Forgive my probably long and rambling post!
My ds is the second of 5 children (the only boy). My other children are doing well and enjoy school. DS also seems to enjoy school but struggles with pretty much everything. He has an IEP and a whole host of things in place at school but his progress is very slow.
He is 8 years old and is behind in all areas, he reads level 5 reading books (my 5 year old it on level 4 to compare) he struggles with them. You cant read most of what he writes, his spelling is awful, for example, he can spell his name but not the shortened version of it . Yesterday he couldn't spell his sisters name trying to make a card (it has 4 letters). His maths is "ok" but he has no concentration at all for the way it is done which means he make massive mistakes, he will sit for 5 minutes and thats pretty much it he will then just start scribbling, his numbers become unrecognisable and he stares into space.
The school have him in a special needs group (which I know he obviously needs to be) but this work is done in exactly the same way as the rest of the class just with less expectation of success. So he still gets the problem that he cant sit and concentrate on it for long enough to actually get through it.
He comes home with a massive bag of homework each week in an attempt to catch him up (even to the others in his group - he is behind even the special needs group now) . This homework is the exact same thing he does at school. So for example he needed to practice writing the letter Z so his homework was to fill a page with letter Zs not great for someone who struggles to do a line let alone a page. He also gets book after book of Biff and chip etc which again they are not the best stories and not exactly encouraging him to read. He is expected to do all of it and this week it included the fabulous item of "please teach him his birthday" as though I haven't been trying that for the last 6 years. This homework takes up most or all of our evening because it takes him so long to read a book, or write a few lines.
Anyway! Last week he had 10 spellings to learn (which he is meant to write down 5 times a day and take in - something which makes him cry and doesn't work, he has NEVER got any right at the test and always scores 0/10 no mater how many tears we get when we are trying to write them over and over). I chose 3, and used photoshop etc to make up a few games, one was the word split in half, for him to feel and move into the right place (like a 2 piece jigsaw for each word) the next was using a guide and placing the individual letters on top, then arranging them without using the guide. I also had him writing the word with chalk outside and on the white board, anything that wasn't siting down writing it over and over.
We spent the whole week working on these three words, and he got them right in the test for the first time in his whole school life he didn't score 0!!He got 3/10! I was so pleased! the comment he came home with was that he didn't complete all of his homework last week. Well no - because we spent literally all week learning these three words. I have tried to talk to the school about it but they just keep pushing learning his phonics sounds which he just cannot do, years of trying and he still can't do it. The are insistent that he NEEDS this huge pack of homework and that is not good enough to concentrate on one thing.
DH and I are seriously worried now, not because we have ambitions of him having a high flying career (!) but because we are worried that left in this situation he will end up not only failing to learn anything in the rush to "catch up" but that he will end up with low self esteem and FEELING a failure. He came home yesterday for example saying how he was stupid because he was in the stupid group at school. I hate that he feels like that just a few days after making a massive breakthrough and learning those words.
We are thinking about taking him out of school altogether, we were talking last night and we pretty much both agree that he needs to go back a few years, to year 1 sort of work and then work at his own pace. What is the point in trying to spell "because" when you cant spell your own nickname??
He has has loads of assessments at school but nothing ever comes up as "wrong" as such he just won't learn. His IQ is actually normal, he isn't dyslexic so really he shouldn't be struggling to this extent and yet he is.
Doe anyone have any experience of home educating a child like this, I am concerned that it may actually make things even worse. I have NO IDEA where to start or even what level he is really at and even less idea what sort of thing I should be teaching him!
Can anyone point me to any suitable resources or information on this?
Also with him already struggling at school I am kind of worried that if I withdraw him the school and social services may get involved as he will be taken out of the special needs program?
Can anyone offer any advice? I am really at my wits end with this!
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Itsjustmeagain · 23/09/2014 07:23
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