To have another or not...

[PandaBear30]

I'm due to get my coil out in a couple of days having booked the appointment a few weeks ago when my DH finally agreed to TTC number 3. I'm now wondering if it's a good idea or not. It's something that I've been thinking about for the last year and some days I think I want another and others I'm not so sure - very much a heart head thing. My DH wasn't keen but has finally come round to the idea, although deep down I know he'd prefer not to have another he's only willing because he knows it's what I want but that's the thing do I...?!
A bit of background, I have 2 DC. DC1 is (nearly) 4 and DC2 is (nearly) 2.5. I found the close age gap (17 months) really tough and my relationship with DH suffered as we argued a lot through sleep deprivation. Thing's are good now, my DC are both at nursery, the eldest will start school in Sept 2015, the youngest the following year. My life is starting to get easier and I'm getting some time to myself which is lovely but I still can't help thinking about how lovely it would be to give my children another sibling and what great support they are throughout your life and it makes me sad to think I'll never have the excitement of getting a positive result on a pregnancy test, feel a baby kick inside me, walk round with them in a sling and feel so proud as people coo over them and all the other wonderful things that follow. The one thing that feels me with horror are sleepless nights, I don't cope well with them and despite introducing routines early on both my DC didn't sleep through until 10/11 months and even then it was touch and go with lots of 5/6am starts, in fact we still quite often get early starts like that at the moment with a 4yo & 2.5yo!
So looking for a bit of advice really - did any of you have 2 children close together and find it tough but go on to have a third? and how did you find it?

[Natalie1989xo]

My two are 8 years and nearly 1 year. We will soon be trying for a 3rd, I finish my pill this week. If I am honest I found the large age gap very difficult as I felt like a first time mum again! This is why we have chosen to try for another soon.

I don't cope well with sleepless nights either but I've always wanted a larger family so I figure there's no better time than the present! I battled with the concept of a third and now just thought let's go for it.

I can't wait to experience it all again :)

[Bibbitybobbetyboo]

Panda, you could be me!! I have an appt next week for coil removal following DH finally agreeing to DC3 (DC1 is 3.2, DC2 is 1.8), but am starting to wonder whether it's the right thing although I desperately want (I think) a third! DC2 is still a pretty poor sleeper and some days I wonder whether I could cope with being pregnant let alone a newborn, but also don't want a large age gap. Clearly I can be of no help but just wanted to offer some solidarity. Good luck with whatever you decide

[PandaBear30]

Just to update you. Having spent all day changing my mind about whether or not to cancel my appointment I've just phoned the doctors to cancel. I may in a few weeks re-book but for now I need a bit more time to mull things over.

Good luck to you both with TTC number 3.

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