Hi girls,
I am new here but started reading the boards recently. I am after a bit of advice.
I have 2 year old twins from ivf and 4 frozen embrios left. After thinking about it for ages I decided that I just can't left them perish. I am planning on taking them to day 3 or 5 and then having ONE put back. If it works then great if it doesn't that's it - we are done!
But the question is when. For many reasons I want to have the treatment over summer so it would be this year or next.
I am just not sure what would be best. I know it would be easier if the twins were 3 and in preschool for 3 mornings a week when I am pregnant and then 4 and at school when the baby is here as I would have another 2 years to spend as much time as possible with them and then some one to one time with the baby.
But on the other hand wouldn't it be nice for them to spend a year with the baby before going to school and get bonded and in the future wouldn't 3 years age gap mean they have more in common? Or would it be just a nightmare for the first year for everybody?
I am not worried about coping as I know I would (I have very good support and lots of help) just worried what would be best for the twins and the baby.
Anybody has any experience of 3 or 4 years age gap? I am worried that if I leave the gap too big the baby won't have much in common with the twins (especially as being twins they are very very close and do most things together).
We also do travel quite a lot as a family so they would be spending lots of time together and it would be easier for us if they were interested in the same things.
But I also would quite like to wait another year and just enjoy the twins and then the baby.
Really don't know what to do.....
Love
Lena xx
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Lena3 · 27/05/2010 21:07
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