I'm struggling

(4 Posts)
TheEdgeIsNigh Tue 01-Mar-16 16:45:53

I really had hoped that this year would be an improvement on last year(which brought a lot of stress and heartache). But since December, we've all been poorly! Not necessarily all at the same time but there hasn't been a time when we've all been 100% at the same time! There's mum(me), dad, and 3 kids age 13, 4 and 18months. The 4 year old had a tummy bug 2/3 weeks ago(we all did except the breastfed one!) but hasn't been right since. Now has another cough/runny nose and U.S. Always complaining of a sore tummy. Often followed by a relatively normal BM.
I'm at my wits end with all the illness!
I'm a wreck anyway as the anniversary of my dads death is looming. I want to run away and hide from life!

PovertyPain Wed 02-Mar-16 02:36:02

M sorry you're having a rotten time. There are times when we feel like everything goes wrong at once, but hopefully that's most of the shity stuff out of the way now.

I'm sorry to read about your father. Is his grave near you? I found it helpful to buy bunches of flowers rather than bouquets as I wanted to arrange them, for my darling husband, on his birthday, myself. It felt like I was doing something for him, iykwim.

It's his first anniversary this month, and like you, OP, I'm dreading it. flowers

TheEdgeIsNigh Wed 02-Mar-16 07:48:30

Thanks poverty. So sorry you lost your husband. I still have dads ashes in our house. Haven't quite decided what to with them yet. Ive had an ashes ring made and wear thT all the time. Feels like he's with me now.
The youngest has a cold now too! I'm going to paint a big X on our door!
I had planned to go out with a friend and our kids on dads anniversary but looks like they'll be too poorly now sad typically awful timing, as usual! hmm

abc12345 Mon 04-Apr-16 22:04:34

Hello, I just wanted to say you are not alone. I lost my dad last year and have 3 young children that haven't been well since... I actually can't remember!
Around the anniversary I got quite low- the grief came back (for me chest pains, struggling to get out of bed, feeling generally miserable and dark). With that and all the illness and sleepless nights I felt like I was totally cracking up!
That's a couple of months ago now and I am starting to feel a lot better.

The best advice I can give you is hang in there and be kind to yourself - give yourself a night off, get some rest (even an afternoon nap helps), do things that make you happy (a walk/a cuppa with an old friend/yoga helps clear my head...)

Spring is here and hopefully the sunshine will get rid of all of these horrible germs and cheer us up a bit.

I'm sorry your going through this. Try and remember your Dad wouldn't want you to be sad. Xx

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