POAS addicts, does it not just depress you if yet another BFN??

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Mouldypineapple Mon 04-Nov-13 17:32:44

Currently suffering with secondary infertility - have been ttc over 2.5 years. My Consultant thinks I may have had a few very early miscarriages without knowing it so has advised me to POAS frequently the week before my period to see then call him quick if its positive! But.. Have done it 3 times now (3 total not even 3 cycles) and it just feels hopeless. Each time I get my hopes up then it's negative (even though I knew it most likely would be) and I just feel so sad.
Any one else feel the same? Any tips to cheer me up??

KungFuBustle Mon 04-Nov-13 23:37:11

I POAS far too much. Over two years for us now. I POAS because I can choose to do it when I have time to accept what feels like the inevitable with the support of DH. It's depressing but I can manage my reaction better than when my period arrives and I may be at work or somewhere else where a moment to myself isn't possible.

Given your TTC time is similar to mine I don't want to sound like I'm trying to teach my granny how to suck eggs. I cope by making sure I give myself the time I need and treating myself (this month we have bath bombs). I reminded myself that this is as much a mental struggle as a physical one and I'm allowed to feel how I do.

I hope you get your positive soon.

Mouldypineapple Wed 06-Nov-13 12:09:40

Thanks, that's helpful. Yes I need to make a more concerted effort to focus on the good stuff and look after me. My mental health is rather struggling at the moment because of this and other issues and I find it hard to cheer myself up!
Hope you get your positive soon too.

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