Mumsnet, will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? And call upon the FA to kick sexism out of football?

(1005 Posts)
BasilFoulEggs Sun 29-Apr-12 23:13:20

Dear Mumsnet
As you are no doubt aware, there has been the most extraordinary hate campaign waged this week by some football fans, against a rape victim in the wake of the Ched Evans Guilty Verdict.

The jist of the hatespeak, has been that a drunk woman has no right to expect the basic human right of not having her body penetrated without her active participation in that sexual act, or even her passive consent. Presumably because men (or at least footballers and their friends) have the right to penetrate women who are incapable of consent. And that if a man rapes you, it is because you are a slut, a slag and all the other hate-speak words used to de-humanise women and make it easier for people not to empathise with us when we are abused.

This week has seen the really ugly spectacle, of a bunch of men asserting their right to rape women, handmaidens supporting that right and both of them sending out a clear warning to all other rape victims, to know what to expect if they dare to pursue justice if they are raped.

If there had been a similar outpouring of hatred against any other historically oppressed group, the rest of the media would have been tearing their hair out analysing why some men hated this group so much, where the hatred came from, why it existed, what could be done about it; but ironically apart from the Daily Fail, there has been very little comment in response to the Twitter hate-campaign. If Twitter had buzzed with indignation at the jailing of the man who posted hate-speak about Fabrice Muamba, I’ve no doubt that the FA would have tracked down the posters and banned them from football matches. Because they’re busy kicking racism out of football. Sexism, though, is fine. They can give a bloody award to a convicted rapist, while their supporters conduct what must be a terrifying hate campaign against his teenage victim– right now, football fans don’t look all that much better than the Taliban, do they?

Mumsnet, will you use the voice you have against this horrible hate campaign? Will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? Will you ask the FA to state publicly, that they too, believe her and that in future, they will work as hard to kick sexism out of football, as they do to kick racism out?

Thank You.

jaquelinehyde Sun 29-Apr-12 23:23:33

Well said, come on MN make a stand.

EightiesChick Sun 29-Apr-12 23:25:23

Yes, I agree.

picc Sun 29-Apr-12 23:25:24

yes. agree.
Well said, Basil.

ItsNotUnusualToBe Sun 29-Apr-12 23:25:33

I believe her.

Codandchops Sun 29-Apr-12 23:28:35

I Believe Her.

I believe her.

Codandchops Sun 29-Apr-12 23:35:52

Very well said OP.

Arseface Sun 29-Apr-12 23:36:22

I believe her and she's not a slut.

BrightnessFalls Sun 29-Apr-12 23:37:25

I beleive her.

TheHonMrsP Sun 29-Apr-12 23:37:26

We believe you

Jux Sun 29-Apr-12 23:48:51

Ibelieve her.

chipmonkey Sun 29-Apr-12 23:49:24

I believe her.

I believe you

ohgawd Sun 29-Apr-12 23:50:13

I believe

NunTheWiser Sun 29-Apr-12 23:50:56

I believe you.

Moodykat Sun 29-Apr-12 23:52:40

I believe you.

defineme Sun 29-Apr-12 23:52:51

I believe her.

ArtexMonkey Sun 29-Apr-12 23:56:47

I believe her.

I have been thinking of her all week.

Thank you for this thread. I would LOVE institutionalised misogyny to be acknowledged and tackled the way institutionalised racism is beginning to be.

MyDogShitsShoes Sun 29-Apr-12 23:58:58

I believe her.

I believe her.

The FA should be ashamed of itself. A convicted rapist should have no place in football.

Empusa Mon 30-Apr-12 00:00:06

I believe her.

I believe her.

Thank you Basil for this thread.

It is time that the despicable and throwaway treatment of women by footballers is halted.

FannyFifer Mon 30-Apr-12 00:12:40

I believe her, I am absolutely disgusted by what has went on and the comments that have been made about this poor girl.

MordecaiAndTheRigbys Mon 30-Apr-12 00:14:52

I believe her.

Thank you for this thread.

Yeahthatsnotgonnahappen Mon 30-Apr-12 00:19:31

I believe her.

I was shocked and disgusted that her name had been released and spent my journey to work yelling at the radio at their lack of outrage and horror that this is the society we live in. To have gone through the rape itself, to have the courage and strength of will to make it through a court case, only to be the victim of the most hateful abuse afterwards, must be soul destroying. I believe her. And hope that she has surrounded herself with people who love her and let her know that this hatefulness is nothing to do with her, but a hateful subgroup of society who we should all be ashamed off.

Brilliant idea, great post Basil

I believe her.

I believe her

MadameMessy Mon 30-Apr-12 00:30:41

I believe her

akaemmafrost Mon 30-Apr-12 00:36:45

I believe her.

AlfalfaMum Mon 30-Apr-12 00:38:39

I believe her.

carernotasaint Mon 30-Apr-12 01:14:50

I believe her and shes not a slut or a whore.

SerialKipper Mon 30-Apr-12 01:21:55

I believe her.

mathanxiety Mon 30-Apr-12 01:26:27


OneHandWavingFree Mon 30-Apr-12 01:26:43

I believe her.

CheerfulYank Mon 30-Apr-12 01:41:27

I didn't know anything about this because we don't follow football in America, but having read up on it I am disgusted and saddened.

I too was raped as a 19 year old, too drunk to move or speak, let alone consent.


Ched is vile and his girlfriend should be ashamed of herself for "standing by" someone who'd treat another woman this way.

ravenAK Mon 30-Apr-12 02:26:31

I believe her.

thunksheadontable Mon 30-Apr-12 02:38:01

I believe her.

I also believe that those supporting Ched Evans and his like need to consider carefully why a young man who is reasonably good looking and successful and could easily find a woman who would willingly engage in fun, adult consensual sex would choose to pick out the drunkest girl he could find, text his mate to say he "got" a girl and then have sex in front of his friend, invite him to join in and have it filmed. It is not normal behaviour, it is despicable even without the issue of consent.

ICutMyFootOnOccamsRazor Mon 30-Apr-12 02:39:29

I believe her.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Mon 30-Apr-12 02:42:51

i believe you

Preggersntired Mon 30-Apr-12 02:48:13

I believe her. Cannot believe the way she has been treated... Gross understatement..

fridakahlo Mon 30-Apr-12 03:03:08

I have not come across this, for the same reason as Cheerful Yank, but I have no doubt she is telling the truth, in light of the fact of how hard it is to get the CPS to bring a rapist to trial, let alone get a conviction.
Will the sentence reflect the seriousness of his crime, though?

madwomanintheattic Mon 30-Apr-12 03:39:33

I believe her.

