I'm going to try and be as honest as possible here, as many of my reasons are about me, not my child, so will try and give you the full picture.
DS1 started school last year. Not in our first choice school. Our first choice school was smaller, and had a nicer atmosphere. Nicer pupils and teachers.
We got our second choice school. Not really a true second choice, just geographically close (walking to school was/is important to me.) It is a big school, and when we had visited in the past we found the children, to be honest, quite unpleasant and out of control. (Visited reception and saw children tussling and fighting and not being nice to each other, with no supervision)
When my son had to start this school, it started a period of anxiety in me, which unfortunately got so bad I had to seek medical advice, and am now on anti-depressants as a result.
The first few weeks were traumatic, with my son coming home with bite marks, and complaints of being punched. The teachers, in their defence, have sorted out a lot of the problems, but there does seem to be an underlying unpleasant air with the children. DS1 was then coming home and acting badly to his younger brother. We think this is happening because, although he is no angel, he is actually at the bottom of the pecking order at school (I see it in the morning in the playground) He isn't bullied, but I think he's not as boisterous as some of the boys and suffers because of it.
My relationship with DS1 has suffered greatly this past year. The mornings have been hell (as I'm sure any school mother has experienced.) When he comes home from school he is grumpy and not particularly nice. Every week we get to the end of the week, and it seems that it takes all day Saturday for him to recover. On Sunday we get a glimpse of the boy we know, just to start over again on Monday.
(At this point I will say he has done well at school this year "academically", and achieved more than he probably would have done if he was under my tutelage.)
Fast forward, summer holidays. We've had a wonderful time. I feel I've got my son "back". It makes me sad that school has had this affect on his personality (though I'm not sure exactly what causes the change, could be tiredness, or something deeper.)
This summer holiday I've realised how much he has learnt, just by spending time with me (I'm a SAHM.) I probably underestimated how much he picks up from one-to-one time. I suppose I've got a bit of a taste of what "unschooling" could be like.
School is looming. It's concentrated my mind. We're about to start all over again. My concern is, how much are my plans to HE down to my own personal feelings, not what's best for my son? He is a sociable boy, and I feel taking him out of school would be detrimental from that point of view. I have talked to him about school, and he says he likes it at school, and likes it at home (which I have to say were much my thoughts at the same age.)
I think a lot of my problems may be with the particular school. If we lived in a lovely small village, with a nice small school, would things be different?
Advantages to home schooling I see, from an academic point of view, is that me and DH are educated, and we have a house full of books. I have the time to do it.
(Another thing that is focusing my mind is that DS2 detests pre-school - and I'm only sending him really as I'm trying to "prepare" him for school.)
Sorry this is a bit long, but I'm trying to sort out my thoughts on the subject. Are these the right reasons to consider HE?
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TolpuddleFarterOATB · 31/08/2016 11:21
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