I have a new daughter who is 3 months and twin daughters who are 3.7.
My twins are really struggling with the new baby, they seem to have absolutely no interest or attachment to her.
I can kind of understand where they're coming from as even though she is a smiley, lovely baby she doesn't really do much of interest to them and as I'm breastfeeding, she is "having a cuddle" most of the time as far as they're concerned.
We made sure that "presents" from the new baby sister were in place before she arrived and got several books to read to the older girls that are about children having new siblings and getting a bit jealous but loving them in the end.
We've tried being matter of fact about it "you may want to throw her in the bin, but she loves you and so do we" - talking to them about it etc but nothing seems to work.
Is it just the age? Will she get more of interest to them as she gets older and can grasp toys etc? Or will the poor mite be permanently ignored by her big sisters?
It's starting to really get us down - the girls have nursery time twice a week and I try to spend more time with DD3 during this time and then plonk her in her chair and concentrate more on them when they get home.
We're getting lots of attention seeking behaviour, hair pulling, hitting, whinging etc but all the attention and positivity in the world doesn't seem to help. Every morning they start the day with "go away baby, stupid baby" and although I'm trying not to show it I'm feeling quite sad about it all and I'm struggling to find the balance between all three when I have them all at home - poor DD3 is a very easy baby and ends up sitting in her bouncy chair a lot of the time just watching everyone - which is fine sometimes but is probably happening too much.
Any help gratefully receieved.
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How do you cope with jealously of new baby by older children? Please help!
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hattyyellow · 30/03/2009 13:17
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