Anyone else's heart sink...

(44 Posts)
highlove Mon 03-Dec-12 18:27:22

...when the heard that Kate Middleton is pregnant? I realise I sound supremely selfish (and before anyone flames me I certainly don't wish them ill) but you just know the whole bloody nation is going to go baby mad for the next year or so and you won't be able to get away from it without locking yourself in a disused nuclear bunker.

Pickles77 Mon 03-Dec-12 18:31:30

Don't beat yourself up. You won't be alone in how your feeling.

freddybanana Mon 03-Dec-12 18:32:51

Me!!! Just over three years here ttc.

Wouldn't mind, but I don't even have a decent career. sad

threepiecesuite Mon 03-Dec-12 18:35:17

Pleased for them but couldn't help feeling gutted. Have imagined my own happy announcement for far too many months now.

NewNames Mon 03-Dec-12 18:36:18

freddy Kate has NO career! You're probably much more successful than her.

2cats2many Mon 03-Dec-12 18:39:37

wine to all of you. I've been in yours shoes and its bloody hard.

DizzyPurple Mon 03-Dec-12 18:43:20

Me! I felt quite bitter. Then i felt pleased for them and sad for me. Yes feels very selfish but. . (ttc nearly 2 years here)

Chottie Mon 03-Dec-12 18:45:23

I hope that the new year brings all your dreams nearer. This time of year must be a difficult time too. x.

waitingtobeamummy Mon 03-Dec-12 18:52:49

I was just thinking the same. And they couldn't have been trying til after they got married could they? So bloody unfair. And you're right the country will go baby mad. So will have our noses rubbed in it. I know I sound bitter- its because I am! smile over there years of trying and just another reason to feel shit about it.

wishingonastar4 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:15:31

Hey all, I've joined this site just so I can comment.
I feel exactly the same and it's comforting knowing I'm not alone.
It's so hard to hear about celebrities getting pregnant and this is the most high profile one there could be.
I'm going to have to try to avoid the news for a while!
I don't think anyone would understand the feeling unless they'd been in this situation. I just cried in the kitchen for a few minutes about it.
It's nothing to do with Kate, it's the fact it reminds me of how "other" women can just get pregnant so easily while I wait year after year for it to happen.. And the fact it's obviously going to be such high profile news for a while.

I hope the new year brings us all what we are wishing for

Much love to you all. You're not alone. I'm sure there are so many women all over the world sighing inwardly and just feeling mixed emotions. Don't feel bad about this, it's natural.

Take care you all and try to avoid the season and try to ignore the news

xxxxxxxxxx

wishingonastar4 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:17:00

Oops I meant try to enjoy the season! (Typing on iPhone!) xxxxx

MrsHY1 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:22:15

Me me me! Bitter and very very envy.
Am also amazed that I've seen the odd comment from more than one person on Facebook along the lines of 'about time too!' If anyone says that to me when we eventually manage to get upduffed I'll swing for 'em!!

highlove Mon 03-Dec-12 19:26:06

Oh it's good to know I'm not alone. It's not fair is it?

MrsHY1 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:27:22

Nope highlove, it most certainly isn't.

Kerrigan90 Mon 03-Dec-12 19:36:18

Yep feeling the exact same! Good on them but making me envy Let the media mania begin and avoiding it like the plague!!

wine ladies.

xx

flixy102 Mon 03-Dec-12 21:37:35

Yep me too! Thought I was the only one. blush

It's so silly cos millions of women every day are pregnant, it's because its so public and the media is going to be full of baby talk now, I can't escape it. confused

Griffomais Mon 03-Dec-12 21:41:19

Was gutted too - that announcement was hot on the heels of a pregnancy announcement at work followed by 3 people saying to me "oh you'll be next" I really felt like punching someone. Argh 27 months TTC has reduced me to this!

Karbea Mon 03-Dec-12 21:56:37

Oh yes, me to. Spoke to my mum and she told me not to get upset :S went on to Facebook, news sites and they are all covered in their news. Well bully for them, they can reproduce!

