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advice please, am I crazy for feeling like this?!

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lozzie23 · 27/05/2014 21:50

Hey, ive just joined mumsnet, I am 23 and have a beautiful 4 yr old son, me and my partner (not my sons dad) have been ttc for around 6 months, I know people will have been trying longer than me but im just after some advice.

My periods are regular, 30day cycle, I was due on today but test was neg and no period. Now im usually on the button with it but idk whats going on.

Ive got an ovulation calander sorted, I have a healthy diet, im not overweight, I excercise and dont smoke or drink at all. I dont have any stress (any more than usual with a 4yo)

Im worried something is wrong, ive had several infections (not stds) since having my son, ive also had harmless cysts and a stuck coil which took a while to retrieve last year. Ive also had group b strep. Ive always had painful heavy periods and recently my stomach has swollen and become painful to a point where i cant wear jeans or somethig that needs fastening as ive gone from a size 10 to 14 on a matter of weeks. I i was wondering about an ectopic because of the pain om getting amd the swelling but I think that unlikely.

Everyone has noticed and asked me if i am pregnant which is embarrassing as tests say im not.

Ive visited my doc recently but she wont entertain me for at least a year, although ive read with a second try it can be 6 months.

A couple of work friends who drink, smoke and are a little overweight have just told me theyre pregnant within a week although they know my struggle. I feel almost resentful and I hate feeling like this because its not their fault.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Im starting to not want to gobout because of my tummy I cant even suck it in or hide it with scarfs or jackets because its so prominent. Even my son asked me if there was a baby in my tummy. I feel embarrassed and ashamed plus helpless that im not yet pregnant.
Any advice would be appreciated ladies.

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AlwaysHopeful · 27/05/2014 21:56

Poor you... Not being able to conceive is the worst thing I've been through. The guilt you feel when you want to scream "it's not fair!!!!" When someone announces their good news is awful to live with, but perfectly normal.

6 months is a long time but no time at all in TTC terms. However, your symptoms would concern me and I'd want reassurance from the doctor that nothing untoward was happening even if she won't talk to you in terms if infertility.

You have youth and good health on your side. Try to relax and enjoy the sex Smile

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