We have been HEing for about a year, from when oldest DC was due to start school. Joined local on-line and FB groups to get involved and met lots of fantastic families. One family was very kind from the offset and invited us to a monthly meet at their house, at which another 6-8 families attend. These meet-ups are brilliant fun, lots for the children to do and each family really gets involved - it's all that I hoped HE would be about. This family also arrange other occasional activities but I've realised in the past few months that they are fairly 'exclusive' with the same select families attending. One particular activity was messaged to us actually asking us to keep it under our hats! I feel very uncomfortable with this, but I'm not sure whether I've got the wrong end of the stick. I messaged her about this activity and said it sounded so wonderful, was she thinking of posting it to the main county page so more children could enjoy it and she replied that she wanted to keep the numbers small as it was the first time this 'venue' had done something for HE families and she wanted it to go well. When we first went along there were only a handful of children there when this would normally be something a whole class would attend!
The Mum is very enthusiastic and great fun and it might just be that she just wants to involve known and trusted families only. I can understand that. But then I can't shake this feeling that the situation just isn't 'right'.
Should I just enjoy going to these events and ignore wherever might/might not be a hidden agenda? Or should I distance myself because it doesn't feel morally right - all HE children deserve to know about any activities going on, surely?
Or are these sorts of cliques considered fairly normal to HE life?
Needless to say my children always enjoy going to whatever this family has set up, or I obviously wouldn't be in a dilemma about whether to continue or not!
Sorry if this seems rather trivial, but I feel very strongly about HE families being a community and committed to helping each other when we can. Thanks for any advice you can give.
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Uncomfortable with 'select' group meet-ups
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tinfoilhat · 19/10/2014 00:12
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