Ideas thread for what to take/not take to Uni.......

(425 Posts)
MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 11:37:45

We have found already that the student forum on the Warwick Uni website has been a valuabel resource.

Also advice from past students on here & other friends so thought I'd share a few "ooh ...good tip" moments that we've already had as the lists are mounting up!!

-Keep stuff to take to a minimum, check the list of stuff provided first or else the kitchens end up with 8/10 sets of everything by the end of first week.

-ditto for groceries, stick to dry/tins so tehy last longer & the shared cupboard in the kitchen/fridge shelf may not be that big!

- plain white china/crocks can be muddled/lost/appropriated with all the other IKEA stuff in the kitchen, a couple of granny's patterned plates will stand out as yours & can be found cheaply in charity shops. Ditto cutlery. Then no biggy if it doesn't come home at end of term.

-some halls provide linen/bedding but having your own from home helps with the settling in. Eg DD is taking her double duvet & own covers as that is snuggly on a single bed.

-lots of pound coins for laundry & buses.

-Double up the amount of underwear you pack, you'll be too busy the first week to do washing!

Loads more I'm sure, all little things but useful!

Please share your top tips <licks pencil & grabs DD's to do list> grin

Chivetalking Sat 17-Aug-13 11:52:23

Old or inexpensive towels.

All of mine have returned home grey grin

I had a massive thread on this a while back. Will try to find it.

Liking the granny's plates tip.

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 12:06:30

Chive yes I guess all the stuff goes in together wash wise....good one!

Remus thanks guessed it had been done before by all you old seasoned hands! grin

I'm not old seasoned - dd1 is off this year. I was just getting into a bit of an early panic a while back! Hang on - will search.

ZombiesAteMyBigToe Sat 17-Aug-13 12:13:28

Bottle of wine etc for first few evenings/nights bonding

The tumble dryers in my halls only took twenty pences

I had a toastie maker hidden away in my room for emergency meals.

Big towels that cover you. In the halls I was in we had to walk quite a way to the shower room, past one of the study rooms. If we got locked out we had to walk to another floor to get the pass key.

ZombiesAteMyBigToe Sat 17-Aug-13 12:15:03

Oh and your own tin opener that you never let out of your sight. I 'lost' four in my first year.

NoComet Sat 17-Aug-13 12:15:40

Yes nothing white, our collage washers were so full of indigo from jeans, nothing stayed white.

Nothing really valuable, except the inevitable lap top, until you have seen how secure your accommodation is and how nice your flat mates are.

My first lot ran total open house, my second lot were far more sensible.

PeerMon Sat 17-Aug-13 12:16:43

Don't bother with a kettle or toaster.

Airers to dry clothes on can be good.

Don't take loads of pound coins, you can always get pound coins and they may just get lost or stolen.

A couple of wide, low cardboard boxes from the fruit aisle at the supermarket can be filled with tins, pasta etc and slid under the bed.

Some cupboards in shared kitchens have a ring for you to padlock it.

Take a table lamp for room, the strip lights can be a bit harsh and unwelcoming.

Prop open your room door as you are unpacking and settling in so you can see and meet yor new housemates when they arrive.

Don't stock up loads if portions of bolognaise, cottage pie etc for freezing until you know how much freezer space you will have.

If shared bathroom, take a non slip mat to put down in the shower, and flip flops to wear into the bathroom.

Take ear plugs!

PeerMon Sat 17-Aug-13 12:20:38

I agree re nothing valuable!

Buy plastic glasses so they don't smash when dropped.

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 12:30:36

Remus oops apologies - I've seen so many good bits of advice recently I can't remember from whom & when! Great link.

No prob. Thanks for starting this. I'm taking notes!

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 12:33:53

Aha good point about the coinage!

DD doesn't drink (yet!) but she thought some of her yummyhome made brownies might break the ice!

SHe'd love to be a party animal but rarely stays up beyond midnight & just can't abide the taste of alcohol. I'm sure she'll find some horrible studenty drink eventually!

fussychica Sat 17-Aug-13 12:43:20

We did a couple of fun things - a framed £20 note with a hammer saying break glass in case of emergency - can't believe DS still has it in tact 2 years on!
Also did a welcome/emergency box containing pants with a sign saying "if you need these it's time to do some washing", paper plates ditto but do the washing up, condoms, earplugs, energy sweets, plasters, painkillers, batteries, bottle opener/corkscrew etc

Might sound a bit mad but he loved it and all his mates thought it was a hoot.
Agree re freezer DS had very limited space in hall.

We bought DD1 a kensington lock for her laptop. It has a bit that plugs into the laptop and the cord is doubled round itself and passes through a convenient cable hole in her desk for added security.

DD1 uses one of the big "Bags for Life" from Sports Direct as her dirty laundry bag. It sits in the bottom of her wardrobe and she chucks her dirt stuff in as she goes along.

Don't forget coat-hangers.

Hat, scarf and gloves - it may be mild when they go away but will get chilly soon. Same with an umbrella.

Off out yo taxi DD2 about. If I think of anything else I'll come back. grin

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 13:33:11

fussychica yes I have started her "emergency box" her DAunt works as a HV & has loads of family planning goodies to embarrass her with!!

Woolyback all good stuff....keep it coming!

DD1's local supermarket is Asda so I gave her a parent/student card. She spends on the student half of it and I top up the parent part of it. Obviously there is no guarantee that she wasn't spending it all on booze and Pringles grin but she was in catered halls last year so I only had to put money on it about twice a term.

I agree about the valuables. Her kindle and an unopened bottle of perfume were stolen from her room while she was downstairs packing up my DH's car at the end of term. angry. All her flatmates had already gone home and the flat could only be unlocked with a key - the halls made enquiries but never found the culprit. I'm concerned for this year as we replaced the kindle and she will be taking it with her as loads of the books that have been recommend as supplementary reading for her course are free to download.

One thing I know I'll do for dd1 is to get her a Starbucks card. She's a product of the coffee shop age I'm afraid, but I've told her she'll need to get used to using a flask to save money. So a card will keep her in lattes for a week or two anyway!

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 14:10:35

Aww bless her....My ExMil ( who is the LEAST clucky/spoiling of mothers) has presented DD with a bag of assorted mugs,cutlery,a grater, 2 new t-towels & a metal plate to start her off!!

She has also insisted on pating for some Cash's nametapes which she will sew on to the t-towels & towels, duvet covers etc, anything which might get "rehomed" in the laundry room!!! Makes her feel useful, so DD is being very patient with her!

enormouse Sat 17-Aug-13 14:16:43

Do an online shop to be delivered to the halls of residence/flat. Just basics and essentials.
Saves space in the car and saves you from doing a shop whilst your there.

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 14:18:42

I had thpught about that enormouse but some halls don't register with the supermarets apparently as they are not individual residences.

JellicleCat Sat 17-Aug-13 14:36:47

Watching with interest.

Have bought DD new towels as she wanted some in a bright colour to hide embarrassing leaks/drips when showering (she is in a mixed flat). Also bought her her own bath mat.

I have started an emergency box with things like plasters, pain killers, mini sewing kit and condoms. I will add ear plugs to my list.

We bought 2 patterned plates and a bowl so they don't get muddled up with everyone else's.

We're paying for dd to have an en-suite, so she can flipping well have the oldest, tattiest towels we've got! smile

inneedofrain Sat 17-Aug-13 14:56:06

Trying to think back to my student days

Ok wamn dressing gown halls can be cold we used to live in big fleecy dressing gowns over our clothes!

Washing up bowl (great to fill with dirty plates extra and carry back to kitchen do washing up take back to room)

Warm soft socks nothing better than walm feet I used to wear then over "normal" socks when my feet where cold / wet

Eye mask and ear plugs (if your sharing a room and a light sleeper these are invaluable)

Freezer bags are great for storing things instead of Tupperware

Dark colour towels are great for hair dye/ time of the month issues

I'll keep thinking

JellicleCat Sat 17-Aug-13 15:19:44

I bought her a couple of those collapsible plastic crates from Tesco to transport things in. Thought they would collapse down to fit under her bed when she is not using them, but they could also be used for bookcases, low table, washing basket etc etc.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Sat 17-Aug-13 15:34:12

Haven't had chance to read this yet (packing for camping holiday)

Sewing kit
Nail clippers
Mini fridge for own room
Mahoosive cake for sharing on the first night (DS is a cake genius)

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Sat 17-Aug-13 15:35:03

Condoms - they are on offer in Sainsburys in big packs at the mo.


inneedofrain Sat 17-Aug-13 15:51:08

Ok, thought of a few more.

A draw string bag is great for keeping shampoo etc in and a cheap pair of flip flops if using communial shower rooms (if they still exsist)

"we" (ie me and 5 other girls) used to share a wash for delicate items, worked really well we used pillow cases to keep everything seperate but these days those washing bags for delicates would work perfectally!

Washing machine tablets are a lot easier to store than loose power.

A hot water bottle (if they have access to a kettle) makes life a lot more plesant when your feeling stressed! used with lavender essentail oil sprinkled on the hot water bottle bag.

Bright colourful odd socks can be used very well to keep all cables seperate and stored descretly when not in use.

a good hair drier has 101 uses, drying socks, walming gloves up, etc.

I have to confess the only way we found of "preventing rehoming" of itmes in the wash etc, was to stay with them, we used to stick a few machine loads on at once and sit and study / chat / etc in the laundary room, again quite often sharing loads saved a fare amount of money over the year

Always have a box of Uht milk and coffee mate under your bed in case your milk has been "borrowed" nothing worse then finding some one has borrowed you milk and you can´t have a cup of tea or coffee! Same goes for packets of sugar.

Oh a bucket and detol will save a lot of heart ache if you have a room mate that will drink to the point of being sick.

A torch (yes really) can be very handy if you plan to use the libary late a night often uni grounds are very well light but there is always a bit somewhere which is dark the LED wind up ones form Ikea are fab, if its a uni spread accros a city then this is even more important

A travel mug, we used to decant the cheap uni coffee into ours, instead of drinking out of polestyrine cups.

Can i just add for the emergency boxes, cough medicine, san pro (a few different types will make a girl very popular in the middle of the night), vasiline, vicks and tissues (bitter experience there)

Hope all the people off to Uni soon, have a great time!

I second the sewing kit. The one I bought last year was from Wilkinson's and had half a dozen needles pre-threaded with white, black, red, cream etc cotton, a couple of safety pins and a couple of buttons in.

Before leaving for Uni get enough supplies of regular medication (inhalers, contraceptive pill etc) to last the first couple of months. DD1 registered with a doctor quite quickly but it is wise to have enough to start the term off.

She also had a bag with paracetamol, plasters, lemsip, throat lozenges and savlon cream in. Very useful for "Freshers Flu"

A wind up torch

A lanyard for student ID

A heat proof mat for straighteners and tongs

A 4 plug extension

mumeeee Sat 17-Aug-13 16:50:11

The washing machines at the Halls in Bolton actually email the student when their washing is done and apparently only the student whose washing it is can get it out, so preventing stuff going missing. Not sure how and if it works yet as DD3 hasn't moved in yet.
I've just remembered she hasn't got a hairdryer as she always uses ours. So I'll have to get her a cheap one and I must remember to tell her to pack some towels.
Bolton has sent her a list in her accommodation with suggestions of what to take. Not sure where the list is though think it's somewhere in the depths of her room. smile

Yes, we share straighteners so dd1 will need her own pair. This is going to cost a fortune! smile

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 17-Aug-13 17:13:22

Remus sad I know, it's adding up already.

No Remus. YOU get the new ones and DD takes the old ones. grin

Sounds like a plan! smile

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 17-Aug-13 17:18:01

Going into 3rd year student here.

Big bottle of spirits to share on first night, even if your DC aren't massive drinkers, it'll make them oh so popular.

I had a kettle in my room, and a little tray like a hotel. Although one will be provided, it was nice to know that when I was hanging I could walk two metres for tea, instead of going into the dingy dirty kitchen with kebab cabbage and beer everywhere. Also no one stole my posh hot chocolate and Assam tea bags.

Massive box of Bic biros (school wholesale boxes are sold on amazon at near wholesale price)

Lovely new sheets

Blu tack

Big box of paracetamol

Years supply of Tampax would have been helpful!

Mugs and plates that you don't mind getting stained orange

Bags for life for booze runs and dragging a weeks worth of shopping back because you're too cheap for the bus.

MATTRESS PROTECTOR- you do not want to get stung with a massive deposit reduction due to leakages.

Mini handheld Hoover. They will one day be too hanging to let the cleaner in for the the bimonthly Hoover. I think once my room went 8 weeks without being vacuumed? So grim.

Lots of cereal bars and noodle cups to show away for 'nearly payday' and when you wake up at 9:51 before a 10am lecture.

Nice stabilo highlighters.

TheAwfulDaughter Sat 17-Aug-13 17:19:42

And the biggest extension plug known to man. Some of the budget halls will only have one plug at an awkward end of the room.

ISingSoprano Sat 17-Aug-13 17:20:31

Loving this thread - keep the ideas coming. grin

JGBMum Sat 17-Aug-13 17:28:34

First aid kit with paracetamol, freshers flu remedies, things for when they get run down eg cold sore cream, mouth ulcer relief etc

And chocolate, lots of chocolate.

Be a bit careful about getting a mini fridge - some places are really strict about things like that and don't let you have them unless you need one for medical reasons. I suggest checking.first.

mumeeee Sat 17-Aug-13 18:09:16

I agree with Purple DD1 and DD2 weren't allowed mini fridges in their halls. DD3 is allowed one but we won't be getting one as there is a lot of other expense and not sure she'd be able to fit one in her room. smile

Trumpton Sat 17-Aug-13 18:23:15

Door wedge so that the door can be wedged open if they want visitors or wedged shut if they don't.
Coat hangers .
Bicycle lock and metal filing box Like This to keep important bits in . Then the door does not have to locked every time they pop to the loo or kitchen. The bike lock can go through the handle and around the leg of something built in or through the hole in the desk.

ISingSoprano Sat 17-Aug-13 18:36:40

Ds would like to know your opinions on taking a TV please grin

OldRoan Sat 17-Aug-13 18:43:27

My sister gave me an ice shot glass tray (shot glass size/shape ice cubes) before I went to uni - you could only make 4 at a time, but my flatmate and I lined a freezer drawer with baking paper, popped them onto the baking paper and kept going until we had enough, then had a flat party. It was a nice bonding exercise working out how we could make them in bulk! I took skittles vodka (one bottle for each colour) for the first night, that was good fun.

A teapot/coffee pot - I shared a kitchen with 6 others, and 4 of us drank tea, but nobody had a teapot. We clubbed together to buy a cheapie Asda one and had nice hungover lazy afternoons.

Slippers with a decent-ish sole (or ugg boots or similar) and a dressing gown for middle of the night fire alarms. We were fined (supposedly) if you came out for a fire alarm with bare feet. I had a massive crush on the guy next door wanted to be prepared, so I kept uggs by my door, and my keys in my coat pocket, then if the fire alarm went off I was warm and dry, and not locked out. And I could sort my hair out in the time it took my flatmates to find something to wear out.

YY to door wedge.

JellicleCat Sat 17-Aug-13 18:50:17

Battery powered tea lights - dd's flats seem to be quite strict about no candles.

Maybe some spare batteries as well.

Thanks for the suggestion about the mattress protector, I hadn't thought of that and dd is prone to leakage (hence the coloured towels up thread).

Where do you get the battery powered tealights? They sound perfect.

MollyBerry Sat 17-Aug-13 19:01:39

Don't bother with tv. Everything can be watched on catch up I find plus you don't have to pay for a tv lisence that way.

The only caveat is if you use the screen for gaming then it is obviously useful but for actual tv, no, laptop is fine.

MollyBerry Sat 17-Aug-13 19:02:42

remus I got some battery tea lights at the 99p shop today. 4 for 99p ad they come with batteries which is handy

OldRoan Sat 17-Aug-13 19:05:15

Oh, those alphabet magnets little children have - gives people something to do in the kitchen rather than awkwardly standing around.

One of my flatmates had a home brewing kit. I'm not sure it was strictly allowed, but he was very popular!

One of those fabric folding bags that go in your handbag in a little pouch, for the odd occasion they make it to the library and want to take some books out.

