Do you ever lose that broody feeling?

[inmyshoos]

I am 39. All of a sudden I feel like the chance to have anymore dc is passing me by. I cant imagine not having another wee baby, being pregnant, breast feeding....

If I dont try now it will definitely be too late but I am so frightened of it going wrong. Miscarriage (been there before and it was awful), last baby although a lovely homebirth was a mild shoulder dystocia, worried about higher risk of things going wrong with my being older.

How do you make a decision. It is so hard. It seems like such a big gamble but the idea of not even trying makes me so sad.
In many ways I feel I would be pushing my luck but on the other hand so many friends/family members have had 5 babies and not a hint of a problem.

Anyone else felt like this? My dc are 7, 8 and 11.

[Indantherene]

I felt like you for many years but finally lost the feeling when my 5th child was 3. (I was 47) She's now 8 and it hasn't ever returned.

[inmyshoos]

idantherene can i ask how it was having your 5th child at 44? And can I ask how old you were when you had your other children?

My dh is 41 and I am 39. I am a bit worried about my age but it surprises me how worried dh is. Makes me feel v. old!! I was kinda expecting him to be like 'fgs we are still young!!'

[2boysnamedR]

I think I will be forever broody. Makes me feel sad, I hope it passes

[hoolaloola]

We have 4dc and that broody feeling has gone. It was such a physical need that I could never understand how it would go but I really don't want anymore. I think it is because I am at my limit physically and emotionally that the thought of having to "give" anymore fills me with horror!

[Indantherene]

I was 22 with DC1 and 28 with DC4.

The fifth pregnancy was much harder on me than any of the others, despite being just as straightforward.

The first 3 years with her were fabulous but as she's got bigger obviously the difference s are more noticeable. DH was really hands on with the older ones but now just wants to sit and watch TV.

[loveandsmiles]

I've just had DC6 at the age of nearly 48!

Guessing it will be physically impossible now but would still be broody for another one

[lougle]

My broody feeling went after dd3. It was very odd. I look at babies now and think 'Ahhhhh....no.'

[PeppasNanna]

I waa exactly lime you op. 39 with 5 dc. I had dc6 at 40. Fine. No problems at all.

Im 42 & still feel broody!

[ExasperatedAlmostAlways]

I use to be sooo broody. Every little baby I seen made my ovaries twitch. If there was a baby in my company I'd what a hold and a cuddle. Then i had my third child and just felt complete and the broodiness has completely gone. Babys are of no interest to me anymore and I see a pregnant woman and think thank God I don't need to go through that again(I had awful, awful pregnancies,hyperemisis -being sick up to thirty times a day)

I do know there is women who never feel complete. I guess you just need to way up your circumstances and decide from there how many children you can have. Even if I was still broody I wouldn't of had a forth due to finances and i just wouldn't want four, three's time consuming enough for us.

[babyblabber]

I've 3 and would love another. It makes zero sense on paper but it's like a physical need, I wish it would go away so I could make a rational decision!