How many children do you have?

(47 Posts)

Wondering what the average large family consider large, I'm guessing most will have 4 dc.

I will be surprised if many have more than 6 - don't know why!

Fourbytwo Mon 19-Nov-12 10:21:24

I have 4dc but really don't feel like I have a large family. I guess as it is a gradual thing and not suddenly just 4 extra children in the house it, has crept up on me.
I do think that another dc would tip me over the edge though, no more babies for me!

3monkeys3 Mon 19-Nov-12 10:22:09

3 at the moment, discussing a 4th. 4 is the most we will have, unless we have twins!

sweetkitty Mon 19-Nov-12 10:23:54

I have four, four doesn't feel large 5 or 6 + feels large. I suppose everything's comparative, if you had 2 4 would seem large.

5kidsnobump Mon 19-Nov-12 20:01:30

We have 5 (probably obviously from the name grin)

I feel like 5 is quite a large number to have, as most of my friends only have 1 or 2. I don't meet many people in RL with more than about 3, although I know there are quite alot of people on MN with 4 or more... Most people I meet think I am completely crazy to have 5!

5 is definately it for us, our youngest is only 3 weeks old and the last pregnancy has been a real struggle. DH had the snip about 2 weeks after we found out we were pregnant with DC5!

annelid Mon 19-Nov-12 21:39:57

I have 6, no.7 due in about 4/5 weeks

Myliferocks Mon 19-Nov-12 21:41:03

I have 5.

3b1g Mon 19-Nov-12 21:42:35

I have four children (as the name suggests smile) which feels like a regular sized family to me. When people have six or more, I think of that as being a big family.

am so jealous, i have 3, my youngest is 3, i am in mourning for my baby years already, but feel too tired and afraid of 4th section to go again, enjoy your lovely babies smile

CODwidow Mon 19-Nov-12 21:47:03

I have 4 and am expecting no 5 in 3 weeks. I think I do have a large family as I don't really know anyone else with more than 3.

3b1g Mon 19-Nov-12 21:48:13

Hairy: sometimes I need telling that. The last two were twins so it feels like the decision to have four rather than three was forced upon us, but we are lucky to have them and I do need reminding of that sometimes.

I have 4 dd's which feels large at times, namely booking holidays, not all getting in on a family ticket on days out, being limited to 6+ seater cars. However each of dp's 3 siblings have 4 dc's too and 4 seems to be a very popular amount to have locally.

3b, dont be hard on yourself, that is true whether you have one child or ten, it is always hard at times!!!

3b1g Mon 19-Nov-12 21:52:44

Thanks Hairy, they are v.close together in age so it can be a bit intense sometimes!

I have 4. They are 5,4,2& nearly 1. Most people I know think we are nuts!

Dh had the snip after number 4 was born.

One of dd1s classmates is from a family of 5 but much much bigger age range.
Don't know anyone else of my generation that I'm friends with who have 4 or more.

Mil is one of 12!

XandaPanda Mon 19-Nov-12 22:05:56

I'm one of 8
Father in-law is 1 of 12 no tv in the dark depths of yorkshire
I would love a big family

NAR4 Tue 20-Nov-12 14:25:14

I am pregnant with number 5. More than 6 seems a large family to me. Probably because a lot of my extended family have 6 children, but noone has more than 6. It's just a case of what is 'normal' for you. Like someone else on here said, because they didn't all come at once, it never seemed that many. Would love to keep going, but think 5 will have to be it (at least for the time being) due to financial restraints.

My mum is 1 of 13. Didn't think that much of this as a child but would love my nan to be alive now so I could chat to her about her experiences. We used to say she was a witch because she could tell people were pregnant, sometimes, before they even knew themselves. She congratulated me on my first pregnancy 1 week before it showed up as positive on a test.

She had a knack of making us all feel invinsible and that we could cope with anything. Maybe thats why so many of us had more than the average number of children.

5madthings Tue 20-Nov-12 14:27:53

i have five as my name suggests. part of me would like one more but i think we are done. i am only 33 tho so have a few more years yet!

notnagging Sat 24-Nov-12 16:25:49

I have 5boys and dh would love a couple of girls. It's very strange being the only girl in the house but I live the attention at the same time. I get so fed up with the trying for a girl! Comments but I love having my boys. I'm 34 so could have a couple more but they have said it involves a lot more monitoring for my fifth pregnancy ( I have a history of twins).

sadsong Sun 25-Nov-12 10:43:50

I have a blended family of mine and dh's children and our own, so in total 10, but of those 6 live with us, 2 come and go and 2 are grown up! So 6-8 mostly! I've so far completed the girls Christmas stockings, still the boys to do! confused

sadsong Sun 25-Nov-12 10:49:30

5madthings, I'm similar age to you! I also can't rule out another! wink my head says no, my body says no, but does that yearning ever go away? Dh has ageed if i want to go ahead i can. hmm

I'm hoping grandchildren follow on soon after children and a seamless gap!! Although they are messy and hugely hard work when they aren't here I feel a bit lost.

I also work full time running my own business so I wouldn't say my children are my whole life. having them has only ever spurred me on to do things not hold me back.

