Soon to be Ex-H left the family home over 2 years ago. When he left he also left behind a HUGE amount of debt and mess, TBH this was the reason we split up, his lack of financial responsibility was out of control and things were just getting worse.
Due to his credit rating any credit cards were in my name (his bad credit rating should have been enough for me to say no, I cant tell you how stupid and thick I feel even writing this). We had credit cards and couldnt keep up with them, so took out a loan to clear them, then took money out with our mortgage provider, meaning the mortgage is now to the hilt and the house is in negative equity.
This became a cycle and I am now left with 4 credit card debts and a loan, to the total of over £16k (prob more like £20k with fees and charges, etc).
His name is still on the joint mortgage - I have paid the mortgage myself since he left. The house is an issue on its own, as it is in negative equity. I owned my own house for 5 years and sold with a £30k profit which I put into this house, he had a tv and stereo :o
I am now at the point where I cant handle it anymore, the CONSTANT letters, phone calls etc were difficult enough, I have now had visits to my door from debt collectors and this week received court papers which i have to fill in and send back offering a repayment amount. I accept responsibility for my actions and would glady pay back anything I could, BUT as a single mum with two children (under the age of 6), a mortgage and bills to pay, I am at my wits end as I will never be able to pay this back :(
My ex has not helped and wont help, he actually said he will deny he even knew I had credit cards - which angers and saddens me, he is walking round with clear vision thanks to laser eye treatment which was paid for by one of the debts I am now stuck with, he is driving a car which was paid off by the loan money, etc, etc. The debts were amassed due to family/household & martial reasons, I did not have exotic holidays and 3 new cars (I have a car which I bought outright from a policy I held for 10 years).
Basically I NEED to take action NOW, I cannot cope with this any longer, I cant sleep and always feel angry. I just dont know how to start, where to start, what option, IVA or bankruptcy. Right now I cant see any light at the end of this darkening tunnel :( Thanks for reading x
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Pinkfox · 12/06/2011 21:51
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