Thanks, Molly.

mumeeee Sat 17-Aug-13 19:33:53

Don't take a TV they ( or probably you )would have to. pay for a TV license,

JGBMum Sun 18-Aug-13 08:22:08

Passport size photos for the different ID cards they need

sashh Sun 18-Aug-13 08:22:23

As well as electric tea lights ikea do fairly lights and stick on spot lights, can make a place look more like a home and can give light under shelf (there always seems to be a shelf over the desk).

spare mobile phone pre loaded with emergency numbers, you can get them for about £10 to £12.

If you have a teen who will be wearing a coat then you can sew a £20 into the lining so there is always money to get home.

Another vote for ear plugs and flip flops.

A big Tupperware box to go in the fridge so everything can be kept together.

If you/your ds dd have long hair then a supply of hairbands.

Toilet bag to carry essential to bathroom.

Overnight bag if they are coming home for weekends, or going to a friend's.

Buy a new duvet and leave it in the wrapping until you get there - saves loads of space in a car.

Blur tack and drawing pins to pins.

Photos of family / friends.

list of family birthdays.

QuiteOldGal Sun 18-Aug-13 08:56:34

Dark , or heavily patterned towels, bedding so as not to show dirt grin

Door stop

Nothing valuable

Those old lady type of square bags with zips round that you get from bargain shops for transporting stuff and leaving up there, doesn't take up space

One biggish rucksack/case for visits home. DS always seemed to cart loads to and fro.

sleeping bag for visiting friends

Ikea blue bags or like for laundry

Officiallyamazing Sun 18-Aug-13 09:33:58

Things to make the room feel more like home - I took loads of photos/posters to stick on the walls

QuiteOldGal Sun 18-Aug-13 09:48:16

DS insisted on getting a largish TV, 32" hmm for his student halls for gaming on. He had no available arial point in his room and did not tune it so did not have to get licence.

When he moved to student house he didn't use it a lot and now the TV is languishing in his room at home. It took up a lot of car space carting it about and now it is taking up a lot of space in our house, so I would say it wasn't that useful and is also another thing that could be stolen.

He watched a lot of i player and streamed stuff a lot on his laptop for TV watching in halls so they didn't have to get a licence until they were in the student house in the 2nd yr and watched the proper TV.

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 18-Aug-13 12:41:56

I was going to treat Dd to one of those micro firdges, just enough for a pint of milk & a choccy bar!

But sad Warwick doesn't allow electrical items like that or a kettle in the room-can understand why with PAT regulations.

But will treat her to a tea-pot as she does like her tea grin

OldRoan Sun 18-Aug-13 12:55:21

The square zip up bags are also good for laundry - better than the Ikea ones I think because you can zip them shut to carry to the washing machines. Dotcom gift shop has lots of different patterns.

A spiral bound diary that can be left open on a desk so you can see the week at a glance, but also taken to tutorials to write down deadlines.

Lilymaid Sun 18-Aug-13 13:21:51

Don't waste money on new single bedding if your DC is going into halls. By the second year they will be likely to be sharing houses with double beds as standard.
Charity shops are good for obtaining large amounts of odd cutlery etc at knock down prices - good for shared houses and normally better quality than cheap bendy cutlery.

alreadytaken Sun 18-Aug-13 13:51:53

if buying crockery remember to check it can be used in microwaves.

We added deodorant and those liquid washing things you throw into a machine to the plastic uni box today, with a tea towel and can opener.

dinasaw Sun 18-Aug-13 15:17:18

Keep a record of driving licence/passport numbers with you at home for when they lose them so you can quote the number to get replacements. Ds2 has lost his licence in night clubs twice this year.

alreadytaken Sun 18-Aug-13 15:30:01

forgot to say colour catcher sheets were reduced in Sainsburys so threw a box of those in. I have doubts about any washing getting done but if it does maybe everything doesn't have to go grey smile

TheAwfulDaughter Sun 18-Aug-13 15:33:50

Mine didn't allow any kettles or toasters or anything like that, Marple. Didn't stop up us having our own kettles and toaster machines...

TheAwfulDaughter Sun 18-Aug-13 15:36:27

Also, very important but don't expect your DC to listen to me, they'll come back with twice as much stuff. I ignore this second year.

I'm going to head over to S&B soon to sort out a capsule wardrobe for third year, and honestly take absolutely minimal stuff.

75% of their wardrobes won't get worn, and they'll probably buy a ton of stuff in the freshers flash sales where student discount is doubled at DP and Topshop and New Look.

trinitybleu Sun 18-Aug-13 15:46:16

from my own experiences ...

a few pairs of gloves / brollies. It was cold and wet when we were queuing up to register for modules. The girls I lent gloves and brollies to are still friends now, 20 years on!

Def something to share on the first night.

My aunty sent me a treasure box ... inside were a bottle opener, chocolate, tin opener, sweets, wooly socks, more gloves, cards, sparkly pens, post it notes, biscuits, photos etc etc. My housemates helped me unpack it all and it was totally fab.

mrspaddy Sun 18-Aug-13 15:57:26

A plastic tub for the fridge to stop it getting cheese, bacon etc. getting 'contaminated'.. yep.. was always glad of this.
A nice slouchy jumper. Lived in mine.
A little rug/ lamp/ sunflowers etc - to make the room their own.
A lot of A4 lined paper - went through a serious amount of this.
Student Diary - essential
Good bag
Vanish soap bar- handy for handwashing
Really good idea to have the photocopying card topped up
I read a lot - so a few books (didn't bother with TV)
Disposable cleaning cloths
Oil burner
Clothes Horse
Good few passport photographs

Diary! Brilliant - hadn't thought of that at all.

SilverApples Sun 18-Aug-13 16:13:55

I also send a goody box half way through the term, a shoebox with small treats and goodies in it. Like a Christmas stocking, just when all the excitement has worn off and they might be flagging a bit.
End of October and February. grin

noddyholder Sun 18-Aug-13 16:15:11

My ds is straight to a house so am off loading a lot of old stuff. My oldest friends 2 kids came to my town for university and I seem to remember a lot of stuff being carted around in her car at xmas and summer so will be keeping that in mind.

VenusRising Sun 18-Aug-13 16:22:06

Morning after pill.
Own razors and toothbrush - never share, hepatitis can live outside the body for a week.

Pot plant!
Flip flops. Big towel, wash bag, clothes horse for hanging towel to dry.

Gym gear/ togs.

Weighing scales for mindfully fighting the fresher fifteen (beer has huge amounts of calories)!

Your brain!
Course outline is very handy, and have a look at past papers and essays to see what's expected, and what the curriculum is so you can cut yourself some slack, and know what's ahead.

VenusRising Sun 18-Aug-13 16:23:44

Oh, a torch. And some string (girl guide much!?)

OldRoan Sun 18-Aug-13 16:26:09

Fizzy vitamin C tablets for mornings-after. Kick start any hangovers/pep you up if you weren't drinking.

I'll stop soon, sorry.

RustyBear Sun 18-Aug-13 16:27:38

DD's first phone call mentioned that her room was cold, so I sent her the fluffiest, cuddliest robe I could find. She said it really helped her to know I was thinking of her.

Her room had a mini fridge, but she t urged it off because it was so noisy - it was pretty crap at actually keeping things cold anyway.

Oh yes, CLOTHES HANGERS. There are never enough...

MABS Sun 18-Aug-13 16:38:17

great to read, thanks

mumeeee Sun 18-Aug-13 16:58:32

DD3 is underweight and trying to put weight on so she won't be worrying about being over weight grin

amumthatcares Sun 18-Aug-13 17:13:25

Picked up some fab tips here, thank you all. Love the idea of putting together a 'Fresher survival box' as previously suggested and am going to include ProPlus grin

FizzyFeet Sun 18-Aug-13 17:33:56

A couple of cushions or - if the room is big enough - a beanbag. Lots of sitting on the floor in halls!

Own corkscrew and tin opener.

Small jar of herbs (mixed or oregano) if self catering to cheer up pasta and tomato sauce.

Nice washbag for taking stuff to and from the bathroom, if it's communal.

inneedofrain Sun 18-Aug-13 19:06:26

Please note from my own uni years!

Do not decant kitchen herbs into small packs, there will be some interesting questions to ask! wink

NOT ME; but my room mate

ajandjjmum Sun 18-Aug-13 19:12:49

An academic year wall chart, to mark everything on. No DM around to continually remind them.

Doorstop to keep their door open, letting others know they're happy to talk.

goinggetstough Sun 18-Aug-13 19:47:19

I second the vitamin C tablets. I sent both mine back with them in the hope it would ward off Freshers flu or colds as the term progressed.

For the Survival Box|
- a stain devil for tomato based sauces to hopefully prevent clothes getting ruined from pasta sauces etc
- a few stamps

Not a "something to take" but do check the dates hall fees need to be paid, and the dates student loans arrive - DD1 found in her first year that the final must pay by now or you don't get your place deadline was 2 weeks before the loan arrived. Fortunately we were able to stump up the £1800 or so needed (then were paid back, that's also important wink), but could have been a massive problem

Littleen Sun 18-Aug-13 20:48:18

A little bedside table lamp is nice to have for living in halls

locks for your cupboard - I had such a massive issue with people stealing my food last year that I ended up buying a minifridge to keep in my room!

floor mat for the bathroom

scented candles (if the ventilation system isn't amazing, chances are you'll be high on the weed your neighbour smokes. It's a big problem, but scented candles atleast get the smell away.

plastic glasses (like those picnic ones) as they are likely to get broken if glass :P

I had my own kettle in my room, as the kitchen was too dirty for my taste, so I avoided it!

Washing up bowl - people leave everything in the kitchensink, so don't count on being able to wash up in it.

Top mattress, the ones they supply are not normally that comfy so you might want to add another one, or lots of blankets under your sheet!

mumeeee Sun 18-Aug-13 21:21:14

Littleen Bolton have put a padlock for your food cupboard on their list. each student has their own small cupboard not sure how big it is though, They don't allow candles which is just aswell as DD3 being Dyspraxic would probably burn herself or something,grin

JGBMum Sun 18-Aug-13 21:21:41

Hs anyone mentioned an extension lead, with extra sockets? There always seem to be more things than sockets to plug them into.

BroodyTroody Sun 18-Aug-13 21:28:24

Definitely a huge cake (or something to share with housemates!)

I found I really missed a full length mirror as that's not standard in many places...

Also, if you are going to take a TV, a freeview box is a little luxury too!

OldRoan Sun 18-Aug-13 21:31:07

Broody I remember calling the lift which had a mirrored wall opposite the doors for the sole purpose of checking my outfit. A floor length mirror would have been a sensible thing to buy!

CleverlyConcealed Sun 18-Aug-13 22:19:42

Top tips from me

Send them with the bedding they have at home - nice to have something familiar.

Send old towels - you will not get them back and if you do you won't ever want to use them again

ditto mismatched crocks/pots/cutlery from your kitchen - you never get everything back and it's often chipped etc

sandwich toaster

extension cable

door stop

flip flops for communal bathrooms

take photocopies of their important documents

remind them to register with the GP on campus

Finally - If you have young men and they don't have ensuite facilities send cheap disinfectant. They will piss in the sink in their room at night rather than wander down the hall. I can guarantee it.

mouldyironingboard Sun 18-Aug-13 22:36:17

Basic cook book

Student railcard

Small rucksack or sports bag for weekends home by train

Alarm clock and watch (for your early morning lectures)

Earplugs (for when your flat mates stay up and you have a 9am lecture)

Fleece type jumpers which dry quicker than woollens

A onesie to wear over clothes during the winter

Outfits for fancy dress during freshers (spare sheet/toga, striped t shirt/pirate etc)

arialultra Sun 18-Aug-13 22:36:48

A basic tool kit is always a good one that is often overlooked. I remember me and a flatmate building a bookcase with a boot as a makeshift hammer, it was very enterprising of us, but after that, I had a tool box with a hammer/screwdriver/nails/tapemeasure. Everyone wanted to be my friend, especially once we moved out of halls.

My advice would be to do a little bit of preparation work on your new subject before you go - especially if it's a completely new subject for you.
For example I went off to study geology (many years ago) and it might have been an idea to get my head round the different periods in geological history, and maybe a few other things, before my first lecture.
Not that that was particularly expected, but I just feel it would have been a better start for me - to begin taking more of an interest.
And they've all had a long enough holiday now surely !
Also at freshers week do join some interesting clubs or societies, that's the idea, as well as meeting new people.

Oh, and I thought the suggestion to take a cake, a bottle of something, and maybe a doorstop were all good, friendly ideas smile

Still18atheart Sun 18-Aug-13 23:55:46

Just finished my final year so this v much fresh in my mind.

Name plaque for door. All doors look v similar in the flat can get quite confusing on first few nights when coming in a bit worse for wear. Also reminds people who lives in what room.

Microwave tupperware type tubs
Remember that although it is August now and summery that in a few months it's going to be winter so, although it will seem unnatural pack scarves, hats, gloves etc.

DVDs Dad told me only to pack one or two, turned out I watched loads more than normal would due to not having a T.V

Mixing bowl
Orange b & q Bucket - handy for cleaning products storage in en - suits + sick bucket cleaning bucket
Step ladder - initially brought as the top shelf in my wardrobe was out of my reach. Ended up being a sort of table.
From the range I got a bedside locker. Only tiny but several drawers in it to keep jewelry etc.
Cushions to easily add the homely feel.
Pack of cards
Sewing kit
Pack things in Plastic boxes, handy for storage once moved in or as a washing basket. Not cardboard ones

Not to take...

Mum gave me her old weighing scales, they never ever left the box
Apron never worn
Iron - Always thought of buying one, neer actually needed it especially as clothes were immediatly removed from dryer and folder or hung- up. Jeans didn't even need it really. If I thought I did it need it I would defo would of brought one but just didn't

There are loads I could add, I will put thinking cap on.

Still18atheart Sun 18-Aug-13 23:57:51

yy to doorstop, although due to fire regs might need to be hidden during inspections.
Over the radiator dryer for wet towels or things which are still slightly damp
Old bath mat, even to put wet shoes on etc

Still18atheart Mon 19-Aug-13 00:08:06

Bedside light .. nothing pisses me off more than snuggling down with a good book only to then have to get out of my warm bed to turn a light off
Ofiice desk light and my work desk always seemed to be on the darkest corner of the room

How all of this all , fitted into my Dad's Ford Focus i will never know, + the books and everything

StabInTheDark Mon 19-Aug-13 00:46:36

Brilliant thread, very helpful! DD1 is off in a few weeks and is the first in the family. No experience whatsoever and really struggling with what to send her with- just marking my place to wait for yet more great suggestions!!

bucylen Mon 19-Aug-13 04:56:15

Has anyone mentioned lots of passport photos?
They were useful for joining union, clubs/socs. etc.

A cafetiere and some decent coffee.

MABS Mon 19-Aug-13 08:10:26

not sure dd knows what an iron even is...

Electric blanket! I froze in my halls.

MissMarplesBloomers Mon 19-Aug-13 08:43:59

redstarburst Dd & I are compiling lists from this thread, Uni numpties here too!

MrsWedgeAntilles Mon 19-Aug-13 08:50:45

A sieve.
My friend bought me one when I went into halls and the number of things you can use it for it staggering - as well as the usual sieve duties I used mine as a collander, I used it to steam things in over my boiling rice or potatoes, you can use it to get things out of the oil if you are deep frying.

Also very few people think to bring something like this with them so it helps the sieve owner get to know people as well.

A few people on here have said about sending them with old towels and bedding. When I went part of the excitement was kitting myself out with things that I'd chosen myself. It wasn't expensive, I went along to WhatEverys with my holiday job money (outing my greatly advanced age there) and I still have some of the stuff now, nearly 20 years later.
I do remember the mum of a friend of mine insisting that she took old stuff from the house and this friend being really upset that her mum wanted her to start her new life with ancient old towels and sleep under a Barbie duvet cover smile

shrinkingnora Mon 19-Aug-13 09:28:54

I do remember my friend complaining at lack of basic cooking stuff - she was a competent cook and had to improvise rolling pins from wine bottles etc

WhatWillSantaBring Mon 19-Aug-13 09:29:54

Don't go and buy your PFB a whole lot of brand new shiny kitchen essentials. I still (10 16 years later) remember the spoilt brat who screamed like a toddler when someone scratched one of her brand new pans. If you do have to buy something new (I got given a new wok, which was invaluable and the only saucepan I needed) explain to your DC that it will get used by other people who will not look after it, but that IT DOESN'T MATTER.

Agree on the wine/beer supply for bonding on the first few nights.

