Hi everyone,
This might be a bit long winded but please bare with me. I so need some help & advice.
Ex left me and our daughter towards end 2012, I was (still am) heartbroken. He was the earner in the relationship, he brought in a great wage and owned the property we lived in, plus another that he rents out. Since he decided family life wasn't for him, he has only seen daughter a handful of times and has been transferring £200 a month into my account for her. After 10 years together i'm still numb I work part time self employed as a holistic therapist, on a good week I'll earn £100, some weeks very little or more often than not, nothing. I studied so hard for my level 3 Diploma in Complementary therapies, lots of anatomy & physiology involved, basically I thought I could make a good career out of it, but that doesn't look to be the case. I feel so sad that I wasted all that time training.
Anyway, I'm on my own now and am left to support myself and my daughter. I've had to move in with my Mum as I can't afford a place of my own comfortably. I feel like I'm stuck in a benefit trap as I rely so heavily on working tax & child tax credits. I had a really good education & was very academic and I can't believe my life has ended up like this. However, I'm only 28 and I believe there's time to change things. Thing is, I'm not sure where to start?
I've always had a strong interest in counselling & psychology (as well as holistic therapies) but I'm frightened of repeating the mistake I've already made, ie: training in something that doesn't bring much of a wage in, in the end. I feel as though in my late 20's I can't afford to make that mistake again. If anyone has any idea of the career opportunities for counsellors or psychologists can you please let me know? I'd love to work freelance alongside my holistic therapies but don't know if that's possible in these fields.
More importantly, I know nothing about university, it looks to me that particularly under this new government, you just end up in a heap of debt. I also have no A levels, after my GCSE's I went straight to drama school, yet another regret. I'm thinking maybe open university would be a better option, but again I've not looked into it too much, as I've only had this epiphany this week!! Are the entry requirements/fees and everything the same as normal university? Do you get the same sort of degree at the end?
Apologies for all the questions, I'm just so lost, I thought he & I would be together forever, what was his was mine etc... I feel like a failure because I'm barely making ends meet & relying heavily on tax credits, I need things to change in order to properly support myself and my daughter. As you can imagine, living with my mum forever is not ideal!
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PiscesLondon · 21/01/2013 20:59
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