Come on mn.

Lifetime ban, whatever the sentence. And the FA need to state that any footballer bringing the sport into disrepute will receive a lifetime ban as well. This happens way too often. Institutional condemnation is required, not tacit acceptance.

neepsntatties Mon 30-Apr-12 03:48:27

I believe her.

It would be amazing to see something in the press supporting this girl and taking a stand against the hate campaign she has been subjected to.

Grumpla Mon 30-Apr-12 03:49:09

I believe her.

And I also think the FA has a duty to send a message that this kind of behaviour is not just illegal it is unacceptable.

It fucking horrifies me that we live in a society where this kind of crime is seen as some sort of recreational activity.

And what about all the other footballers out there? Why have they not come out in support of this poor woman and condemned the actions of this fucking bastard? In their position I'd want to be sure I wasn't tarred with the same brush. It isn't just women who should be appalled by this, any decent man should be actively campaigning against it too.

HillyWallaby Mon 30-Apr-12 04:00:20

I believe her.

Josiejumpismyname Mon 30-Apr-12 04:11:41

I Believe Her.

twofalls Mon 30-Apr-12 04:35:53

I believe her

And great post basil

Kristina2 Mon 30-Apr-12 04:52:50

I believe her

suburbophobe Mon 30-Apr-12 05:01:49

I believe her.

Poor girl, my heart goes out to her.

Scatterplot Mon 30-Apr-12 05:49:54

I believe her. I second the suggestion of a lifetime ban from the FA.

NotAPooTroll Mon 30-Apr-12 05:55:51

I believe her.

SodThat Mon 30-Apr-12 05:58:50

i believe her.

westcoastnortherner Mon 30-Apr-12 05:59:26

I believe her

NormaStanleyFletcher Mon 30-Apr-12 06:10:06

I believe her

ImNotAnsweringIt Mon 30-Apr-12 06:11:55

I believe her. Come on MN and MNers, this needs to be big.

I believe her

I believe her

I believe her.

I believe that no scumbag has the right to have sex with an unconsenting person.

Lifetime ban, I definitely agree, why should this man still be in the public eye for our sons to look up to?

I believe you.

HecateTrivia Mon 30-Apr-12 06:30:59

I believe her

LtEveDallas Mon 30-Apr-12 06:31:19

I believe her

I believe her.

Winterdrawerson Mon 30-Apr-12 06:36:36

I believe her.

I believe you sweetheart & you hold your head up bloody high because the morons who support this vile hate campaign are showing themselves for the ignorant unfeeling twats they are and this thread hopefully will show you that there ARE decent human beings who will support you ...women AND men.

Basil-thanks for doing this. Could we link to the offending twitter posts not that I want to to read it but so we can all complain to Twitter-or has it gone?

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren Mon 30-Apr-12 06:38:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Alargeglassofred Mon 30-Apr-12 06:46:07

I believe her

BalloonSlayer Mon 30-Apr-12 06:47:22

I believe her.

Onetwothreeoops Mon 30-Apr-12 06:50:09

I believe her

MNHQ does an opportunity even exist for you to publicly condem that vile man and his vile supporters? I can't believe that the media are not more vocal about this, or have I missed it?

gothicmama Mon 30-Apr-12 06:50:20

I believe her

TwllBach Mon 30-Apr-12 06:50:58

I know the story but have purposefully tried to avoid the horrific comments that have been made. Having been in a similar, vulnerable position as a drunk teen, it hit quite close to home. I realise now that it was the wrong attitude and that this is more the way to go, so I'm standing with you -

I believe her.

FoofyShmooffer Mon 30-Apr-12 06:51:17

I believe her.

WitchOfEndor Mon 30-Apr-12 06:55:08

I believe her

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 06:55:55

I believe her.

CharltonHairstyle Mon 30-Apr-12 06:58:28

Well said, I believe her.

ComradeJing Mon 30-Apr-12 06:59:40

Great post basil.

Please can we do this mn?

I believe her.

msrisotto Mon 30-Apr-12 07:00:27

It's time the FA took some responsibility for football culture of which sexism/misogyny are a black mark. Take it as seriously as racism and bloody speak out about how unacceptable it is!

I believe her. The bloody courts believed her, who do the FA think they are by letting this hate campaign go unnoticed?

LoopyLoopsTootTootToots Mon 30-Apr-12 07:02:36

I believe her.

Has MNHQ picked up on this yet? Will report in case.

MNHQ, this is important stuff. We have a voice, please enable us to use it. smile

chimchar Mon 30-Apr-12 07:03:59

well said everyone.

i really feel for the poor woman...just horrific, and to now be 'punished' by those fans of the rapist is just awful. why are they allowed to get away with it?

i read in the paper that there was going to be an applause at something like 35 minutes in in support of the guy...did that happen?

Selks Mon 30-Apr-12 07:05:31

I believe her.

GladbagsAndYourHandrags Mon 30-Apr-12 07:06:26

I believe her.

catsareevil Mon 30-Apr-12 07:07:15

I believe her, and so did the jury.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Chandon Mon 30-Apr-12 07:09:40

It does not even matter if we believe her. It has been PROVEN. He has been CONVICTED of rape. Every man and woman supporting him should feel ashamed!!!

exoticfruits Mon 30-Apr-12 07:10:42

I believe her and would not want to stand by while she is bullied in such a vile way.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 07:12:58

You are right, it should be irrelevant if we believe her since the jury found him guilty of rape. But it is not, because so many are supporting him.

Society has to find him guilty, not just the court.

I believe her. So did the police. So did the CPS. So did the jury.

She has done nothing wrong and I really hope she has some great supportive people around her.

tiredemma Mon 30-Apr-12 07:16:25

agree with you.

He was found guilty in a court of law.

I believe her.

twofingerstoGideon Mon 30-Apr-12 07:17:01

I believe her.

Thanks, Basil, for doing this. Mumsnet, please take this up.

AbigailAdams Mon 30-Apr-12 07:20:05

I believe her.

The FA need to stand up and be counted for once and not bury their head in the sand and not prop up (or even perpetuate) the very real misogyny in the sport.

ThatsYouThatIs Mon 30-Apr-12 07:21:26

I believe her.

TweetPetite Mon 30-Apr-12 07:21:49

I believe her.

MinnieBar Mon 30-Apr-12 07:22:56

I believe you.

And I think you were incredibly, incredibly brave to go to the police and through the courts. You deserve an award.

MrsFrin Mon 30-Apr-12 07:23:31

I believe her

I believe her

Can't we get #ibelieveher trending or something?