A large frameless frame with lots of photos in of friends (and a couple of your family) can make a room feel homely - but not too many pictures of your family otherwise people think you're a saddo. {Harsh but true}

A rag rug or ikea rug for the floor by your bed - again, makes it feel homely. Resist the temptation to buy matching curtains, rugs, duvets and pillows for your DC - again, it will look like they're tied to Mummy's apron strings.

Trills Mon 19-Aug-13 09:39:13

Check and check again regarding:
anything electrical (is it allowed)
anything that you put on fire (candles)
anything that you want to attach to the wall or the door (what attachment methods are permitted)

Lifeisontheup Mon 19-Aug-13 09:45:15

If you have a DD send them with a wheat bag to heat up in the microwave for period pains, comforting when Mum isn't there to make hot chocolate and fill hot water bottles, safer too.

First aid set with painkillers, lemsip and plasters. Make sure they know not to take lemsip and paracetamol plus a quick lesson on what to do if someone is really drunk, stick them on their side and get someone sober to stay with them.

A corkscrew/bottle opener and tin opener. A key chain to attach to belt so they don't forget/lose keys on nights out.

TallulahBetty Mon 19-Aug-13 10:11:36

Not sure if this has been mentioned, but a TV licence is needed if they have a TV in their halls room.

Mooster1709 Mon 19-Aug-13 10:16:48

My dad sent me off (this is some years ago now...) with a shoe box of emergency supplies to be opened if I was feeling miserable/lonely - a miniature of gin, a can of tonic, a packet of posh (i.e. non-studenty, probably with chocolate) biscuits, probably a novel or a magazine, a £10 note. I can't remember what else, but I remember thinking it was lovely, especially once homesickness/hangovers/disastrous men all started to hit home after the first few weeks of debauchery.

As little as is humanly possible - if the car is full taking them to uni, you won't fit everything in when they come home the next summer. When I went to uni (6 years ago), all my stuff fitted in the back of my dad's VW Golf. The following summer we had a struggle to get it and the stuff I accumulated into the back of a CR-V. I lived in self-catered halls of residence which were basically houses for 6 people.

* Laptop!!!!!! also if their hall doesn't have wifi, an ethernet cable.
* Good backpack that can fit their laptop. Useful for overnight/weekend bag too.
* Notebooks and pens.
* Academic diary/corkboard or whiteboard to plop on their desk.
* Table lamp/Desk light
* Alarm clock/iPod dock
* Hairdryer
* Towels (I took 2 bath sheets and 2 hand towels)
* Your own pillow from home - some halls might supply a duvet, check this first.
* Homely touches, but check what's allowed first. Most unis won't allow oil burners, candles, incense or posters/wall hangings.
* Mahoosive extension cable.
* Hot water bottle
* Shoes/trainers that are good for walking in - ballet pumps won't cut it for long, especially when winter comes.
* Paracetamol, Ibuprofen, Plasters, Allergy tablets (if needed), tweezers. BEROCCA!! Don't provide Pro-Plus, should really encourage them to avoid it at all costs and plan their time so they have to do minimal all-nighters. Nothing is worse than a pro-plus hangover...

Probably wouldn't bother with:
* Kitchen things, unless there's something you're REALLY particular about. Or at least wait until you're there and then go out and buy stuff. In first year me and my housemates ended up with 6 cheese graters and 3 toasters...
* Frozen home-cooked meals. As nice as it seems, there's nothing worse than somebody hogging most the freezer space with their mum/dad/gran's cooking leaving everyone else with a drawer between them. bitter experience
* Condoms - strange one, but student unions give them away for free by the bucketload during freshers week.
* Lots of books from home - everyone always has grand intentions of reading for fun, but when you spend most of your time reading for your course, a lot of my friends found the last thing they wanted to do was read some more. There's also reading guilt - "If I can sit here and read this then surely I should be reading for this essay instead..."
* Home baking/sharing booze - seems a nice idea at the time, but depending on your housemates/roommate it can set a precedent for you doing everything/being the house mum. Buying your own avoids drunken arguments about who has drunk whose beer/vodka/wine too. When you're a poor student nothing annoys more than expensive alcohol going missing.

I'm so jealous of everyone going off to uni for the first time, I loved my time there.

TheAwfulDaughter Mon 19-Aug-13 10:37:04

I second the backpack, I took wanky little handbags and messenger bags with me, and dreaded the 10pm walk to the library before an essay with 5 massive textbooks and my laptop hanging off one pained shoulder.

Mi-Pacs are nice smile I think I'll buy one! They are popular at my uni

StabInTheDark Mon 19-Aug-13 10:55:07

MissMarples Glad to hear we aren't the only ones! Have to admit to sitting here with a pen and paper grin

Love the idea of a photo board that someone mentioned! DD's birthday falls just before she leaves and her best friend has sneakily asked me for some family photos to go on a huge board that a few of them are making for her! Think there may be tears all round blush

dizliz Mon 19-Aug-13 11:00:17

I randomly stumbled across this thread whilst googling and joined the site to say my piece smile I graduated last year so things still fresh in my mind...

- I was the most disorganized student ever - I once missed an exam because I got Tuesdays and Thursdays mixed up! This completely saved my life and my degree... - you get a double page spread for each week, one side is a blank timetable that you can organize however you like, and the other is a blank page to write notes, assignments etc. I had all my lectures, deadlines, sports practices, nights out etc on there and it worked really well.

- Fancy dress items - student nights are all about the fancy dress, freshers week WILL feature a school night (pack a white shirt and old school tie) and also a UV night so a massive supply of glow sticks and UV paint will make for a very popular flat mate! If you have them lying around then other popular fancy dress themes that will come up are pirates, cops/robbers, superheroes/villains. Don't worry too much about these though - half the fun is trawling charity shops for suitable items.

- Don't forget swimming costume (actual costume, not just bikini) in case any of the water based sports (swimming, diving, water polo, underwater hockey, sailing, sub aqua, kayaking, canoe polo) take your child's fancy - uni is all about trying new things so expect any mildly sporty people to take up a new sport at some point. Also normal gym gear/ trainers etc.

- Don't be tempted to hang around for too long on dropping off day - my parents basically dumped me with all of my stuff and left me to it. I personally find it easier meeting my peers without my parents in the background avidly watching to see how well i'm going to make friends. Get them to their room, say goodbyes and leave money for first night pizza/take out/booze as socializing will take precedent over cooking. Also leave them to unpack with door open and music on - makes for a much more welcoming atmosphere to meet new flatmates. Posters from bedrooms at home make halls feel instantly familiar.

- Getting post in halls is really nice so send some goodies - ones that can be shared with friends/ flatmates always go down well. My friends mum always sent her stuff and so we all automatically liked her (the mum, we like our friend on her own merits).

- Put dvds etc in those travel sleeves so that you don't have to cart around all of the plastic cases, we watched loads of dvds in first year - nice night was always take out and dvd to recover from a week of hard partying.

- Now is a good time to check student forums (thestudentroom is the most popular) for uni specific threads - I found a few of my flatmates online before we had even met which was nice - already had had a few convo's over facebook before we actually met - took some of the scariness out of the first day)

- If they have friends going to the same uni then advise that they don't meet up until towards the end of freshers week, best to bond with flatmates and coursemates - I knew some people that came in pairs and were known as 'the other two' for the first few days as they spent most of their time together.

Hope this helps smile

YY to not meeting up with old friends until at least the end of freshers week.
AND to not hanging around too long after dropping off like dizliz says. My mum made my bed for me when I was dropped off, and we went to Morrisons to get some food supplies and then I was left to my own devices and to fend for myself. It was the best thing they could have done - I had to go out and find someone to help me set my laptop up for the uni network and speak to my flatmates myself rather than having awkward introductions with parents speaking for their kids.

I got a Jansport backpack in my first year and it is still going strong 6 years later.

YoungBritishPissArtist Mon 19-Aug-13 11:31:44

NO to bringing bathroom scales! angry

I found really helpful:

A wall planner of the academic year. These were given out in freshers week, iirc.

A pencil sharpener and rubber

A4 files and plastic wallets to organise my modules and work asap

Get local taxi numbers saved in phone

Hungryhouse and justeat apps on phone grin

alreadytaken Mon 19-Aug-13 12:00:55

cake in a mug recipe and ingredients going into our pack too.

sherbetpips Mon 19-Aug-13 12:30:07

ha this thread makes me laugh because my poor nephew has to try and get rid of tons of stuff every year. his mum resupplies everything again - if the police raided they would think he had a real issue with kitchen knives as he gets a new set every year. He has started taking the clothes straight to charity as he is happy with the ones he has!
throw away plates and cutlery are a must for the times when you cannot actually get to the kitchen sink because it is so full of others washing.

allmycats Mon 19-Aug-13 12:32:16

I have not read the whole thread but IME you need a Mattress Cover !!

SkiSchoolRun Mon 19-Aug-13 12:39:37

My flat mate's mum sent her off with a box of space cookies...grin I was sick hmm

oscarwilde Mon 19-Aug-13 12:51:22

A hot water bottle is essential to keep your feet warm while pulling an all-nighter at your desk
A nice refillable water bottle is really nice to have. Bottled water is expensive and there is usually somewhere you can refill a bottle.
Cleaning products and washing tablets cost a fortune, and weigh a ton from the supermarket. Lovely to have a few months supply when you are dropped off. Plus if the tools are there, it's a lot easier to encourage a minimum level of hygiene and the dreaded exit clean isn't quite so bad.
Wellies / snowboots if you have them.

BoffinMum Mon 19-Aug-13 12:54:20

A packet of Beechams for week 3, when they get Freshers Flu.
An emergency tenner in a special holder on a key ring.
A bike, pump, lights and helmet.

MsPickle Mon 19-Aug-13 13:17:12

Haven't read all posts so apologies if crossing but when I went (a long time ago) my Mum made me take tea and coffee. I didn't drink coffee then so I was baffled. But she said, wisely, you might want to use offering a beverage as an ice breaker. So I also had a bag of sugar.

She also made me a fruit cake.

And then used to send me them occasionally. They were much appreciated. Although I had to ask her to double them up as they disappeared so fast in the common room...

happygirl87 Mon 19-Aug-13 13:29:57

Framed photos, any end-of-school/college memorobilia (e.g. signed book/t-shirt)- the most useful things I had were plug extensions, mini fridge, toastie maker (jazzes up verycheap bread and cheese no end) and heated airer.

TreeMonkey Mon 19-Aug-13 13:54:22

I'm skim-reading here so it may have already been mentioned but get at least 4 passport photos done before heading off.

Yearly bus pass, sports/gym card, NUS card.... probably more if I can think back that far all needed a picture.

The queues for the photobooth at the beginning of the year were epic.

BikeRunSki Mon 19-Aug-13 13:59:24

An open mind is essential

I graduated over 20 years ago and still have some of the blue and white stripey fake Cornishware and blue handled bistro cutlery my mum bought me to go with.

TreeMonkey Mon 19-Aug-13 14:02:18

MrsWedgeAntilles - just read about the Barbie duvet cover. I spent three years sleeping in a single bed with my uni boyfiend under a collection of children's characters - Thomas the Tank Engine, a fire engine, even a Baywatch Pamela Anderson cover hmm

There's a cracking cook book called "how to boil an egg". It's a bit like the old (70's?!) marmite cook book - no frills and fancies, no pictures, but just really good basic instructions on how to cook cheaply for one, and easily for a group. It was written by a mum who's son was going to uni, and I had it for freshers and still have it now eight years on - it beats the posh picture recipe books every time!

I second the fancy dress stuff, and also a couple of 'nice' things - there's often a freshers ball, so it's good to have clothes for that!

I think the other thing that's good to remember is that, as long as you've got the essentials, it's not like early september is the only time to buy stuff - you (student or parent) can pick something up any time of the term, and that can limit the 'just in case' packing. I picked up stuff like a toasty maker half way through my first term, because a friend in a different halls had one that we thought was amazing...

millymae Mon 19-Aug-13 14:47:52

All the essential things have been mentioned, but my 2 tips would be take towels that are big but not too thick. I was the envy of my friends because my towels dried really quickly in the dryer. They came from somewhere like Wilkinsons and saw me through 3 years of uni and are still being used today when I take the DC's swimming!!. Also my mum packed me a mattress protector - I raised my eyes at that one, but when I saw the state of the mattress I was glad I had it.

milk Mon 19-Aug-13 14:54:49
ISingSoprano Mon 19-Aug-13 14:56:39

some great advice here - thanks everyone.

Ds and I have just got back from a shopping trip and have heeded lots of the advice about not taking too much. We have had a lovely morning, he is so excited about starting his course grin

I had a school friend at the same Uni and I think we met up quite early on, but still both made lots of new friends anyway. I think saying hello to someone you know is quite reassuring and friendly, so wouldn't wait a whole week on a self-imposed ban personally !
But you do want to make some new friends too eg. on your course/ in your corridor.

MissMarplesBloomers Mon 19-Aug-13 15:24:02

Wow great advice here thanks all. <re-sharpens pencil> grin

DD has already got herself a Dodo AcadPad as she's seen how useful my one is!

I think we will have at least one box of stuff that we might not need but will take, I can see if everyone is being minimalist she'll end up with either no kettles/toasters or 8 ! Would rather take it away again if not needed.

I am torn between the fun of buying new/own bedding etc with it's expense & the economic but tattier second hand stuff that we might not get back but won't care!

Now big question, I know it is better to have ones own laptop but is it feasible to cope without (or with small notepad) if absolutely skint?
(Are there grants available once enrolled?)

I ask because my DD always works better in a library/classroom setting, and is quite focussed, mainly because she is so easily distracted once back home/in halls. So she could use the ones provided. I plan on getting her a good external hardrive for storage but really can't stretch to a new lappy with all the other stuff to get.

ISingSoprano Mon 19-Aug-13 15:32:35

We have split the difference on bed linen - one set from home, one new set! Ds doesn't drink tea or coffee so we haven't bought a kettle yet but we did buy a cheap sandwich toaster (£6 in Sainsburys).

BoffinMum Mon 19-Aug-13 16:23:37

Any old laptop will do because universities have the fastest network connections in the country (they invented the internet and are responsible for planning and updating the infrastructure on behalf of the rest of us).

A cheap printer and some spare cartridges would be a complete blessing though, as well as a packet of printer paper, as printing out can cost as much as 5p a page in the library.

TBH I think there's a case for taking as little as possible and then doing a charity shop/Argos/IKEA run once you are there and have seen what's needed. But I know people like to pack up the car like it's a refugee situation.

BoffinMum Mon 19-Aug-13 16:25:35

The computers provided are usually in separate rooms from the library books, so that's not always ideal. Students now link up wirelessly during lectures and in the library etc with Eduroam and multitask anyway. It's a more efficient way of working really.

BoffinMum Mon 19-Aug-13 16:26:40

PS A tablet computer is really handy in lectures and so on. That might be a good alternative to a posh laptop for everything but writing essays.

pianomama Mon 19-Aug-13 16:33:41

Sorry to barge in late smile. Speaking from (x4) recent experience - best to let them figure out what they need/can afford on the budget. Going to uni is important step into independence , so let them figure it out smile. It is hard to believe but they are actually not children anymore - just let them go and make their own mistakes mummies smile All mine became very good cooks, learned to organize themselves , budget etc. Of cause they will still need money.. And think of a good shoulder to wet after you dropped them off, it is very very sad ...

alreadytaken Mon 19-Aug-13 17:01:16

laptops need not cost a fortune, although spending more will get faster and lighter ones

If at all possible any cheap old laptop will do so long as it has a decent word processing package on it and your DD has a USB stick to back up to. The university libraries will have pcs, but you can't guarantee access to one by any stretch of the imagination. As Boffin has said, the books are more often than not in different rooms to the computers, so she'd have to leave her workstation to go and take books out, and the library may have rules about leaving workstations unattended, especially at busy times. The stress of having to queue for a shot of a quick access PC to print out coursework still gives me a cold shiver. Having used a tablet and a laptop (DP has an iPad), I find it far easier to work on my laptop, especially when lots of typing is involved. If you're not able to buy a laptop for your DD, check with the university's IT Services to see if they have laptops available to loan out. One of my housemates loaned a decent IBM laptop from the IT services people during 1st and 2nd year until she saved the money to buy her own laptop for honours (4 year Scottish MA).

alreadytaken Mon 19-Aug-13 17:03:40

Depending on any future budget for a laptop check out - check if your daughters university is taking part because she could get one under the National Notebook and Desktop Agreement which gives students a decent discount off new computers.

