I was feeling so proud of myself for involving DS (4 years old) in my attempts to declutter, but now I'm having a major attack of guilt!
I had a small declutter of DS' toys in preparation for Xmas. We had a chat about him having lots of toys (seriously he has hundreds and as I childmind we have - and have to keep - more than he'd ever need) and other children having less and on Friday AM he helped take some of his toys to the charity shop (which he loves doing, although usually we take my things).
We didn't take much, a few bits he was relatively happy to donate... and a huge plastic fire engine (seriously it was over a foot long), which didn't do much - its ladder extended and if you pressed a button it made noises (he said 'but I like it' but I pointed out he has another new wooden one, which does much more and he actually plays with, plus about 5 lego ones - he reluctantly put it in the bag and didn't mention it again/when he handed the bags over in the shop). The big one - I don't remember when he last played with it and if I had ditched it when he was out I don't think he'd have remembered he'd ever had it and looked for it.
But last night (Saturday) he woke up at 10.30pm crying loads and asking for the fire engine back and saying how much he missed it. I was caught out and told him the charity shop was closed, but that I could go after dropping him at nursery on Monday and ask if it was still there... he calmed down with cuddles and a rare post-bed-tv treat and all was ok... but I don't know if its a good idea to go and try and get it back or not?
Today he hasn't mentioned the fire engine at all (maybe because he assumes its all settled and I'll get it back?). We went shopping and he got a playmobil set with his birthday money and later a toy catalogue I was looking at, completely by chance, had pictures of some baby toys that he'd had. So I told him little stories about how much he'd enjoyed them when he was a baby, but that we'd had to put them away because otherwise we wouldn't have space for his lovely new 'big boy' toys, like the new playmobil etc. He wasn't convinced and wanted to get all the old toys down from the loft.
Anyway, after all this rambling... do I
a) Rush down tmrw to try and re-buy fire engine if its still there? so as not to tramatise him.
b) Not check if its there but after nursery make up a story about how another little child bought/really loves it?
c) not mention it again and hope he forgets about it too? Then if he mentions it again just reiterate that he doesn't 'need' another fire engine? / say I looked for it but another child bought/loves it? Or go and look for it then (and hope its been sold - stupid ugly huge thing that it was!)
DH not helping matters, as he's a major hoarder, who says I should never have got rid of any of DS' toys in the 1st place and that his parents caused his hoarding by getting rid of all the toys they thought he was too old for and telling him they'd been stolen by burglars! (No pressure there then! But just to clarify DS does still have many/most of his old/baby toys, I was just trying to rationalise duplicates of current toys).
Sorry, stupidly long post, but any advice would be appreciated. :)
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leeloo1 · 11/11/2012 23:12
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