How do you stop yourself mentally wanting more

(59 Posts)
Mumof3xx Thu 06-Feb-14 17:52:37

We have 3 dc aged 6 and under

I would secretly love another

I know my oh would not

I know our house isn't big enough

I know we can't afford it

But I still would love a iddy biddy newborn

CrazyOldCatLady Thu 06-Feb-14 17:57:28

I have 2 (aged 3 and 2) and am starting to get really broody for a third. But we can't afford it, I know my body won't take it, so it doesn't matter how much I want it, it's just not going to happen.

End of story.

Mumof3xx Thu 06-Feb-14 18:11:17

I keep finding myself thjnking what if this what if that

E.g we could put us in the box room and then baby dd could share with a new baby .....

paperlantern Thu 06-Feb-14 18:13:55

Have a shit pregnancy. laid up with one problem or another for the best part of the pregnancy, with a 1 year old running around. That did it for me. (helpful emoticon)

Maybe ask for shit pregnancy stories

susiey Fri 07-Mar-14 11:02:19

I think I love being pregnant and growing a baby and love meeting a brand new person but I do not want to potty train any more toddlers or deal with any more tantrums or teach anymore to read.!
That's what stops me I reason with myself that babies become toddlers and toddlers become children!

It would seem that even number does it for us...we're going to stop when DC4 is born, but only because I'm not 10 years younger. Both DH and I secretly wanted another, we just didn't tell each other that for ages.

I reckon if ever I have them all out of nappies and able to put shoes and socks on independently then I'll stop wanting more, at that point I will have become used to life being that bit easier and I won't want to go back.

Wishfulmakeupping Fri 07-Mar-14 12:37:55

I had my first baby last year my beautiful dd. i always wanted just 1 my oh wanted 2, now I'm a mum I want lots more. I would ideally love at least 3 oh is still stuck on 2 for the same reasons you've put OP its sad isn't it but finances will probably mean I can never have a big family I would love for dd to have lots of brothers and sisters but don't think its to be

I stop myself by thinking of my pelvis floor grin

I should add that I have 4.

Misfitless Tue 15-Apr-14 07:29:19

I've found that planning something that I couldn't possibly aim to do if I got pregnant again, helped me.

For me, this is a career that I've always wanted to pursue, but put on hold to have more babies smile. If you're already established in a career that you love, not sure how that is helpful, though!

Also I'm very much looking forward to being able to spend more time with my DH as our children become more independent...weekends away without having to rely so much on our parents, having a bit more money by working in a better paid job to spend on our family.

Having said all this, the career thing coincided with my youngest starting school this September, whereas, with 3 under 6, you're possibly quite a way off the youngest starting school.

At any point, if my DH had asked if we should have another, I'd have jumped at the chance, up until about 12 months ago, when I decided to go back to college; so it did cure me, I think!

imip Tue 15-Apr-14 09:08:41

I'm just waiting for menopause...that should do the trick smile

devoniandarling Mon 21-Apr-14 20:56:12

This is something I am really struggling with at the moment too.

I have four children, aged from 11 to almost 5.

I am so broody I cant stop thinking about having another baby. DH has made it quite clear (by going behind my back and talking to my mother about it) that he doesn't want another child.

It's killing me. Literally. I feel so desperate to have another child and I don't want to have a massive age gap/almost grown children and a newborn. I don't know how to sort this out. The idea of not having another child fills me with despair.

Misfitless Tue 22-Apr-14 16:59:47

It didn't cure me, as it happens, although I thought it had. I'm now feeling really broody again confused, though I know it's cyclical and will pass.

Hope the feelings of despair pass, Devon

imip Wed 23-Apr-14 05:53:19

Tbh, I wa sterilised 2 years ago as part of dc4 c-section. I constantly fantasise about pregnancy again, despite my age and the fact that I took permanent measures to prevent it (deliberately). But I've accepted that they are just fantasies.... Unfortunately.....

3DcAndMe Wed 23-Apr-14 06:13:52

It's difficult isn't it!

I never thought I would be one of those women wanting a huge family!

rabbitrisen Wed 23-Apr-14 10:30:47

As like crazy, I knew my body couldnt take any more.
But that isnt necessarily the same for everyone.

Livvylongpants Wed 23-Apr-14 10:36:22

Wen both my kids (21/2 and 7 months) are being well behaved or asleep I think how lovely it would be to be pregnant again or have a rainy newborn

But the they wake up and tantrum and cry

And it passes :>)

MultipleMama Sun 08-Jun-14 13:49:00

We have 6 and DH informed earlier this week that he's done, he's not sure if he wants anymore but for now, we're done. I am completely devastated but in my head I know it's the most pratical choice but my heart says my body can take more which DH says I can't without exhausting myself further

sad

Teabiscuits Wed 11-Jun-14 01:16:31

Im 27 weeks gone with number 4. I had a panic earlier because I thought my waters had gone early. Nope. Had just wet myself a bit when I stood up. I'm 26 and soon to be buying tena lady...

If nothing else think of your poor fanjo!

princesscupcakemummyb Mon 16-Jun-14 13:40:52

im ttc my 4th hubby is all up for i love babies i think 4 is going be a handful but it doesent stop me being broody my youngest is 7 months and when they hit this age i tend to want more shock

restandpeace Mon 16-Jun-14 13:52:21

Having a fourthcured me

restandpeace Mon 16-Jun-14 13:57:38

The pregnancy was hortific, didn't get the birth i wanted, four are expensive and i feel pushed to my limits at times.

I have four
Dh had the snip
I can want all I like it's not going to be happening

restandpeace Mon 16-Jun-14 14:29:11

Mines had the snip too which probably helps

Mumof3xox Wed 18-Jun-14 06:27:22

I started this thread in feb

I still feel the same!

I wonder if a fourth would cure me!

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