If I have 1 of them on their own they are fine. They are all lovely kids. But together they are vile. they talk horribly to each other. They are really mean to each other all of the time. Shouting hitting, bitching. And on top of that they are really disgustingly messy - I keep finding sweet wrappers, dirty plates etc all over. And the oldest 2 are bombing out of school because they are so lazy. I meet the teachers, I encourage them with their work, I sit them down to study, I remind them to pack their bags, I have tried leaving them to it to develop their own responsibility. Nothing works with them.
I feel overwhelmed by it all. It's too much. I can't cope and I feel miserable with them every day. Every time they talk to each other, and the eldest (13) is frequently rude to me. I got ANOTHER letter home from school, despite him being grounded and having had his phone confiscated. He has been punished, but also been given the encouragement (lure/bribe/movtivation) of a lap top for his birthday if he exceeds the targets we set on improving his grades. Carrot don't work, stick don't work.
Dh often away. I can't cope. House is a tip. I feel totally out of control and they are so horrible to each other I hate being around them. I really lost it with them tonight and feel so down. It never gets better.
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I cannot cope with my 4 dc. If we were married I'd have got divorced by now.
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frenchlion · 16/03/2013 20:38
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