Stupid things people say about infertility...

(81 Posts)
alarox Fri 06-Jun-14 15:50:07

This week from MIL:

"Infertility is nature's way of telling a couple they don't belong together."

She doesn't know DH and I have been TTC unsuccessfully for nearly three years. She said this about her friend's daughter who has endometriosis. Apparently if she met the right man, the endo would magically disappear hmm

Another gem from a friend who has switched to a gluten free diet:

"People struggling to conceive should give up gluten. They'd get pregnant then."

She doesn't know we're TTC either. Don't want to be pestered to give up the things I love!

What stupid things about fertility have you all heard?

Greyhound Sun 22-Jun-14 16:22:27

Tanacot - unbelievable!

I once worked in an office (whilst going through recurrent miscarriage) and there was this awful woman who had a sweepstake re who would be next (at work) to have a baby. I dreaded her talking about it and refused to have anything to do with it.confused

lildottie Mon 23-Jun-14 22:53:16

hi all. glad to see there are worse idiots out there than the ones I know. makes me feel "lucky" lol!

sil has a 1yo who I look after once a week and she knows outlr troubles. she likes to tell me "its good practice for you" I don't need f'ing practice, there were babies in the house through my teenage years (half Bros) what I need is a baby of my own, I've had plenty of practice.

I also think I may hit the next person who tells me to relax and it will happen - my best friend who gets married in a few weeks and is going to start trying then. she also knows of our issues. OK bitch, come back to me after 2years of ttc and say that!

caveat: I don't really wish this on her or anyone but feels better to get that out!

lildottie Mon 23-Jun-14 22:58:14

oh god. just went on fb and someone has posted:

you can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one

umm I'm not finished with this chapter yet!

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bessie84 Thu 24-Jul-14 17:22:31

good lord, these comments have shocked me. hugs all round ladies.

the "you trying too hard" gets to me, how the feck are we trying too hard!!!!!!!! or "when you stop trying, it'll happen" REALLY.

blooming heck......... x

victoria401 Fri 25-Jul-14 20:44:16

I actually had the "you never know, it might happen once you stop trying" from one of my closest friends the other day, even though they know dh's sperm is 100% useless!

Also my mother asked me the other day if she "could tell the family" the truth now instead of saying I was a career girl! I bloody said no! She even said it with a kind of excitement in her voice as she loves a good gossip with her sisters! She had no idea!

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