The Hoarders Anonymous Thread Part Two...Still Sorting It Out ~ Together!

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Solo Tue 04-Aug-15 01:01:03

Sorting out the home when you're a hoarder (big or small) is never going to be easy and we should know! but having someone else to support you, talk about it with you and make you feel much less of a freak of mother nature makes a huge difference!

If you are any of the following:
A hoarder. In a mess. Untidy. Disorganised. Lazy with housework that has lead to something that you now feel unable to deal with. If you are ill and not coping with the housework. If you are emotionally attached to items for whatever reason. If you have a combination of any or all of these things or something completely different, please join us. No one here will judge you. We have something in common and we have a common goal. We share our ideas and we share our disappointments no matter how big and our celebrations no matter how small.

Welcome to thread number 2! smile

Solo Tue 04-Aug-15 01:04:09

THREAD #1

<scent marks fred>

I've got headache induced insomnia.

Bin day today, recycling will be being emptied which is good as I have a coupe of cardboard boxes that need binning.

brew for the morning crew smile

Babieseverywhere Tue 04-Aug-15 10:06:20

Well I planned a couple of trips to the local tip...but between potty training the youngest, food delivery arriving later and my oldest throwing up this morning...I suspect today will be a lazy day smile

fuzzpig Tue 04-Aug-15 10:11:48

Signing in! Thanks for the new thread, Solo smile

Not sure I'll achieve anything today either, as really tired and sore... I only just managed to get out of bed!

fuzzpig Tue 04-Aug-15 10:14:35

Oh and that's a lovely opening post! thanks

Babieseverywhere Tue 04-Aug-15 12:24:28

Yes, very welcoming opening post smile

I'm on day four of a migraine, it's not nice. Nothing done today. Some twat near me has just lit a bonfire and it smells like a neighbour somewhere is having a pot-smoking party too. So my house reeks of smoke and 'smoke', my head is bouncing and I can't think straight.

Tomorrow will be a better day. Shopping is arriving at lunchtime.

Babieseverywhere Tue 04-Aug-15 21:42:20

Oh no, sorry to hear about your migraine...Hope you feel better soon.

2boysnamedR Tue 04-Aug-15 21:52:59

I did another 10 things today, feel like I should have done more but I was trying to potty train my 3 year old who has asd.

My good he can hold his bladder longer than me! He wasn't having it. Might quickly grab an draw and have a sift now.

Thanks for the thread!

I'm coming out of the other side. Had an attack of paranoia earlier and deactivated faceache.

Breathing deeply. I'm taking painkillers with a coffee and am heading to bed. Tomorrow we're making cake and having some belated birthday shenanigans for my son.

Babieseverywhere Tue 04-Aug-15 23:32:01

2boys, we are toilet training our 3yo atm smile She can hold on to wee for hours. ..but bribing with sweeties

2boysnamedR Tue 04-Aug-15 23:42:53

I need to buy some chocolate then. I was singing to him and doing row-row your boat on the potty, stroking his legs and back etc but after hours on and off with nothing he put his nappy back on! He couldn't do it up but he was adamant!

He packed a little case, said 'bye bye' ( he can't talk! So felt strongly on the matter) and went out the back door into the garden naked!

I will crack before he does

Solo Wed 05-Aug-15 13:24:02

Hi ladies! thank you for the thank you's!! smile

Sorry to hear about the migraines and aches etc. I feel your pain. I have done nothing much here, but I'm back to work on Monday PM, so I will start to try to use my mornings to do things.

Potty trainers, I'm not trying to teach granny to suck eggs, as I know you all have experience anyway, but have you tried going straight to the toilet? not saying it's the same for everyone ~ I know it isn't, but I trained my Ds by letting him wander the house in just a vest. He did use the potty a couple of times as I kept asking him every 10 minutes if he needed to go/sit on the pot etc. I then thought that I'd ask him if he'd like to sit on the toilet which he did and we never looked back. It took 4 days in all for him to be clean and dry.
Anyway, I hope it's going better! and that the naked garden wanderer has returned! what a wonderful vision! smile

PolterGoose Wed 05-Aug-15 14:09:20

Can I join you all please? brew and cake

I suspect I hoard and collect and save for 'just in case' partly because we had so little growing up, especially as a teen, so now I can afford to 'treat myself ' I do it too much, and am also about to be assessed for Aspergers myself (ds has AS) which explains some of the more obsessive collecting. I have years of paperwork I'm slowly shredding and a ton of sewing, knitting and crochet stuff, plus random arty crafty materials and equipment.

I mentioned on another thread, I had a mass clear out of books last summer which with Gift Aid raised nearly £500 for Oxfam, and that's been quite motivating.

Last week I started on the 'spare room' to make it more usable and not just a junk dump, which will mean all my arty crafty stuff can come out of the bedroom where it's making it hard to get to bed and furniture! Dp took loads to the tip and more to charity shop.

