Brief background - mum is 84, diagnosed with early stage alzheimers in May this year. She still lives alone, very resistant to any help but it has become increasingly obvious lately that she is not coping very well - unpaid bills, dirty home, dirty clothes, increased confusion.
My brother and I do our best with help but we don't live near her and both have busy jobs, kids etc which I feel very guilty about as I feel we are letting her down and neglecting her.
Popped in yesterday to see her and found her asleep in bed, fully clothed, and I was unable to wake her. Lots of over the counter medicines scattered about, like beechams, benylin which she has always overdone and I worried if this time she had seriously overdone them so called an ambulance.
Hospital said she was severely dehydrated, had a urine infection and are worried about her chest scan so kept her in last night. My brother and I have been chatting this morning and are very reluctant to take her home to the situation she has been in as it is now obviously at the stage where she can't cope - we were reluctant to force her to go into a home or have carers popping in as she was so against it and it would distress her but this has reached the point where we go against her will unfortnately.
So, what can I do if the hospital say 'off you go', can I refuse to take her home. No room for her at my home or my brothers . She looked like a tiny lost child sitting in that hospital bed last night.
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Mum in hospital - can I refuse to take her home so she gets more help?
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sandyballs · 17/07/2011 09:20
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