What are our options?

(13 Posts)
Normalisavariantofcrazy Tue 18-Mar-14 16:12:50

We've been TTC for around 18 months and have had 2 miscarriages (9 and 5 weeks) we are both in our early 30s and so our GPs aren't bothered yet by our situation. I've been told I have a couple of small fibroids in my uterine wall but they won't affect fertility nor are they in a place to cause miscarriage.

I have DC from a previous relationship so I presume IVF would be a no go unless we paid for it ourselves (which we can't do) so what are our options? Each pregnancy we've lost has taken over 6 months to conceive.

What other options are there to be considered?

naty1 Tue 18-Mar-14 17:52:24

It may be worth paying privately to see a consultant about the miscarriages and fibroids (if you havent seen anyone other than gp) as gps dont know that much about fertility.
Wont the nhs have to investigate if you have another miscarriage? I have heard people say after 3.

Do you have any underlying issues like thyroid or pcos?
It may be worth reading the recurrent miscarriage threads

Normalisavariantofcrazy Wed 19-Mar-14 15:54:04

Thank you

The attitude I've been getting off my GP Is that a miscarried pregnancy is better than no pregnancy at all and that if I can get pregnant hopefully one day one will stick.

Helpful!

I don't have PCOS or thyroid problems that I know of but again GP won't run any blood tests

I'll pop over to a recurrent mc thread and have a read and a post but feel a fraud as I've 'only' had 2

purplemeggie Wed 19-Mar-14 17:44:40

Hi Normal - don't suppose you have medical insurance through work, do you? I found that although mine wouldn't pay for fertility treatment, it would pay for investigations, so I got some done. Turned out that they hadn't exactly labled all the bits and put them back in the right order after my c-section 6 years ago. I had also had one confirmed miscarriage and several early losses, but the consultant who "fixed" me said that they could all be due to the same problem....definitely worth getting it checked out and hopefully save yourself some heartache. Good luck.

Normalisavariantofcrazy Wed 19-Mar-14 18:28:50

Sadly no we don't have insurance but I'll scope out prices in my area for a check up.

Can I self refer or do I need a GP referral?

purplemeggie Fri 21-Mar-14 21:55:21

Think you need a referral - I did. Whereabouts in the country are you? I'm in Surrey...I could dig out the invoices and see how much my investigations were, if that would help? Although I was insured, they sent me copies of everything.

tillyann2013 Sat 22-Mar-14 13:01:59

How annoying that your gp won't even do bloods. Could you change docs?

Purple, interesting re your case. I'm suffering sec infertility and am due to have exploratory surgery at beg April. Is this what you had?

Normalisavariantofcrazy Sat 22-Mar-14 13:29:59

Thank you. I'm in the south east so east anglia, London, Home Counties are all accessible to me.

If I need a GP referral I wonder if me asking my nudge them into saying 'we can do that on the NHS'

I'm just gutted that everything is such a fight and feel like we are trying just to get the third miscarriage out the way if that makes sense?! Horrible isn't it!

Normalisavariantofcrazy Sat 22-Mar-14 13:30:47

I would change drs but I'm having investigations for back problems at the moment and can't afford for my notes to go wandering until it's resolved.

purplemeggie Sat 22-Mar-14 20:36:55

tilly - yes. DS was born in 2008 and we were ttc from about a year later. Got to 2011, and had what looked like implantation issues - kept being a week late (never happens), but bfns, one bfp, but started bleeding a couple of days later. So we decided to have investigations, but then I got pregnant. Sadly, I lost the baby at about 10 weeks and nothing since. But for a while, the Drs all said "well we know you can do it..." so time ticked on. We had all the "cheap" and straightforward stuff done - our GP did the bloods on NHS and there was nothing wrong. Then I discovered my insurance covered investigations so got a referral and they recommended a hysteroscopy, because I'd had a c-section. Turns out that one of my fallopian tubes was adhered to itself (so effectively blocked and out of action), but also twisted round the front of my uterus and pulling my uterus out of alignment. Apparently this could have caused the implantation problems. My cycle had also got shorter and shorter since ds was born, and the consultant said the surgery should sort that out, and it did.
Unfortunately, the eureka moment may have come too late, as I'm now 41. Consultant suggested giving it 3 months to see if the surgery fixed me and then trying IVF, which I'm just starting now.
normal - that sucks. I definitely think you should nudge. I've just checked the invoices that my insurance company got sent for the exploratory surgery and they come to approx £1700.

TheFabulousIdiot Sat 22-Mar-14 20:39:42

Has your husbband's sperm been tested?

tillyann2013 Sun 23-Mar-14 20:19:56

Thanks purple. Fingers crossed for you. I'm hoping when they look at mine that they find something fixable. So frustrating being unexplained. Especially after ds was conceived after 6 months ish.

Normalisavariantofcrazy Sun 23-Mar-14 20:47:11

Hi, no he hasn't had his sperm tested. He said he's going to give it a couple more months before he sees his GP, which is frustrating but understandable

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