Fifteen years ago, I lived in a world where black women were all around me. They dominated managerial positions, led churches and eventually would lead the country. Fifteen years ago, I moved from Jamaica to England, and to a world where black women are invisible.
In this world, they wash away our melanin and straighten our curls in films. Black Hermiones are an outrage, but Persian princes don't need to be Persian.
This world sheds a tear more readily for a lion gunned down in a safari, than a black twelve year old gunned down on his doorstep. News reports treat white suspects better than black victims. Strangers demand to know where we are from and insist that we should return there.
This world constantly reminds of us of our inadequacy. Prime Ministers inform us that we are "more likely to be in a prison cell than studying at a top university" and "more likely to be sentenced to custody for a crime" than if we are white. I moved to a world which mislabels equality as diversity, feminism as political correctness, and protests as entitlement. In this world, teachers ask little black girls to read the 'ethnic' poem in the Anthology, while expecting us to sit silent as we learn of how white men freed us from slavery.
Still, there were always voices that rang louder, gentler and more true. The voice of my father who celebrated his clever little girl and affirmed her with his words. The voice of my mother who always saw a future worth believing, and taught me how fight to get there. The voice of my sister who was always watching, giving me a reason to keep moving. It was their voices that deafened out the negativity, that led me to challenge the way the world wanted me to see myself.
Their voices led me to create a world of mirrors, of people who looked like me, who experienced the world like me. I stuck up photos of women with melanin like me, listened to women with noses, lips and voices like me. I wanted to feel at home. I bought books and watched documentaries. I followed news stories and dug out commentaries that countered their narratives. And over the years, I have learnt what schools, the media or history books would never teach me. That black girls are wonderful.
While this world may not always see us, we have always been here, learning and teaching each other how to thrive.
One day I may have a daughter. She will know the strength that is birthed from unity, the pride from resilience, and the hope from faith. And maybe my little black girl will live to see this world be teased from the hands of white men and shared with those around her. And one day, my little black girl may reverse the journey I made. She may cross the Atlantic ocean and dance as she celebrates the glorious glow of her skin.
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