I feel guilty posting this, I hope I do not seem money grabbing. But I am really confused.
My grandma died recently. Before I go any further I have to say I loved her, she was a brilliant lady and I feel terribly guilty for thinking this. She was a widow with two sons, one Grandaughter (me), and a greatgrandaughter (my DD).
My grandmother told me years ago that she had left me a third of the proceeds from selling her family home in her will. i would have thought this would be at least £60,000.00 (sorry to talk figures but it gives this some perspective). After she sold this home she moved to a small sheltered accomodation bungalow.
For the last 5 years of her life she lived in a nursing home.
My father and uncle are in the process of sorting out her will, they are using a solicitor. As far as I was aware grandma was pretty wealthy. I would have expected her will to include money from the sale of the family home referred to earlier, plus quite a lot of savings, shares etc..
They have told me that I will not be getting my share from the sale of her family home because it has all been spent. I.e. this part has been spent but not all her money has been spent, so my Dad and Uncle will be receiving an inheritance.
My father borrowed from Grandma over the past few years (big expensive divorce, new house purchase, money to keep his business going). So his forward borrowings will be deducted from his share of the will.
Dad has said that he will give me a small amount of his share, about £3,000.00, as due to his forward borrowing he will not be getting much money.
I am sorry if this seems rambling but I am confused, I can't see where the money that she left me has gone. She had a good pension which I would have thought paid her nursing home fees. I know my uncle is receiving at least £350,000.00.
My family have the capacity to be selfish and I have a niggling fear that the money she left me has been swallowed up by dad's forward borrowing and my uncle is not saying anything about this in case it affects his inheritance.
I am sorry if this sounds materialistic. I just don't think it seems quite right. My DD is my absolute priority. Any inheritance that I would have received would have been used to secure her future. If my Dad and/or uncle are being unfair then they are stealing from my DD- which seems very wrong.
I don't have the guts to tackle this directly with my Dad, I could be wrong and I think he will be livid if he thinks I am questioning his honesty.
They are using a solicitor so maybe s/he is ensuring that they have been fair to me??
I know the easy answer is to ask Dad about this but I am not sure if my thoughts are reasonable? I can't face looking like I don't trust him when he has told me he is kindly giving me a bit of his share....
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Confused by money left to me in will- my father says it has been spent. Can anyone advise me?
guiltilysuspicious · 01/02/2011 16:59
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