Have you done repeated IVF? How do you stay positive?

[Shellster52]

My first IVF I had very poor embryo quality that disintegrated before day 2 transfer. I then did research and started high protein diet, supplements and lots more, and my embryo quality improved each time subsequently. IVF 3 was great quality but BFN. A trainee did the transfer and they did not use ultrasound so I thought this might be the reason and am paying more for another go at a private clinic where an experience doctor will do an ultrasound guided embryo transfer.

But after such a long journey, the disappointment of 3 failed IVF's, and friends and families having babies at the moment, I am finding it really difficult to stay positive, and I spend my evenings eating junk and have even had alcohol. I then feel more guilty because I am destroying all my hard work and may be sabotaging embryo quality for my next IVF, but every night I still do it!

Any tips on how to stay positive and get myself out of this rut.

[Dreamy33]

Hi Shellster,

I don't really have any great words of advice or help for you I'm afraid but wanted you to know you're not alone. I've been feeling pretty down about the whole ttc issue lately and it's very easy to find yourself in a tunnel. When I'm having a brighter day, I try to remind myself that there are many people in the world who are having a much worse time than me and try to keep some perspective on the situation. Often easier said than done though!

ps I think it's ok to wallow for a while. You need it to gather strength for the next try.
X

[Shellster52]

Thanks for taking the time to reply and your words of support Dreamy. I have an appointment coming up on 4th Feb with my new IVF clinic. Hopefully we will lock in a cycle that I will be dong IVF for and then that will get me motivated again as I have a deadline to work towards for my eggs to be in good shape.