At least it would take away from the negative bollocks these shithouses have been saying

I believe her.

DoItRight Mon 30-Apr-12 07:27:13

I believe her

MardyBra Mon 30-Apr-12 07:27:22

I believe her.

And I am sickened by tha story. Thanks Basil.

MardyBra Mon 30-Apr-12 07:27:36


CBear6 Mon 30-Apr-12 07:29:01

We believe you.

I hope someone she knows is on MN (if she herself isn't) and points her in the direction of this thread.

FryingNemo Mon 30-Apr-12 07:29:14

I believe you.

I'm a man and a football fan and I believe her.

I'm glad this stupid minority of idiots got drowned out at the game.

I believer you.

I believe you.

Tee2072 Mon 30-Apr-12 07:40:03

I believe her.

skrumle Mon 30-Apr-12 07:40:46

i believe her

Blatherskite Mon 30-Apr-12 07:41:39

I believe her. So glad the Sheffield United support was a wash out.

BeerTricksPott3r Mon 30-Apr-12 07:45:39

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MiladyGardenia Mon 30-Apr-12 07:46:33

I believe her.

streakybacon Mon 30-Apr-12 07:46:39

I believe her.

MrsCog Mon 30-Apr-12 07:46:40

I believe you, stay strong and hold your head high.

alexpolismum Mon 30-Apr-12 07:48:13

I believe you. Such despicable behaviour by the Ched supporters, don't they have mothers/ sisters/ girlfriends/ daughters?

MooBaaWoofCheep Mon 30-Apr-12 07:48:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I believe her.

AlistairSim Mon 30-Apr-12 07:50:09

I believe her.

Littlefish Mon 30-Apr-12 07:52:43

I believe her.

Scootergrrrl Mon 30-Apr-12 07:52:52

I believe her and the court believed her.

Being a good footballer doesn't make you a good man. I'd like some of the people who are supporting convicted rapist Ched Evans to imagine that was their daughter, or sister, who had the misfortune to encounter him and his revolting friends that night.

I believe her. No excuses. No defence. It's not harmless banter, it's life destroying to persecute her further online.

QuietNinjaKnowsNotWhatToDo Mon 30-Apr-12 07:55:21

I believe her. And what mrsrisotto said. People who are supporting this scumbag are just as bad.

potoroo Mon 30-Apr-12 07:55:57

I believe her.

belgo Mon 30-Apr-12 07:56:56

BasilFoulEggs good post and some very good points raised on this thread.

I believe her.

Macdog Mon 30-Apr-12 07:57:33

I believe her

Tee2072 Mon 30-Apr-12 07:59:10

His sister has set up a Facebook page?

Shall we start an I believe her campaign on the wall?

handbagCrab Mon 30-Apr-12 08:00:52

I believe her.

Tee2072 Mon 30-Apr-12 08:00:56
catsareevil Mon 30-Apr-12 08:02:30

It might be better to check with her sister first. I find the concept that anyone wouldnt believe it very odd given the circumstances and the conviction, so if that idea isnt already on the page I wouldnt introduce it, IYSWIM.

catsareevil Mon 30-Apr-12 08:03:07

Sorry, its his sister, I thought it was her sister.

MrsKwazii Mon 30-Apr-12 08:04:45

I believe her

ChildoftheMonkeyBasket Mon 30-Apr-12 08:04:57

BasilFoulEggs - well said.

AfternoonsAndCoffeespoons Mon 30-Apr-12 08:05:56

I believe you, sweetheart. I am so sorry you have to go through this. x

I believe her.

CherryBlossom27 Mon 30-Apr-12 08:06:52

I believe her.

FairPhyllis Mon 30-Apr-12 08:07:18

I believe her. It wasn't her fault, and she isn't a slag or a slut. The onus was on the rapist not to rape.

I too want to see misogyny stamped out of professional football.

usualsuspect Mon 30-Apr-12 08:07:58

I believe her

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 08:09:04

much as I would love to do that, posting on that page is only going to start an internet slanging match, out of which no one will come out looking good.

I do wonder if it is against some FB code though. Could we all report the page?

DilysPrice Mon 30-Apr-12 08:09:38

I believe her.

I don't believe that the other defendant has walked away scot free from what must have been a cast iron case of aiding and abetting rape (although found not guilty of rape himself) and I think he should have his name dragged through the dirt for his actions.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 08:10:29

oh, actually. Just seen your posts on FB.

Might change my mind. That is good.

I believe her.

FrothyDragon Mon 30-Apr-12 08:11:40

I believe her!

Most of the UK believe you, if you ever find any way of reading this. And I'm sorry some people are so shitty. But please try not to listen to the small minority who are causing you pain. sad

I believe her

CelticPromise Mon 30-Apr-12 08:13:38

I believe her.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 08:14:24

How about a simple "I believe her" on the FB page. Nothing else, just that statement.

No discussions, just a statement of fact.

Dolcegusto Mon 30-Apr-12 08:15:25

I believe her

margerykemp Mon 30-Apr-12 08:16:37

I believe her.

blondieminx Mon 30-Apr-12 08:16:50

Come on mnhq!

I believe her. So did the courts.

Time to stamp out the nasty attitude towards women among footballers and supporters (it's not just this case is it? Imogen Thomas had her name dragged through the mud, there are those vile chants about Victoria Beckham etc etc)

mamasin Mon 30-Apr-12 08:18:30

I believe her.

catsareevil Mon 30-Apr-12 08:19:31

I dont believe that facebook page. He should be aquitted because his team need him? What possible relevance does that have?

I believe her

judgingamy Mon 30-Apr-12 08:20:22

I believe her.

I believe her.

Servalan Mon 30-Apr-12 08:23:45

I believe her

Tee2072 Mon 30-Apr-12 08:26:37

A Facebook page is an open forum. We have every right to post on it. Just as they have every right to register for MN and post here. But I don't think they're quite that stupid.

I believe you sweetheart. X

TheCrackFox Mon 30-Apr-12 08:28:45

I believe her.

herwegoagain Mon 30-Apr-12 08:28:50

I belive her.

Tee they're supporting rapists, they probably are that stupid.

GentleOtter Mon 30-Apr-12 08:30:18

I believe her.

MooBaaWoofCheep Mon 30-Apr-12 08:30:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 08:31:37

They are deleting the "I believe her" comments on FB.

crowface Mon 30-Apr-12 08:31:44

I believe her. I'm horrified at the support he has. It basically comes down to a belief hat footballers are above the law. They're not, and the conviction should stand, followed by a lifetime ban by the fa when he's released.

crowface Mon 30-Apr-12 08:34:25

Moobaawoo, I didn't like the page and was able to comment. Seems pointless though if they can delete the comments. Might just complain to Facebook asking for the page to be removed.