SlowlorisIncognito Mon 19-Aug-13 17:24:37

Halls rooms are often tiny, and halls kitchens are too for the number of people sharing them, so as little as humanly possible. If you can't fit it all in a family sized car, then it's probably too much stuff.

Their wardrobe in halls will be smaller than their wardrobe at home, so taking all of their clothes may not work. Also limit the number of shoes- when you're lacking in floor space, it's hard to find places to put 10 pairs of shoes. However, a sensible pair of boots for when it gets icy/snows are pretty much a must.

For the kitchen, if nothing is provided, I would say you can easily get away with 1 saucepan, 1 frying pan, one baking tray, 2 plates, 2 bowls and 2 sets of cutlery.

The main thing not to forget is all the important paperwork needed for enrollment. Having 2 forms of ID is pretty useful too. And passport photos.

goinggetstough Mon 19-Aug-13 17:29:22

Reading slow's comments reminded me of another tip. As she mentioned the wardrobes are small so it is best to bring wire coat hangers as you can get more stuff in rather than the wider wooden ones. Wilkinsons sold them cheaply last year.

muckypuppy Mon 19-Aug-13 17:59:36

Not something to take but check your home insurance. Some policies cover students belongings up to a certain amount, usually between £2k and £5k as long as they return home during the holidays.

If your home insurance doesn't cover students belongings get a specific student policy but check limits for valuables and if they cover mobiles. Many student policies either don't cover mobiles at all or will only cover them if they're specified regardless of the value.

Wibblypiglikesbananas Mon 19-Aug-13 18:22:26

Pianomama - absolutely agree. It's ten years since I left uni but I'd have died if my parents had been doing all this on my behalf. I worked, saved, and bought what I needed as I was an adult!

MissMarplesBloomers Mon 19-Aug-13 19:04:38

Pianomama & Wibblypig But that's the whole idea of this thread wink

DD & I are enjoying reading everyones tips & doing this together but it's down to her in the end.

No way am I doing all the work FOR her but it is fun doing these lists WITH her.

funnyperson Mon 19-Aug-13 19:27:31

Those small notebook thingys are fine as long as they have a wordprocessing package, internet, powerpoint and excel. a dongle can be handy too. I fact they are better than a full size laptop because more portable and better than a tablet because they have a keyboard and cheaper office software. Unless doing some weird science course.

I think it is useful to sit down and go through the budget together on a spreadsheet just so that everyone is clear what comes from the student loan co, what from parents, what from other rels and what from jobs and also what the outgoings are going to be and which accounts they are going to come out of and when. My sis added the interest on the student loan and put it under 'debts' on her DC's spreadsheets.

funnyperson Mon 19-Aug-13 19:30:56

Also it is useful to establish where bank and student loan correspondence is going to go to, and the arrangements for DC to open it and agree where to file it and keep it.

funnyperson Mon 19-Aug-13 19:38:49

Also it is useful to discuss next summers holiday budget in advance: suggest they put money aside every month right from the start, that sort of thing.
Also keep some money in hand which you don't tell them about to give them six weeks into this first term, because it is an expensive first term, and they havent got the hang of budgeting and will most likely run out so you can top up the groceries or whatever.
Also look at the list of recommended textbooks/reading and make sure there is a budget to get them or that they are reserved from the library. Textbooks and reading lists can be really expensive and DC may not like to tell you they couldn't afford to buy them and missed the last one out of the library.

Mandy2003 Mon 19-Aug-13 19:41:41

Slightly OT buy how easy is it to survive at uni without a parent to give you and your luggage a lift in a car at the start and end of each term?

Is it possible? I am a single parent who doesn't drive and although it will be 3 years before DS goes to uni (if he still wants to) I'd like to think ahead.

BikeRunSki Mon 19-Aug-13 20:01:12

Mandy, my mother drives, my father didn' t, but he was too ill to be left for long, so she left me tinthe.mercy of Network Rail. It was fine. I imagine now everuthing is smaller ( iPods, laptops) it would be even more fine.

FizzyFeet Mon 19-Aug-13 21:31:01

Drawing pins and/ or blu tak. No point taking posters if you can't put them up! Good way to make friends with people who've forgotten, too.

LittleBearPad Mon 19-Aug-13 21:43:28

Mandy it's also possible that your DS could arrange lifts if need be or at least for some of his possessions to be transported whilst he gets a train. It will be ok.

Mandy it's totally do-able - thousands of overseas students manage it, they just have to be selective about what they take with them. Enough to fit in 2 large cases and a backpack, for example.

smallandimperfectlyformed Mon 19-Aug-13 22:04:02

Mandy I'm from London and went to uni in Scotland by public transport - coaches and/or trains. The first coach was hard as I took loads of stuff but I got better at travelling light! I'm sure he'll be fine.

Fairdene Mon 19-Aug-13 22:14:30

Emergency condoms?

MissMarplesBloomers Mon 19-Aug-13 22:14:36

Thanks for the links about lappy's. She's working on her dad for a contribution hoping he'll buy her one grin

Fairdene Mon 19-Aug-13 22:22:42

That was to Jellicle on p1, definitely not a suggestion.

I agree with Boffin: take the minimum, there are always incredibly good start of year deals in whichever town or city you're in.

Also for anyone traveling by train or coach (eg Mandy's DS) you don't have to take everything in one go. You could always come home for the weekend after a few weeks, which might be nice anyway ? (though of course slightly expensive depending on distance)

Debs75 Mon 19-Aug-13 22:31:43

Joining so I can sort out a box for DD to take when she gets in next year.
I am dreading the amount of stuff she will need especially as I will be at Uni as well so very little money going around atm

Mermi Mon 19-Aug-13 22:32:22

Going into my 3rd year at uni at the moment. There are loads of really good suggestions already but one thing I did was get loads of photos printed before I went (lots of companies do your first 50 photos free and you just pay postage).
I was all by myself the first night there (no one in my flat was interested in talking to anyone else) so sticking up 200 photos gave me something to do, it was a great talking point whenever anyone came in and made it really feel like home.

Really agree with everyone who says take the minimum - you can always get it while you're there and the cupboards can rarely fit 8 of everything in them :P

OldRoan Mon 19-Aug-13 22:44:53

Mandy one of my flatmates always went to uni on the train - he arrived for freshers' week with a holdall, a laptop bag, and a saucepan. Definitely doable, even if you are not so good at travelling light!

Thank you for this thread.
DD off to Sussex and we are gathering and plotting right now.
Most of you will have done this already, but we have a National Express card and a railcard for cheaper travel

But all your ideas and experience are really helpful. We have a good list building up from this thread. Thank you

Oh, and I LOVE your name OP (heeeeheeeeheeeeheee)

VenusRising Mon 19-Aug-13 23:28:00

Yes, there are shops in university towns, and, amazingly, they stock things students might need.

vertex Tue 20-Aug-13 00:04:24

Insurance; a decent bike but nothing flashy; cycle helmet; D Lock for bike; Laptop; a couple of decent sized USB Flash Drives; A copy of Delias Cooking for One; Access to an emergency cash fund in a deposit account that they can only access with your permission; Mobile phone

alreadytaken Tue 20-Aug-13 07:50:01

as freshers flu has been mentioned - low income form to claim exemption from prescription charges/ dental costs

Not sure if they can claim or not but worth finding out, especially if they are on any regular medication

Mandy you can get suitcases/ a trunk delivered. Some kind people posted a link for me to companies that do this. There are also firms that do storage for the vacations if needed.

Santander currently offering a free 4 year railcard

goinggetstough Tue 20-Aug-13 08:21:52

My DC has just insured his bike. Do check your policy before buying a bike lock as many specify the grade of lock that the policy will cover.

jammiedonut Tue 20-Aug-13 10:16:26

A colander, tin opener, corkscrew. Any expensive branded treats that they won't want to spend the extra pounds on themselves. A family sized box of washing powder and softener (and instructions how to use it!). Plenty of booze to help breaking the ice in freshers week. Warm linen, towels, dressing gowns. Plenty of underwear. Stuff from room at home to give uni room a personal touch. One of those HUGE bags of pasta from Tesco so there's always something to eat. Bright blue plates from ikea so you an easily spot what's yours. Four sets of everything (glasses, cutlery, mugs etc).
I can't think of anything else I needed, or used. Do whatever you can to make it easy inthe first few weeks. Mum and DSD took me food shopping when we arrived to fill the cupboards (lasted me pretty much a full term!), and gave me some money to buy a round at the bar on the first night.

Can I play devil's advocate and wonder why DD isn't sorting out her own stuff for uni? I'd have been very unimpressed if my mum had got in any way involved with my uni packing almost 20 years ago and equally so if my kids want that in a few years time! Surely the role of the parent is simply confined to taxi to driving her there at the start of the first year, and possibly helping her carry her stuff up all the stairs (not that my parents did the carrying part, dad had a bad back and mum somehow had an unquestioned never expected to carry anything heavier than a handbag immunity)? confused grin

SilverApples Tue 20-Aug-13 12:11:58

Sometimes it's just fun to be involved, as if they are launching out on an expedition and you are helping them prepare.
Technically all the DD needs is clothing, washkit and cash. Less fun. smile

ShrinkingViolet83 Tue 20-Aug-13 12:32:26

I haven't read all of the posts so I could have missed someone saying this already but my mum made sure I had a thermometer and knew how to recognise the symptoms of meningitis. No one I knew had meningitis while I was a student but students are all suitably scared of meningitis and think they've got it whenever they have a rash so it was useful to know what to look for and to be able to reassure people.

larry5 Tue 20-Aug-13 12:36:50

alreadytaken dd had an NHS exemption form for all the time she was at uni which was very useful for the prescriptions and dental charges.

amumthatcares Tue 20-Aug-13 12:43:16

Larry5 I have the form to fill in, can you tell me what the benefits are? Thanks

GingaNinja Tue 20-Aug-13 13:27:52

Def yes to insurance particularly for those going to big cities (eg Manchester). And if you have a list of their jabs/diseases ie have they had measles, chickenpox etc give them a copy to give to the gp they really ought to register with while away at uni. Also BIG YES to meningitis symptoms - Manchester ran a big campaign most years I think 20+ years ago when I went (old woman cough) but sadly there were still a couple of people who did get it, and badly.

Oh, and we had no fridge in halls so don't assume there will be one! The hall I was in was - allegedly - catered so our 'kitchen' had a cooker (2 speeds, on or off) and a 3 legged table with Jurassic formica on top. We just slung the milk in a carrier bag and hung it out the window. I presume the days of gas fires are gone too...? but warm robe/slippers also good. Main thing is to enjoy themselves!

alreadytaken Tue 20-Aug-13 14:36:38

thanks larry5, it's the summer job that's making me wonder.

amumthat cares they get dental charges free (if you have an NHS dentist) and also free prescription charges and free sight tests/glasses if they need them. Two dental appointments a year costs 36 pounds if you just have the check-up, a filing would add another 31 pounds. If they have to pay they can reclaim but easier to get the certificate in advance.

Dackyduddles Tue 20-Aug-13 14:39:04

If in halls for first year then put a noteboard and wipe off marker board on your own door. That way friends etc can leave messages for you if you are out. You might not want to hand out your mobile number like water so if others in the same halls pop over they mightnt know it to text you.

Was highly useful when I went even with mobiles etc.

amumthatcares Tue 20-Aug-13 14:52:23

Thank you already - will definitely apply smile

Murtette Tue 20-Aug-13 16:46:49

My tips (from 20+ years ago):
- take cake & alcohol to share on the first night
- take photos of home (favourite places as well as family & friends)
- have three sets of bedding (very annoying if you've actually bothered to change your bed so one set of bedding is in the wash & friend then spills a mug of coffee over your clean set... remember bed will be used as a sofa a lot)
- abandon whites. So no white underwear (and therefore no white or pale tops) as its much easier to shove in one wash all at the same time
- send them actual parcels during the first few weeks. Anything goes. Yes, things like vouchers are particularly appreciated but I'd often get a bag of maltesers or a pair of tights & they were brilliant too.

As for the posters saying why aren't the DC sorting it out by themselves, why should they? I was excited and nervous about university & had little idea of what I'd need on a day to day basis. My parents did have some idea, both from their own Uni days and from their experience of running a house. They were also nervous & excited about me going to university and one way they could deal with the nervousness was to make sure they had done everything they could to equip me for it in a practical sense as well as an educational & emotional sense.

snowy91 Tue 20-Aug-13 16:51:57

I graduated last year. this list is adapted from the one on the student room site which is ridiculous (half the stuff you'll never use)..

•Duvet/quilt covers
•Pillow cases
•Underblanket/mattress protector
•Alarm Clock
•Door wedge
•Hot water bottle
•Clothes wash basket/bin/bag (bag for lives work well)
•Clothes – casual and going out ones
•Extension leads Get surge protected ones to protect valuable equipment
•Laptop case/bag
•USB memory sticks
•Ink (colour & black for inkjet, toner for laser)
•Antiseptic cream
•Cold/flu remedy
•Throat lozenges
•Nail Scissors
•Small casserole dish
•Small frying pan
•Wok or large frying pan (with lid)
•Saucepans (2)
•Flat baking tray
•Tin opener
•Bottle opener
•Vegetable peeler
•Garlic crusher
•Cheese grater
•Microwavable bowl
•Measuring jug
•Chopping knives
•Chopping board
•Cutlery (knives, forks, spoons) (bright handles!)
•Crockery (plates, bowls, mugs, cups) (not plain white!)
•Recipe book
•Clothes horse
•Coat hangers!!!!!!!
•Holdall or weekend bag
•A4 file paper / notebooks with tear out sheets
•Permanent all-surface Ruler
•Pencil case
•White Tack
•Hole puncher
•Paper clips
•Post-it Notes or flag markers
•Elastic bands
•Lever-arch folders
•Paper/plastic wallets

SilverApples Tue 20-Aug-13 16:56:08

DD has a HUGE chopping board. That way she could guarantee that there was one clean spot in the kitchen to prepare food on. grin

It was a loooong time ago, but all that stationary stuff in the list ? - I'm fairly sure I bought that from the student union shop when I got there eg. in freshers week - might as well leave them something to do?

Hadn't quite realised everyone would have printers and all that paraphenalia - our early 80s gear seems so simple in comparison !

SilverApples Tue 20-Aug-13 18:17:18

Try the 70s, Juggling. We didn't have locks on our rooms as there was zilch worth stealing. grin

snowy91 Tue 20-Aug-13 18:30:14

My Uni's SU shop cost about double the amount as wh smiths....
and my campus was in the middle of no where so but to town which i didn't really want to have to do in freshers so i took it with me...

printers...optional but it helps! printing costs a fortune on campus and it's easier to just be able to print stuff in your room rather than mess around with memory sticks and running to the library last in my 2nd/3rd yr i lived in town so would have had to bus it into campus anytime i want to print anything

Fairdene Tue 20-Aug-13 18:57:11

MrTumbles my DC sort it themselves, with a small individual contribution from me and then I do confine myself to driving/ lugging/ making up the first bed/ taking out to lunch. And then when the freshers stuff starts I push off.

I did say I was playing devil's advocate with my question Murtette smile but equally when I was that age going to uni was my adventure/ big step into independence, or whatever, and the thought of my mother muscling in with to do lists and opinions on what colour plates I should take would have made me -fume-- feel cheated out of a proportion of that independence, and to be honest somewhat infantilised, no matter how good the intentions. By 18+ an adult should be packing their own suitcase and doing their own research into what they need (special needs excepted of course) surely?

I wonder whether things have changed with regards to how involved parents are in the minutia of their young adult children's lives, in recent years.

SilverApples Tue 20-Aug-13 19:58:41

Depends on the individual I suppose, my DD liked the collecting and ideas, she vetoed some of them. Others may have found it intrusive, but we've known each other 22 years now.
However, I confused people on a different thread because she sorted out all her own finances and accommodation and I had no idea what her maintenance loan was worth.

ISingSoprano Tue 20-Aug-13 21:04:02

Yes, they are 18+ adults but in the case of my ds, an adult who has never lived away from home. Surely an important life skill is to know when to ask for advice?

snowy91 Tue 20-Aug-13 21:09:22

My mum helped me to buy everything.
I however made the list myself....mum helped me pack some boxes as i tried but was really struggling to get things to fit into the boxes but most things i packed myself.

parents bought my 1st food shop and helped me unpack and bought me lunch then returned home...after that i was mainly on my own (parents were there for advice etc)

We're enjoying making the list together. I still remember my nerves/excitement when my mum took me to buy new bedding when I started uni, 25 years-ish ago! smile

Ive bought my uni bound neighbour a set of small screwdrivers & I will give him a jar of coffee and nice biscuits.
Is that an ok good luck at uni gift ?

