woman given wrong baby, their baby returned at 8 months.

(44 Posts)
albazavi Thu 02-Jun-16 08:51:25

Saw this story on the news this morning and it's got me thinking. If you were given a baby that wasn't yours and you loved it for 8 months, would you give it back because it wasn't biologically yours?

I don't know what I'd do, having a 2 month old makes me think I wouldn't be able to do it.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-36432343

albazavi Thu 02-Jun-16 08:53:19

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-36432343

schbittery Thu 02-Jun-16 08:54:11

I think the babies were swapped back at 3 months werent they, its been up to 8 months while theyve been waiting for paperwork. still hard though. and strangely no mention of the other baby.

HardWorkButTheyMakeMeSmile Thu 02-Jun-16 09:00:08

Its an utterly heartbreaking scenario for all involved. Although I think they ultimately made the best decisions. The babies were very young when it resolved and personally I feel the damage would have been greater to the children if the hand over hadn't taken place.

firesidechat Thu 02-Jun-16 09:03:43

Also the mother thought there was a mistake right from the beginning and had a dna test done herself, so I suspect she didn't completely bond with the baby she was looking after. Still awful though.

firesidechat Thu 02-Jun-16 09:04:45

and strangely no mention of the other baby.

Maybe the other family wanted privacy. I would.

schbittery Thu 02-Jun-16 09:05:51

and the doctors been accused of child trafficing - sounds dodgy all round.

thrillhouse Thu 02-Jun-16 09:08:48

Ugh this is awful. And another reason why babies should stay with their mothers in hospital (aside from any medical need).

Wetbankhols Thu 02-Jun-16 09:49:06

I agree with HardWork. These cases are strangely fascinating, though. There have been two in the States with strange outcomes.

VestalVirgin Thu 02-Jun-16 13:59:27

I would never give birth in a hospital except if there were complications. The way they treat mothers and babies is horrible. Mixing up babies and insisting that they are right even though the mother suspects the truth ... is just the tip of the iceberg.

The way it is done is just so unintuitive. WHY would anyone separate a newborn from the mother without medical reasons?

NeedACleverNN Thu 02-Jun-16 14:03:55

I don't know what I would do if that ever happened to me.

I agree with the poster who said she probably didn't bond with it properly as she suspected it wasn't her baby but still, you've raised that infant. Seen its first smile and absolute trust in you. In their eyes you are their mum sad

thrillhouse Thu 02-Jun-16 14:48:21

I was listening to them talk on the radio about it earlier, it was heartbreaking. That poor woman. She said she knew from the off that something wasn't right.

user1464519881 Thu 02-Jun-16 16:37:03

I hope they can keep in touch with the babies on both sides. The Englishman (though they live in Texas) doesn't even look like the wrong baby they had to take home. He said it has almost bankrupted them as they had to stay in El S for months before a new passport was issued so they could take the baby back home to Texas.

brodchengretchen Fri 03-Jun-16 09:36:07

I think the couple were very, very lucky indeed to get their baby back. Is it known where their own baby was during the first few months?

leixjewelry Fri 03-Jun-16 09:49:10

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TinyGoldfish Fri 03-Jun-16 10:01:36

'and strangely no mention of the other baby.'

That's what I thought. Even if they just wanted privacy would there not be a little comment or disclaimer from them?

ImperialBlether Fri 03-Jun-16 10:02:53

I would never give birth in a hospital except if there were complications. The way they treat mothers and babies is horrible.

Of course they don't treat mothers and babies horribly in hospital!

Teresalosingtheirleaves Fri 03-Jun-16 10:28:27

Vestal... That's a dumb thing say about giving birth in hospitals. Sure there are horrible experiences but, also many many women , myself included had positive experiences.

Lules Fri 03-Jun-16 10:36:39

vestal if I hadn't have given birth in a hospital both me and my baby would be dead. I also managed to return home with the right baby.

On a more sensible note - did anyone listen to the This American Life about the babies that had been swapped? Was so strange

NeverbuytheDailyMail Fri 03-Jun-16 11:14:56

I read a heartbreaking story about two sets of twins who were mixed up at birth and it was only weird doppleganger moments with friends and then social media that finally revealed what had happened. They were young men at this point and one of the mums had died so one of the boys never met his birth mum and he has been the one who struggled most with the revelation! Heartbreaking! I'll see if I can find the link.

In this case I can absolutely see why the mum twigged that she had been given the wrong baby - he looked nothing like her or her husband.

NeverbuytheDailyMail Fri 03-Jun-16 11:16:15

Mixed Up Brothers of Bogota

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Fri 03-Jun-16 11:36:09

vestal did you read the link??

SloppyDailyMailJournalism Fri 03-Jun-16 12:01:46

Heartbreaking.

The couple have sadness in their eyes in a latter photos. I imagine they still adore the first baby as well as their last baby.

diddl Fri 03-Jun-16 17:25:43

I wonder if this happens much when babies don't go to nurseries?

What is the idea behind that?

I wonder how they found the other baby?

DNA test on all who had been born at the same/similar time?

catbrushblanket Fri 03-Jun-16 18:26:38

Lules I listened to that the other day - what a strange story!

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