I believe her.

AfternoonsAndCoffeespoons Mon 30-Apr-12 08:35:51

You didn't have 'like' it earlier, MooBaa. they are deleting comments and appear to have changed the settings now. I was going to repost but again, won't 'like' the page.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 08:36:39

btw, just been reading about the case - and noticed this

"Nita Dowell, senior crown prosecutor in Wales, said: "Ched Evans took advantage of a vulnerable young woman who was in no fit state to consent to sexual activity.

"It is a myth that being vulnerable through alcohol consumption means that a victim is somehow responsible for being raped. The law is clear: being vulnerable through drink or drugs does not imply consent."

which implies that the CP had been following the MN campaign, where we quashed "rape myths".

debka Mon 30-Apr-12 08:37:04

I believe her

bronze Mon 30-Apr-12 08:38:24

I believe her

RachelWalsh Mon 30-Apr-12 08:39:11

I believe her

EightiesChick Mon 30-Apr-12 08:39:42

Can we do #ibelieveher as suggested on Twitter?

MousyMouse Mon 30-Apr-12 08:41:12

I believe you.
good for you for getting a conviction, even though it must have been really tough, especially as it's only 'half' a conviction.

HollyGoHeavily Mon 30-Apr-12 08:42:30

I believe her

nowahousewife Mon 30-Apr-12 08:43:48

Been lurking for a while but this campaign has prompted me to post on FB (also first post there) saying I believe in her as did the jury. Noted several other very recent posts of the same nature. I've just checked back on that FB site and all the 'I believe' posts seem to have disappeared. Can the owner of a FB page remove posts they don't like?

VivianDarkbloom Mon 30-Apr-12 08:46:04

I believe her, and I admire her for fighting fr justice in the face of a hate campaign.

Pan Mon 30-Apr-12 08:46:04

I believe her.

AvengingGerbil Mon 30-Apr-12 08:47:12

I believe her.

Smugfearnleyshittingstool Mon 30-Apr-12 08:47:30

I believe her. Poor girl.

I can't believe women are saying that if a teenage girl voluntarily goes to a man's hotel room, she tacitly agrees to whatever happens to her from that point on. If they had murdered her, would she also have consented to that? It's madness.

I believe her.

I believe her.

Thank you for starting this thread.

CuttedUpPear Mon 30-Apr-12 09:00:53

I believe her.

I believe her.

I have been sickened by this case and the subsquent support for this rapist. Given how low conviction rates are for rape I am astonished that people can claim he is innocent.

I have been sharing The F Word's link to a petition to get the PFA to act about this, I urge you all to do the same.

UnChartered Mon 30-Apr-12 09:02:40

I believe her.

SkiBumMum Mon 30-Apr-12 09:03:42

Fantastic post OP. Well written.

I believe her.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 09:04:41

The PFA (Professional Footballers Association) has decided not to remove Ched's name from the League One team of the year.

Is there a sponsor of this? That is always a good place to start when campaigning.

HandMadeTail Mon 30-Apr-12 09:06:31

I believe her.

EnjoyResponsibly Mon 30-Apr-12 09:10:33

I believe her.

The court believed her.

The FA should hang it's head. My 4 y.o son is fast becoming a football fan. This is NOT a culture I'm looking forward to him being exposed to.

richpickings Mon 30-Apr-12 09:12:00

I believe her

SweetGrapes Mon 30-Apr-12 09:15:32

I believe her. Dh believes her. DS and DD believe her.
The men and women who condone what he did are vile and horrible.

Puffinsaresmall Mon 30-Apr-12 09:16:04

I believe her

I posted on the fb wall the same, but was deleted as were all other 'I believe her' comments.

choccyp1g Mon 30-Apr-12 09:16:57

I believe her.

ollywollydoodle Mon 30-Apr-12 09:17:13

I believe her.

pinkbraces Mon 30-Apr-12 09:18:05

I believe you.

Hold your head high, you have done nothing wrong.

cocolepew Mon 30-Apr-12 09:19:10

I believe her.

TheCunningStunt Mon 30-Apr-12 09:20:11

I believe her too

caramelwaffle Mon 30-Apr-12 09:20:49

Well said, Op.

I believe her.

The court believed her.

sugarandspite Mon 30-Apr-12 09:21:14

I believe her

BIWIWhoMustBeObeyed Mon 30-Apr-12 09:22:18

I believe her.

And I am stunned that his mate was not found guilty of rape as well.

mamas12 Mon 30-Apr-12 09:22:52

I believe her

I have signed the petition.

I will email mp

What else can we do?

pinkpyjamas Mon 30-Apr-12 09:24:52

I believe you.

Ched Evans is a rapist; the woman he had sex with did not give her consent.

I am sickened by some of the online responses to this rape - particularly by women.

Roseformeplease Mon 30-Apr-12 09:28:04

I believe her.

I believe her.

Peachy Mon 30-Apr-12 09:31:58

I believe her.

differentnameforthis Mon 30-Apr-12 09:32:15

I believe her

MousyMouse Mon 30-Apr-12 09:33:53

Football League One (often referred to as League One for short or Npower League 1 for sponsorship reasons) is the second-highest division of The Football League and third-highest division overall in the English football league system.

it seems NPower is the sponser of the league...

JuliaScurr Mon 30-Apr-12 09:35:51

I believe her

Can we let her know 200 people signed this overnight?

cardamomginger Mon 30-Apr-12 09:36:23

I believe her and admire her for having the strength to report it and see it through to a conviction.

Kveta Mon 30-Apr-12 09:36:37

I believe her.

WhippingGirl Mon 30-Apr-12 09:36:37

i believe her too.

WandaDoff Mon 30-Apr-12 09:39:20

I believe her.

Pan Mon 30-Apr-12 09:40:11

I don't think the PFA has a sponsor. It is the organisation representing footballers across the 4 league divisions and beyond, and is financed by subs, paid by members.
NPower have nothing to do with the PFA choices.

fwiw, I looked up the Sheff Uts website. They appear a bit mixed. They have removed his name from the 'player profile' bit, but have allowed Evans' barristers to make a statement.

Smellslikecatspee Mon 30-Apr-12 09:41:23
LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 09:43:14

Well, if Npower is the sponsor of the league - can we go for them?

mamalovesmojitos Mon 30-Apr-12 09:45:13

I believe you. It wasn't your fault. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will do anything I can to help.

wishupon Mon 30-Apr-12 09:47:57

I believe her, and am sickened at the amount of men and (more so) women that don't.