[bitterandtwisteddriedupoldhag!!!] sad

ZombieTipple Mon 03-Dec-12 22:43:18

Yep, felt exactly the same. Can't wait for all the constant talk of it at work for the next 9 months. Joy.

Cornwall73 Mon 03-Dec-12 23:04:28

Yes, my heart sank. I wish them no wrong but I have dreading the announcement ever since someone asked for an Olympic royal baby on the morning of their wedding. TTC seven yrs with three mc under my belt and everywhere I look/read/hear is just about baby news when i normally avoid all baby and pg related stuff as it is so painful. It's going to be a very long seven/eight mths and then the press will start asking for baby no.2!

Dreamy33 Tue 04-Dec-12 05:01:10

I'm with you all! I'm happy for them both but it does serve as yet another reminder that we're not managing what others find to be so easy!

We will now share the joy of her ever-growing bump over the next seven months!

Chubfuddler Tue 04-Dec-12 05:05:01

I do understand how you all feel (took nearly two years to conceive DS and several mcs) but you don't actually know that she or anyone else has conceived easily.

BeedlesPineNeedles Tue 04-Dec-12 05:19:42

I'm quite glad I live abroad so I won't be forced to see this stuff on the news and on the front pages.

I very much doubt that they've been trying a long time, they wouldn't have wanted to overshadow the Queen's jubilee celebrations by announcing a pregnancy.

AngelsWithSilverWings Tue 04-Dec-12 07:30:55

One of my first thoughts when I heard the news was about how hard this would be for couples who are having fertility problems.

I now have two adopted children after 10 years of fertility problems but I'll never forget that sinking feeling you describe OP.

Good Luck to everyone on their journeys to becoming parents.

exoticfruits Tue 04-Dec-12 07:36:00

I am really pleased for them BUT a simple announcement was fine and now we don't need to hear a single word until the birth. I can't stand all the next few months if coverage if it was like last night!

givemeaname Tue 04-Dec-12 11:27:57

me too! im 100% bitter and dont ashamed to admit it! Yes im pleased for them and wish them the best for the pregnancy but i think what is going to annoy me the most is the constant reports daily on what is happening - there will be no escaping it!! Even Mumsnet home page is plastered with it. I dont need any further reminders that we are facing IVF after 21months TTC our first and the perfect kate and william get their dreams given to them on a silver platter. We have an appointment with a fertility clinic today and i have already broken down about it 3 times!

DazedAndVeryConfused Tue 04-Dec-12 13:05:08

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Isabeller Tue 04-Dec-12 13:11:13

Just dropped in wanting to send (((hugs))) to all who are ttc and having that kicked in the guts feeling.

very happy for them. its lovely news... but it did make me wobble. been ttc since may 09 and its pretty gutting when you hear about, yet another person with wonderful news. and its not like we're going to get a break from it either

very envy and sad

SorrelForbes Tue 04-Dec-12 13:21:58

Yes, mine did. sad

amandine07 Tue 04-Dec-12 21:54:05

My heart sank, but more for a close friend who has been TTC for over 3 years, she had mc last year. We went out with some close girlfriends last night & WillKat baby was the dominant topic of conversation.

She seemed ok then broke down on the way home, I felt so :-( for her.
I was also feeling sorry for myself as OH is umming & ahhing about the whole having a baby thing & I'm scared because I'm nearly 35 and want to star TTC.

The news made me go a bit green with envy. Glad I can get that out on here, if not in real life

summerintherosegarden Tue 04-Dec-12 21:58:14

I feel a bit funny about this, because when they got married, I thought...I really, really hope they don't have a hard time conceiving, because there's so much pressure on them to produce children.

All the baby coverage in the press does hurt and of course I wish it was me that was suffering from all that morning sickness but at least no mags are going to write stories about me not getting pregnant despite having been married for 4 years. smile

Also - someone upthread made a good point that it might not have been easy for her. They've been married for, what, 20 months now, who are we to know that they haven't been trying for almost that long?

But when you're infertile I think your heart sinks a bit when anyone announces their pregnancy.

ZombieTipple Tue 04-Dec-12 22:23:58

It's not the announcement that gets people so much as it will be constantly discussed now for the next year.......especially as she seems to be having such a rough start. I do feel for her, especially as they seem to have been forced to make the announcement. But I do wish that the media would shut the F&*k up about it.

