Assisted conception after recurrent miscarriage part 5

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Mel3062 Sat 14-Sep-13 19:37:59

Hope this is right ladies ...

brownstag Wed 09-Oct-13 14:56:49

Sue, the nutrients would be taken from the supply in your body, not necessarily what you're eating day to day, so a few days of toast wouldn't make any difference, I'm sure. I also wouldn't worry about measuring small early on as both my last miscarriage and my DS measured small early on, to have caught up later on. I think they just can't see properly at this point. I've personally had heart beats at 6 plus 1 (DS), 6 plus 2 (mc) and 6 plus 4 (mc), but for me they are meaningless and not the good sign they are meant to be as it all goes wrong around 8 plus 4 generally. Really hoping this one sticks, Sue.

suemays Wed 09-Oct-13 15:00:22

I have no idea what to think at the moment. I guess until my next scan I can only guess if this will work or not. I still don't know if the food poisoning is cussing a problem.

suemays Wed 09-Oct-13 15:04:45

Causing should have read! I had a heartbeat at 8+2 with one pregnancy which then died a few days later. Until a baby is actually born I don't think I will ever relax again in a pregnancy.

Arianrhod Wed 09-Oct-13 15:18:33

sue I'd echo what brown says. Consider the many women that due to severe morning sickness exist on nothing but toast, or dry crackers, or suchlike for days at a time. The nutrients the baby needs come from your body, so unless you are particularly malnourished, the only person who is likely to have a nourishment issue from you surviving three days on dry toast is you. Hope to goodness it is just a dating issue or the fact that it's really too early to see anything at 6+2, but I know it's hell waiting to find out. Nothing worse than being stuck in limbo.

suemays Wed 09-Oct-13 16:09:44

Hey I am used to being stuck in limbo! Nothing can be as bad as the waiting we had to do last year when we knew there were problems with scarlet. I keep telling myself that if it has to fail due to a chromosonal prob I would rather it happen sooner than later.

Pebbles73 Thu 10-Oct-13 13:20:33

You poor thing Sue but as the others said am sure just living on toast won't have hurt and am sure you take a pregnancy multi vitamin. Thinking of you and have fingers crossed.

Can I ask what dose of hydroxy people have had, I have been given 200mg three times a day which seems a lot?!

brownstag Thu 10-Oct-13 16:22:11

200mg once a day.

Mel3062 Thu 10-Oct-13 17:20:42

Same as brown x

BellyD Thu 10-Oct-13 22:59:42

Pebbles I would check that doseage with NL, as when I was taking it, the amount it said to take on the box was double what Mr S wanted me to take and it took me a few weeks to figure it out.

duggs1976 Fri 11-Oct-13 08:58:00

AF has arrived 4 wks + 2 days post ERPC. Off we go again (big sigh)confused We are getting a puppy on Monday Bailey. To add to the 2 cats (kitten got Christmas 2 yrs ago after some other conception disaster attempt! I'll have a farm soon enough if I don't get a live baby out of all this ..... Morning folks. Not sure about 3 times a day pebbles ?? Sounds a bit excessive?

suemays Fri 11-Oct-13 11:46:31

200mg once a day for me too. I asked if I should double up last year as only took steroids from bfp but he said no.

Pebbles73 Sat 12-Oct-13 08:29:50

Thanks ladies, I emailed one of the nurses who is checking for me.

How lovely to get a puppy Duggs we have two cats who are defo my fur babies and spoil them rotten! Hopefully you won't need to get anymore!!

Mel3062 Sat 12-Oct-13 08:47:04

Aw my friends lab is Bailey. I too have a cat, rabbit and little ginger and white kitten called Basil (well hes daughter Lucies but my baby at mo whilst shes at uni!)

lemonsherbet Mon 14-Oct-13 18:44:56

I also had 2cats (one of them died earlier this year and spent ages crying over the loss of my fur baby).

Thinking of you sue.

