court proceedings

(3 Posts)
jolo123 Thu 16-May-13 16:45:24

Hi kaylz sounds very the same as wat i went through.
i have 3children from age 7-14 and i was in a relationship for 12years until i broke it up becauae we noth wasent happy.
Unfortunatly i found myself unable to keep up payments for my rent and was left to alot of debt from both of us but his moto was leave me to worry and pay for it that way i will come running bk to him.
after a year i moved away somewere cheaper up the midlands, and fount my first love, i hadent seen him in 15years i was so happy. Everyone warned me off him but i thought i knew best and thought i could change him,long story short he took advantage of me being vaulnrable and not only pysical abuse but mental too which sometimes be worse. Once he smashed a 6ft mirror ova my head ot was enough so left withy children same night and never returned bk.
i then started drinking because deep down i loved him. But wasent fair for my children and had to put them first but i was drinking far to much and was not being as good as i could of been. At the time i Was in denile and blinded by it and SS got involved removed all 3 and i lost the court battle in dec ladt year! ! i have been sobber for 2years now but still they wont let me have them live with me because i may get with a violent partner. Its so unfair i hold my hands up i let my kids down for them 2years but i was and still am a loving mother and put them befor anything.
Im basically saying u must always fight for ur babys u will win eventully just make it clear u will not get involved with the dad until he has proved hiself u need ur dad and gf to back u up even though its not wat u want but the social want that. Hope my story has helpped u can always contact me if u want to ever talk ive been there and feel for u ill help u as much as i can xHi kaylz sounds very the same as wat i went through.
i have 3children from age 7-14 and i was in a relationship for 12years until i broke it up becauae we noth wasent happy.
Unfortunatly i found myself unable to keep up payments for my rent and was left to alot of debt from both of us but his moto was leave me to worry and pay for it that way i will come running bk to him.
after a year i moved away somewere cheaper up the midlands, and fount my first love, i hadent seen him in 15years i was so happy. Everyone warned me off him but i thought i knew best and thought i could change him,long story short he took advantage of me being vaulnrable and not only pysical abuse but mental too which sometimes be worse. Once he smashed a 6ft mirror ova my head ot was enough so left withy children same night and never returned bk.
i then started drinking because deep down i loved him. But wasent fair for my children and had to put them first but i was drinking far to much and was not being as good as i could of been. At the time i Was in denile and blinded by it and SS got involved removed all 3 and i lost the court battle in dec ladt year! ! i have been sobber for 2years now but still they wont let me have them live with me because i may get with a violent partner. Its so unfair i hold my hands up i let my kids down for them 2years but i was and still am a loving mother and put them befor anything.
Im basically saying u must always fight for ur babys u will win eventully just make it clear u will not get involved with the dad until he has proved hiself u need ur dad and gf to back u up even though its not wat u want but the social want that. Hope my story has helpped u can always contact me if u want to ever talk ive been there and feel for u ill help u as much as i can x

GooseyLoosey Fri 15-Mar-13 09:40:05

Hi - I don't really have any advice for you. I guess social services are concerned as you have a history of going back to him.

You sound like you need advice, but your OP was very hard to read, so I hope you don't mind, but I have set it out below with some punctuation so it is easier to read.

OP with punctuation

I am going through the worst part of my life. I have a 3 yr old that I have brought up on my own as I a was a victim of domestic violence for a while. He got sentenced to 3 yrs and i gave him another chance.

Everything was going fine with our little family unit until my dad and my partners mum (which meant my daughters paternal and maternal grandparents) started a relationship. This caused family rows between both sides and it made us start rowing.

We split again after he attacked me whilst my daughter was present. He went back to prison on recall and everything was going well at home. Me and my daughter had a week in spain in august last year what i saved up all by myself from my job in the pub. When he got out, he got inside my head again playing games. This caused me to go out after work and socialise to take my mind off things, but the game playing didn't stop. On the spur of the moment, whilst my child was in bed, out of anger, I swallowed lots of tablets and ended up in hospital.

The social services removed my child and placed her with my then partners mother and my dad. They got a temporary residential order. Now I've been going through court proceedings I have done all they ask. I have had my reveiw hearing today and the social worker has recommended her paternal grandparents for full residency as my ex partner is serving still in prison. The hearing ends in April and he is out in July. The social worker has recommended residency as she doesn't know what will happen when he is out and if the domestics will restart if we are together or not. I really don't see her point. Whether she likes it or not my ex partner has to come out at some point and remain on this earth as long as he lives. I have gone against this and am now going to fight my corner and get myself a barrister and give evidence in court.

Does anyone think I have a good case on my hands. I am so scared its getting me down and I need advice.

kaylz Thu 14-Mar-13 22:40:14

i am going through the worst part of my life i av a 3 yr old i av brought up on my own as a was a victim of domestic violence for a while he gt sentanced to 3 yr and i gave him another chance everything was going fine with our little family unit until my dad n my partners mum which ment my daughters paternal and maternal grandparents started a relationship which caused family rows between both sides it made us start rowing and we split again after he attacked me whilst my daughter was presant he went back to prison on recall and everything was going well at home me and my daughter had a wek in spain in august last year what i saved up all by myself from my job in the pub but when he got out he got inside my head again playin games whih caused me to go out after work and socialise to take my mind off things but the game playing didnt stop so at a spurr of the moment whilst my child was in bed out of anger i swallowed lots of tablets n ended up in hospital the social services removed my child and placed her with my then partners mother and my dad which she got a temporary residencial order now iv been goin through court proceedings i av done all they ask but i av had my reveiw hearing today and the social worker as recomended for my her paternal grandparent full residancy as my ex parner is serving still in prison the hearing ends in april and he is out in july so because of this the social worker as recomended this because she dont know what will happen when he is out and if the domestics will restart weather we are together or not but i really dont see her point weather she likes it or not my ex partner has to come out at some point and remain on this earth as long as he lives i av gone against this and now going to fight my coner and get myself a barrister and give evidance in court does anyone think i av a good case on my hands i am so scared its gettin me down a need advice

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