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What would you do in my situation please?

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preciousmum · 02/12/2010 21:49

Hi all and sorry english is not my first language.First iam 30 now and mum of 2 lovely children.I love being a mum and i would like to have an other child,but the thing is,iam the only one in charge of the familly from cleaning to cooking to reading stories,taking kids to librery ext..... no help from dh what so ever,(bear in mind he is the bread owner)he live his life as if he's single,he still wants to see his freinds everyday,come home whenever time,after all kids are in bed,and maybe myself too,thaugh he loves his kids to peaces,and he would not mind having an other one.But the thing is that he does not think about the future at all.He's very bad with his finence,we have 2bed that we pay mortgage for and we cannot afford to pay for bigger one,also we have to fly once a year to visit the familly back home.So what would you do in my situation?will you go for n 3 or not?Thanks

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BelleDeChocChipCookieMonster · 02/12/2010 21:51

I would if you are prepared to carry on doing it all yourself. Your husband sounds useless, you already have 3 children if you include him.

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preciousmum · 02/12/2010 21:54

Thanks belle for your reply.You really made me laugh.).

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BelleDeChocChipCookieMonster · 02/12/2010 21:56

Have a think about what I've said though.

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bellylicious · 02/12/2010 22:03

i would really think about what belledechoc has said

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preciousmum · 02/12/2010 22:33

You are right,For now that the kids are young,it is still managable and it will look ok providing i will do everything myself,but when i think in few years time when they are teenager.To be honest iam sort of person i like to save for the future ,take my kids on holiday,save for their study in few years to come,and i won't be able to do this ,if iam stuck in motherhood,really nothing is secure with DH.I think i should think with my brain not with my heart.

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BelleDeChocChipCookieMonster · 02/12/2010 23:13

Your husband really needs to grow up. He's not behaving like a father, he's behaving like a teenager with no responsibilities. Does he have any idea what you do?