The big declutter!!(219 Posts)
Today is day 1 of my big declutter and so far I have done...nothing
Actually, that's not true. Ds and I went to town and bought a new shredder (I broke the last one by accidentally putting a plastic decoration in it!!).
I did have a head start and cleared a couple of cupboards last night but I really need to get off my backside and get decluttering.
I have 5 days
4 now to sort out my house. It has to be done.
For the next two hours, I am going to declutter the bathroom and get the washing on.
Anyone with me?
I have been decluttering my clothes today. I have a bag to ebay and a bag to take to the cash for clothes place. still can't see any surfaces though. have a long way to go but determined to clear this and spare room before I return to work.
Making - well done on sorting your clothes! That's also on my list. I did spend some time going through things before Christmas but, as usual, I ran out of time and it all got shoved back into any space available.
Trinity - thanks! I fear I may need more than luck . I have offered a friend a sum of money to transport things to the tip and charity shop for me. She really wants to get in here and declutter for me but I just don't think it would help me.
I have spent the last hour and a half taking things out of the kitchen cupboards and have a good selection of things ready for the charity shop.
Must get some washing on now...the basket is overflowing and I haven't started unpacking the Christmas stuff yet!!
I had a major declutter of the dcs bedrooms and playroom. DH had to take a load to the skip and I have a big pile of stuff for the charity shop. The rooms are sooooo much tidier and I have managed to fit the christmas stuff in- I feel v.proud!!
Next is the clothes-but i may leave that til tomorrow!
We decluttered the kids rooms pre Christmas and therefore, most of the Christmas toys have been found homes easily.
My cupboard has been home for presents for the past few months, so it's about time I tackled that and sorted through my clothes.
Problem is (as always), I need to lose weight and am loathe to get rid of things that are a bit tight at the moment, but that might fit in a few
Oooh can I join in please?
I need to do a big declutter as we want to put the house on the market in the New Year.
Can I ask whether people think it's worth selling stuff on eBay or should I just charity shop stuff? A lot of the stuff I need to get rid of is baby clothes/equipment/toys if that makes any difference.
Well done to those of you who've made a start - I'm impressed and envious of you
Ooh we're on day 2 and took 4 bin bags of clothes to the charity shop, loads of cardboard to the tip and filled another 3 bags of rubbish today! I was ruthless with broken toys, clothes I haven't worn or don't suit and old cosmetics. We're not hoarders but too busy to sort things sometimes! Doing the DD's room tomorrow which I'm dreading but that will be upstairs done! Good luck!
2kids I have always refused to throw away clothes that are a little tight. Trouble is that a year later, they are still too tight. This year I am being ruthless and throwing them away. I am also saving money by not buying any clothes (inspired by another thread) and so if I do lose weight, I can use the money I have saved on new clothes.
patches I always search for similar items before I eBay. Last year slot wand`t worth ebaying so we did some carnivores instead and made a couple of hundred pounds with dds baby things.
Wow lyndie you sound like me. Not hoarders just never have time to sort. You've made fantastic progress today.
We cleared out the storage areas and the bedrooms in the last few weeks, though while we've gotten all the bagged rubbish out (it'll still be a few more weeks before our bulky rubbish pick up), the donations bags and boxes are still sitting there waiting to be taken out .
The next area is the downstair hall (because all the hooks are full and need a good going through). Then the kitchen because it's frustrating everyone - I'm not exactly sure how to make our tiny kitchen better, but clearing it out is the obvious first step.
Welcome, fellow declutterers!!
I am such a procrastinator . I've managed to spend one whole hour going through two small areas of my sideboard. I have, however, thrown away almost all of my plastic pots...some are as old as ds (11yrs ) and it now looks a lot neater and everything fits in. There are also two more carrier bags of stuff for the charity shop and I've just decided to put my bread maker on FB selling pages as 'free to the first to collect'.
My crockery cupboard is looking a little bare...think I might have gone a bit ott with that one but I'm sure I'll find something else to go in there before the end of the day !!
