Having received brilliant help and support here - all of which has been taken by BIL and he now has a solicitor and legal aid lined up - I just wanted a little rant about an email she sent him with her demands.
BIL has had a dreadful life with her and has proved that men can also be victims of domestic abuse, more in the emotional variety but equally damaging.
She is damanding he pay her £350 a month to cover, 15 yo (16 in 2 months) DDs needs including hobbies (horse riding). She says this is the CSA estimate. He earns £180 net pw, and their online calculator determines this at £25! He is happy to pay this and is saving it in an account in DDs name. He will also continue to pay if she goes to uni.
She says the house is valued at £152,500. (Its not, similar houses are £180,000. even with the recent falls) and has offered him £10,000 in full settlement with no further claim on his business or property. The business is making a loss and failing for years, his property is all in his name (car etc) and may total £5000 max. She also wants him to pay £105 per month to the household expenses, despite the fact he is homeless!
She says she can keep the house against his wishes until DD leaves full time education - 7-9 years! And BIL must pay £350 pcm maintenance for all this time - then she will allow him to take his 50% share after all costs are taken out and the capital repaid.
She wants 1/2 all the assets (car etc) in his name, complete with 1/2 the money in his private bank account (not joint). Again not a substantial amount.
I am not asking for advice but just wanting a major rant about this unreasonable bullying woman. I spoke to BIL today after he read this email and he was upbeat and optomistic for the first time in weeks and surprised me by not being intimidated. and face at the same time!!
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sneezecakesmum · 20/01/2011 13:17
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