TwllBach Tue 04-Dec-12 22:28:22

I'm not ttc but I had two miscarriages last year and have been told I've almost definitely got PCOS, so, although I'm happy for them as I would be any couple, I will admit to feeling a bit teary with jealousy and a bit bitter.

If I told anyone in real life that, I would feel stupid.

Karbea Tue 04-Dec-12 22:35:55

I'm pretty sure she had fertility tests before they got married, can't remember where I read that...

amandine07 Tue 04-Dec-12 23:43:33

I remember reading something about fertility tests, but then I thought it was a load of crap because it doesn't tell you that much or guarantee anything. Some women can get pregnant at the drop of a hat, but carrying to term is another issue.

Who knows, they may have been TTC since their wedding last year- a good 18 months at least. It is curious how people said they don't want to upstage the jubilee year by having a baby, it is amazing timing that it comes at the end if the jubilee year. Obviously it's not that easy to plan these things...

blondebaby111 Wed 05-Dec-12 19:00:06

yes i selfishly did too, although my mum did warn me. She said she heard on sky news that it is an ivf baby but at the moment i haven't heard anything else, they prob wouldn't admit it even if it was.( although after going thru ivf myself, if thats the case its nothing to be ashamed of)

I like kate and wills but i'm getting fed up of hearing all about her morning sickness and how terrible it is for her.....thousands of women end up in hospital with it and i bet half of them wished they had the best treatment like shes getting...its like shes the only one in the world who's got sick while pregnant!!

Anyway, i'm happy for them smile xx

highlove Wed 05-Dec-12 20:04:51

Ah well I hope they didn't need IVF - I'm really not a royal fan but having been there i wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Although I'm a bit jealous - as I am of every woman who's pregnant when I'm not - actually it's the media side of things that is bothering me. It's just EVERYWHERE and will be till the baby is born. Obviously not their fault. But having pregnancy shoved in your face all the while is going to be so tough for lots of people struggling. Dreading the bump pictures - personally I'm fine when babies are actually here but bumps are really painful.

Cornwall73 Thu 06-Dec-12 15:07:54

oh yes, bumps are a real killer!

I just wish there was a way of getting away from the constant barrage of news about it. Then I could choose to read about it if I wanted to but it seems to be impossible to open a mag or watch the news without some comment about it or maternity fashion/names/gender.

I so wish it I was not so bitter about ANY pg announcement (not just this one) but 7 years TTC and 3 mcs and several IVF cycles brings a lot of baggage!

NymphadoraTonks Thu 06-Dec-12 19:30:51

I doubt they would have been trying - they wouldnt have been allowed to steal the Queens thunder during the whole Diamond Jubilee thing. I said to my husband that she'd be pregnant in early 2013, so I wasn't far off.

Anyway, I've been TTCing for 2 years 5 months now and yeah, my heart sank. As it does whenever I find out anyone is pregnant. I hate that I do that, it makes it so much harder. Its impossible not to though, I think.

JustAnotherSod Fri 07-Dec-12 23:39:03

Oh yes, big time here, been on a downward spiral for weeks, the imminent arrival of my brothers third (very unplanned!) baby, royal baby announcement after 18 months of marriage, cousins 'look how fab my wonderful kids are' christmas photo montage arrived today and someone at work, who I was at school with, announced she is expecting. Coupled with trying to work out how to get through our 6th christmas as a married couple without having the children we so desperately want.

Just want to scream, for the world to stop so I can get off, i don't know how to stop feeling like this.

ChouetteMouette Mon 17-Dec-12 20:07:56

Us too sad ...

TTC for two and a half years and recently found out that DH has azoospermia so finding all baby-related announcements difficult.

Hugs to everyone for a peaceful Christmas.

eller1984 Mon 17-Dec-12 21:09:59

Us also. Been ttc for 3 years now.

twinklestar2 Sun 23-Dec-12 23:29:31

Me. Cried on the way home from work that day then sobbed in my husbands arms when I got in. Crying now thinking about it sad

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