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Meadows....Should he have been struck off, by Bunglie.

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Bunglie · 21/07/2005 11:15

I thought that the most useful thing that I could do is to repost my story again. I realise that many of you 'know' my name but you do not know why I was so happy to have my son comwe to stay for example, so he is the first post I ever made on Mumsnet.

By Bunglie on Tuesday, 20 January, 2004 6:30:10 PM

I am a mother of two, 15 years ago I was accused of having Munchausens-Syndrome-By-Proxy. I had to go through a criminal trial at which I was acquitted, with 'No case to answer' and as a result I had my children removed, made wards of court and finally adopted. They were 2 and 3 when they left me, I was given contact that I maintained twice weekly for 2 years and then the court released them for adoption, they were adopted when they were 6 and 7 years old. I was lucky and was granted an 'open' adoption. My son is 18 now but they have new names and I am no longer on their birth ctificates. I have since been proven not to have Munchausens or Munchausen-by proxy. The man who insisted to the social services that I had it was Professor Roy Meadows. He never interviewed me, my doctors or even saw any of my medical records. he wote his report based on an interview with my step-mother and a social worker. I know I was not imprisoned like some poor women as I was acquited, but the wardship hearing is a civil hearing, in private and done on the 'balance of probabilities'. I was naive, I thought I would get my children back and that it was a ghastly mistake. I was wrong. My children are beautiful and I love them, but they have had problems with their adopted parents. Up until a few weeks ago I never told anyone about this as I had been labled and was ashamed and thought that people would believe that I had this illness (I knew nothing about it at the time as it was a new thing). I now know that I am not the only person in this situation. What do I do now, is there anyone I can tell my story to so that I can right this wrong? I hear about the women being released from jail, but what about people like me? Professor Meadows evidence destroyed my life but more importantly he has destroyed my childrens lives. I am glad that it has been shown that he was not correct in a lot of cases but I do not feel vindicated. I do not want revenge or anything I just want someone to know the truth. I would never hurt my children and he made me out to be a liar. I have a very rare illness (only 14 people in the country have it) and at the time it had not been diagnosed, it has now, but for 5 years I could not get any treatment as the doctors thought I had this Munchausen Syndrome. Based on that it was then stated that I must have had Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy as my little girl developed an illness and I was accussed of causing it. She is fine now but at the time I believed in the social services and that they would not take my children away. I think the government, not the General Medical Council should hold an enquirey as to how this man destroyed so many lives for so long. Is there anyone in the same position as me, who can help?

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Bunglie · 21/07/2005 11:38

Now I have every reason in the world ro hate this man, and I mean hate a word I would not normally use and I am embarrassed to admit that this is the way I feel.

Now that he has been struck off, the last year of paying solicitors and getting a case together, which involved an application to the Royal Courts of Justice, (RCJ) seems to have been for nothing.

I can not explain to you the trouble yjat people had gone to in order that I had a chance to have "my day". I do not know what I expected from it but what I do know is yhat I feel cheated and I can not find closure. My DS in a way has made my feelings more intense, when he asks "why did he do it" what do I say? I did tell him that I he probably thought he was right in his views and was too narrow minded to see that others disagreed. But he does not except that explanation because I had many, many, doctors as expert witnesses and the Judge chose to ignore them all.

The hit that hurts most is in his judgment, this is not word verbatamum, but it is just about what he said....
Epilepsy has only played a small part in this case I feel that it would be a kindness to tell the children and the prospective adoptive parents that it is because of the parents epilepsy that they are unable to live with them, without deceit.

As you know my children were given letters telling them that I had Munchausens-Syndrome-bty Proxy (MSBP) and that I had tried to murder my daughter.
I feel very lucky that my son did not like the AP's and I think this has had a lot to do with him trying to find out the truth and making contact with my dh and I again.

There is no defense against MSbP, you can never win, and yet they gag you so you are unable to tell anyone what has happened and your children are gone...forever.

I will never forget the pain of the day I heard the Judge say..."Released for adoption". I was told I was lucky because he had ordered an 'open' adoption. The Adoptive parents persuaded the Judge at the local county court that t6his was not necessary and they would maintain contact with us. The Judge believed them. I have fought foe every access visit, and often I have not seen them for over a year with the excuse, 'We forgot, we have been so busy'

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