Barges in...I'm joining
Just found out eBay has free listings until jan 5th
Is it just for auction listings or for fixed price too? Thanks for the info
Went hunting for something in a kitchen cupboard, emptied half of the crap I came across into a carrier bag for the bin: out if date herbs (with only a sprinkling left anyway), free crap I got with a 10-pack of Babybels - actually three of those bastards! And so it went on.
I have a big bag of crap for the skip (broken tree lights, broken toy, bottle steriliser plus 5 bottles!), a big bag of clothes that will NEVER fit again - it is actually therapeutic letting go of that, it's so sad keeping hold of size 8-10 stuff from the last decade, taunting me!
I have also made a list for next Christmas:
Things not to bother cooking (eg Christmas cake)
Things not to bother putting in DS' advent calendar (anything other than chocolate)
And I have thrown away lots of old decorations, ugly decorations, things I've made that I now think, 'meh', broken decorations.
I can breathe
even if the rest of the house needs blitzing
Christmas decorations are on my list, too...I noticed a lot of crap when I
finally got them all out.
I did go through my food cupboard fairly recently but I know it needs doing again.
I applaud all of you & hope to join you in the new year
In the meantime, try Unfuck your habitat.
It really works! Trin will back me up
I'm thinking of getting rid of some clothes soon, I need to declutter the guest room over the next 6 weeks in preparation for my friends arrival. It is a good goal and will hopefully force me to get rid of lots of clothes that are too small for me now.
Yes, join in...the more the merrier!
I have been a lazy arse this morning and have only just got up . I have calculated that I can still get 8 hours of decluttering in though.
One bag filled for the charity shop and a couple of things have found a new home. Keeping my fingers crossed that I see some improvement today!!
Hello! Oh yes please, I would love to join you.
Am moving things to the garage from the conservatory which has got a hole in the roof.
Am also sorting out masses of fabric and trimmings and buttons that my late lovely Grandmother left when she died. That is an epic task but I have made a huge bag for the charity shop last night, and am working my way through more of it now.
We're moving soon and the feeling that everything is sorted out and in clear plastic boxes with lids is so wonderful. I have never known such domestic peace
So we're off to Staples in a minute to buy a load more!!! <evangelical>
Hello again everyone!
Just checking in - we did our DD's rooms today and have another 3 bags for the charity shop and more rubbish too! Our upstairs is nearly clutter free!
Downstairs is a tip though - we are hopefully to do a room a day until Friday when we go away and then we will be done!
Can I join? We've just come back from grandparents with a car boot full
Of toys and gifts... And footwell and
Passenger front seat.. Ahh!
So I woke up this morning with intentions of tidying away and decluttering and have got to two charity bags. One with good quality puzzles etc that I've assembled to make sure all parts are there.. And one bag of stuff that's unworthy (for the bin).
But things are looking messier than ever. I'm losing the will.
I find bits of toys that ought to be upstairs but can't be bothered to be going up and down 10x/min to put them where they are... I have toys
Where there there parts in different rooms/boxes...
I don't understand why my kids can't put things away when they've played with them! I don't understand why my
Dh can't cooperate. I used to obsessively put things away, count and make sure they are all in the
Packs/boxes etcetc. I worked full time
Too. Now with two kids and still working full time I can't keep up.
Any tips beyond putting all in bin and starting over???
NK5, I hear you! We have 2 dcs and both work full time- that is why it takes til a holiday to sort anything out.
The only way that works for us is-
Put dcs infront of dvd
Both work at it together
Do one room at a time and do not leave until it is done
The worst bit is in the middle when the room is worse than when you started- at this point DO NOT have a cuppa- push on!!
It will be so good when you are done.
Having said that, I still havnt touched my wardrobe, i just keep slamming the door and ignoering it, but the playroom and kids rooms look fab now!!
Ooh can I join in too! My house is awful for clutter! I've got a whole bedroom upstairs full of stuff that needs sorting. I was good today though. My mum watched dd so I could do the kitchen. I could not believe it when there were ten/eleven binbags in the garden when I was done Kitchen looks so clean now (bar the washing up from tea tut tut) and it makes me go aaaaah when I walk in. Just need to maintain it while tackling the others now. Maintaining is the hardest bit I find!