StabInTheDark Tue 20-Aug-13 23:12:52

Remus my DD LOVES list making. I can't bear it.

She's desperate for me to take her for new bedding and stationary too. I gave her the money and told her she could go with a friend but she's adamant we do it together. Quite sweet really smile Can she just come with you please?!

Ooh yes - send her to Brum with her list! smile

MissMarplesBloomers Tue 20-Aug-13 23:22:12

Well thanks MrTumbles for pissing on our friendly light hearted thread. sad

I am in no way "muscling in" on my DD's adventure, nor are any other parents posting here that I can see. She is going to the Uni of HER choice that SHE has applied to and got funding for.

If you had bothered to read all the posts you'll see its a mix of experienced uni mums, freshers mums, and students current & past. All offering various great ideas & tips that can be shared WITH the would be fresher not organised FOR them.

Some parents actually enjoy helping their kids off on their next stage. I feel sorry for you if you didn't get to share that with yours.

If anyone else has a pop about bloody helicopter parenting I shall have to have another large sherry!!!!!

<waves to Norks>

StabInTheDark Tue 20-Aug-13 23:34:18

What Marples said!!

StabInTheDark Tue 20-Aug-13 23:35:58

DD would be horrified if I muscled in. She's far more organised and prepared than I am anyway and knows much more about it. hence me trying to educate myself a little

MissMarplesBloomers Tue 20-Aug-13 23:39:58

Exactly RedStar grin

DD just looked over my shoulder to see what I was huffing about & muttered summat along the lines of " I'd like to see you bloody try"

alreadytaken Wed 21-Aug-13 07:25:59

doesn't it occur to any of the "helicopter parenting" people that perhaps our teens have learnt that important life skill and actually asked for advice? Mine has done their Gold DofE and arranged almost all of it themself (they asked for help with food) but when it comes to university they actually want to share the excitement and their friends are working when they are free to shop. Perhaps your teenagers didn't want to share that with you because you tried to spoil their fun.

Mine is fussy about stationery so will have enough to tide them over the first few weeks.

Neither of us would have thought about the chopping board without this thread, we're now going to get one. Not going to bother with a garlic crusher, though, you can crush garlic with a knife if you hit it hard enough (and mine isn't that much of a cook)

SilverApples Wed 21-Aug-13 07:54:46

She is my daughter, but this is now her fourth year away from home. She's always been comfortable about saying if I was over-helping, and I've always respected that.
We have a good relationship, so sniping from strangers doesn't bother me really. grin
I also agree that asking for advice and help is an adult skill, along with evaluating what you are told and making up your own mind.

FourGates Wed 21-Aug-13 08:12:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

chemenger Wed 21-Aug-13 09:57:04

One thing students never seem to have .....a stapler! Some things are still handed in on paper and amazingly, folding over the corners of 4 or 5 sheets of paper and dropping it in a submission box is not as good as a stapler, at lest if you want me to mark all the pages. I still use the stapler my mum bought me for university after thirty odd years so a good one is an investment.
In science subjects check if there is a specific calculator required for exams, use it all the time so you are used to it.
Also please advise freshers not to have a raging hangover when they first meet their personal tutor or equivalent, its obvious and not very pleasant, especially if they still reek of alcohol from the night before.

MABS Wed 21-Aug-13 10:18:55

good idea re stapler!!! she all registered, filled all in, tenancy agreement signed, 250 deposit paid, we off to Asda shortly for first shop of essential stuff etc...very real! she far more interested that she found 6 new people on fb and TSR going to same accom, so bought 3 fresher events tickets so far... priorities huh??!!

wordfactory Wed 21-Aug-13 10:20:16

Helping teens out with their packing is not helicoper parenting. And it's not new.

I had the antithisis of a modern, middle class, MN upbringing, but my entire family helped me out when I went to university!!!

An Auntie bought me a bin grin, and Nana bought me a dictionary!!!

A man a few doors down lent my Dad a car, and he and Mum drove me down with my stuff, much of which had been suggested by them and then begged, borrowed or stolen from anyone and everyone.

It was a huge experience for us all and one none of us would have passe dup for the world. I still have that dictionary!

Helping your children go off to uni isn't helicopter parenting, any more than helping them move into their first flat would be.
I was 17 when I went to university - I organised my application and funding myself, I had a part time job while I was still at school to save money up for getting a laptop and the essentials to take. That didn't stop me wanting to get, and valuing, my mum's opinion on things. I had never lived away from home before and even though I knew how to cook, I didn't know how to do a food shop. I wanted to know if my mum thought the towels I was looking at were any good, or if the bedcovers would be ok, or if the cutlery set I was looking at was rubbish.

A lot of the stationary things don't need to all bought at once, it can be accumulated over the course of the year. WRT printers - check the university website to see if students get any free printer credits at the start of the year. Try and work out how much it could cost to just use the library printers vs buying and maintaining a printer of their own. I had my own printer in my room, but largely it only for emergencies, and used the uni ones because it was cheaper to buy credits than it was to get new ink cartridges.

There is another thread running at present which talks about the things you remember your mother doing. I have have avoided it as my memory of my teens and early twenties is that my mother had stopped caring sad

Looking back I know that it was because my father was ill and all her compassion was centred on him, but I collected my O level and A level results, went to university and planned my wedding without any input from my parents. I know I was selfish for even considering that I needed attention.

I think my parenting style is different from my mother's. My DC KNOW that I am interested in all that they do unless it is yet another sleb gossip chat DD2

DD1 went shopping with me for her first year stuff. She sussed out that if I'm with her I will pay and she could save her precious earnings for Freshers! We will go shopping soon to get her second year stuff and I'm sure the same payment rules apply.

Another item to add to the list for this year is a CO alarm. She is moving into a house and SHE wanted one for peace of mind.

SilverApples Wed 21-Aug-13 11:49:57

It's rather nice that so many of us seem to actively like and enjoy the company of our children, and that it is reciprocated.
I've mentioned before how shocked DD was when she was in her first year and so many students announced their intention to never return home again. Not even for Christmas.
She hadn't got much of a clue about how many dysfunctional familial relationships there were as a matter of course, one or two of her friends had trouble but the majority like their families, whilst being able to enjoy being adults.
This is a happy thread. smile

You weren't selfish to hope for some support with those big life events Woolly, whatever the circumstances at home. I'm sorry your Mum didn't feel able to offer more encouragement, she might have enjoyed it too after all x

MABS Wed 21-Aug-13 14:17:11

not selfish at all Woolly, I had little suppor either. DD does seems to appreciate my input, tho is more interested in vodka and Galaxy being bought than the staplers etc I am listing...

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 21-Aug-13 14:47:24

<adds stapler to list>

We must have an update of this thread after they all get settled to see what were the best bits !!

MABS Wed 21-Aug-13 15:00:00

agree miss marple

OldRoan Wed 21-Aug-13 15:02:32

A thing to know, rather than take - my university doctor had a system where if you asked for an emergency appointment for the morning after pill, they guaranteed to get you one within the time limit needed to take it. I know you can go to a pharmacy, but it's expensive and students don't always have a spare £30. I think it's free from the GP, but I might be wrong.

I assume this is standard medical practice, but I certainly didn't know it was A Thing before going to university and I was relieved knowing it was there as a safety net.

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 21-Aug-13 15:54:19

Good idea oldroan

DD is going to be like a kiddy in a sweetie shop with all these men & is quite naive so although I am issuing her with condoms I think I'd better have the pill discussion with her too.

Talking of things medical, what paperwork will be needed to sign on at the Uni Health Centre?

LittleBearPad Wed 21-Aug-13 16:00:57

Very useful to take NHS card / number.

Also passport for opening bank accounts if not done already.

An emergency credit card was also useful.

OldRoan Wed 21-Aug-13 16:12:46

We had to prove we were within the catchment area, even as students of the university (although all the halls of residence were), so a copy of something with her term time address would be helpful, as well as NHS card.

I also took a copy of the list saying which vaccinations I had had - not sure if that was my mum being cautious or an official requirement from university. Can't hurt though.

ISingSoprano Wed 21-Aug-13 17:07:12

Ds is off on ten days hols on Friday so we have had a mad week trying to get stuff sorted out. He still hasn't heard about his accommodation though and is getting a bit twitchy about that!

I am pleased to report that we bought a stapler today grin

MABS Wed 21-Aug-13 18:06:22

stapler - you and me both then smile

ISingSoprano Wed 21-Aug-13 18:57:55

Haha - high five then MABS grin

Lifeisontheup Wed 21-Aug-13 19:32:18

My DS is off to Venice to spend his third year at uni there, anyone got any bright ideas of necessities? I'm thinking about bank accounts, phones, internet etc.
Anyone live there and have any specific advice? He's got a place in halls there but they have to eat in the canteen so no kitchen stuff needed.

unknownrebelbang Wed 21-Aug-13 19:35:23

DS1 has been given a "uni starter pack" (basically a couple of gifts bags full of stationery etc) by a friend of his. Is that classed as helicopter-friendship? hmm

Ooh, off to Venice Lifeis smile
How gorgeous
What course is he on ?
Do you have to be good at languages ?

< considers doing second degree grin >

ISingSoprano Wed 21-Aug-13 19:44:56

Lifeis I recommend you and your ds set up Skype for calls home otherwise it could get expensive!

Lifeisontheup Wed 21-Aug-13 19:50:23

He's doing Modern Languages at Exeter, Spanish and Italian so this is his year abroad.

He had skype although I think his GF will benefit from that more than us judging by the number of times he called home last year. grin We mainly keep in touch via facebook.
We will be visiting, I've never been to Venice.

LittleBearPad Wed 21-Aug-13 20:52:04

He may well be ok with just putting a PAYG sim in his existing phone for Italian calls.

We've spent 5 months in Athens and didn't bother with a local bank account. It's been ok although the commission charges for ATMs are annoying.

A commission free credit card may be a good plan for many purchases if he doesn't get a local bank account which I imagine may be a PITA to set up.

inneedofrain Wed 21-Aug-13 20:57:29

Venice is gorgeous!

Ok couple if things pens pencils, paper (I'm particular about stuff like that)

Vicks I remember a very hot summer that was particularly smelly (sorry) we all used to put a smear of Vicks under our noses which made life bearable

A fan (bye locally though)

Chocolate and peppermints

Herbal tea bags if he uses them where hard to find

Certain none medication medication cough medicine, obas oil etc

Condoms a load of them, Italian ones where a hard to find (Catholic country ) and b a different size!

That's all I can think of for now

Sorry didn't go to uni in Venice but I did work there for a while

inneedofrain Wed 21-Aug-13 21:05:46

Gloves and hat and a good winter coat it can be very cold in the winter

Two things one is there is the most amazing sorbet shop in Venis it has over 400 flavours simply heaven

I'm totally sure he knows this already there are 3 prices in every bar. Sat at the bar is cheapest

Food is amazing normally follows a set order

Virtually always served with wine

I expect uni will be the same he will not go hungry unless he doesn't like pasta!

Oh cereal if he is particular the Italian equivalents I found to be very sweet

My tip is to make sure you have something entertaining to listen to in the car if you're dropping your DD off at university. You'll find yourself in an interminable traffic jam composed entirely of cars packed to the gunnels with duvets etc.

And it won't just be once you start getting close to your destination university. No, no. The traffic will be a nightmare whenever you get even slightly close to any university because so many of them all seem to start at the same bloody time. I have memories of a horrible trip involving the M6, M1 and M25 on what seemed to be parents-dropping-off-their-offspring-at-university day. The M25 on the approach to Royal Holloway was by far the worst bit though.

Lifeisontheup Wed 21-Aug-13 21:21:52

I'll make sure he has condoms, his GF will be visiting and although I would not be impressed if he cheated I'd rather it was safely IYSWIM.

Pasta is his favourite food so should be good and I will make him up a first aid kit.
Looking forward to visiting but I'm a bit nervous as I'm sure he is although he's being very nonchalant.

inneedofrain Wed 21-Aug-13 21:34:52

Oh no I didn't mean to infer that! Just meant that they are an essential item!

It's an amazing place, can be pricy though

I would also recommend a couple of baggy clothing items I always used to put on a bit of weight when I was in Italy

I'm sure he is probably half way between ecstatically excited and worried

OldRoan Wed 21-Aug-13 21:51:36

Life I had a year abroad in Paris and set up a bank account, but if that is too much faff then have a look at the PostOffice cards where you can load them up with euros here and then use it like a bank card there. It can be topped up in a Post Office branch. Not sure what the exchange rate is like, but we found that if my parents needed to bail me out in Paris they had to pay a fee every time to transfer money to a foreign account. The PO card might be easier?

Lifeisontheup Wed 21-Aug-13 21:53:06

Don't worry, I have no illusions about what 19 year old lads can be like, best to be prepared.

He's so skinny a bit of weight will be a good thing, he's very careful with money and will get an erasmus (?) grant so should be ok. We're paying his rent as we do in the UK but it's cheaper in Venice which surprised me. He gets a grant for reasonable travel too which is great.

lookoveryourshouldernow Wed 21-Aug-13 22:11:22

.... If you are planning on buying your student the Budget pan set from Asda - they will need to have a screwdriver to put them together grin ....

Just checking all my purchases and trying to shoe horn them into some underbed storage beds they we have bought...

Fairdene Wed 21-Aug-13 22:45:34

What on earth is it with the condoms? If they're competent to have sex then they should be competent to buy condoms. Isn't it rather prurient to press condoms into their starter pack? I find it really intrusive. How far do most mothers get involved in their DCs' sex life? I stay right away. Especially since I know these things are likely to be more readily available from almost anywhere than from wherever mum's well meaning starter pack has been stashed.

Agree re condoms tbh. There is no way I'd give them to dd, as a 'joke' or otherwise. She'd be annoyed, insulted and embarrassed in equal measure.

Lifeisontheup Thu 22-Aug-13 07:27:08

I'm only including them on the list as he's going to Italy where, as someone said up thread, they can be difficult to buy which he may not have realised given their easy availability here.

Didn't bother when he was going to Exeter two years ago although we did have a 'chat' (one of many since puberty) about safe sex and the importance of consent.

wordfactory Thu 22-Aug-13 07:49:07

Completely disagree re condoms.

Many teens will not be regularly sexually active. They may have never bought condoms before. They may assume they won't need them.

But introduce drunk, homesick teens in close quarters...a moment's embarrassment of having your Mum shove a pack of Durex at you versus an unwanted pregnancy or herpes, not really a hard choice.

MABS Thu 22-Aug-13 08:12:56

agree wordfactory. and my dd was given the C card at school so she can get them free from most chemists. they were all given the card, think it applies til 23 or 24 years old.

I remember condoms being given out during registration at a hostel I stayed in in Amsterdam, and I thought that was quite cool (even though wasn't needed on that occasion) but I thought it gave a nice positive sex is part of life message (though could be slightly more embarrassing from your Mum I can see that blush - maybe as part of a crisis kit with the alka seltzer could be the way to go ?)

One thing I found really helpful to do was to look in all the communal cupboards at home (not just my room!) and think of all the stuff I'd used over the last couple of years. That quickly expanded my 'first aid' kit into a decent medicine box, including stuff like TCP, germolene, olbas oil etc that I definitely wouldn't have thought of.

Whoever said about the screwdrivers/coffee/biscuits "going away" present, that's bloody fabulous smile

It's getting pretty close to the bone now, but alongside condoms, if your DD is thinking of going on the pill it might be best to start ASAP, not in the first few weeks of uni - that'll give her hormones etc time to adapt before everything's completely new.

OldRoan Thu 22-Aug-13 18:06:37

I've been thinking about this a lot and have got another bit of (slightly negative?) advice: it's so easy to get swept up in the excitement of moving and meeting new people and everyone telling you how AMAZING university is that you can feel a bit of a failure when it isn't. I ended up seeing the university counsellors (who were fab) and on pills for stress - I was on the wrong course, but was too stubborn to switch to something I'd enjoy more. I felt like I had to put a brave face on at first and say how super everything was, but the minute you admit to not liking it all the time everyone comes out and agrees that, actually, it has its moments and some of them are pretty grim.