It shouldn't take that much common sense or intelligence to realise that just because you (they) wouldn't get stinking drunk and go back to a hotel room doesn't make it wrong to do so, and absolutely doesn't excuse anything that happens from then on. Staying in at night could lower your chance of being mugged but that doesn't mean going out at night excuses someone mugging you! Why is this seen as so different to some people?

NigellaLawless Mon 30-Apr-12 09:48:01

I believe her

JellyBellies Mon 30-Apr-12 09:48:10

I believe her.

PinkPussyCat Mon 30-Apr-12 09:48:11

I believe her

I believe you and admire your bravery. By reporting it, you did something I didn't have the strength to do when I was raped.

SucksToBeMe Mon 30-Apr-12 09:49:31

I'm going to make my son read that letter when he gets to 16. Too many men i encounter would she 'she had it coming/asked for it etc'


neepsntatties Mon 30-Apr-12 09:49:39

I hope somehow she sees this thread.

albertswearengen Mon 30-Apr-12 09:50:20

I believe her.

TalHotBlond Mon 30-Apr-12 09:50:25

We believe you.

MousyMouse Mon 30-Apr-12 09:50:27

I especially 'like' the their statement: 'It would have drawn more attention to it had we pulled him'
... unbelievable...

I believe her.

cornsyilk Mon 30-Apr-12 09:51:25

I believe her.

JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 30-Apr-12 09:52:14

Hi all, great to see all the support coming in on this thread. We'll have a quick chat with the End Violence Against Women people as they've been very active on this and see how we can best lend support. Will get back to you soonest.

lockets Mon 30-Apr-12 09:53:10

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Prolesworth Mon 30-Apr-12 09:53:24

I believe her. Of course I believe her.

Thanks for posting this, Basil

WilsonFrickett Mon 30-Apr-12 09:53:45

I believe her.

I also would like to say how pleased I am that this case was prosecuted in the first place, because clearly the police, CPS, judge and jury believed her too, and too often that's not how it goes, as we all know from some of the stories MNers have shared in the past. Perhaps 'we believe you' is starting to make a real difference to prosecution practice. I hope so. High profile prosecutions will hopefully make a difference and I salute the woman's courage for going through with it.

We believe you

FromGirders Mon 30-Apr-12 09:54:31

I believe her.

the Facebook page that Tee linked earlier here is currently allowing comments without liking the page.

Just saying.

mcfee Mon 30-Apr-12 09:57:18

I believe you x

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 09:57:59

Am tweeting with the #Ibelieveyou hashtag, if anyone else is on Twitter.

moresleepsoonplease Mon 30-Apr-12 09:58:02

I believe her

Pan Mon 30-Apr-12 09:58:28

MmeL - for what exactly. They sponsor the League infrastructure. No authority or influence over Evans, PFA or SUFC

have signed the petition for the PFA to reconsider. totally wrong message.

banjaxedfilly Mon 30-Apr-12 09:58:39

I believe her.

I believe you, love. I wish you lots of strength to continue in the amazingly brave way that you have done so far x

I believe her.

Noticed this morning one of the top stories on BBC website is about the appointment of the new England manager. I wonder if there is a way to link that in? Maybe ask Hodgson's views on this and on attitudes in the football world/the behaviour he would expect from the England team?

Molivan Mon 30-Apr-12 10:01:04

I believe her

neepsntatties Mon 30-Apr-12 10:01:26

That Facebook page made me feel sick.

yakbutter Mon 30-Apr-12 10:01:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnneOfCleavers Mon 30-Apr-12 10:02:14

I believe her.

I'm so angry at some of the comments I've read. It's beyond disgusting that she is being treated in this way.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 10:02:29

If they sponsor the League then of course they have influence - indirectly.

Do you think they would ignore thousands of irate MNetters?

BIWIWhoMustBeObeyed Mon 30-Apr-12 10:02:45

@GabyHinsliff has also tweeted about it - making a news story of it

Chaotica Mon 30-Apr-12 10:03:09

I believe her.

I believe her.

Thanks for starting this Basil and thanks MNHQ too.

jonamum Mon 30-Apr-12 10:04:38

I believe her

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

scratchviolet Mon 30-Apr-12 10:05:15

I believe her

ToryLovell Mon 30-Apr-12 10:06:20

I believe her.

Thanks Basil for a great post and thanks Justine for linking in with EVAW

Pan Mon 30-Apr-12 10:06:35

No, they don't, not re Evans. The PFA are entirely autonomous, paid by subs. no link to NPower.

DowagersHump Mon 30-Apr-12 10:07:25

I believe you and am so sorry that your horrific experience is being trivialised by the media.

Thanks Basil

DameHermione Mon 30-Apr-12 10:07:50

I belive her.

DameHermione Mon 30-Apr-12 10:08:11

I believe her.

akaemmafrost Mon 30-Apr-12 10:08:17

Am rounding up friends to register and post on this thread.

Seabright Mon 30-Apr-12 10:08:32

I Believe Her. And I hope someone on here knows her and can show her this thread, so she can see our support for her

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:09:01

I believe her.

BarryShitpeas Mon 30-Apr-12 10:09:54

I believe you.

Thanks Basil, brilliant letter grin.

ThereGoesTheYear Mon 30-Apr-12 10:11:13

I believe her.

noseynoonoo Mon 30-Apr-12 10:12:23

I believe her.

Am tweeting with the #ibelieveyou hashtag

HappyJustToBe Mon 30-Apr-12 10:12:53

I believe her.

coppertop Mon 30-Apr-12 10:13:58

I believe her.

twofalls Mon 30-Apr-12 10:14:11

They are deleting comments on that page as soon as you put them up. Not sure who Frothy is but I saw your comment come and go practically as I was reading it.

pinkpyjamas Mon 30-Apr-12 10:14:22

I so hope we can mobilise this thread into being a huge force to be reckoned with; a reasoned and informative response to all the vile, sexist crap that is being peddled in the name of supporting a footballer.

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:15:57

Tweeting too.

EauRouge Mon 30-Apr-12 10:18:02

I believe her.

ScorpionQueen Mon 30-Apr-12 10:18:43

I believe her.

It's time the FA stepped in and cleaned up it's act. How can footballers be held up as role models to our children when some players bring the game into such disrepute. I for one will not be buying any FA related merchandise while they stand by and condone rape.

sybilwibble Mon 30-Apr-12 10:18:52

I believe her

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 10:20:07

Does @npower_League1 want to be associated with PFA Team of The Year award honouring a convicted rapist? #Ibelieveher

I believe her. I have posted on the FB page too. Lets hope that Cheds sister never has to suffer the way his victim has.

scrablet Mon 30-Apr-12 10:23:04

I believe her, and think she is very brave for bringing case in first place.

mamalovebird Mon 30-Apr-12 10:24:14

I believe her.

