Hi all, not posted before but wanted to share my good news story as I used to read this board whilst ttc and found it really helpful and always loved stories which gave me a glimmer of hope.
It's a long story so I will try and summarise it but after 6 years ttc with secondary infertility and 2 miscarriages in that time, we have our very precious perfect baby!
I had my first child almost 7 years ago aged 31, got pregnant at age 30 without even having to try, ie we decided we wanted a baby so had unprotected sex only once in my cycle on exactly day 14 of my cycle and boom I was pregnant. It was quite a scary pregnancy and I bled a lot of brown blood until exactly the day of my 12 week scan with no real reason why. My baby girl was born perfectly healthy at term.
When my daughter was 1 year old we decided to ttc number 2 and thankfully again got pregnant really quickly in the second month of trying ( again without having to try really hard!). Unfortunately we lost the baby at around 8 weeks and were devastated. We started trying again a couple of months after that and nothing happened.
A year down the line we were referred to the fertility clinic and over the period of about a year we both had numerous tests and I had a laparoscopy which revealed I had one badly damaged tube and although my second tube appeared clear they could not be sure it was ok. No reason was given for the damage, except perhaps an infection after birth or after my miscarriage or I might even have had it for years.
I also had concerns at this time as my luteal phase by this point was down to about 7/8 days and my progesterone blood tests always seemed low but was told numerous times this was ok. I kept track religiously of my ovulation dates and spent a fortune on opks and I brought this up at every consultation but was never taken seriously.
Eventually I was referred for IVF privately since we already had a child, however just before we were about to start treatment we decided for various reasons including financial ones not to go down that route, despite spending a lot of money on the initial consultations.
So throughout this time we kept trying and trying, it was not an easy time with most of my friends and family who were pregnant at the same time with our first child now on to their second.
However one month in 2013, almost 3 years after our miscarriage I did another test and it was positive. Omg I was over the moon and we could not believe our luck, at the same time we were absolutely terrified and I went to the doctor straight away and asked for progesterone supplements, which I was refused.
6 weeks later after the BFP again the bleeding started and we were referred for 3 scans over a 3 week period which firstly showed at 6 weeks no heartbeat but a sac, then at 8 weeks a heartbeat but measuring 2 weeks behind dates, then eventually at 9 week scan we were told the baby had died. Devastated does not even cover how we felt after 3 years of trying and then this again. We also didn't even have the hope that we could get pregnant again. Thankfully I had my daughter throughout this and every day counted my blessings that we had her which kept us going, but the pain for another child and sibling for her was still there.
We tried to get on with our lives and over the next year we still tried EVERY month, looking back I think we only missed about 3 months, but being honest it put a strain on our relationship. I also lost friends and put a strain on family relations during these years as, as horrible as it sounds, I just could not cope with other people's pregnancy and babies. It was a tough time and by the time my daughter started school at age 5, some of my original antenatal friends were now onto their 3rd child.
Eventually late in 2014 we decided to get a dog and booked a nice holiday for 2015 and pretty much accepted we would be a family of 3, and although every month when my period came I still had a little cry, generally inside I had given up and thought that was it. I was not getting any younger which also didn't help the situation. However we still kept trying....
Imagine my surprise 3 months after getting the puppy when I got a BFP, now aged 37!!!! This time, again we were very scared and anxious but with the support of the recurrent miscarriage clinic ( which I was referred to by a lovely doctor after my second miscarriage) we got early scans at 6 weeks, 8 weeks and 10 weeks and I was put on a progesterone pessary which I took from 48 hours after I found I was pregnant until 15 weeks. Often I had to pinch myself when I was pregnant and hope I wasn't dreaming as I was just so happy. At the same time it was also a terrifying 9 months in which I was scared every time I went to the toilet. I couldn't even tell anyone I was pregnant until after my 20 week scan as I was that scared.
However somehow I am now sitting here aged 38 with my beautiful baby boy!
So after an almost 7 year journey I just wanted to share that it can happen and it makes us love him so much as we wanted him so so much and waited so so long for him and he is worth every second!
Hope I haven't bored you and hope this story gives some of you some hope.
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Secondary infertility- 2 mcs and 6 years-My story!
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Mummymum38 · 23/01/2016 15:30
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