Need to vent!

(15 Posts)
xBlueberry88x Tue 25-Mar-14 15:50:55

So my other half just called the doctors to follow up after having his boys tested...hes fine.

Which is good but now I know its all down to me.

Waiting for my 3rd 21 day blood test (2 weeks away) but all previous tests havent shown ovulation, even followed one up with another a few days later.

Going to start on Agnus Castus which people have said might work.

Im just so depressed at the moment and I cant bring myself to tell any one as I feel like im failing as a woman grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

purplemeggie Tue 25-Mar-14 17:01:03

Not failing as a woman, Blueberry and it's a tough thing to deal with by yourself.
Do you know of a good acupuncturist? That can help with ovulation.
I had one of these monitors, which doesn't just tell you when you ovulate, but also identifies (in advance) a six day window when your fertility's at its best. Sometimes the 21 day test doesn't pick up ovulation, if your cycle's very irregular, or you just ovulated really early or late that month. I conceived using one of those when I'd been ttc for ages without it. The support is great, too - I found it really helpful to take to my dr to discuss.
Good luck

xBlueberry88x Wed 26-Mar-14 12:30:11

Im pretty regular usually 27 to 30 days long.

Ive been thinking about acupuncture but it creeps me out a bit and have no idea where does it where i live.

I have a tracker on my phone that tells me my most fertile days but it hasnt really helped without knowing when im ovulating.

just finding it a bit hard at the moment and hate all the waiting for blood tests.

isisisis Wed 26-Mar-14 12:47:56

I've had acupunture for other things, it really isn't like having 'needles' put in. It's more like a quick flick with a rubber band, but not even that bad. Roughly where are you? I've got a brilliant lady who specialises in fertility if you're t'up north?

xBlueberry88x Wed 26-Mar-14 13:04:40

I'm on the Isle of Wight couldn't be anymore south if I tried lol

purplemeggie Wed 26-Mar-14 13:10:39

Completely agree with Is about acupuncture...the thought is much creepier than the real thing. I found my acupuncturist by googling, but if you can get a recommendation that would be better. Mine's in Surrey, if that's any good to you.
The Duo monitor doesn't just predict fertile days, it will also tell you if you are ovulating because there are patterns to your temperature which will occur after ovulation. It predicts in advance, and then confirms after ovulation by marking the day when it happened. And the report can also tell you if it looks likely that you have conceived. I had a pregnancy that didn't take, and I'd just got a bfp, but hadn't told them, and they emailed me to say "do a test, we think you're pregnant".
But practical stuff aside, I know how you're feeling - it's hard when you're waiting for things that can only happen at certain points in your cycle.

isisisis Wed 26-Mar-14 13:18:46

Ok, so my lady isn't that local to you. I know she does a lot of courses/training around fertility. I can PM you a link to her website if you want so you could email her & see if she knows anyone near you? I really rate her (& I'm not easily sold on complementary style therapys at all).

xBlueberry88x Wed 26-Mar-14 14:04:13

Ive had a quick google and there are a couple down here will have to have a consultation and see what they say.

Other half is getting on my nerves today just keeps telling me to wait to see what the doctor says but I cant just sit here and wait I need to feel like im doing something that might help.

Its hard when you know they dont want a kid as much as you do...it took me 4 years to persuade him to start trying and its still not happening.

That would be great isisisis.

isisisis Wed 26-Mar-14 15:26:09

Completely get the need to do something. I'm like that with everything. Have sent you a link to the lady I was talking about, shame you're the wrong end of the country. She's got a reading list on her site, don't know if any of it's any good but might help with the feeling like you're doing something.

xBlueberry88x Wed 26-Mar-14 15:36:55

Thanks isisisis...

Im sure there must be someone good down here but im not sure who to ask.

I will message your lady though you never know.

purplemeggie Wed 26-Mar-14 19:26:42

Ha ha...we must have been typing at the same time earlier, because your message saying you were on the isle of wight wasn't there when I was wittering on about Surrey!

xBlueberry88x Fri 28-Mar-14 14:17:11

Had dinner out with my partner and my mother in law last night....

for the first time ever she decides to ask where the babies are.... grrrrr

We just joked about it but my god I just wanted to cry why does everyone have to keep asking??

isisisis Fri 28-Mar-14 15:29:30

Oh, I feel for you. Hope it didn't completely spoil your evening. I don't think that's ever an appropriate question to ask anybody.

xBlueberry88x Fri 28-Mar-14 15:33:12

It didnt luckily but my other half was brilliant...

Luckily everyone thinks its still him dragging his heels because its taken him a long time to get to the stage where we could try.

I just hate that people keep asking its none of their business!!!

purplemeggie Fri 28-Mar-14 17:54:01

Somehow privacy and personal space is off limits when it comes to babies...people seem to think it's okay to ask really personal questions. Glad your other half came to the rescue....

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