Speedboat accident in Padstow

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I don't know if the mother was a MNer, but I am hoping she pulls through with her other DCs and so sorry to hear she lost her husband and daughter, Emily. I know words are useless, but I am thinking of them. It's all so sad and awful. sad

ItsYonliMe Sun 02-Jun-13 12:18:37

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janey68 Sun 02-Jun-13 12:35:28

Useful point of view ^

Royalmailer Sun 02-Jun-13 13:05:15

It was a tragic accident, yes- but a highly preventable tragic accident. Every motorised water vehicle has a safety feature designed to prevent this exact incident.

I don't think that pointing this out is wrong. I hope it prevents future accidents.

CatherineofMumbles Sun 02-Jun-13 14:30:04

indeed janey and Royalmailer - if a similar accident had happened a few weeks before, and we had discussed it here, and the people in the Padstow incident had seen it & taken heed, it could have prevented their own sad loss. It is vitally important the facts are widely known, and surely the family concerned would be first to want to avoid anyone else suffering the same situation??? No-one on here is suggesting or condoning any personal attacks on the bereaved family - obviously not. If other forums are, that is shocking - so go and berate them - not this one.

janey1234 Sun 02-Jun-13 15:20:55

Mumbles - I think you've missed stuff from earlier in the thread that was incredibly offensive and has since been deleted by MNHQ. I don't want to repeat it but it was enough to offend and upset me and totally unjustified and abhorrent.

Not sure that comparing him (who I have met incidentally) to a drunken driver is helpful either tbh. That is illegal, what they did wasn't (whether it should be is another matter I understand).

If it had happened and if we had talked about and if they had seen it hmm By that logic you can justify as much grousing as you want.
I think picking over the bones of somebody's tragedy in the name of 'learning lessons' is a necessary task that our society has a legal framework to achieve. Doing it over and above that - as some of you are so keen to do is distasteful. There is no justifucation for it and on this thread and all the others like it you run the risk of really, really hurting bereaved people. Not really worth the kick of super smugness is it?

janey68 Sun 02-Jun-13 17:21:11

I disagree: it's not just a case of if that particular family had read about it. The point is, it's an issue which deserves to be highlighted and discussed. A legal framework is all very well for the technicalities of the investigation, but important safety messages dont work their way into the public consciousness through coroners reports; they are absorbed through the media. The issue about bouyancy aids and lifejackets discussed earlier was a prime example. Many people who didn't realise these are different to each other and that one may save a life where the other wont, learned about it from sites such as this one.

I am totally against offensive posts which are simply trying to attack the family and quite rightly they are deleted, but it's not for anyone else to police the thread just because they don't like the facts being highlighted.

CatherineofMumbles Sun 02-Jun-13 19:00:02

This afternoon on the river at Richmond I saw a large motorboat - think - cabin etc - with one man at the helm, safely in the cockpit , another one also safely at the back. At the front, and hanging over the rail shock were several children, maybe aged from about 7/8 upwards. None wearing lifebelts - doubtless they were/are good swimmers and did not think it necessary on a warm sunny day on a well-populated river. Looked like a fun outing, dads and kids, (saw no women)but what they were doing was very dangerous, if one of the children had slipped and fallen, they would have been run over by their own boat before it could stop.
I presume they were all lucky, and hope no accident occurred, but those people clearly had no idea what they were doing - so clearly safety messages need to hollered loud and clear, so that Mumsnetters at least will know to use commonsense when on the water, even if it does seem like spoilsporting...

Lazyjaney Mon 03-Jun-13 01:48:32

"^^^^^^^I fucking give up. NorthernLurker is correct. A thread like this does bring out the morons"

Always amuses me that the most offended are often the most offensive.

I can only assume there are some people who still believe all things are fate or the will of God etc and never think about how to make it better next time.

cory Mon 03-Jun-13 16:10:57

So how come we aren't doing this level of picking over and analysing and trying to assign blame every time there is a car accident resulting in several deaths? Why aren't we calling for laws making it illegal to drive when there is ice on the road or the visibility is poor?

HesterShaw Mon 03-Jun-13 16:38:28

I can hardly believe reading the last page or so, the direction this thread has taken shock

However I work in boats and in boating and I know as sure as I know anything that there needs to be far more awareness of boat safety. From what I have seen this week, the message is still not getting through. I have no comment about the tragedy in Padstow except to say it has given me nightmares, so God knows what the family is going through.

To state the obvious, boats are great fun but they can be very dangerous. Lifejackets (not buoyancy aids) are a must for all on board, whether or not they think they can swim. Speed limits must be adhered to, especially in dynamic harbour environments, where vessels may be going on and off moorings, there may be children dinghy sailing, there may be kayakers and there may be swimmers, as well as vessels being launched and recovered on slipways. Certain wind directions are far more likely to make it rough/choppy than others, especially at certain states of tide. Going over someone's wake at top speed can result in spinal injury, even if the everyone on board is safely in their seats (two years ago I witnessed this exact thing - the guy is still unable to walk). It takes a surprisingly small amount of water to sink a small speedboat (not a RIB) - again, I saw this three weeks ago, and those on board were not wearing lifejackets. Three days ago I saw a young guy driving a beaten up old speedboat through the harbour gaps and round the corner of the harbour wall at at least 20 knots - it was only incredible luck that he didn't drive straight into something/someone and kill people.

People need to think. Statistically, you are less likely to be in a boating accident than a car accident, but those that happen often have terrible consequences.

teddyandgypsy Thu 06-Jun-13 14:59:14

What a great post, but then you have been the voice of sanity throughout. I have tried to post similar points but the howls of rage that go up are really offputting. Nothing I have said has been in any way offensive, rather I am entirely sympathetic to the family involved. However, this is an accident which should never have happened and it is right and proper that it be discussed. I had thought that this forum would be full of articulate people willing and able to do that in a thoughtful manner - how wrong I was. What has been most enlightening is that those posters complaining about those of us willing to discuss hard facts is the way they resort to name calling (moron is only the lates) all in the name of posting nicely!

Extraordinary.

Maybe Amanda Holden was right about Mumsnet after all. It looks after its own.

TheLateMrsLizCromwell Sun 22-Jun-14 16:00:29

Only resurrecting this because I saw today that Victoria Milligan has done enormous amounts to raise money for charities, in what must have been the most unbelievably awful year for her. While grieving for her husband and child she has nevertheless been tireless in her efforts to help others. I am in awe of her courage and dignity.

lalalonglegs Sun 22-Jun-14 18:07:20

Yes, I heard her speaking on R4, with great sadness and articulacy but entirely without self-pity. To have lost everything she has in such an arbitrary way but to come out the other side is humbling.

Retropear Sun 22-Jun-14 19:38:56

I saw that too,what an amazing woman.

specialsubject Mon 23-Jun-14 12:16:45

I also saw this article, cannot imagine what Victoria Milligan has gone through, and take my hat off to her for her efforts and successes since.

For info, the full report is on the Marine Accident Investigation Board site, issued since this thread was last active.

phantomnamechanger Thu 26-Jun-14 17:40:53

what an amazing inspiring woman. I wish her and her children all the best for their futures.

DontGotoRoehampton Sun 09-Nov-14 17:08:10

Saw today an incredibly brave article by Victoria Milligan in the Sunday Times. The inquest is opening tomorrow into the death of her DH and DD.
Feel so sad for her, and hope she gets plenty of support from her friends and family.

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