What I would say to anyone going to university, then, is this:
There is no shame in not enjoying yourself, wanting to change courses, or just feeling like you are missing the point a bit. At any time during your university career.

My sister sat me down, gave me a talking to, and said "it's just a means to an end. Remember that and everything will stay in perspective."

alreadytaken Thu 22-Aug-13 18:12:35

anyone with a few extra pounds to spend on a laptop this i5 at 340 is very good value. If we hadn't bought one not long ago I'd be very tempted

alreadytaken Thu 22-Aug-13 20:41:59

For the medics - tips from a medical student A separate notebook to take to anatomy (wipe clean cover). A whiteboard can be useful for sketching anatomy stuff repeatedly without wasting paper. Would never have thought of a whiteboard!

JellicleCat Thu 22-Aug-13 23:27:56

I have bought the condoms and they are in the "emergency box". Will dd be embarrassed? Maybe, but she is more likely to go "Oh mother".

However, my own first experience of sex at uni when I didn't have a condom and wasn't on the pill but went ahead anyway (in that way you do when you are 18), means I am determined she has them available for if/when she needs them. But then I have included paracetamol and throat sweets for the same kind of reasoning - so they are there when she needs them and doesn't have to go looking.

I don't see it as helicopter parenting, just common sense. After all whether she uses the condoms is up to her.

Fairdene Thu 22-Aug-13 23:59:34

My own version of common sense tells me that I don't need to be intrusive since condoms are available from almost everywhere at any time of day or night in university settings where they're needed. Each to their own. None of mine have contracted any unpleasant disease yet nor presented me with an unexpected pregnancy (several university aged DC later (both sexes)), so my common sense version seems to work pretty well.

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 23-Aug-13 07:49:50

Yes but Fairdene what if the DC concerned is not comfortable seeking them out?

My DD is getting her C card & some supplies from our lovely practice nurse.

mumeeee Fri 23-Aug-13 07:51:11

I agree with you Fairdene. DD3 would be very embarrassed if packed condoms in her case. I didn't do that with DD1 or DD2 either and they were both fine.

wordfactory Fri 23-Aug-13 09:30:32

fairdene I don't think you can extrapoltae very much from one family and their personal dynamics grin...

Lots of families are very open about such things. Or will simply laugh and roll their eyes.

Also, I work at two universities and trust me, there are plenty of students catching STDs and experiencing unwanted pregnancies. They don't all announce it at home!!!

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 23-Aug-13 09:39:03

Exactly word each family must do what is right for their DC's & as long as they are safe who cares where or how they get the contraception!

I'm just grateful she is thinking & asking advice about it!

what OldRoan has said really rings true for me - and as I say it to every "about to go to uni" person I meet, I can't believe I forgot it!

It's FINE and NORMAL to be homesick. Not everyone is, but if you are, it's ok.

I was really, really confident in school and at home, and nobody even thought of telling me that (or possibly they did and I didn't listen). When I was at uni, with my support networks taken away from me, I was appallingly homesick. I cried and cried for bloody weeks, and I was so shocked that this happened, that I didn't know how to deal with it.

I'm not saying that to scaremonger, and eventually I sorted myself out and absolutely LOVED years 2 and 3 (and then the 4 and 5 where I couldn't bring myself to leave yet) - but it's so important to know that it's OK to not land on your feet.

(technically this is a say and not a bring, but I still think it's important...)

mumeeee Fri 23-Aug-13 11:12:35

I agree it is all about your own family dynamics. DD1 and DD2 have told DD3 that's it's okay to be homesick and a bit nervous. She knows she can phone us at anytime. We are actually staying in Bolton for the weekend when we take her up, 1. because it's a long drive there and back in a day and 2 because she asked us too. However we are not spending the whole time with her she has already planned to go to the first freshers event on the Saturday and she has to enroll on the Saturday. She said she''d text us when she was ready to meet us for lunch on the Sunday,grin

StabInTheDark Fri 23-Aug-13 11:42:28

Fab advice OldRoan and Reveal. Hadn't even thought about reassuring her it's natural and okay to be homesick. She's always been very outwardly confident but can be prone to not asking for help when she needs it.
A completely unrelated question- anyone's DC worked out their weekly budget yet? DD has been given the most expensive accommodation and is now down to £100 a week. Is this do-able?!

Fairdene Fri 23-Aug-13 11:43:32

I wrote each to their own wordfactory, so that's hardly extrapolating universal truths. Condoms are everywhere, absolutely everywhere. I have plenty of doubts about all sorts of things but one thing I can rely on is that if a condom is needed at uni then a condom will be ready to hand. One of my DC is in charge of these things where he is and has an arsenal of literally thousands, all free and freely available.

Fairdene Fri 23-Aug-13 12:06:02

Also, he has lubricant, rape alarms (though he has to charge £2.30 for these) and pregnancy tests. Apparently he has a wide variety of different types of condom too, so students can idle over a choice, not just feel constrained to stick with whatever workaday version their mum has supplied.

TheRed I would think that £100 is doable - you can eat well as a student for £20-25 a week if you shop cleverly and meal-plan. that leaves £300-320 for the rest of the month for clothes, travel, going out, uni supplies.

goinggetstough Fri 23-Aug-13 12:54:26

TheRed my DC has just graduated and she lived on £50 per week. She found that her food budget was £20 too. She more than survived. She did have a part time job too but she saved that money.

zizza Fri 23-Aug-13 13:08:49

Goodness - £100 a week - that's luxury ;-)
My poor dd won't have anything like that to spend, but then she rarely shops for things like clothes. We'll also make sure she's stocked up on householdy type items as we can buy them so cheaply in Costco!

We're thinking of advising dd1 to start on £50 a week and see how she gets on. £100 a week seems like a lot.

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 23-Aug-13 16:43:51

Remus Us too, £50 max, but we're going shopping for basic supplies & a few luxuries paid by me just before she goes, so hopefully that'll help pad out the budget for the first few weeks till she gets the feel of things.

She has budgeted down to the last penny so although it might be tight I don't think she'll starve!

MABS Fri 23-Aug-13 16:53:14

we are thinking £75, It catered accom, you think that ok?

ISingSoprano Fri 23-Aug-13 17:16:59

Ds will have about £100 per week to live on (he will be self catering so this will have to buy food too). Seems like plenty to me - although I guess the first few weeks will be expensive.

If it's fully catered then £75 will be more than enough, and then-some!

How do people perceive the £100 a week being spent? My thinking is that if dd starts off trying on as little as possible (and like Miss Marple we will buy her a first food shop when she starts) then she'll have to learn to budget, rather than expanding her spending to fill the budget, as it were!

snowy91 Fri 23-Aug-13 17:32:51

£100 is plenty enough especially in halls where there's no bills on top of rent! I spent no where near that but then I don't enjoy clubbing so my 'social' costs were less...1 or 2 drinks in the pub occasionally, a cinema ticket or coffee somewhere occasionally
I think I spent roughly £20-£25 on food a week....a little bit more if I was stocking up on things like meat or lots of my cupboard essentials had run out.
so that leaves £75 - £80 for extras like socializing, alcohol, clothes etc smile smile

Back onto things to take to NOT forget clothes hangers!! so many people forget them and then have a mad panic running around the shops trying to find them!

1st aid stuff is fairly often having a plaster makes you very popular in halls when freshers with little cooking experience manage to cut themselves!

StabInTheDark Fri 23-Aug-13 17:50:34

DD probably wouldn't have had anywhere near that amount but she got a scholarship and bursary from the uni. I suppose it just means there'll be some money aside for an extra night out/ odd weekend trip home!

happyinherts Fri 23-Aug-13 19:13:19

My son's elite sports scholarship has just been deducted from his tuition fee loan. Being that he has to jump through hoops to satisfy sporting requirements of the uni and wont see the benefit of reduction in loan for many years to come, I am seriously underwhelmed.

I had hoped the sports scholarship would have paid for practical kit, competitive kit, sports fees for training and use of gym, but no he won't even see it.

Lifeisontheup Sat 24-Aug-13 08:08:46

My two took out £50 per week, they were in Self catering and we paid their rent. Both managed fine although some weeks they needed more for special events etc but that didn't happen often.
Both had money left over at the end of the year. They get minimum loans.
Not sure where they get their frugal ways from, neither DH nor me were as careful with money as they are.

fussychica Sat 24-Aug-13 11:47:11

DS has had around £80pw for the last 2 years. This has been for everything - food, clothes, contact lenses, travel and socialising etc. In addition, we pay phone contract and travel to & from home each term (or we take him).

He has managed very well and always has enough left from the last payment of the academic year to carry over.

All different this year as he is going to France on his year abroad and getting paidsmile though I expect there will be a bit of a delay and he'll have to use some of his savings as student finance has been a nightmare as usual

alreadytaken Sat 24-Aug-13 15:36:19

DC started to fill out the form for exemption for prescription charges and then found the bits that they say it's based on your current situation - so they have to get another form and apply in term time or their rent will not be taken into account. This form will also be needed for any DC who wear glasses if they want a discount on glasses. They also ask for last two pay checks, not sure how that works when you no longer have your holiday job.

Debs75 Sat 24-Aug-13 18:12:26

I was wondering about prescriptions. DD gets the pill so that will be free but she is now on antid's and has glasses so will have to factor that into her tiny budget. She will only have the bare minimum to live on as I will hopefully be at Uni as well so I can't see us having much spare money

MollyBerry Sat 24-Aug-13 18:42:15

Debs she can get help with prescriptions and things like glasses. Have a read through this:
and this:

MollyBerry Sat 24-Aug-13 18:48:41

alreadytaken where is the bit about you having to do a new form about your new situation? I thought once you got your certificate of excemption from paying it was valid for a year/2 years and you didn't have to tell them about changes?

Fairdene Sat 24-Aug-13 22:39:59

So alreadytaken are you saying that all students, no matter how well off their parents, are exempt from prescription charges provided they fill out this form? Even if they're classed as dependent for SFE and not independent?

alreadytaken Sat 24-Aug-13 23:15:08

No -any student with over 16k savings, for example, can not claim. After that it's based on income and what they get from grants/loans/parents. They are assessed as having a full loan, whether they take it all or not.

What I'm saying is that the calculation is done at a point in time. It's better to make that point in time one where they are paying rent as they don't do the assessment on an annual average. We thought they'd be able to apply in advance but it doesn't work like that. I dont know how long a certificate is valid for when they get it, I'd assume no longer than the end of the academic year.

alreadytaken Sat 24-Aug-13 23:18:01

sorry - MollyBerry I meant my DC wouldn't qualify now as they have a full time holiday job and no rent to pay, they may qualify when they start at university.

Fairdene Sat 24-Aug-13 23:29:21

Benefits such as free prescriptions should surely be for those who really need it, when family circumstances etc are taken into account. Or am I coming at this from an incredibly naïve stance? I'm finding this free prescription discussion bewildering to say the least. It all sounds so grabby, especially if there's no underlying medical condition, in which case I might have some modicum of sympathy. My own view is that not all students are equally poor and that not all should be entitled to benefits.

alreadytaken Sat 24-Aug-13 23:53:26

how lovely for you, Fairdene, that you have so much money that dental charges, the cost of glasses and prescriptions present no problem for you. For quite a few students that is not the case.

Fairdene Sat 24-Aug-13 23:57:16

alreadytaken that's ironic, if only you knew. How rude, also.

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 25-Aug-13 06:42:22

Fairdene this isn't a benefit bashing thread...surely any info that can help any one from here is useful even if not applicable to some.?

Already thanks for that I shall get DD onto it when she starts!

Fairdene Sun 25-Aug-13 09:56:55

Of course it isn't and I'm not a benefit basher in any event, though there's no automatic exemption on the back of the prescription form for students merely because they're students, in the same way that there is for children, so I think there may be more to it than that. Our college nurse prescribes large quantities of medication for those on long term use to save them money. That suggests that there is no automatic exemption.

MollyBerry Sun 25-Aug-13 10:33:51

Fairdene I find that at uni it's not something people generally know about because it's not something that is talked about or advertised by our student gp. TThat's probably why the nurse is prescribing large amounts as they are not aware or it/don't want the lhassle of claiming it or else they are not eligible for it as they have too much savings.

ISingSoprano Sun 25-Aug-13 17:43:11

Ds has just discovered that at Southampton all undergrad students receive an 'Entitlement Card'. This is a chip and pin card which is pre-loaded with £300 for students to use around campus for things like a bus pass, gym membership, books, stationery, various SU things like film nights, other equipment like laptop lock or bike packs (lights, D lock, etc). This is re-filled every year and can be topped up from home too. Given that the bus pass is included in his hall fees in year 1 this seems quite generous. Might be worth finding out if other universities have a similar scheme.

DalmationDots Sun 25-Aug-13 18:00:20

Door stop
Coins for laundry - DD went to Natwest before with about £30 and got it divided into £1 20p and 50p as that was what was needed for the laundry
DD took her own mugs (a stackable set from m and s) which were great for keeping in her room away from messy housemates who may use them and not wash them up.
Rug - DD had a horrible floor, this made it much more homely
A sponge bag suitable to hold shampoo/conditioner/razor etc to take to the shower and back (if you leave it in there everyone else will help themselves)
Folders to put notes in
Bedside table - DD didn't have one
Clothes horse

Try to gently remind them about valuables, as others have said, many innocently leave their door open or assume they know/trust everyone but often halls mean students/anyone can reach through windows/get into rooms easily. Remind them to lock their room, not leave valuables by windows or in easy view etc.

mumeeee Sun 25-Aug-13 18:05:38

That's very good Isingsoprono. I haven't heard of any other universities doing this, DD3 is getting DSA allowance so she's getting a laptop and printer. provided which is a great help.

goinggetstough Sun 25-Aug-13 18:30:54

Some universities allow you to use your topped up university card for the laundry too so no need for lots of coins.
What a great scheme at Southampton university - sadly there wasn't one like this at my DC's universities!

JGBMum Sun 25-Aug-13 18:37:53

I think its probably post the £9k fee hike as DS at Southampton (last year of £3k fees) doesn't get this help

OTOH DS2 starting Warwick gets all first 1st year text books and essential safety equipment supplied free of charge.

goinggetstough Sun 25-Aug-13 18:42:00

Yes, it says on the Southampton website that it is to offset the £9000 fees.
That's great about the free text books too JG at Warwick.

JGBMum Sun 25-Aug-13 18:46:24

to quote tesco
every little helps.......... grin

Though keeping the fees at £3k would help more in the longer term!

ISingSoprano Sun 25-Aug-13 21:08:18

Haha - I was going to say that JGBMum grin

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 25-Aug-13 22:37:40

JGB Warwick do this student/parent catering card too which I think DD might do.

You can put some money in the account but the card is only topped up to £50 pw (or whatever you like I think you can set the limit) and they have a PIN so if it gets lost they can freeze the account .

Thought I might get her one of those & stick the first bit on then she's sorted. You can use it in any of the eateries around campus & they do discounts if you use it for a healthy meal option (ie lasagne & salad) rather than say scrisps & coke! Also saves carrying too much cash.

alreadytaken Sun 25-Aug-13 22:40:29

Your comment was - and was clearly intended to be - offensive, Fairdene. The reply was politer than you deserved.

I was surprised to discover today that one of my DCs friends didn't know about megabus Although there are limited destinations, you have to travel at odd times and book promptly to get the really cheap fares this site can be very useful (especially for those in London going home). Also some might benefit from reading this website

alreadytaken Sun 25-Aug-13 22:43:06

Your comment was - and was clearly intended to be - offensive, Fairdene. The reply was politer than you deserved.

I was surprised to discover today that one of my DCs friends didn't know about megabus Although there are limited destinations, you have to travel at odd times and book promptly to get the really cheap fares this site can be very useful (especially for those in London going home). Also some might benefit from reading this website

alreadytaken Sun 25-Aug-13 22:43:59

apologies for double post - my machine hangs at times

MABS Mon 26-Aug-13 09:21:35

all very interesting tips, thanks all

ISingSoprano Sat 31-Aug-13 16:47:17

Ds now has both grandmothers on the case, offering him an assortment of useful and not so useful grin items. I think I'll leave him to negotiate with them..... hehehehe!

rightsaidfrederick Sun 01-Sep-13 15:21:52

In case this link hasn't already been posted

MABS Sun 01-Sep-13 15:44:34

very funny soprano smile

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 01-Sep-13 21:36:49

Oooooh- Master Soprano will have LOTS of lovely stuff to hide from his flatmates take to Uni grin

sashh Mon 02-Sep-13 06:18:23

Not sure if this has been mentioned, but a TV licence is needed if they have a TV in their halls room.

