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Did anyone keep going to get the opposite sex?

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needsomesunshine · 17/06/2012 10:22

How many did you get to before you got one of the other? I have 4 ds' , 5th on the way. People said the 5th would be a girl, now they're saying the 6th! I love my boys, I find them so loving but just wondered if people kept going. Some people say some people can only carry a certain gender. What do you think?

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AdventuresWithVoles · 17/06/2012 10:43

I think you will get charbroiled, lol.
I know several families IRL who I am sure kept going until they got the other.

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needsomesunshine · 17/06/2012 10:56

I know I hesitated when I posted but I get asked all the time!

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AKissIsNotAContract · 17/06/2012 11:01

I know a girl called Decima, she has 9 older brothers.

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AdventuresWithVoles · 17/06/2012 11:03

My grandmother did it, open-knowledge in the family. She wanted to give her husband a son. Got 3 drop-dead gorgeous DDs to boot, so worth the effort. Wink

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BoysWillGrow · 17/06/2012 11:15

Not ashamed at all to say yes I did (kinda), we both wanted children but I come from a massive family of 6 who all had boys. I was the last girl born since the 80's and yeah I wanted a girl, after I had 2 boys (very, very much wanted btw) we are now expecting a girl and are delighted, As are the whole family, as we really are outnumbered. That's not to say we kept going or started out to have a girl, we just now feel for us 3 is enough and we have both sexes now and feel complete. Does no way at all go toward evening out our family which is roughly 15 men, 6 boys to 5 women and now my 1girl though. Just some families are for whatever reason prone to a certain sex. I think anyway.

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Thinkingof4 · 18/06/2012 16:00

I'm considering whether to go for no 4 and people always say ' are you trying for a girl?' etc
It's bizarre as you can only really try for another baby right? I always wonder though when I hear of mums who have 3 boys/ girls then no4 is a girl/ boy if they did do something different? It would be interesting to see if anything can actually tip the odds or whether it's just all innate, in that some people will be a mum to boys only/ girls only

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sweetkitty · 18/06/2012 16:37

No we didn't fully expected DD4 but got a DS. But oh the comments apparently we can stop now we have our boy. Have one aunt who phones and ask how DS is, then and the girls?

I am happy he's a boy as he's so to the DDs but would have been happy with another DD too

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sweetkitty · 18/06/2012 16:38

I am always tempted to say when people ask "were you trying for a boy" to say oh yes we were doing Shettles you know sex at time of ovulation, doggy style only, me coming before DP, is that what you meant?Grin

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Buntingbunny · 18/06/2012 16:48

I wonder if my aunt and uncle did as their 4th is the only boy on that side of the family.

I know my DF didn't, her 4th was an absolute accident having never conceived naturally before.

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TessTosterone · 20/06/2012 19:30

I have 4 boys and will not be having any more. My mum knows someone who had 4 boys followed by triplet boys! I gave also heard of someone with 13 boys. Wonder what the record is!!!

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Sunnydelight · 22/06/2012 09:58

I remember a lecturer once in a genetics lecture explaining why the more of one sex you have the smaller the chances are of having one of the other sex but I can't remember the science behind it! Some years ago at school a mum of four girls and a mum of four boys were both pregnant with their fifth at the same time - it was girl no. 5 and boy no. 5, probably not helped by all the people who thought it was funny to say "why don't you swap".

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chipmonkey · 04/07/2012 00:20

We did although of course we knew it was 50:50 and I think, Sunny, statistically it is 50:50 and I did plenty of research!
We had dd after four boys and then she died aged 7 weeks.Sad And I know a lot of people felt very sorry for us that "the girl" had died but it's not actually like that when it happens. Losing a child will always be awful and it wouldn't have been any better had we lost one of the boys.

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needsomesunshine · 06/07/2012 10:10

Sorry to hear that chipmonkey. You're right. People make so many comments. Just need to ignore more!Smile

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imip · 06/07/2012 22:35

No, with 4dds I always get asked. It annoys me as often people say things like, you didn't get your boy, is your husband upset etc. I get very cross as my daughters can hear what they are saying and it concerns me that they may feel like they are not wanted. we had had no preference regarding gender. I am sorry to hear about your daughter, chip monkey. We lost dd1 and have actually had five dds. When I feel people give me too much 'sympathy' for having dds, I often tell them about our first daughter, a living child is the only child we wanted.the next question then is, 'when are you going to have another'.....

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chipmonkey · 07/07/2012 01:22

Oh, that really bugs me, imip when people say the most stupid things right in front of the boys! I actually stopped going to one barber because the woman in there kept going on about how she was trying for a girl and was I trying for a girl blah, blah, blah. Luckily the barber himself always managed to say that in his opinion boys were the best! But the number of times I wanted to say, they have a Y chromosome, it doesn't mean they're deaf!

And I'm so very sorry about your dd1. It is awful when you have that missing child who should be there in your family. I always say I am a Mum of five, although sometimes when I have explained the story I wonder if I should.

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slipperandpjsmum · 07/07/2012 08:52

When people ask me how many dcs I have I say three boys and a girl, they often reply kept trying for a girl did you? Actually my dd is one of my middle children, so no.

