egg sharing

[stevieleigh22]

Hi all just trying to find someone that had same experiences as me, and to get a little bit of information. i was 15 when i had my first operation i had cysts on my ovaries i had open surgery then 2 years later i had a lap done due to another cyst, they told me after the lap that i had endrometriotis and that scar tissue had developed they unblocked my tubes, but told me i would be able to have children, i did conceive and had a beautiful baby boy, i was then unable to conceive i am now 24 and after going the doctors they run all there tests on me which showed up that my tubes was blocked again due to scar tissue they said that they wudnt unblock again but i went for a second opinion they said yes to doing a lap to unblock the tubes, i had it done 2 days ago, and had the worst news ever the news i was dreading they could not unblock due to the amount of scar tissue there was, so my only hope to have more children is ivf, i wanted to here a little bit on people that have faced the same kind of thing, people that have had ivf! also egg sharing people forts and feelings on that.

[lozster]

Hi Steve - I read your post and firstly I'm sorry to hear your news about the scar tissue. It's not nice to hear news like that. I'm in a slightly different position to you but when I had news that amounted to the same conclusion I was devastated so I can appreciate how you must be feeling.

I had a couple of thoughts. Did the dr's say it was impossible or 'just' unlikely that you would ever conceive naturally? Obviously it is not optimum either way but if there is even the slightest chance, you are very young. I'm still being treated at 40 - old enough to just be your mum and for it all have been legal!!! If you need ivf them time and age are on your side.

Regarding ivf, people will have different experiences but I will briefly share mine. I've done 2 full cycles and 1 frozen. The first was intimidating as it was all new to me but physically it was ok. The second was a walk in the park. The third I felt pretty tired on some of the drugs but that was it. The real toll of ivf is in your head, the hope, expectation and disappointment.

You ask in your title about egg share. I guess that you are asking as you will not qualify for nhs treatment because of your son so this would be a way to keep costs down? Your eggs are likely to be good due to your age. I know that donating would be life changing for the recipient. Donors in the uk are few and far between. It's not a sum

[lozster]

Hi Steve - I read your post and firstly I'm sorry to hear your news about the scar tissue. It's not nice to hear news like that. I'm in a slightly different position to you but when I had news that amounted to the same conclusion I was devastated so I can appreciate how you must be feeling.

I had a couple of thoughts. Did the dr's say it was impossible or 'just' unlikely that you would ever conceive naturally? Obviously it is not optimum either way but if there is even the slightest chance, you are very young. I'm still being treated at 40 - old enough to just be your mum and for it all to have been legal!!! If you need ivf then time and age are on your side.

Regarding ivf, people will have different experiences but I will briefly share mine. I've done 2 full cycles and 1 frozen. The first was intimidating as it was all new to me but physically it was ok. The second was a walk in the park. The third I felt pretty tired on some of the drugs but that was it. The real toll of ivf is in your head, the hope, expectation and disappointment.

You ask in your title about egg share. I guess that you are asking as you will not qualify for nhs treatment because of your son so this would be a way to keep costs down? Your eggs are likely to be good due to your age. I know that donating would be life changing for the recipient. Donors in the uk are few and far between. It's not a simple decision though which is why you would have counselling. You may not conceive on a cycle and the other woman might for example. Your son will have a (biological) half sibling. You have time on your side still to think about this and absorb your news.

Finally, at the risk of being flamed on here, don't let anything spoil the experience of enjoying the son that you already have.

[lozster]

Apologies for the double post - the comments are not so good you need to read them twice!

[stevieleigh22]

hi lozster, i no im not the only person out there going through this there is so many more but talking to people that are going through the same kind of situation helps all my friends are fine there all having children, i wanted someone that would understand what i mean.

no hun when i had my opp the doctor came round after and there is no chance due to the tubes being unhealthy as well, if u dont mind me asking what is ur infertility due to,

Was any of your ivf successful? no i dont fall into the category as i already have my son.

i have been thinking about egg sharing i no that it would be upsetting if i wasnt to conceive but the recipient did but everything is going to have its pros and cons and i think of looking at my situation its heart breaking the thought that i could be helping someone els that is going through the same thing makes me feel better

i would never let anything spoil the experience of enjoying my little boy ever x

[lozster]

Sounds like egg share could be win-win for you. I have no diagnosis (as do many women who face infertility). I'd point you in the direction of fertility friends. The site can be a bit overwhelming as there are so many threads but if I recall, there is one area specifically for egg share. Good luck!

[stevieleigh22]

thankyou very much hope all works out for you x