Those with 6+ still manage to have quality time with dc?

(7 Posts)
workingonitagain Fri 05-Jul-13 21:06:13

hi everyone
it's purely curiosity. I love coming here to read about all your lovely ladies' stories and everyday life. so a lot of you have 6+ dc and im just wondering how you still manage to spend quality time (1 to 1) or when you get to that stage it just doesn't exist any more but maybe have other things to replace the purpose of it?
im currently pregnant with dc3 and very worried about how i'll be able to satisfy all of their needs for attention so would love to know how you all do it with a lot more...

MultipleMama Wed 10-Jul-13 09:10:35

I have 4 dc. I spend time with my oldest after preschool. We colour and paint etc. He's big into his crafts and everything other week he has Ice Hockey, so I take him.

I Spend quality time with DD when twins are napping. We read books and play pretend.

The twins are still youngish so I share time with them or if one is awake asleep then I'll have quality time then.

I'll have 2 new editions in Dec, so I'd love to hear people's experience with 6 smile

MultumInParvo Wed 10-Jul-13 09:12:42

2 sets of twins mama? What a blessing!

Good luck to you too, working smile

ZingWidge Wed 10-Jul-13 12:18:06

5 boys, 1 girl here.

I don't think I spend enough time with older 4 (12, 10, 8, 6) - but I actually think it's not me!
I would and could make time for them (SAHM), but they just want to play on Minecraft or play football, or play with lego or watch tv etc.
they don't need me to have a good time (should I be sad or happy?!)

we do chat at dinner time and any other time they want, especially if there's a problem

spend loads of time with DS5 (3 years) and DD (15 months) who are home - bar spending time at Grandma's on Wednesdays.

I'm quite rubbish at a lot of aspects of parenting (though that is hopefully just the massive crisis of confidence talking sad) and I'm convinced it is my fault they argue a lot.

I always have big plans - then they slip away. I'm dreading the summer holidays.

not very helpful

workingonitagain Wed 10-Jul-13 19:50:20

thanks for all your comments! ZingWidge all we can do is try. I only have 2 boys right now but it amazes me how different personalities they are. I can already see that although brotherhood will probably make them form a bond, otherwise they would not been each other's choices to play with. I can only imagine how much more difficult it must be in your house. Im sure you are doing great and clearly are a brilliant mum x

MultipleMama Wed 10-Jul-13 20:37:57

Yup, 2 sets. Weirdly first set were ID and I have a sneaky feeling these are fraternal but twins do run in family...

I don't think 1:1 time all the time is that important. I think as long as you try and treat them equally and show them love that's all that matters. Mine are under 5 so it's easier time wise. We all do are best and in the end that's all you can do.

Zing - I bet your a brilliant mum. You're raising them and love them give yourself some credit xx

mumsylady Sat 13-Jul-13 11:57:18

I have 8 dc, 7 are 12 & under (so needing most attention) and 4 of them are 3 and under! ...its really hard finding time to fit in everything, unless of course I ignore the housework. hmm but as a family we try & do team sports ...badminton in garden.... Bike riding with everyone on a bike / in a bike seat smile around our local parks, country walks together, pool out in garden, friends over, etc watching latest releases of family films with popcorn & doritos is always a treat for everyone :D its doable, but requires a lot of effort & there can be days when we are half asleep from sheer exhaustion ! but we try our best. wink

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