Hi Mummyoftwins
Glad you found some of it helpful, I thought maybe I had gone on a bit? Well this time I have definitely gone on a bit......
Well, here are some other thoughts I have had about things that I have learned in order to make our family life run a bit more smoothly...
I generally cook about half the week. At least a couple of nights of the week I get something that has been previously batch cooked from the freezer and another night or two we have lazy teas, pizza or whatever.
Batch cooking. I now, finally understand, that being heavily pregnant and with a two year old and a nine month old crawling up my leg when I am cooking, I cannot cook totally from scratch. I do buy sauces but I add to them as much as I can, extra grated carrot in a pasta sauce or a couple of peppers and extra pineapple in a sweet and sour sauce.
At least three times a week I allow myself to give the kids a lazy tea, tomato soup, spaghetti hoops or eggy bread type thing. Then my DH and I can easily have a pizza or something later. I get it totally prepared, from the packet! at some point through the day. On oven tray with tin foil over, timings cut out and recycle box outside. Hardly any tidying up after!
If I am having a day of lazy type dinner, as described above, that is the day that I am more likely to squeeze in an extra job. Cleaning out the salad drawer or maybe the ironing or something. (And I don't mean cleaning out the whole fridge, just the salad drawer. If I have time the next day I can do another shelf. Your days of blitzing stuff are for now done! )But I would also have more time on a day like that to hang out with our babies. Not necessarily furiously engaging them in Monopoly (!) or something but enjoying their company and swapping the toys around with them or taking them somewhere a bit more exciting or something.
The swapping toys around and storing them properly has been great. They really do enjoy seeing toys that they haven't seen for a couple of weeks, when other friends come to play you can drag a box or two out to keep things going when they all start struggling to share and you can sort it out with the children around you. And most importantly you won't be stuck the whole evening with heaps of stuff to pick up. Honestly, one basket of toys out is more than enough and one other big thing if you have to.
On mn at some point I read that you should NEVER EVER go to bed with a messy kitchen. I really try and stick by that rule because it is just rubbish waking up with yesterdays mess needing dealt with. That is why I really try and get the dinner organised and plated early on through the day. It means that when you are really tired at the end of the day you only have a couple of plates and bits of cutlery to wash or put in the dishwasher, but when you can do try and get it all away so that it is done for tomorrow. Well, I do anyway.
About half past four, mid witching hour, I try and sort out bedtime stuff. Blackout blind up, water cooling in the bottles, boys pjs in the living room. Heat/prepare dinner, serve, eat/feed. Floor wipe the messy bit, wipe the table, wipe the sticky fingers and faces, dishes washed and away and then in the bath. If possible strip them off in the kitchen before their bath and put their clothes straight in the washing machine and their nappies in the bin. Saves taking them from the bathroom back to the kitchen.
Bath, teeth, towel dry. Towels hung up or in the washing machine, straight away.
Pj's, cbeebies.
Wait for DH to come home. I try and get everything done for when my DH comes home so that is at least a bit of family time for the day. Then you just have your basket of toys to pick up before they go to bed and you put your dinner in the microwave or oven or whatever. Twice a week, usually a Monday and Thursday I disappear off to do the ironing when my DH comes in. There isn't much because I am ruthless about what I put away without ironing, but it means it doesn't ever become manageable. Put it away, straight away! And it means it is done for the weekend.
I also recently invested in a small hand held hoover. Ace for whizzing round and getting bits of crumbs, takes longer for the house to look awful and you get away with hovering properly less.
Also, in the morning I always do a quick lap of the house, make beds, take black out blind down, put washing on. Takes ten minutes but means I don't have to go back and do it later.
I am not good at, but try to shower first thing. Too easy to stay in pjs when we are not actually going anywhere!
As for playtime. I remember posting a question like that on here when our oldest was nine months old. Honestly, whatever you are doing now will be just fine, especially with two of them, they will enjoy playing with each other. I try to make sure I have time and energy to do lovely bedtimes, and for there to be fun time before bed when DH gets home. But don't be confused, they are getting bigger but they are not yet fully fledged toddlers. It will be when they are two plus that they need you to organise painting and craft things. You can certainly do that type of thing with them now but honestly let it be a sunny day when your DH is home if you have to. Rather than feeling like you have to 'play' with them, take them for a walk in their buggy. It won't be long until you take them to the park and they can run about. Or take them to the pet shop or to the seaside. But don't feel like you need to teach them to play. Give them a baby wipe and they can help you wash the floor! I am not sure that is maybe helpful, please ask if you would like something a bit more clear, I can have a think about it and see if I can maybe be more specific......
Oh dear, I have gone on and on. I hope there is something in there that might help you further. Honestly, I like things all quite orderly and have worked quite hard at trying to find ways to keep it simple. Please ask if you can think of anything else that you are stuck with.