My DS and her husband live in what can only be described as a tip.
They have 1 DD(2) and another due in a matter of weeks.
Their house is disgusting, not just untidy but smelly and dirty and something desperately needs to be done before new baby arrives and their house is opened up to health care professionals.
As a family we have tried to help them - My parents do the garden, sorted a shed. Helped them get in touch with contractors to get essential jobs done.
We've hinted at needing to get sorted, offered to help with cleaning/ sorting jobs.
It is so bad I can no longer bear to go round.
We are so worried that Midwife and Health Visitor will come in and think they aren't coping (they aren't) and will report them to Social Services.
Their DC is loved to bits and they have time for everybody and will help out at the drop of a hat.
We think that my sister would rather be anywhere but home and spend time at mine or my parents house just to get out.
This problem has been going on for a while and I have posted before under a different name. We did some of the suggested things. Helping with storage and
I even spent every morning during 1 week they were away cleaning the house as many rooms as was possible.
As a family (my DB, my parents and DP) we just need to do something. It is not an acceptable or safe environment to bring up 2 DC's. My Mum has had to let in contractors recently and she said she is so ashamed, she has been in tears over it.
None of us want to go round anymore.
My DM & DF came round last night to say that my DF was going to go round and grasp the nettle, and wanted to know we had their support.
My DF would get straight to the point. But I said a few weeks before birth it might not be the best approach to tell them in no uncertain terms that it's unacceptable and they need to sort themselves out.
So I have volunteered to do it using a more caring approach - i.e. we are worried that the MW & HV will think they are not coping, and the we are worried they are not coping and that we all desperate want to help. I won't accept excuses (of which there have been many) I will say it has to be done and we are going to help so that they are sorted and can keep it sorted in the future. If it isn't kept up I will send my Dad in, in 6 months time.
What do you think Mumsnetters?
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How do we tackle my sister and brother in law's hovel of a house
howtohelpher · 26/11/2012 17:13
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