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I'm looking for a little advice regarding my 2.5 year old son. He is learning three languages - english with me, french with his dad, and spanish which is the language where we live.

We have always done OPOL, though my husband and I speak english together so it is the predominant language in the home.

My sons english is really quite fluent now and he can communicate his thoughts really well.

He does have a few french words which he sometimes says, but generally he replies to his dad in english. I've never heard him string more than 2 words together. We recently spent 3 weeks in France with family and I thought he'd start saying more whilst there, playing with cousins etc. There wasn't a major difference. When we left him with his grandparents they said he never said a word all day and he's normally a bit of a chatterbox. I reminded him he needed to speak french to people there and he replied "I no speak french, french too hard for me". Aw.

Its a similar story with spanish. He has words, but no real phrases. He is exposed to spanish every day, hearing us speak it and it being spoken to him directly by native speakers.

He watches cartoons in all 3 languages and we read to him in english and french.

We are starting to consider his schooling as the bilingual schools here all start from nursery age and we will probably send him when he's three. Our conundrum is whether or not we should send him to the french/spanish school when he is not confident with either language. I know it would improve in that environment but I can't help imagining him trying to talk to people in english and getting nowhere Also the school doesn't have a great reputation with the quality of english they teach and I do worry about his level of reading and writing in english for his future.

So I guess I just wanted to hear from others who might be in a similar situation and hear your experiences/thoughts.

Thanks.

Well it sounds like a shyness/psychological issue - if he had language problems all of his languages would show issues, however as English is the home language and the language you speak to each other in front of him, then it's not at all surprising that he prefers to speak it. Some multilingual kids can be a bit funny about speaking one of their languages if they feel it doesn't keep up with their dominant language - either from being a perfectionist or realising they're most competent in the dominant language.

We have 2 kids, our household runs on 3 languages and there's a fourth at school. DD has always been a confident speaker and has never shied from any of the languages (in fact has inherited her parent's obsession with language), always finding ways to deal with gaps. DS, just really starting to talk, is nowhere near as verbal nor as confident as his older sister. He's a grunter, is reluctant to talk (partly because his sister has conveniently become his spokesperson) and gets very shy in certain language situations.

Given that the dominant home language in your situation is English, and that the societal language is Spanish (which will, without any doubt, become his dominant language at school age), I would go for a French school. That way you have a bit of a balance: English at home, French at school and Spanish socially. That's the way we basically did it: 2 parental languages at home, a 3rd at school and the fourth the societal language.

Your son is only 2 1/2, you'll find as he gets older things will even out.

Thanks for your reply. My son is quite shy by nature so there may well be a link. He seems to be coming out of himself a bit more though so maybe that will make a difference.
We are leaning towards the french school for just the reason you mention.