids, not negotiable, we have many many reasons to stay where we are and the disturbance/upheaval would hinder my ability to work and support me and the kids. H won't look after the animals we have accumulated and I can't find somewhere to accomodate them and us.
So what is my next step ?
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If your h won't move out or communicate how do you go ahead with separating/divorce
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omgomgomg · 07/11/2011 08:34
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