Non student in DDs halls!

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kittybiscuits Sun 04-Sep-16 10:22:21

My DD has a place in halls and is moving next week. It was supposed to be a 5 person flat, but her new flatmate visited it this weekend and said it is 6 beds and an adult/non student male has already moved in and left a note saying he will be living there for 8 weeks. I'm not happy about this. She applied on the first day you could apply so it's not a last-minute place for her. Has anyone else encountered this? She thinks it sounds great. I don't.

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 04-Sep-16 10:30:35

Well, first point, your DD is also an 'adult', surely?

It sounds a little unusual, but if he's been allocated this place in a university hall, presumably there's a reason? Is he a postgrad/postdoc? We had a postdoc living in our student house - the idea was that he was keeping order, though he didn't seem to do anything much.

kittybiscuits Sun 04-Sep-16 10:32:56

He's not a student.

insancerre Sun 04-Sep-16 10:32:58

Agree your dd is an adult too

How do you know he isn't a student?

Balletgirlmum Sun 04-Sep-16 10:33:29

Did the note say he was a non student?

It could be a number of things for example a new member of staff who has re-located and needs temporary accommodation. An exchange student maybe, anything really.

ClashCityRocker Sun 04-Sep-16 10:34:26

Do the university know he's there?

He's not a boyfriend/brother/friend of a student in the halls who has kindly hmm offered to put him up for eight weeks. Just the note thing sounds odd.

MrsHulk Sun 04-Sep-16 10:34:55

We had a non-student in halls: the university had an unexpected empty room (somebody dropped out) so just rented it out for the extra cash.

Wasn't ever a problem- can I ask what you're concerned about?

Coldhandscoldheart Sun 04-Sep-16 10:35:33

confused Is your daughter very young? Or is it supposed to be a single sex flat? What do you see as the problem?
Then, who has the contract with the halls of residence? If it's your daughter, there's probably not much you can do. If it's you, you could complain, but it may well be that the chap's moved out before they take any action.

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 04-Sep-16 10:36:40

Ok, I posted suggesting one possibility was that he was a postgrad, as I figured you/your DD might not know if he was or not.

Is he perhaps a postdoc?

You might have responded to my whole post, not the one detail.

Merrylegs Sun 04-Sep-16 10:36:47

Ha poor guy - he's brave moving in with students during freshers. I hope they are considerate towards him.

SoupDragon Sun 04-Sep-16 10:37:39

Your DD is fine with the arrangement and she is an adult.

LRDtheFeministDragon Sun 04-Sep-16 10:37:56

I also agree he could be a member of staff.

If he's there illicitly, obviously there's a concern, but there's nothing in your post suggesting he is?

bigTillyMint Sun 04-Sep-16 10:38:14

I don't think it is necessarily a problem, but it does sound a bit strange with the note - why would he do that? Surely he would just move in/live there as normal? I agree with Clash - do the uni know he's there?

And if there are 6 bedrooms, why haven't they allocated the 6th to a student? Or are there 5 bedrooms and he's going to be kipping in their tiny kitchen/lounge?

Blup Sun 04-Sep-16 10:40:20

My guess is that he's a member of staff or something who's come from abroad somewhere on fairly short notice and is living there until he can arrange permanent accommodation. Unless it's meant to be an all-female hall, I don't see that it's a huge issue.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross Sun 04-Sep-16 10:41:11

Can you clarify what it is you're worried about?

Mumoftwoyoungkids Sun 04-Sep-16 10:41:40

My Dh got a room in halls the year after he graduated. He was working as a researcher at the university (but a proper grown up job) and his old college ended up with one spare room so rented it out to him.

He had a student girlfriend (me!), generally ate in either his or my college canteen, mainly hung around with students and (apart from the fact that he was up and dressed by 8:45am every weekday morning) you wouldn't actually know he wasn't a student.

It was just a cheap and convenient place to live whilst waiting for his girlfriend (who was younger than him) to graduate.

sealsandbeachballs Sun 04-Sep-16 10:41:49

I don't see the problem unless the flat was meant to be single sex.

He's very likely staff or postphd or something.

CotswoldStrife Sun 04-Sep-16 10:44:20

Staff? Your replies are too short to give any advice (and make you look like you are trying to pick a fight with the Uni!).

And your daughter hasn't seen the note, just heard this from a flatmate?

Lorelei76 Sun 04-Sep-16 10:51:14

I'd wonder why but does it matter? probably good to have a non student around to make the place more interesting!

kittybiscuits Sun 04-Sep-16 10:52:01

Sorry - was multi-tasking. He left a note explaining that he has moved in for 8 weeks and explaining what he is doing in the area. I presume that the accommodation people may have suggested he did this or perhaps he is just a friendly person. I sincerely hope that they don't just allow 50 year old paedophiles to book a room with a flat full of 18 year olds. He has no connection to the educational establishment. It's not what I was expecting. My DD is very shy and not very worldly-wise. I would imagine a lot of parents are comfortable with halls for the first year while the student finds their feet and wouldn't expect a non-student to be there. It was supposed to be a 5 bed flat but it is a 6 bed and he has the 6th room.

VeryBitchyRestingFace Sun 04-Sep-16 10:53:12

Is your daughter under 18, OP? In Scotland, some 1st year students are 16/17.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sun 04-Sep-16 10:53:20

Are they university halls or private halls?

To be fair I lived in DPs halls with him. He was a student and I was student-aged (but working to support us, we couldn't afford to both study). His flat mates were asked and didn't mind.

bigTillyMint Sun 04-Sep-16 10:53:22

So where is the extra bed? In the shared sitting room?

Coldhandscoldheart Sun 04-Sep-16 10:53:35

He's a paedophile? Well your daughter's quite safe then.

Lorelei76 Sun 04-Sep-16 10:53:36

kitty, there could easily be a 19 year old student ready to abuse other students. Living in a flat with strangers etc etc.

I think 18's a bit old for a paedo anyway isn't it!

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