Dillydollydaydream Sun 02-Dec-12 09:11:30

I have 3dc and 14 weeks pregnant with dc4.
I always said 2 or 4 dc so when we had dc3 I either had to have 1 more or return one wink

mumwithovertime Mon 03-Dec-12 11:43:20

I have 5,all at high school now as youngest ( twins are 11 ) when no 4 and 5 were born my eldest was 5 and a half so 5 kids under 6 including 3 in was hectic and tiring but good memories,

Xenia2012 Mon 03-Dec-12 12:11:41

5. It's a lovely number.I'm very lucky. (That includes twins)

NAR4 Tue 04-Dec-12 11:07:50

Love the idea of twins, one pregnancy and one labour, but two children. Sadly one of my twins (3rd pregnancy) died during pregnancy (a long time ago now) and all the rest were singletons. Would have dearly loved this one to be twins and make a nice even 6, but it wasn't to be.

Maybe I should be careful what I wish for, if I ever have any more!

HDee Tue 04-Dec-12 11:11:24

I have six. It often feels like five too many.

salemsparklys Tue 04-Dec-12 14:15:37

I know 2 familys, 1 with 13 boys and 1 with 10 children.

I have 3 and will not be having any more for medical reasons x

mummysaidno Tue 04-Dec-12 20:01:03

I have 7

mummysaidno Tue 04-Dec-12 20:04:47

And 6 step also

mummysaidno Tue 04-Dec-12 20:07:46

An I am pregnant.

idobelieveinfairies Tue 04-Dec-12 20:11:04

I have 8, and there are families on mumsnet with more than me!!!! ;)

moodymai Sat 08-Dec-12 17:22:43

four smile

waferhappy Sat 08-Dec-12 19:41:43

I have four children oldest just turned seven . Have a 5 and 3 year old and youngest is 9 months

Sparklytinsel Sat 08-Dec-12 19:43:45


lisalisa Sat 08-Dec-12 19:44:05

I have 6 bchildren - so nice to hear of some having more than me. Don't know about anyone else but I can hold my hand up anonym9ously on an internet forum and say I 'm not coping too well at the moment!. All kids fed well and clothed well and doctors eyes and teeth and homework all done but joy gone out of it somewhat - too much exhaustion and shouting. Household v difficlt to manage

zaphod Sat 08-Dec-12 19:45:40

5 and I am glad we stopped there, because the older they are the harder parenting gets.

Sparklytinsel Sat 08-Dec-12 19:46:17

I have times like that as well lisalisa especially when my two preteen girls get going!

lisalisa Sat 08-Dec-12 20:20:51

It is hard sparklytinsel isn't it? Just the sheer washing and ironing! I try and train the kids taht skirts and trousers don't need washing every day but unless I stand like a policeman near the washing baskets its to no avail. And by the time those not dirty skirts have sit near other dirty smelly washing for a day or so they're dirty anyway!!!

The dropping and picking is exhausting. Tonight dh alone ( I'm not well so get a night off!) has picked up and dropped 3 times and has 3 runs left to do!!!

Toddlers and teens in this house!

HDee Sun 09-Dec-12 11:33:42

Lisalisa, we often sit hree and wonder if other big families are the same as ours.

There is just so much noise and shouting and crying. Our twins are still only two so I know some aspects of that will pass, but why d my children seem t hate each other so much? Why does my 11 year old do all he can to piss off every one of his siblings, plus the dog?

People passing our house must think...well, god knows what they must think some times. On the surface my children look wonderful. They are always washed and dressed beautifully, always at school on time, our house is always clean and tidy etc etc, but it's such hard work!

There is lots of laughter too, and life always seems a little bit dull with no children here but I am looking forward to them growing up a bit.

I'm pregnant with number five. I think a larger family is 6 plus, so whoever said a large family is one more than you have is right!

sweetkitty Sun 09-Dec-12 16:53:17

Four is enough for us. Hats off having two two year olds, one two year old is enough for me.

I agree with the washing it's relentless, the pick ups and drop offs and the fighting. We have no family support so just DH and me, hard hard work.

Lisa I know exactly what you mean. Just there sheer knackeringness of laundry packed lunches homework cooked meals shopping bathing then bloody cooking again. Oh yeah, and doing a full day at the office three times pe r week.

I have 5 - it's relentless sometimes especially with 2 toddlers, 2 teens and 1 in the middle.

Arisbottle Mon 10-Dec-12 00:45:48

Four plus a step son who is here a lot so five

We would like one more at least, have just lost one sadly.

Countmyblessings Mon 10-Dec-12 13:00:41

There is 5 at the moment, march will make 6 and including DH daughter there is 7!!!!!!
2 adopted!
Worried about the car everything else we can sort!!!
Very excited as have had 3 losses so it would of been more!

lisalisa Mon 10-Dec-12 22:40:40

HDee I hear you and silentmammoth I think work is an escape really. If I didn't have my work ( I work from home about 5ish hours per day) I would go truly bonkers!

REally though we should count our blessings and always be thankful that we are busyh with such wonderful things and nothing worse.x

Pinkchatz Sun 23-Dec-12 08:09:10

I have 7. I don't consider 3 or 4 children a large family at all even though most people do. To me anything over 5 is big but I don't class it a really large family till you hit double figures!

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