Why on earth home educate??

(101 Posts)
plainjayne123 Mon 19-Nov-12 12:02:33

I am an extremely bright (top first from Oxford, PhD, post-doc, research career etc) person and I push my children to acheive their most at school etc, but I cannot see any reason why anyone would choose to home educate. I would go so far as to say it's selfish to keep your child at home and inflict upon them your idea of what they should learn and become. Hope to get some good reasons!

Suze77 Mon 19-Nov-12 12:06:33

"and inflict upon them your idea of what they should learn and become"

I home educate precisely so that no one can inflict on my children ideas of what they should learn and become. I home educate in order to give my children the time and space and opportunity to work out what THEY want to learn, who THEY want to be, and to support them in that. I don't believe school offers this.

Frontpaw Mon 19-Nov-12 12:12:21

This won't end well

Maybe read some threads on here. I've only glanced at a few but already seen some very good reasons that made me think.

I'm surprised someone as intelligent and well educated didn't think of that tbh.

RooneyMara Mon 19-Nov-12 12:13:59

Oh crikey. OP I'm not sure you've really set an amicable tone here. People might be reluctant or defensive if you storm into the topic accusing everyone of being selfish.

I don't HE, but I'd like to. More because I have trouble with some aspects of school, than because I think I'm right about everything. School does a lot of things better than I could myself, but also does a lot of things worse.

Ps I'm extremely bright too but have none of your credentials, so that might not count in your book.

RooneyMara Mon 19-Nov-12 12:14:47

I can spell achieve though.

noisytoys Mon 19-Nov-12 12:15:11

DH was home educated and he resents that he didn't get the opportunity to go to school so I agree with you OP. MIL said he was too bright for school, but he has nothing to show for it. DD is very bright (top 1% assessed by ed psych) and she is thriving in school

Frontpaw Mon 19-Nov-12 12:15:47

I only know one person who home eds (on religious grounds) but I'm interested to know how people come to the decision to do this, and how they go about it.

seeker Mon 19-Nov-12 12:16:43

Wow.

OP- If you really want to know, then name change and try again- perhaps just a liiiiiiiiiiiiiitle less offensively?

Seeker it's the big brains. No room for manners.

Frontpaw Mon 19-Nov-12 12:21:27

My dad had an awful lot of brains but was always very polite (he also taught Brainy Things at university).

We would, however, probably kill each other if he had decided to Home Ed.

You must be very unimaginative if you cannot think up any reason that a family might choose to home educate all by yourself.

You could argue that many choices parents make for their children are in some way or another selfish or 'inflicting' opinions and ideas onto the children... or you could think, well most people are just doing their best for THEIR children, no?

akaemmafrost Mon 19-Nov-12 12:22:16

I can't be bothered to reply in detail to you. I HE by the way and like to discuss it because I feel our reasons are totally valid, but your OP is very hostile so I won't bother.

grin frontpaw

akaemmafrost Mon 19-Nov-12 12:23:32

Very bright, first from Oxford but can't spell achieve? Really? grin

Frontpaw Mon 19-Nov-12 12:26:13

Nobody really describes themselves as 'very bright' do they? Unless they are wearing a fluorescent suit or something?

I don't think s/he's real...

Also, I have worked with Oxbridge sorts and some Very Brainy folk are increadibly dumb.

RooneyMara Mon 19-Nov-12 12:26:15

Well she might be dyslexic and still be very clever, despite clear lack of tact smile.

Of course that's another reason some people HE, because some schools won't recognise or help with their child's special needs.

OP if you're seriously interested rather than just venting/having a go, why don't you come back and enter into the discussion?

Possibly because they don't want their children to be 'plain jaynes' as you NN suggests.

They would rather have unique individuals that learn naturally and in tune with their personalities. They would rather nurture and encourage their child to reach their true potential.

Its about knowing your child and what they would benefit from. DD1 is in the local primary, DD2 potentially will be home schooled because that's what their personalities dictate and what they need to flourish.

seeker Mon 19-Nov-12 12:27:33

"Possibly because they don't want their children to be 'plain jaynes' as you NN suggests.

They would rather have unique individuals that learn naturally and in tune with their personalities. They would rather nurture and encourage their child to reach their true potential."

Oh, please don't be rude back!

plainjayne123 Mon 19-Nov-12 12:31:03

I can understand if a child has particular needs (yes, yes, I know they all have) or if they aren't happy at school but a reasonably capable, happy child I can't. I observed some lessons last week and saw a boy who obviously didn't want to sit and listen or write or learn and he was more or less forced to, it was very stressful for him and it is painful to think he is made to do this every school day. Most schools do a reasonable job and the children spend a lot of time at home after school, weekends, holidays where parents are able to exert a greater influence on the child's outcome than school does.

RooneyMara Mon 19-Nov-12 12:32:13

'I observed some lessons last week and saw a boy who obviously didn't want to sit and listen or write or learn and he was more or less forced to, it was very stressful for him and it is painful to think he is made to do this every school day.'

I'm really confused - do you mean at school, or at home?

Do you think this doesn't happen to kids at school?

So you're involved professionally in he? And admit you know nothing about it and have no idea how to find out more?

Very concerning.

LIttleMcF Mon 19-Nov-12 12:35:09

OP, if you genuinely want to know reasons for home ed, read the threads, then come back with your observations and we can all have a polite and interesting debate.

If you simply want to cause upset with a fairly rude post, then your great brain isn't really being put to very good use these days, is it?

EauRouge Mon 19-Nov-12 12:35:58

One of the many reasons we want to HE is so that our DDs learn to do some proper research into something before forming such a strong opinion on it.

If you want people to take the time out to share their experiences, best not to start out by calling them selfish.

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