I believe you.

CathElliott Mon 30-Apr-12 10:29:42

I believe her.

IvanaNap Mon 30-Apr-12 10:29:44

I believe a sense of entitlement among footballers is disgusting.
I believe clubs foster this attitude - every whim pandered to, behaviour on the pitch condoned etc.
I believe braying fans build the players up into their belief of being gods.
I believe sexism is taking on new, disturbing, subtle and damaging forms.

I believe this girl has been through a horrendous ordeal sad and that it's time women spoke up against the male-driven media hype, public reinforcement of such skewed views and the misogyny at large.

Well posted, OP

WomanlyWoman Mon 30-Apr-12 10:30:13

I believe her

sophonthemove Mon 30-Apr-12 10:30:37

Me too. And you can sign this petition to ask the Professional Footballers Association to take him off their honours list.
it was started by a secondary school teacher who felt it send out the wrong message to his pupils.

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:30:43

The judging panel comprises Sky Sports Football League expert Peter Beagrie, Football League Head of Communications John Nagle, BBC Sport's Mark Clemmit and npower Head of Sponsorship Emma Collins.

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:31:05

Those are the people responsible for giving Evans his POTM award.

I believe you sweetheart. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Have strength x

Lilithmoon Mon 30-Apr-12 10:32:13

I believe her.

RabidAnchovy Mon 30-Apr-12 10:32:28

Well said OP. Also a lot of the hate has come from other women sad


tiredemma Mon 30-Apr-12 10:33:52

where is the fb page?

maxtrue Mon 30-Apr-12 10:34:51

I believe her

Can someone please tell me the facebook page name?

I do not want my football mad son to grow up surrounded by such "role models"

FA sort this out!

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:34:58

I agree that a lot of hate has come from other women. I honestly believe that is down to the WAG culture, and how some women feel that they are 'lucky' to be with a footballer. Its a shameful situation.

DorisIsWaiting Mon 30-Apr-12 10:37:36

I believe her.

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:37:38

There is a FB page called 'Securing an Immediate retrial for Ched Evans' - it has 4367 likes sad

Which hashtag are we using? #ibelieveyou or#webelieveyou

NotSureICanCarryOn Mon 30-Apr-12 10:39:34

I believe you too.

And tbh he has been found guilty. What else is there to say!?!

Voidka Mon 30-Apr-12 10:39:34


MooBaaWoofCheep Mon 30-Apr-12 10:40:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 10:41:15

I am using #Ibelieveher - since that is what most people were posting here.

Lexilicious Mon 30-Apr-12 10:43:39

I believe her.

That's what I was using Mme but have seen 3 different ones #IBelieveHer #IBelieveYou and #WeBelieveYou

I think if we all agree to use the same one then there will be more power in numbers?

OracleInaCoracle Mon 30-Apr-12 10:44:38

I believe her.

2shoes Mon 30-Apr-12 10:45:06

I believe her.
and am disgusted at how she has been treated

tiredemma Mon 30-Apr-12 10:45:30

Im astounded by some of the comments on that site.

Even women suggesting that just because she went back to his hotel room that she was 'fair game'.

what. the. fuck?????

WomanlyWoman Mon 30-Apr-12 10:45:52

I just posted - don't need to like

WomanlyWoman Mon 30-Apr-12 10:51:02

just got deleted - think they've got on top of it, still, here's another link to the Drop Ched petition:

Also, this page pretty despicable - have reported it:

JuliaScurr Mon 30-Apr-12 10:54:29

That fb page is distressing
I didn't post on it because I don't want to be traceable

puddleofpiddle Mon 30-Apr-12 10:56:20

I believe her.

PhoebeC Mon 30-Apr-12 10:58:02

I believe her.

thestringcheesemassacre Mon 30-Apr-12 11:00:06

I believe you.

That facebook page is just beyond belief.

SodoffBaldrick Mon 30-Apr-12 11:02:22

I believe you.

Amazing to see such a united show of solidarity from MNers.

imogengladheart Mon 30-Apr-12 11:03:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DharmaLovesDraco Mon 30-Apr-12 11:05:12

I believe her, as did our judicial system

I have also signed the petition

StewieGriffinsMom Mon 30-Apr-12 11:05:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mamalovesmojitos Mon 30-Apr-12 11:07:00

First tweets were %23ibelieveher so maybe stick with that?

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 11:07:41

Most are saying "I believe her" on this thread.

#webelieveyou and #ibelieveyou were from the rape campaign

Devora Mon 30-Apr-12 11:08:15

I believe her.

StewieGriffinsMom Mon 30-Apr-12 11:09:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Greysky Mon 30-Apr-12 11:09:52

I believe her.

I believe her.

Ched Evans has had justice. I've reported the Facebook page as well - perhaps if it's reported enough times it will be taken down.

Superb OP.

AliceHurled Mon 30-Apr-12 11:10:34

I believe her

festiemum Mon 30-Apr-12 11:13:27

I believe her.

I believe you

WilsonFrickett Mon 30-Apr-12 11:14:16

The facebook page seems to be heavily modded and rational in its tone so I think it's unlikely it will be taken down I'm afraid. Certainly any posts disagreeing <whistles> are taken down immediately, which means there's no 'heated debate' going on. Calling for a retrial isn't illegal. Although calling for someone to be freed from jail just because their team 'needs them' should be, IMO.

Would someone mind telling me exactly what's happening? He raped her, she managed through some miracle to get him convicted and jailed. The fa are now giving him an award? And did the match applause thing happen?

KisMittz Mon 30-Apr-12 11:15:58

I believe her x

FrothyDragon Mon 30-Apr-12 11:16:43

Someone (Twofalls, I believe?) mentioned they saw my comment come and go as they were reading it.

This is the logic they were unwilling to let stand on their page:

^"People who have consumed alcohol may reach such a level
of drunkenness that they no longer have the capacity to
give consent. The courts recognise that this stage may be
reached well before they become unconscious." Section 2.6 of the Crown Prosecution Service guide to prosecuting rape. CCTV evidence and witness statements corroborate that Ched's victim was in such a state. I believe her.

What you are doing to an innocent woman is nothing short of a witch-hunt. 6 in every 1000 rapes ends up in a conviction for rape. You really think it's that easy to lie about rape, get it to court (something that relies on sufficient evidence) and get a conviction?