You have to pay for a year, but you can claim back what you paid over the summer.

senua Mon 02-Sep-13 10:48:53

DD paid her TV licence by monthly installments then cancelled at the end of the academic year. It was probably slightly more expensive that way but there was no hassle about claiming back and also no settling up with housemates after they had gone their separate ways.

lookoveryourshouldernow Tue 03-Sep-13 18:04:20 you need a TV licence if the TV is only used as a monitor for X-Box station ??

MollyBerry Tue 03-Sep-13 18:13:24

lookoveryourshouldernow no, but it helps if they fill this in

MABS Thu 05-Sep-13 08:27:30

getting very close now..

madeofkent Thu 05-Sep-13 10:55:20

DS has asked me to put nametapes on his more expensive clothing and towels, he is worried in case he forgets to take his washing out of the machines and someone else fancies some of his belongings. It's years since I sewed in nametapes, I hate it so he is going to get a bit of a shock when I ask him to help this evening. I can't see that it would stop anyone, but maybe it would make them think twice and the thought of it seems to be giving him peace of mind.

mumeeee Thu 05-Sep-13 12:19:11

madeofkent. This won't happen at DD3's uni. The washing machines actually email the student when Their washing is done and apparently only that student can get the washing out. Not sure how this works though. You are right don't think it will actually help because those that are going to take suff won't think twice about just removing the name tapes.

LittleBearPad Thu 05-Sep-13 12:20:57

I wouldn't put name tapes on his clothes and towels. It won't stop somebody nicking them if they really want and DH insists it may hamper his romantic chances.

MollyBerry Thu 05-Sep-13 23:02:46

I sew name tags in my clothes at home as they got stolen by siblings at home, being at uni was a relief from having clothes taken!

MABS Wed 11-Sep-13 16:07:29

all ready for the off? We leave first thing Sat to drop her in Newcastle.

MABS Wed 11-Sep-13 16:07:29

all ready for the off? We leave first thing Sat to drop her in Newcastle.

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 11-Sep-13 17:41:54

Are you all packed MABS or still sitting on suitcases trying to squeeeze it all in???!

THe pile of stuff to pack/take is starting to overtake the spare room!

Lifeisontheup Wed 11-Sep-13 17:55:18

I am struggling with packing for DS off to Venice tomorrow(Modern languages 3rd year), when he went in the UK 2 years ago I had a vague idea what would be there and what he could get locally at a reasonable price. Venice is a whole new ball game. How do you pack for a whole term in 2 cases?

On the plus side we were in Spain last week and his spanish was amazing, chatting to taxi drivers and waiters, translating our complicated food requests with confidence. Not sure what I thought he'd been doing for the past 2 years but I was very proud. smile

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 11-Sep-13 18:43:14

awww Life he sounds a boy to definitely be proud of!

Only thing I know about Venice is its bloody expensive so maybe lots of snacky bits & plenty of basics?

Lifeisontheup Wed 11-Sep-13 20:35:29

They don't get a kitchen, just a 'breakfast corner' with a microwave, he's in uni rooms which are twin rooms. The canteen is open for meals which are about 6 euros. It's all a bit different to driving him to halls in the UK, I'm sure he'll cope though, it'll just be me waiting for his text to say he's safely registered.

MABS Wed 11-Sep-13 21:51:43

am looking at the pile, and the car, they don't match sad

mumeeee Wed 11-Sep-13 22:43:48

Our car is not very well at the momentsad . So DH has hired a big estate car although we won't know how big it is until he picks it up on Friday afternoon. Hopefully we will get all DD3's stuff in it. She is insisting on taking her keyboard and stand with her. I'm not sure how she thinks it is all going to fit into her small room in halls. Perhaps she thinks she has a magically expanding one. grin

madeofkent Wed 11-Sep-13 22:51:46

Oh lord, I had forgotten the keyboard, the guitar and the amplifier, and only remembered the nice small clarinet. No chance, maybe we could fit a hammock to the ceiling?

Lifeisontheup Thu 12-Sep-13 05:39:46

I'm up to take DS to the airport for his flight to Venice. I'm really going to miss him.sad It seems such a long way away even though logically it takes about the same time to get there.
Think he's a bit nervous and sad as he is leaving his GF behind. She'll be visiting him next month and we'll go out in November (any excuse to go to Venice) so I've got that to look forward
A good journey to all those taking DC's today. Stay safe.

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 05:47:08

Go luck to this weeks batch of chicks leaving the nest!

<passes shoehorn to those still packing!>

Viasabat Thu 12-Sep-13 05:48:18

Having worked at a uni for several years, students always turn up with out coat hangers.

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 05:55:49

I am using this as a way of recyling all my crappy hangers Via! grin

Good way of making friends by handing out spares!!!

StabInTheDark Thu 12-Sep-13 09:23:56

Well... DD leaves TOMORROW and we are only just starting to pack. We've had things stacked up in her room for weeks but have been delaying the actual packing. Today is going to be interesting- we seem to have conflicting ideas on what is necessary.

Also, could anybody advise me on how much money I should put in her account for Freshers and to live off until her loan comes in? Sorry, I'm totally clueless.

melodyangel Thu 12-Sep-13 10:01:05

Lifeisontheup - Wow Venice! I would definitly take full advantage. Good luck today hope it goes well.

Packing going well here but you now have to tread very carefully in DS's room as it is a bombsite.

DS1 seems fine about not taking his bass and amp and thankfully he didn't even bother to ask about the double bass! Managed to persude him to leave the PS3 at home too, at least for this term.

Good luck to all those going off this week.

MABS Thu 12-Sep-13 15:51:26

good question Redstarburst!

DalmationDots Thu 12-Sep-13 15:52:37

TheRedStarburst her loan should come in on the first day of term/freshers- it should say on the letter from SF the exact date. I didn't fund DC's student years as I couldn't but their grandparents gave them £50 for freshers and I left them with lots of food, a bit of alcohol for pre-drinking, toiletries etc. which helped a lot smile

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 16:12:47

The Uni let the SF know when you have actually enrolled so there may be a delay until it's paid in but hopefully not much! DD has had to do a pre -enrollment thing so I guess once they know you are actually there they'll hand over the dosh!

I'm sending DD with a load of basics food supplies & she is getting a prepaid card for freshers week (loads of discounts on events ) and she has her savings from working all over the summer so fingers crossed she will be OK

MABS Thu 12-Sep-13 17:01:52

yesterday SL told me it will be in account 7-10 days after enrolment .

melodyangel Thu 12-Sep-13 17:20:27

Spare fuses and bin bags are the new things we have added to the growing pile of stuff today. DS gave me a smile and said I love you mum when I put them in the box.

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 17:44:54


Melody Tissues?

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 17:44:55


Melody Tissues?

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 12-Sep-13 17:45:29

oops.......double strength tissues?!

mumeeee Thu 12-Sep-13 19:10:25

DD3 has about £350 saved. She actually has another £300 in a websavers account but has asked us to look after that for her and she"ll ask for it if she needs it. She is getting a student loan which should be in her account 7 days after she has enrolled on campus.

melodyangel Thu 12-Sep-13 22:17:11

MissMarplesBloomers grin Oh yes the nice ones that don't leave your nose all red, the eyes will be red enough don't need a matching set.

MABS Fri 13-Sep-13 07:30:21

she not home yet, was out last night, funnily enough I feel ok today.

goodasitgets Fri 13-Sep-13 07:44:27

Remembering from my time at Uni smile
I don't know if anyone has mentioned this but sending post is a good idea - we used to get so excited for post!
Mum used to send sachets of beauty stuff, a tenner, a magazine, just a card, a pre loaded supermarket card, funny tissues/nail files, just little bits. Oh and sachets of cappuccinos, cup a soup...

goodasitgets Fri 13-Sep-13 07:45:55

Oh and we had a condom box. All the ones we got at freshers etc were put in a box in a kitchen cupboard as I got sick of people knocking to ask for one!!!

mumeeee Fri 13-Sep-13 08:57:59

Good idea to send post. DD1 was in our home town and I would meet her and buy her stuff but did also send her letters occasionally. DD2 was 3 hours drive away and I often sent her bits and pieces such as coffee sachets, stationary and silly stuff like stickers she loved getting these. They both live in London now and I still send them stuff. So will do the same for DD3

noddyholder Fri 13-Sep-13 10:16:46

I am thinking 75. Ds has his iphone paid by us and netflix for breaking bad (or he wouldn't have gone). We will pay his travel too This is why I think university is a stepping stone now and not a complete 'I've left home' as they are still not really self sufficient. But I hope ds will learn to budget becasue up to now has hasn't budgeted at all. Spent all his savings at a festival last week

mumeeee Fri 13-Sep-13 10:59:59

DD2 was hopeless at budgeting when she went to uni and we thought she'd run out of money. She surprised us and learnt to Budget. She finished uni last year and has managed to pay her rent herself and she hasn't asked us for anymore money. She now has 2 jobs one in an hotel and one working in an after school drama club where she is using her drama skills from her drama degree. She has also taught herself the guitar and did a pre theatre show and has also done a little bit of film work. This is the girl who at 18 was very obnoxious and hard to live with and didn'r really have any work ethic. She went to uni at 19 and is now a mature young lady. We are very proud of her.

MollyBerry Fri 13-Sep-13 15:52:22

noddy 75 is more than enough! Although I only had a very loose budget mine I spent about 50 on a normal week. It does depend on how much you spend when you go out though (ie how proactive you are in predrinking) and how often you go out.

noddyholder Fri 13-Sep-13 17:27:35

Thanks molly smile

Such a useful thread! Shopping today and DD has a list she has compiled from various sources but there are a few things here I will suggest. I totally agree the choices are hers but I am enjoying sharing her excitement smile

MABS Sat 14-Sep-13 07:32:35

off we go, will post how it went when back tomorrow

JGBMum Sat 14-Sep-13 07:48:25

Good luck mabs

DalmationDots Sat 14-Sep-13 10:17:57

Good luck!

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 14-Sep-13 22:06:13

<waves MABS & family off with clean hanky>xx

MABS Sun 15-Sep-13 15:41:55

Went well but very long way. She out friends ystdy and today, she very social. I sat in her room crying sad

JGBMum Sun 15-Sep-13 17:24:19

Oh mabs, sad
Hope you feel better soon x

Isthiscorrect Sun 15-Sep-13 17:24:59

Oh MABS hmm. Chin up you should be proud of your beautiful talented daughter. Her roots will keep her with you and her wings will let her soar. Open your wine and toast her, roots and wings. {{{{}}}}

mumeeee Sun 15-Sep-13 21:57:13

Hope you feel better soon MABs. I know how you feel. It was very strange coming into the house without DD3 I keep thinking there's something wrong.

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 15-Sep-13 22:14:59

Oh isthis that made my eyes leak!

{{ MABS }}

MABS Mon 16-Sep-13 07:02:20

thanks all, really appreciate your support. Bad evening, wine drunk, facetimed her, she fine! am pretty good this am, tho tired. Not used to seeing her before 11am anyway! thanks

mumeeee Mon 16-Sep-13 10:29:31

Glad you're feeling better MABs, It seems very quiet here. There isn't any music coming fronDD3"s room and I haven't had an offer of a cup of tea.

MABS Mon 16-Sep-13 14:54:12

quiet here too, but good! she very happy it seems smile

noddyholder Mon 16-Sep-13 16:03:54

I am NOT going into his room until at least friday sad

mumeeee Mon 16-Sep-13 16:17:54

Think that might be a wise decision noddy. I went into DD3's roim earlier and suddenly felt very sad. I'm really proud of her getting to uni but will miss her loads,

MABS Mon 16-Sep-13 16:22:59

well done Noddy x

noddyholder Mon 16-Sep-13 16:52:13

Thanks I just feel so weird! Have agreed to various work type projects as I thought about all the time I will have and now I can't be arsed and they are staring at me! lol.

MABS Tue 17-Sep-13 07:09:25

work is my saviour smile now worried that dd being too positive, she must be wobbly really

MABS Tue 17-Sep-13 17:04:39

just went to her empty bedroom, stripped bed etc for washing....really wouldn't recommend it girls sad

mumeeee Tue 17-Sep-13 17:08:45

I agree MABs went into DD3's room to sort some stuff out.

MABS Tue 17-Sep-13 17:17:36

indeed Mummeee...

mumeeee Tue 17-Sep-13 23:18:10

MABs that should have said I went into DD3's room .smile
I was worried about DD3 tonight as I had send her several texts to ask her if she wanted me to send her the gloves I'd found. Eventually got an answer 2 hours later. Think she'd been having a good time with her new flat mates' She did say sorry

MABS Wed 18-Sep-13 07:14:17

mine never replies for good few hours as she out/sleeping! sent of package of bits she forgot ystdy, gloves, sunglasses etc smile

ISingSoprano Wed 18-Sep-13 13:53:37

Ds is off on Sunday so we have just been to Sainsburys to buy 'larder' type food. Lots of rice, pasta and noodles!

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 19-Sep-13 18:30:57

Yes we did a big shop in Aldi last night for the same sort of stuff Ising lots of bargains & a few " ooh that might be usefuls" grin

Had to rein myself in from over doing the food supplies, as DD pointed out we don't know how much space they'll have yet! Just want her to have plenty of meal makings for those early days when she is still working out her budget & comes in tired & hungry!!

Gawd - we've started packing dd1's stuff as she's off this weekend. We're going on the train, so can't go too mad but she has sooooooo many clothes! We're buying duvet, pillow, pans, food etc when we get there. It's starting to feel very real, finally.

MissMarplesBloomers Thu 19-Sep-13 22:39:48

Good luck Remus & Lupin-ette!

MABS Fri 20-Sep-13 13:38:14

good luck with this w/e girls smile

mumeeee Fri 20-Sep-13 14:23:28

Good luck to everyone whose. DC are going this weekend

JGBMum Fri 20-Sep-13 15:23:17

Another mum wishing good luck to everyone who leaves this weekend

As an aside, DS1 is going into his third year and has just filled the car with stuff and driven himself down to Uni digs for the day to offload everything, and is then driving back as he doesn't start for another week and a half.

What a difference a couple of years makes!

DalmationDots Fri 20-Sep-13 16:15:26

JGBMum mines off for third year too. She did similar earlier in the summer she drove to her new house to take all the stuff which was cluttering our house and went to IKEA to get some rugs and things. So strange how grown up they are now!

She was going to just train it back on sunday with a suitcase of clothes but I offered to do a food shop (I secretly would quite like to see her new house etc!) so she took me up on that offer.

Two years ago feels like yesterday yet my DD is nothing like she was 2 years ago! She is like an almost grown up now!!!

Thanks, MissM. She's all packed now, apart from the very large pile of 'essential' hair and beauty products she deems to be in need of until the v last minute.

alreadytaken Fri 20-Sep-13 17:49:30

apparently they need a clothes airer -anyone got a good suggestion on where to buy a cheap one that folds up as it'll need to fit in the car? One of the tasks they are happy to delegate....

JGBMum Fri 20-Sep-13 19:24:01

Clothes Airer from Argos. Although our local Tescos had a load in stock last week so we picked one up along with pasta and tinned goods for DS2.

ISingSoprano Fri 20-Sep-13 19:31:04

I may be speaking too soon but ds is just about packed ready for the off on Sunday and he really doesn't seem to have much stuff at all!

I just asked him if he would like pork belly or steak tomorrow night (his two favourite meals) and he replied .... 'both'!

ISingSoprano Fri 20-Sep-13 19:32:00

Good luck everyone doing the drop off this weekend. smile

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 20-Sep-13 19:44:00

Oh bugger.... yes ...clothes airer-it was on my radar then fell off! grin

Thanks for the reminder already & JGBmum bargain !

Ising I know what you mean about not much stuff, having read warnings from seasoned freshers we have kept it all to a minimum, but then she hasn't packed clothes or personal bits yet.

Her Dad is bringing her bike, not sure how much she'll use it but she can get off campus & explore a bit if she wants & its all good exercise!

The clothes - I didn't even know dd1 HAD so many clothes, let alone want to take so many! Fortunately, they mostly consist of v small skirts and almost as small dresses, but the big boots take some packing!