Mel3062 Tue 15-Oct-13 06:27:08

Sue hope you've had a good scan. I had biopsy and it took 3 gos as I am s shaped so had to go round corners very painful I had to grip the nurses hand!
Came back and in a and e with hubby from midnight til 5, they kept him in they think its his gall bladder and also found a heart murmur that's worrying them as the ECG was also abnormal. We were in a and e 4 hours Sunday night too so v tired sad

suemays Tue 15-Oct-13 07:25:35

Scan was bad, baby hadn't grown and no heartbeat. Going to Epu hopefully today to confirm that its non viable and will then go for another d&c. Think I am at the end of the road now after 9 losses.

swlondonnanny Tue 15-Oct-13 10:09:30

Sue so sorry to hear that it's not meant to be this time. Did you carry on with acupunture during this pregnancy? What did they say? Sorry for all this questions, hope you don't mind. I am having loads of acupuncture with a guy who is specializing in recurrent miscariage and has his own 'autoimmune protocol'. I am yet to get pregnant and see if it works but was wondering if the one you went/go to was doing aning 'special'.
Good luck at EPU hope they will not upset you even more than you are now.
Mel was thinking about you yesterday, sorry the biopsy was so unpleasant/painful. Hopefully you'll get good results soon. Also best of the luck to you DH, hope he'll get better/well soon. What did you mean by you being s shaped?

Pebbles73 Tue 15-Oct-13 14:15:56

Sue I was so sad to read your news, I know how disappointed and down you must be feeling. Don't make any decisions right now as you are probably feeling pretty worn out by it all and hormonal. After a rest you may feel ready to have another go.

Sorry to hear about your oh and sounds like you had a horrible time with the biopsy you poor thing!!

How is everyone else doing?

duggs1976 Tue 15-Oct-13 14:51:16

Pretty rubbish pebbles! I said to sue why is there no rhyme or reason for all of this. I feel like I won't ever get to be a mum and then look at pebbles and sue and myself and think it is all a damn lottery. Exhausted with it all. Even thinking of sue brings it all back.

Arianrhod Tue 15-Oct-13 15:41:38

Horribly sh1tty, I'll agree with you there duggs. So very sorry sue, this whole journey really is feckin awful. Big hugs to all of you!

Mel3062 Tue 15-Oct-13 17:07:24

Aw sue I'm so sorry sad
Thanks for the wishes I've had 2 hours sleep! Where they needed to get the tube round Is straight in some people but no mine goes round 2 bends?! Abnormal??!!

suemays Tue 15-Oct-13 20:47:18

I have been having acupuncture with someone who specialises in recurrent miscarriage for over a year now. Thinking of stopping it and all the drugs for a while partly due to cost and also because I want my life back to normal.
I am so fed up with the whole merry go round of life being put on hold and I don't know how much more I can take.

Yes I might conceive quickly once we try but what's the point if it is always doomed to fail? I seriously tj

suemays Tue 15-Oct-13 21:05:50

I have been having acupuncture with someone who specialises in recurrent miscarriage for over a year now. Thinking of stopping it and all the drugs for a while partly due to cost and also because I want my life back to normal.
I am so fed up with the whole merry go round of life being put on hold and I don't know how much more I can take.

Yes I might conceive quickly once we try but what's the point if it is always doomed to fail? I seriously think that the majority of my miscarriages are down to aging eggs at the age of 41. I could keep trying for the next 2 years, have another 9 miscarriages and never find the elusive egg. I am also concerned that it's not good for my health with surpressing my immune system for so long. Its different if you go on shehatas plan and conceive with a successful pregnancy in a few months but what about us old timers? Surely it can't be good to be on the drugs for so long? I keep thinking of snoopy who was diagnosed with breast cancer after being on the drugs for a while. My DH said he is scared that he will lose me and end up with two kids on his own.

I also then wonder if ivf would work for me again or not but then I think of duggs who had cgh testing and yet it still failed. I could spend 7k on an ivf cycle and it will either be cancelled again due to poor response or I could miscarry or worse still get to 20 weeks and there be another problem. We also don't have the money to gamble when the odds are so stacked against us.

DH is worried that we will end up having a baby but it will be severely disabled. He thinks we are fated to not have a healthy baby now.

So my question to you ladies is, do you seriously think I have any kind of chance of conceiving a healthy baby naturally after 9 losses at my age or should I give up and try to appreciate what I do have? Should I go cold turkey and stop all the meds and acupuncture and try naturally or do I spend our savings on one last go of ivf?? I really don't know what to do.

Buzzybee123 Tue 15-Oct-13 22:56:13

sue would you consider DE IVF ??

suemays Tue 15-Oct-13 23:46:03

* buzzy* DH and I have discussed adoption and donor eggs but we both feel we would treat the child differently to our dd. It would be different if we didnt have her. The grandparents who play a massive part in dds life would also treat the other child differently so I don't think it would be fair on the child. For that reason I couldn't do it. One of my best friends has 2 DE kids from the same donor so its a subject we have spoken about at great length.

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