It's worth noting that your hate campaign against the victim will do nothing to help other rape victims. We already have a report rate for rapes of 10%. 90% of rapes go unreported. Do you really wish to drive that number up? Should victims just not report?

Every rapist is someone's son, brother, uncle; whatever other words you're throwing around Twitter this week under the vile #JusticeForChed tag. No one wants to believe that someone they love and care about is guilty of rape. But he was found guilty for good reason. To Ched's victim: I believe you.^

GravyHadALumpyMashBaby Mon 30-Apr-12 11:16:46

I believe her. Poor thing.

ohforfoxsake Mon 30-Apr-12 11:18:08

I believe her.

MaryPoppinsBag Mon 30-Apr-12 11:20:36

I believe you.

Maybe someone who knows how to set up facebook pages (its beyond me) should set an 'I believe her' page up where all the comments that are being deleated off his page can be posted. I expect it would very quickly get more likes than his page.

FrothyDragon Mon 30-Apr-12 11:22:29

I'm on it, CafPow...

ivykaty44 Mon 30-Apr-12 11:23:30

I believe you

Brilliant! Well done Frothy

ivykaty44 Mon 30-Apr-12 11:26:10

And did the match applause thing happen?


BlackOutTheSun Mon 30-Apr-12 11:27:17

I believe you

FrothyDragon Mon 30-Apr-12 11:28:53

DillyTante, if you're reading this, I hope you don't mind, but I've borrowed your "WeBelieveYou cross stitch from your blog.

Page is found Here

That's good. No need to applaud rapists.

SillyBeardyDaddyman posted a link about the match applause thing earlier:

Have liked the page Frothy.

msrisotto Mon 30-Apr-12 11:37:09

Can someone activate that link please? I can't access it via my phone

This is the name of the page msrisotto.

I Believe Her! Supporting Ched Evan's victim

BIWIWhoMustBeObeyed Mon 30-Apr-12 11:41:10

Have liked and commented

msrisotto Mon 30-Apr-12 11:42:01

Thanks, will wing my way over there

DioneTheDiabolist Mon 30-Apr-12 11:42:30

I believe her.

BIWIWhoMustBeObeyed Mon 30-Apr-12 11:43:20

... and have also tweeted a link to the page from both my Twitter a/cs

i believe her

well done on the fb page frothy - keep reminding people.

here it is again:

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 11:49:18

Well done, Frothy.

LadySybilDeChocolate Mon 30-Apr-12 11:50:24

I believe her.

I'm also shocked that the others were cleared and some idiots on Twitter sought fit to name her!

twofalls Mon 30-Apr-12 11:50:25

Yes, it was me frothy. Well done on the page, I will share.

Nyac Mon 30-Apr-12 11:51:15

I believe her and so did the jury.

Ched Evans is a rapist.

OracleInaCoracle Mon 30-Apr-12 11:53:50

sadly, my brother has posted some tosh on my links, so I would like to apologise to anyone who reads it and thinks "why is Oracle "friends" with this tosser"?

I believe her.

DaenerysTargaryen Mon 30-Apr-12 11:58:56

I believe her

I believe her.

WilsonFrickett Mon 30-Apr-12 12:03:39

Oracle apologies if you know this, but you can delete any posts others make on your page - just hover to the right hand side of the post and you'll see an X, press it to delete.

SerialKipper Mon 30-Apr-12 12:04:16

I don't want to read the horrid comments - can someone who has tell me whether they're accusing her of lying, or claiming that once she was incapable of consenting she was fair game?

Because "I believe her" as a slogan doesn't really deal with the latter. Would it be useful to have a hashtag of (something like) #toodrunktoconsent=rape ? I'm sure someone can put it better than that.

KRITIQ Mon 30-Apr-12 12:04:40

I believe her, too. Convictions are so rare for rape.

I'm sending the link to others.

YouBrokeMySmoulder Mon 30-Apr-12 12:06:23

I believe her.

i've had a bit of a run in with someone on someone else's facebook page today. they thought a link to an article on his conviction was a good place to demonise girls who have one night stands with footballers and say it's no wonder they think they are 'slags' hmm

apologies to the mn'er whose facebook page it was on blush

QuickLookBusy Mon 30-Apr-12 12:07:23

The article sillybeardydaddyman linked to is very intersting. Here are some quotes from fans about the planned applause for the guilty footballer.

One fan wrote: “A minute’s applause for Ched is the most ridiculous idea anybody has ever come up with. He was found guilty.”

Another user wrote: “99% of our fans HAVE condemned any applause plans, and HAVE said they will not take part in them.”

Another said: “I’m choosing to put my faith in the vast majority of decent, fair minded Blades fans who will out-sing the ridiculous suggestion of applause and make the day about us.”

It does show that not all football fans are idiots and that the FA should know that decent fans do not support Evans and will think that nominating him for a prize is dispicable.

I have added my comments and shared on my own page. I hope the supporters of Ched Evans will see fit to remove their page as soon as it becomes apparent that the vast majority of people, both on-line & off DO NOT support a convicted rapist.

BeingAMumIsFun Mon 30-Apr-12 12:07:55

We believe her - and the court believed her - he has been found guilty

And glad to say the police have arrested 3 men in relation to this vile hate campaign

If only some football fans thought more of their families than their football - Britain would be a much better country.

OracleInaCoracle Mon 30-Apr-12 12:07:56

wilson, oh, its just a badly put case and shows him up as the utter fool that he is.

QuickLookBusy Mon 30-Apr-12 12:08:45

Sorry, most importantly I meant to say

I believe her and so did the police, the CPS and the Jury.

ZZZenAgain Mon 30-Apr-12 12:08:53

I believe her too.

I've been blocked by his sister on Twitter, because I called her out on her hate campaign against the victim.

fragola Mon 30-Apr-12 12:12:06

I believe her.

runningforthebusinheels Mon 30-Apr-12 12:12:48

I believe her.

I'm sickened by this hate-campaign against a rape victim.

wannaBe Mon 30-Apr-12 12:15:37

I haven't read the whole thread, but,

My dh/ds were at a football match this weekend where the other player who was also accused but was aquitted played. (sorry I can't remember his name or which team it was,. But he received a very hostile reception from all the football fans, even though he has been found not guilty.

So I think that while there is a campaign happening here in support of Ched Evans, it is fairly obvious that it is a minority of people we're talking about and the majority are against not only Ched Evans, but also the other player who was there on the night..

FrothyDragon Mon 30-Apr-12 12:17:13

ButterPecan, I think half the supporters of the campaign have blocked both of my accounts... I was quite proud of that achievement... grin

In all seriousness. This is such an important message to get out there.

