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Q about expat divorces

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Fiderer · 12/07/2011 12:57

I've lived in an EU country for 20 years, married in the UK. Am trying to find out if it would be quicker/cheaper for us to get divorced in the UK. Read lots about "domicile of origin" versus "domicile of choice". Main sticking block seems to be that I'm an Irish national, moved to England aged 6 and my mum still lives there, so for me it was always "home".
Legally not though?
Any help appreciated, have first appointment with lawyer here on Thursday.

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babybarrister · 12/07/2011 13:16

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Fiderer · 12/07/2011 13:25

Thank you! Have been googling around so much my eyeballs are spinning. Wanted to clear as much as poss in my head before Thursday. Am in Germany.

Making sure I have good advice - that's the hard bit! How do you know? I've asked around and although several acquaintances have recommended the lawyer I'm seeing, none have been there for divorce stuff. The partner deals with family law so I asked to see her.

With all the Harry Potter stuff atm, any chance of you coming up with a charm I can use on her to determine if she is, indeed, Any Good?

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babybarrister · 12/07/2011 13:29

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Fiderer · 12/07/2011 13:45

No idea - thought that was just an English thing. Appreciate your help
Back to google and my growing list of questions.
Am mostly concerned that he's volatile and angry and determined to sell the house and if I don't agree, he will default on the payments. But as he's threatening to leave the country and pay no maintenance, I don't see what I gain by leaving here and going into rented accommodation.
Ahh. Such a mess. The children's lives (and their dad) are here but there are days I wish I could just fly us all home.

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Fiderer · 12/07/2011 17:37

Am in Germany. Married in UK and therefore wondered if divorcing in UK would be easier/cheaper. Plenty of food for thought and am v grateful for your taking the time to answer.

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Collaborate · 12/07/2011 19:56

You really need to take full advice from lawyers in both countries. Finances will be dealt with differently in each, and there may be a distinct advantage to you in choosing one over another.

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Fiderer · 12/07/2011 23:25

"Finances will be dealt with differently in each, and there may be a distinct advantage to you in choosing one over another."

"Generally if you are the party who has earnt less or brought less financially to the marraige and in particular stayed at home and looked after the children, then you will have more generous financial provision on a divorce in England - there is reason London is called the divorce capital of the world."

That's what made me ask - and no, I don't expect a German lawyer to be familiar with the ins and outs of expat divorce, esp as I am in the (admittedly v pretty) wilds here.

Yy to email or phone consultation.

Thanks again for replies.

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Fiderer · 13/07/2011 11:38

Just what I needed - thank you so much.
Website very informative and have emailed him. Also you can read it in German so v useful for all the legal terms I now need to understand and talk about.
Am tempted to kick self for not having sorted things out earlier but my head's been all over the place and now I reckon time is better spent writing list of questions for lawyer tomorrow.