Hi,
I'll try to answer your questions. I'd also say there is loads and loads of knowledge on here (have a look at Conception as well as Infertility - I am a regular on the former as I refuse to label myself as "infertile" while I am still trying) and on Fertility Friends.
- how long does it take from referral to starting IVF for the NHS cycle?
For me, I was referred by my GP to a fertility clinic in June, had various tests there and was referred on to an IVF clinic in November, completed paperwork in December, had a scan in Jan, and Mr euro and I had the HIV & hep blood tests in Feb. We could have started in March (but I deferred as I was freaking out). I first saw my GP in April/May for initial tests, so it was just under a year from that first appointment.
- how much time off work did you need?
I took the day of egg collection off. For everything else, including ET, I just popped out for the appointment
- did you tell your work why you were off?
No. I took EC day as medical leave, telling work I was having a medical procedure under sedation and would not be available that day.
- is it all as traumatic as it sounds?
It's easier when you are in the middle of it. I reacted badly to the downregging drugs but most people are ok on them. I decided to go for natural IVF as a result of that, and found it pretty easy. I freaked out a bit at EC but I never react well to being knocked out - it's a control thing, I think. ET was just like a long smear test.
- which private clinics do you recommend (counting on needing three goes)?
You need to find one that is right for you. Some people swear by the ARGC (and the success rates are undoubtedly high) but I would crack under all the drugs and daily testing. It would just be too invasive and stressful for me. As I am doing natural, I went to Create, who are known for that.
- how much does it cost privately?
It varies enormously. Some clinics are very expensive (10k+ for a cycle). Some less so. The cheapest option is often privately funding a cycle at an NHS clinic. I think it was 3.5k at mine (King's). At Create, a natural cycle is about £3k in total.
BTW, I stopped my first conventional cycle because I was having a bad time on the downregging drugs. I got a BFP on my first natural cycle. I mc'd but I am starting again very soon.