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Killer Dad really upsetting me

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jetsetmum · 18/08/2006 21:58

There are so many sad & worrying stories in the news but this one is really upsetting me.

The Sun news story

I hate my imagination some times but I can't get out of my head what went through that little boys mind when his dad did that to him - I'm glad the father lived so he can suffer.

How Why what??? I just can't ever understand. This one has really got to me.

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Sobernow · 18/08/2006 22:02

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Frizbe · 18/08/2006 22:04

very the father has to live with it, somehow......feel so much for the mother and dd too........

VeniVidiVickiQV · 18/08/2006 22:07

I just cannot get my head round it. Honestly I cant.

So and and and

Dont know what to feel really.

jetsetmum · 18/08/2006 22:07

Even if the younger child gets over it it's hell of a tale to be told when you are over.

And the mother I understand she had popped out - how you cope with that I do not know

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jetsetmum · 18/08/2006 22:08

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edam · 18/08/2006 22:11

Unbelieveable. Very, very sadly it's not unknown for a man to kill their children when a relationship breaks down - perhaps to punish their wives/partners for daring to leave. Bastards.

southeastastra · 18/08/2006 22:14

it's so awful these things go round in your mind, its so hard to comprehend

themoon66 · 19/08/2006 00:28

Horrible story. Very very upsetting. I think many ppl will think badly of the dad, but I understand he was/is mentally ill. Nobody is going to suffer the mental anguish he has to face for the rest of his life for something he did probably on impulse. Imagine... one moment in time.... live with the consequences forever. IYSWIM

waterfalls · 19/08/2006 00:32

Reminds me of the father who stabbed his 2 sons to spite his wife (I think she was having an affair) apparently one watched his brother being killed first and knew it was his fate too

themoon66 · 19/08/2006 00:34

shush... kill this thread before i weep.

myturn · 19/08/2006 00:34

This is just so tragic whichever way you look at it. Absolutely awful.

crazydazy · 19/08/2006 21:02

Apparently he threw his little boy out of the window first before throwing himself and the little girl.

Combining alcohol and prozac is not f**cking excuse - there is just no excuse for what he did. I would have been at that hospital finishing him off

Why take his OWN children's lives? Why not just throw himself off.

colditz · 19/08/2006 21:06

Combining alcohol with prozac my effing arse. I do that once a week, and there is a sever lack of anyone being thrown out of windows in this house.

I want to go and pull that putrid whiner's plug.

crazydazy · 19/08/2006 21:10

Me too colditz....can't say I have either had the inclination to wipe out my family just because DP and I might have had an argument - now wiping him out may have crossed my mind fleetingly.

He is apparently refusing medication because "I want to die" PLEASE LET HIM GET ON WITH IT.

UrsulatheSeawitch · 19/08/2006 21:10

The children were asleep according to the Sun - maybe they didn't know what was happening until he did it? Hope so.

Unforgiveable whatever his state of mind

WideWebWitch · 19/08/2006 21:13

This made me cry too when I read it, I'd opened the page before I could close it and god, it's so awful, the boy was six, it really is just tragic. And the father's alive, the fker, it really is just bloody. and after a row with his wife, ffffs, why do men DO this, punish women by KILLING children? I know, a minority and not all men are shits and I'm not tarring all men or anything but this just makes me want to cry.

crazydazy · 19/08/2006 21:14

Yes I read that too.....just unimaginable

It has happened too many times now, anyone remember that guy in Hull who killed all four of his boys because his wife (whom he had separated from) was having her new partner's child.

Just can't get my head around it at all.

UnquietDad · 20/08/2006 12:11

DD talked about this at the dinner-table yesterday - quite a shock as I didn't even know she knew about it. We weren't quite sure how to go about explaining it to her. I think we said that the man was "very unhappy" and that it isn't the sort of thing people normally do.

CaptainDippy · 20/08/2006 14:05

Unbelivable. How can he live with himself. Thoughts and prayers to the DW and DD. xxxx

CaligulaCorday · 20/08/2006 19:00

TBH I think it's the result of a casual acceptance of domestic violence and a refusal to take it seriously in our culture and get to the real, root causes of it. It's highly unlikely that this guy was a respectful, loving husband and father before this one incident. Chances are he's been threatening and violent before and no-one's thought it important enough to properly address. This sort of story will continue to be a regular event as long as we as a society continue to accept domestic violence as a norm rather than as a serious dysfunction. The message that everyone is responsible for their own actions and you can't blame other people for what you do, is just not being given with any real conviction imo. And don't even start me on the alcohol problem...

nicnack2 · 20/08/2006 19:06

on playing devils advocate here, the father is alleged to have been depressed and on ad. if it had been the mother depressed would the feelings be the same from us.

bumbleweed · 20/08/2006 19:52

I cant get this one out my head either - so cruel and pointless and sad and maddening - I feel for the little girl and the mother so much.

MrsDoolittle · 20/08/2006 20:00

nicknak - I'd like to think that the mother could not possibly contemplate it now matter what state she was in.
I'm taking AD's and frequently drink alcohol. Even in my worst state, nothing was ever the children fault. I love them more than life itself.
Even my darling dh in the early stages with a new baby would admit to being jealous of our bond.
I'm guessing this guy knew this too.

We all know that the worst thing that could happen to us would be through our children.

HappyMumof2 · 20/08/2006 20:14

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YeahBut · 20/08/2006 20:20

This has been on my mind since I heard the news too. And I'm with Colditz - when being treated for PND I've combined alcohol with ad's and managed to resist the urge to chuck my kids off a balcony. There is no excuse.

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