My friend had 6 boys and the last couple of pregnancies were about getting a girl, which she did on her 7th child.

Need are you going to keep trying for a dd?

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jellybeans · 07/07/2012 22:26

One of my family members kept trying for a DD and had 5 DSs. I had 3 DDs first but sadly DD3 was stillborn. I then had DTs (boys) then lost another stillborn DD and then had DS. I didn't care about the gender as long as they survived but it is nice to experience both. I have friends who were desperate for girls and got them 3rd time and 4th time. I know 2 families desperate for boys too, each had a boy as no 4. I think hoping for the other is fine but as long as you accept it may well bethe same again and that is OK.

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Janus · 13/07/2012 19:52

We had 3 girls and then number 4 was a boy and a total shock as we didn't find out before he was born!! I have a larger gap between dd2 and dd3 and I didn't want dd3 to be on her own so we decided to round the numbers up!! I really didn't mind which we had but a little part of me wanted a boy for my husband although he never once said he wanted one! We were tempted for a little while to try for number 5 but we are now stopping. We did nothing different to get our boy btw!

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mrsmopsmissingmojo · 20/07/2012 16:14

I have 4 ds and 1 dd and lost a few in between. The ones i lost based on complete irrationality I thought were all girls. My pgs with all the boys felt ever so poorly. Dd I breezed through pg and felt really well. She's a feisty madam and stubborn. I always have wondered what the others would have been, as they happened on between each ds?! But who knows!!! I love all of them equally but in hindsight ds are much easier emotionally, but muddier! Grin

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mumoftwoboysS · 02/09/2012 23:25

I have 2 DS's which I love so much, though for some reason before I had kids I always imagined having a girl (even dreamt my first was going to be a girl) maybe because I'm quite girly and thought I'd relate to a girl more. I now want a DC3 (though have to convince DH first!), initially I thought it was because I wanted to try for a DD but tbh I don't actually think I mind either way now. The child's personality is what makes them wonderful and I really wouldn't mind if I had another DS, I just want another child! I know if I do become pregnant again the comments (mostly from well-meaning relatives) will be 'so are you trying for a girl'.

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beingginger · 15/09/2012 22:12

my stepdads sister had 13 girls before she got her son! I can NOT imagine having 14 children, can you imagine the noise?!
eldest dd is 36 and ds is 9. She's an irish catholic if that makes any difference though.

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5madthings · 15/09/2012 22:18

i have 4 boys and then no 5 was a girl but no we didnt keep going until we got a girl, we always planned to have 4 and no 5 was a bit of a bonus baby, i fully expected her to be a boy and had a boys name picked out etc. my boys are delighted with their little sister and it is lovely to have a girl but a boy would have been just as lovely!

i am tyring to ignore my broodiness at the moment, dd is 21mths, we cant afford any more, but if we win the lottery i would have another!

i try and ignore all the stupid comments.

((chipmonkey)) xx

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naturalbaby · 17/09/2012 14:04

I'm trying to ignore my broodiness too, I've got 3 boys and am surrounded by a few mums with 3 boys. If I had another it would be about having an even number.
There was a program on channel 4 a few years ago called "8 boys and trying for a girl" or similar. The mother's tears when she found out she was having another boys really sticks in my mind, and I felt really sorry for the boys of the mum who was over the moon with when she had a daughter.

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surfingluby · 20/09/2012 13:32

This subject always gets me going as i feel so strongly about it but it might be because its easy for me to say as i have 2 DD and a DS but My DPs sister has three boys and all she's ever wanted is a girl, she rejected her second as soon as he came out and she realised it was a boy yet she still went on to try for a girl. She shows no affection towards them and makes it obvious she wants a girl. She was emotional through her pregnancies making it clear she wanted a girl. All her boys are extremely naughty. Don't get me wrong, she's a good mum, her boys are always clean and well looked after but fothem looking on there's no affection! She is now talking of trying for number 4 which I have no idea why because how awful will it be for them if they have another boy! It's so sad :-(
Yet I have a friend who has 4 boys which she will openly admitt she only has due to her trying for a girl and it wouldn't surprise me if she tried again but she absolutely loves all of them! They are a credit to her, well behaved, well manned and well loved :-)
There is a mum at my DCs school who I only know to say hello to so I don't know the facts but she has 3 very naughty boys and had a girl about 8 months ago, she said she was desperate for a girl and you can tell......everything revolves around her, she buys her everything pink, beautiful pram, always pretty dressed yet her boys are a mess! I can't help feeling sorry for her boys so I really think you have to be careful about what you want!
I think if you are completely happy with the gender you have then by all means keep trying for the opposite but it your not happy with the gender you have then don't risk having any more as I really believe my DP sisters boys feel unloved and that's why they are all so naughty :-(
Such a hard subject :-( good luck what ever you decide to do :-)

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surfingluby · 20/09/2012 13:36

naturalbaby I remember that program, I watched it with my DP, his sister and her husband.....at the time she was pregnant and she had 2 DS. Watching it was when it all came to light why she was the way she was with her boys and that pregnancy as she was desperate for a girl. Like you I felt awful for the boys, it stuck in my mind too.......awful to watch, even more awful in reality :-(

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