I'm almost always exhausted, ds is hard work and is being quite clingy this holiday, I don't sleep well and have hypermobility so need to be careful with my joints, so I tend to sort and bag/box and rely on dp to go to tip and charity shop.

My house is a hovel 'project' which I'm supposed to be doing mostly myself, but I can't do anything when there's so much stuff everywhere. There's a long chain of jobs which rely on other jobs being done first and I can't work out where to start so often end up doing nothing. Or starting another craft project ...

And that was longer than planned blush

fuzzpig Wed 05-Aug-15 14:30:56

Hey Polter! I am hoping to be assessed for AS myself. I have also had a preliminary dx of OCD. So lots of anxiety and stuff which definitely manifests itself in a dependence on 'stuff'!

Well done for getting started. I honestly thing that it's more a psychological battle than a physical one (and I say that as someone with physical health issues too!) so the fact that you're ready to confront it speaks volumes smile

As for me though, well my friend has my DCs today and I'm panic tidying because she's dropping them home around 5. So... lots of stuff shoved in bags and boxes! blush

fuzzpig Wed 05-Aug-15 14:31:27

And hugs to those feeling poorly too. thanks

Babieseverywhere Wed 05-Aug-15 14:56:48

We use 3 midget gems.

We get Tesco value midget gems 25p for a reasonable size packet.

YY, to holding wee for hours, refusing to sit on potty and other delights.

We sat it out last week and eventually we got a wee last week and yesterday our first poo in the potty....keep plugging away he will get it eventually smile

Solo Wed 05-Aug-15 15:05:55

Welcome PG you are in the right place!

Babieseverywhere Wed 05-Aug-15 15:20:00

Fuzzpig Good luck with your assessment.

{{{*Poltergoose*}}} Welcome to the thread grin Totally get the thread thing...In order to clear this, I need to move that etc etc.

I have been out to softplay again, on the way back, I took the kids to buy two items from Tesco....my DS had a total meltdown and I had to put him in the main part of the trolley, just so I could get around and out. He hates shopping.

I have a CAMHS appointment for DS Monday and I am dreading it. I know that it is my fault that DS is so anxious all the time but it is never nice to hear it and all they want to do is talk and I just want answers...tell me what to do or what to stop doing sad

Plus we had to take DS out of swimming lessons, the swimming teachers can't cope with him. Even with a helper in the water he just screams and shouts and refuses to swim....Guess that is my fault too sad

hey ho, I have plenty to do around the house, when I can get myself moving.

PolterGoose Wed 05-Aug-15 15:29:02

Thanks for the welcome smile

I've been helping ds make a Lego thing nearly all day and managed to chuck out 2 Trofast trays full of dust encrusted tat from his room as we went, I am definitely going for every little bit helps.

fuzz have you been on 'our' women/AS thread? I lose track.

Babies I was wondering where you'd got to, you know my feelings about your ds, I feel certain you will get taken seriously at some point, you just need to meet the right 'professional' flowers

Do you all reward yourself as you go? I've bought a beautiful old sewing stool and my treat for doing this room is to re-organise all my sewing stuff into it instead of the multitude of baskets and tins I've got now.

2boysnamedR Wed 05-Aug-15 15:35:23

Potty went less well today. I gave up after a hour... Will buy blackmail fodder reward treats tonight. Everyone is fed up of him bending over with legs apart while chilling on the sofa.

I had a panic throw out last night. Found it hard throwing out stuff while at the same time being disgusted by a recipt I kept from 2006 and another so old I couldn't read it (2006 was probably the last time I looked in that draw!)

Hi Polter! I wonder if I'm aspie, However I have zero interest in changing my ways. I get so easily distracted! I start clearing a draw then end up doing a email or anything my mind flits too. I have always had structured scientific jobs thank god.

Four kids and summer. This is hard!

Babieseverywhere Wed 05-Aug-15 15:35:35

Thanks polter...just feeling down today.thanks

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Yes, I am trying to throw things that I don't like and replace them with nice things I like...well that it the plan bit no money atm. I promised myself that once I finish all the drawers in the living room, I would replace our old battered coffee table with a pretty one grin

Babieseverywhere Wed 05-Aug-15 15:37:21

I am making a new promise that I can buy myself a sewing table for our room when I finish decluttering that room (about 2020 at the rate I am moving)

2boysnamedR Wed 05-Aug-15 15:56:52

I'm not planning a reward for myself. My problem is mainly clothes so once I've thrown out my three things I can buy one. However I'm over 90 in debt still.

It's quite shocking what I struggle with really. I found out of date pregnancy tests. I couldn't bin then. Trying for my third child was so hard. It wasn't a happy time, I ached for a third child. Why the hell do I need to keep that memory?

Ebaying my hardly used breatpump today. Bits missing, scattered to the four winds. I am still debating if I want a fith child which is madness!!

I'm the kind of person if I was to see on hoarding, buried alive I would be Rolling my eyes at- yet here I am. Clinging to my stuff. I did wonder if I am a child hoarder. I can't have one, got to have more!

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