Long-time lurker here, very infrequent poster but I am going out of my mind and was hoping for some likeminded people who might understand what I'm going through.
A little history (please skip if boring, will put lines above & below - the gist is that we have some quite serious fertility problems)
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OH & I are in late 20s(me) early 30s (him) have been TTC for more than a year and a half. At first assumed we weren't managing because of stress as had just lost my dad having nursed him through a terminal illness, but after a while we went for tests & found out that OH has poor sperm count & quality and I have PCOS. I'm a healthy weight but we still made loads of lifestyle changes.
I ditched my gynaecologist because he was awful and barked at me every time I asked questions. He put me on metformin but I did some reading and it wasn't indicated for people with a BMI under 25 and mine is well under that. I came off it and stopped seeing him & am trying to control PCOS symptoms with diet & acupuncture / other natural treatments as am feeling really overwhelmed and anxious about dealing with yet another unsympathetic healthcare pro.
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The problem is that I'm starting to not cope. EVERYONE around me seems to be getting pregnant, from colleagues to relatives, friends to business acquaintances.
I'm starting to become a really horrible person. I'm starting to hate people who post pictures of their growing bumps or young children on Facebook, my stock answer to people asking me when I plan to have kids is becoming increasingly ruder, whenever I hear about someone getting pregnant by accident I want to puke with jealousy. I can't be happy for people anymore, I can't cope with everyone's pregnancy moans about morning sickness or swollen feet or new moms complaining about sleepless nights when I'd give anything to be in their (tight) shoes.
I know it's irrational, pregnant women haven't stolen anything from me, but seeing all these huge bellies and hearing all about someone new joining the "mommy club" is so hard on me at the moment.
Been holding all of this in for a really long time but I'm feeling so desperate. I can't talk to anyone because their answers are always so glib "oh it will happen for you" or "you can just adopt" when it's not that simple. It really might never happen for us.
I'm scared to go back to the doctor in case they're awful to me again. I'm scared for more tests in case they show there's something wrong with my tubes and take all of my hope away.
I'm scared to apply for adoption in case we're rejected for some reason and that last inkling of hope is gone too.
I'm scared, I don't really know what our options are or who I can talk to medically or personally and I think our future might be childless when having a family was our dream.
Basically I'm terrified and in a lot of pain with nowhere to turn to but an Internet forum. Sorry for the self-indulgent moan, it's just all becoming too much for me.
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emmapcos1 · 14/03/2014 15:53
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