Rindercella Mon 30-Apr-12 12:19:03

I believe her.

seeker Mon 30-Apr-12 12:20:04

I believe her.

LynnCSchreiber Mon 30-Apr-12 12:20:34

That is good to hear, Wannabe.

I do wonder that the PFA are standing by their decision to honour him then. I suspect a poll taken now would give a different response.

Puffinsaresmall Mon 30-Apr-12 12:22:32

I saw your post Frothy just before was deleted.

I've tweeted the link to the Ibelieve FB page and liked it.

WilsonFrickett Mon 30-Apr-12 12:22:52

I think the PFA really thought he would be acquitted (and why wouldn't they, that's what normally happens after all) so were very much caught on the hop.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere Mon 30-Apr-12 12:23:27


SuePurblyingoodVOICE Mon 30-Apr-12 12:24:30

I believe her, and have liked Frothy's group/linked to this.

suzikettles Mon 30-Apr-12 12:26:12

I believe her.

SparkyTGD Mon 30-Apr-12 12:26:51

I believe her.

MizK Mon 30-Apr-12 12:28:07

Absolutely, I believe her.

I believe her too. I saw on Twitter that some arsewipe suggested holding a candle lit vigil at the prison gates to show support and that he should be freed and given an MBE!

What gets me though is the girlfriend standing by him, supported by her parents. Not only is he a rapist he's a self confessed cheat. I despair!

Frothy - I've been blocked by other supporters too, as well as getting plenty of abuse back, but I don't care.

As you said, it's an important message to get out there, so I don't care if people are sending me verbal insults. They can insult away, I'm thick-skinned!

Kibokothepurplehippo Mon 30-Apr-12 12:28:55

I believe her. And more importantly, the judge and jury believed her too, or he wouldn't have been found guilty. She has been through enough without having to deal with this too. Anyone harrassing her now should be prosecuted as the court found him guilty. Case closed.

Meglet Mon 30-Apr-12 12:30:17

I believe her.

pinkpyjamas Mon 30-Apr-12 12:31:32

An example of some of the idiocy displayed by one of his FEMALE fans:

"She's a joke! She'd of not gone to police if Ched or McDonald weren't footballers!!

If this was my daughter I'd of sat her down asking What had happened if she said 'DON'T KNOW,DON'T REMEMBER' I'd of not been going to police because I'd be like 'how yano its rape'!!

And I'd be very disappointed in her for getting 'in the so-called state' she seems to say she was in!

It makes you cringe when you have children yourself! To think J could go out when he's older and have a 1 night stand and that's classes as 'rape'....I'm going out with my kids if that's the case lmao!!

35 goals is not a performance of a rapist!!"

Where do you start? ........ sadangry

OracleInaCoracle Mon 30-Apr-12 12:33:13

pinkpyjamas, thats just dreadful. and sadly an attitude that is far too common.

SuePurblyingoodVOICE Mon 30-Apr-12 12:33:54

What a very nasty and stupid piece of work, pinkpyjamas sad.

astreetcarnamedknackered Mon 30-Apr-12 12:34:23

I believe her.

I also believe the FA to be totally irresponsible and sexist.

astreetcarnamedknackered Mon 30-Apr-12 12:35:47

And good on OP for setting up this topic.

@pinky - that's so depressing.

So what, because he's a successful footballer, he can't be a rapist?

It's amazing how many people seem to think that unless someone fits their image of a rapist, they cannot be a rapist.

I'm ashamed to say, my husband's cousin is a convicted rapist (convicted of raping his [now ex-]wife), yet people in the family were saying, "but he's respectable and has a great job, people like him don't rape." Therefore, in their eyes, he's innocent.

MizK Mon 30-Apr-12 12:40:32

pinkpyjamas i have changed my mind on the whole thing now after reading that quote.
If I had realised he was such a fabulous goalscorer then it would have been obvious that he has carte blanche to do whatever with whomever he wants. Perhaps the jury were unaware of his performance at work?
Honestly, some people make me despair. I really hope that the daughter of this woman never finds herself in a similar position, not least because her mother will blame her sad

ATOmum Mon 30-Apr-12 12:42:28

I believe her

MarySA Mon 30-Apr-12 12:42:50

I wasn't there. I wasn't on the jury and didn't hear the evidence. And I honestly think it's best left up to the courts to decide. And in this case they have. That's my opinion.

Fuzzywood Mon 30-Apr-12 12:44:14

I believe her.

PurplePidjin Mon 30-Apr-12 12:44:35

I believe you

Like and shared - my first political statement in 5 years of facebooking!

MorrisZapp Mon 30-Apr-12 12:44:58

I believe her.

Heyyyho Mon 30-Apr-12 12:47:01

I believe you

fantastic thread

thestringcheesemassacre Mon 30-Apr-12 12:52:11

that page on facebook supporting the rapist is making me rage-y

StewieGriffinsMom Mon 30-Apr-12 13:01:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

StewieGriffinsMom Mon 30-Apr-12 13:01:27

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MyDogShitsShoes Mon 30-Apr-12 13:03:20

Wow this thread is really powerful.

Just come back to it after posting yesterday and have tears running down my face.

I hope to God she gets to see it.


this girl was on video stumbling about and falling over outside the kebab shop where the guy found her and took her from. the hotel receptionist remembers her stumbling and slurring - clearly incapacitated. yet these people see him as innocent?

it's amazing how ignorant some people are. and to think any one of them could sit on a jury!

chipmonkey Mon 30-Apr-12 13:10:12

Link to a facebook support page for the girl here too.
I Believe her

Memoo Mon 30-Apr-12 13:11:55

I spent most of yesterday emailing about this. I received very few replies.

Angela smith MP told me she had tweeted about this only to be verbally abused.

Paul blomfield MP replied to my tweet basically denying there was any support from Sheffield united fans for Evans. Btw he is the mp for the area that Sheffield Uniteds stadium is situated. And apparently he is heavily involved with Sheffield united.

Anybody else feel like dropping him an email? I'll find his address

Memoo Mon 30-Apr-12 13:15:36

This is the email address:

SuePurblyingoodVOICE Mon 30-Apr-12 13:16:01

Is there also some sponsorship - I read something about n-power and the PFA, but I'm not entirely understanding the connection?

JuliaScurr Mon 30-Apr-12 13:17:27

SGM good link

We need to think about next steps after Mumsnet contact the FA, etc. One thing would be a model resolution to put through union branches and follow up on that link

How about Women's FA?

Are other feminist groups active on this? Couldn't find anything yesterday