JGBMum Fri 20-Sep-13 19:50:45

Trying to save money where we can! DS2 has managed to bag himself en-suite accommodation, so need extra items like shower mat and bleach/toilet cleaner etc.
I dread to think what this bathroom will look like by Christmas! grin

HeavenstoMurgatroyd Fri 20-Sep-13 19:58:55

Hi all (waves) - deposited my DS for year 2 last w/end. he's in private halls (cock up with house share arrangements last year that caused us (not him) a lot of sleepless nights!)

I haven't read the thread, and I'm sure this has all been said but here's my pointers:
I made a snapfish collage poster of family/ friends/ pets for him last year. He was a bit hmm, but it did go up on the pin board (they are VERY strict about blutac on walls in halls of residence!)

Also SIT ON YOUR HANDS AND AVOID CONTACT FOR AT LEAST A COUPLE OF DAYS.... they need to find their feet, and their own way!

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 20-Sep-13 20:00:45

Mine has too*JGBmum*! Loo brush provided & I think they all have a cleaner regularly which is probably just as well although I have provided DD with beach & instrucitons to lob some in the loo now & then!

Which day did you settle on for going in the end ?

Very impressed by all the helpful bumpf Warwick have sent. Tres organised, considering the logistics, must be a nightmare!

JGBMum Fri 20-Sep-13 21:47:36

Waves to MissM
We are sticking with Saturday as DH and DS1 are in London on Sunday watching a sports game - DS2 had to give up his ticket as he has his first lecture Monday morning.
I will report back on any helpful hints from Saturday grin, assuming you are still going on Sunday?

MissMarplesBloomers Fri 20-Sep-13 22:42:57

Yes still going on Sunday, that will be useful thanks! grin

We're planning on leaving at 8am (ish) to get there by 9.30 when registration opens. Going to park in the nearest car park & go down to get her keys then start ferrying stuff. Not sure how much parking there will be out front. Your DS is in one of the newer ones looking at the map so may have more parking outside.

JGBMum Sat 21-Sep-13 07:16:23

8am!! I'm impressed. I think we are aiming to leave about 10 ish, after DD has gone to Stagecoach. Then should be there about 12.
At southampton there were lots of older student helpers who acted as porters and helped carry everything up to your room. I'm hoping warwick might have similar.
Alao, I'm hoping to do a Fresh food shop with DS on Friday, rather than brave tesco on Saturday, and then try to park the car again on site.
Again,at southampton, you were only allowed to park for 30 minutes I think, mainly to manage the congestion. Made saying goodbye fairly quick and brutal, but also meant the students had to get on with things and make friends as there weren't many parents about.

78bunion Sat 21-Sep-13 07:54:11

Takes lots and lots and lots of passport photos to save doing them there. Perhaps get about 10 done.

MABS Sat 21-Sep-13 09:29:12

yep sent her with 10 passport photos, bought a clothes airer half price in sainsburys smile

Millais Sat 21-Sep-13 09:41:34

Ds went off to Southampton yesterday. He was his disorganised self having to call into Argos and Sports Direct on the way to pick up things he suddenly needed. DH took photos and a video so I could see where he'll be. The after pictures were reassuringly messy so he will feel totally at home there smile

JGBMum Sat 21-Sep-13 11:13:22

Which halls is he in Millas?

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 21-Sep-13 11:42:06

JGBmum yes it is early////might not actually make it as I am working all the previous day& supposedly out at a party the night before. However as I want to spend some time with DD before she goes I might leave the party early & go home to see how the packing is going!

DD2 is going to stay at their Dads Sat night & travel with him and DD1s bike later on the Sunday. That part is going to be difficult as he doesn't like being around if I am there but I have said I will take myself off for a coffee & so he can see/do whatever with the girls & then I'll go back to her room & help her unpack (if she wants) & if she is in the mood I'll take her out lunch before heading off.

eatyourveg Sat 21-Sep-13 16:22:54

read somewhere ds had to show his vaccination record - he had all the baby ones and tetanus/ polio boosters in Y10 - am scanning in the red book page but wondering if he is should have something for meningitis. Was there an update? - he's only had 3 lots of Hib as a baby. Anyone know if thats A B or C and which ones he should have had? Also there is no mention of hepatitis - is that a routine jab we somehow missed? Beginning to panic as he goes in the morning

ISingSoprano Sat 21-Sep-13 16:35:37

Millais - my ds is off to Southampton tomorrow. Glen eyre halls.

mumeeee Sat 21-Sep-13 16:38:33

Well DD1 and DD2 were never asked for their vaccination records at university, DD3 enrolled at Bolton last Sunday and she hasn't been asked for her vaccination records either so don't panic he probably won't need to show them

ISingSoprano Sat 21-Sep-13 16:42:52

eatyourveg - Hepatitis is not a routine childhood vaccination, he would only have had this as part of any travel vaccinations. My ds had a Men C vaccination when he was 5. I think if your ds has had all his standard imms he will be fine.

alreadytaken Sat 21-Sep-13 23:36:33

Thank you JGBMum.

Actually students are recommended to have a meningitis booster, their gp should offer it as the vaccine doesn't last forever

JGBMum Sun 22-Sep-13 07:01:10

Southampton glen a eyre halls are great. Because there are so many students there its like its own little village and only 5-10 mins to the main uni buildings. Ds1 had a blast there smile he was based in Chancellors Court.

Hope those going there have a wonderful time.

ISingSoprano Sun 22-Sep-13 09:01:58

Ds is in Chancellors court!

Glissed Sun 22-Sep-13 11:05:14

Extension plugs. So many gadgets these days, most digs don't have enough plugs.

I am a bit late. Most students now gone

MABS Sun 22-Sep-13 12:46:13

she is finding febreze useful sad sad

badgerhead Sun 22-Sep-13 14:14:42

We dropped off dd1 yesterday at Lincoln, but due to various problems she hasn't got a permanent address yet! She is on the priority waiting list for her preferred halls and a lovely family from her church have offered a room with them until she can get sorted! She is very wary of staying in private rented houses as this is her second attempt at starting Uni due to a disaster with a mixture of choice of Uni and accommodation last year. She knows that if it fails this year her options for attending Uni have gone and despite being very apprehensive has decided to give it a go. I am just praying that she will get the halls once they know who has dropped out (I hope that this will happen) or she finds some people to live with who are understanding of her wishes for quiet, no drink (she can't drink alcohol for health reasons) and not wanting to party until the early hours of the morning.
It seems quiet here today as at home by myself, dh & dd2 have gone shopping at Bluewater & I'm supposed to be revising for an OU exam in 2 weeks (bit of Mumsnetting avoidance going on at present!

MABS Sun 22-Sep-13 14:22:47

ohh badger, that must be so hard re the accom, do take care smile

Millais Sun 22-Sep-13 14:34:08

Glen Eyres too- the rooms look nice and the kitchen had loads of cupboards and space. If anyone needs a door stop feel free to say!

Hope the move in goes well

ISingSoprano Sun 22-Sep-13 15:12:10

I though the whole moving in process was very slick at Glen Eyres today. No problem parking and we had loads of helpers carrying stuff from the car to ds' room.

mumeeee Sun 22-Sep-13 16:27:59

Badger hope your DD gets sorted out very soon and she is able to go into halls.

We're home. Left dd1 happily tidying her room, the decor of which is mostly centred around leopard print and rubber ducks! They've got a really nice kitchen/dining area and they all seemed to have bought quite a good selection of vaguely healthy food, so hopefully that's a good sign for the future. smile

zizza Sun 22-Sep-13 19:20:48

Just back from dropping my dd at Sutton Bonington (she's in Nottingham as I type, at the official Notts uni intro). What a fantastic place. Really organised - lots of staff and student guides about and welcome packs. Some arrived yesterday (we did - at about 4 after terrible traffic - and DH and I went to hotel for the night) and she managed to meet up with her mentor from the year above and another girl who, like dd, was the only one who had moved into her flat (we overheard her telling a rep that she was on her own so dd went up to talk). They went to a free bbq and a couple of drinks in the bar before ending up in one of the flats for a while. She was a bit tired when we caught up with her this morning, but we went off to do some food shopping and then stayed for a tour of the vet school before leaving her to it. Think they had a talk and a buffet before heading into Notts. Lots organised for them this week during the day, not just nights out.

I was so proud of how she happily went up to people to introduce herself and called into a couple of the flats where people had moved in - met some lovely people, all on different courses (she was happy when she finally found a few other vets).

Fingers crossed for a good week ahead.

(To those of you wondering about vaccination records - don't panic. When they've registered with their new gp their notes will be sent on which will show what they've had)

greyvix Sun 22-Sep-13 20:34:37

My DS also went to Nottingham today. It's the first time I've seen it, and was really impressed (apart from the horrendous traffic jam).
The sunshine made a difference. On the topic of what to take, however, we forgot loads of his stuff. It was all there, but somehow didn't make it into the car! Hopefully, he'll be too busy to notice.

MABS Mon 23-Sep-13 09:07:48

well done to all this w/e 'droppers' smile

badgerhead Mon 23-Sep-13 17:31:30

I have just been speaking to dd & she has managed to get a room in the halls she wanted, so back up to Lincoln on Saturday to help her move in from her temporary accommodation grin Huge sigh of relief all round here.

ISingSoprano Mon 23-Sep-13 17:57:21

That's wonderful news badgerhead I really hope she settles quickly and happily smile

mumeeee Mon 23-Sep-13 18:15:03

That's great news badgehead.

MABS Tue 24-Sep-13 08:13:38

so pleased badgerhead smile

madeofkent Tue 24-Sep-13 12:59:53

So pleased badgerhead, my daughter went to Lincoln when all the rooms were still brand new and beautiful, but then dropped out because of boyfriend trouble and has had to start all over again elsewhere.. But it was a wonderful place to go to uni. One of DS's friends is there this year too.

WaterSpaniel Wed 25-Sep-13 19:26:11

DS doesn't go until 6th October, all his friends are gone and he's lonely.

Would it be overkill to get a rug and some cushions for his room? Masculine brown ones, of course... the photos I've seen of the rooms look a bit bare and bleak, I'm sure girls bring cushions and rugs, but is it a bit much for boys?

I'm going to order this DVD to be sent to him in halls when it's released on October 7th, sounds like perfect student fare

badgerhead Tue 01-Oct-13 14:20:42

Update on badgerhead's dd!
Dd2 & I went up there on Saturday to move her into halls, that was a stressful day, but we got there in the end, well I though so at the time!

Started the drive back home & ended up stopping of at a hotel part way home as too tired to drive any further, got home Sunday lunch time. Sunday evening get a phone call from dd, she is feeling really unwell (had been feeling off colour all week, and she has a diagnosed heart condition). Calmed her down (well dh did as he is better at that than me hmm). Persuaded her to make a doctors appointment for yesterday morning.

Roll forward to yesterday, she went to the doctors & he decided she needed an ECG done, nurse? made appointment for Thursday, which she moaned to me about but not surgery. Later gets phone call from surgery can she go back in at lunch time for ECG as doctor wanted it done that day. She did this, no one available to read it immediately, gets a phone call about an hour later she needs to go to the hospital for further tests! Cue panic phone call what shall I do etc?! Persuade to go to hospital after letting uni know she would miss an afternoon seminar, caught bus to hospital. Upshot is that she is being referred to cardiologist & mutterings about possible surgery which has really scared her. Eventually managed to get home in the evening after contact someone from her church to give her a lift back to halls as had no money for a taxi & too far to walk in the dark, especially as feeling unwell.

Cue more long phone call between us & dh to the rescue again.
DH is going up to Lincoln again tomorrow to sort out a few problems in her room (like connecting printer to laptop among other things (cable needed which have had to buy, plus extra bedding etc), hopefully she will start to feel better, still feeling ill today sad and persuade her she really needs to stay there (keeps on saying she wants to come home every time something goes wrong). It doesn't help we live in West Sussex at least a 3.5 hour drive away, no family near her & steady boyfriend on a 2 year church mission & only contactable by letter of occasional email, no phone calls except Christmas & Mothers Day when she is with his family.
We are praying for her constantly as she really needs to get through this & enjoy her time at university, gaining the degree she wants and hopefully onto Masters & PHD to get the career she has planned for herself. It just being able to cope without close family support which she is finding hard at the moment as I'm sure is the case for most students, if only she would realise that!

MABS Tue 01-Oct-13 17:01:18

you poor loves Badger , all I can say really. I am also in West Sussex if you ever need a sympathetic ear x

mumeeee Tue 01-Oct-13 19:06:24

Sorry to hear about your DD2 badgehead. It's hard when they are so far away. DD3 is 4 hours drive away we are going up to
see her next week. She is making friends and doing well but is feeling a bit homesick.

madeofkent Tue 01-Oct-13 21:55:14

Waterspaniel my son chose blues for his room as it was all beige. He chose a rug but didn't want cushions, he had extra pillows instead. He also chose a blue fleece to spread over the bed in case he needed something to wrap up in.

So sorry badgerhead. It's not a good start but maybe she needs her mind put at rest for now and will settle in soon. My nephew broke his leg when he got drunk in fresher's week and was too scared to tell my sister, she only heard of it when she saw photos of him on my niece's fb page! It's a time of many, many 'first' s.

MABS Wed 02-Oct-13 07:44:40

today I woke up to a 'love you and miss you' text from dd, burst into tears

anxiousofdevizes Wed 02-Oct-13 11:39:51

I seem to burst into tears every 2mins! mine does not seem to be meeting many people, has quite an antisocial flat of people and does not seem to have met anyone else in her halls as it appears most of those on her course are in different halls! Just trying to encourage her to just talk to people so that she has people to go out with - any advice happily received!

MABS Wed 02-Oct-13 15:29:06

so sorry anxiousofdevises sad opinions please ladies? Dd has been great, but may be slightly wobbly now, but really does seem fine. I am debating flying up to see her one day next week just for few hours just to see her with my own eyes, take her for lunch etc. what do you think? the week after dh ds and I fly to Oz for 3 weeks so I s'pose I am conscious of that too and want to see her first. Thoughts?

madeofkent Wed 02-Oct-13 16:34:51

Go! There was an article I was reading by a uni counsellor and she says that contact at first is a good thing, just tail it off as time passes, or it happens naturally whichever is the first. Lots of kids find it all too much as do parents. They like to know that if something happens you will be there for them, and the novelty can wear off after a couple of weeks. I can remember not giving my parents a thought until two weeks after I had left, then suddenly sitting down on the stairs and crying my eyes out. I hadn't even bothered to phone them until then. It was all so new and exciting but then it felt like a holiday and it was time to go home. anxiousofdevizes she is going to have to make extra effort. Tell her that all the others are feeling just as shy as her even if they hide it well.

MABS Thu 03-Oct-13 08:42:44

Well, long chat with her last night, think her wobble is not being helped by her best friend being at another uni nowhere near her struggling badly sad he has been crying on the phone to her rather a lot..

Well 2 hours after the chat I texted her casually 'fancy lunch next Friday? she replied 'don't think was meant for me mum!' I said yes it was meant for her, she rang me, said are you serious??!! I said yes, shall I fly up for the day? She was absolutely delighted smile

We will see....

MissMarplesBloomers Sat 05-Oct-13 18:22:54


Have pm;d you.

MABS Sat 05-Oct-13 19:21:23

Long story but student died in her class ystdy sad tragic,poor parents. Dd very upset so flying home tonite and back first thing Monday to uni

MABS Sun 06-Oct-13 10:43:30

Well, picked up dd from Lhr late last night and pleasantly surprised! quite bright and talked openly about the poor girl and what happened. She said what was upsetting her as much as what she saw is the constant police presence everywhere in the accom block. Has been chatting lots, shopping in a moment sad then out for sunday lunch. She flies back 7am tomorrow but she, and I am far happier and relieved now. thanks so much for all your kind words girls.

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 06-Oct-13 23:31:43

Oh so glad the emergency visit helped you both.

It emphasises too I think that the distance is no object (within reason!) when she needs you. <which I'm sure she knows but YKWIM>

Another hurdle overcome, certainlyno one any of you could have forseen.

MABS Mon 07-Oct-13 16:57:57

am struggling today, but she went off very bright smile could have done without a 4 hour delay on her flight back due to fog...

MissMarplesBloomers Tue 08-Oct-13 18:59:47

<<MABS>> must be hard, bugger about the delay too.

MABS Wed 09-Oct-13 17:51:01

Thanks Missmarple, am fine again now smile

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