I've done it! I stopped counting at 15 bin bags. I missed the triple wardrobe, the outhouses and the dining room. But I have done 3 bedrooms plus drawers and all the other wardrobes, the bathroom, the sitting room and the kitchen. I've had a tidy in the dining room but its mostly arts and crafts stuff in there and the bloody massive 8 seater table (why did I think we'd need a table that big post children? I can't remember the last time I invited people to supper never mind a dinner!)
So, dump/tip runs tomorrow and the dining room and outhouses sometime soon.
Off to go an appreciate my clutterless and almost immaculate bedroom.
I started at 6:30am. I have just decided to open the wine and call it a day whilst I cook dinner.
This includes moving all the beds and changing the sheets and hoovering underneath the beds as well.
Wow Spotty, I'm really impressed and
We've done a bit today, but not a lot. The Christmas decorations are down and in the loft and we've starting on decluttering the lounge.
We're trying to get the house ready to go on the market and we need to get all the little diy jobs done too, although it's difficult with a 2.10 year old and a 7 month old. Luckily the baby isn't crawling yet, as it'll just get harder when she is.
Nursery re-opens on Friday so I'll be able to make a proper start when DS is being entertained there all day [hopeful]
In the last few days, I have shredded enough old statements and receipts to fill two full bin bags (nothing like that much when it was all intact paper, I'm sure...) And today I have been through my wardrobe, and have two bin bags full for charity.
It's the first time in months and months when I've had time off and not been busy with other stuff (away at weekends, on holiday, studying, gardening,) and it's been good to do some of the stuff round the house.
I know it wouldn't look like it to anyone else coming in, but I do feel I've achieved quite a bit. I don't think I've been through my wardrobe since around the time my mother died, so over 4 years ago.
A lot of it is emotional blocks, rather than anything else.
Thanks missmapp! Well, I think I'm done for today. I stopped at about 5pm to cook dinner, and by then I had 4 bin bag sized bags of stuff to charity shop/bin. So I'm happy. Whilst I've been in the bath, dh cleared up the mess from the Christmas gifts/me decluttering and the living/dining room looks less explosive. I will have another 5 days or so to tackle the house and I'm hopeful there will be an impact. I will also do the clothes although I did tackle the kids wardrobes before we went away and got rid of 2 bags of clothes...
Will get dh to get rid of some clothes and I'll try and be ruthless and get rid of old knackered looking stuff (but oh so comfy!!).
Dh now talking about buying a little table for the kids room. I'm freaking out.
well I finished off the drawers and attacked the bif wardrobe today. I have about 5 black bags to take to cash for clothes and another for ebay and one for tip. not even started on spare room but really impressed. I bet its about 10 years since I last completely emptied my wardrobe. Even throwing away some handbags as been through those too. Annoyed at dh as hes just sat and played on web all day today and yesterday and kept coming in to me but I've not let him distract me. spare room tomorrow. I feel fab that its done and I've not wasted my holidays.
I have also worked through my sewing pile this evening, so that is another pile I can put away.
Anyone have any tips on towels? There isn't space to store in the airing cupboard like our old house and we have about 20!!
Do you need 20 towels penguinbear? We gave some to a local vet before Christmas. Does rolling them take up less room?
ohh can I join please, was hoping there was a thread like this
I need to declutter everywhere but my first job isy dc bedroom and the front room of toys. This is where I fail most! I hate to throw anything away as there is quite an age gap and I normally throw away older dc stuff only to find in a few months, younger dc is in to it. Also if people have brought the things as gifts I hate to get rid. But we are over run with toys and nowhere for the xmas stuff to go. Also I ordered a massive playset to arrive any day
Any ideas please?
I regularly clear out but it seems to be neverending, despite me not buying my dc ANYTHING apart from birthdays and xmas. Their stuff just seems to breed! I think because they have a lot of craft stuff and then toys with little bits like lego and sylvanians so I just end up with bits everywhere
Did some of ds' clothes yesterday and sorted some toys. Didn't actually get rid of much apart from the hotwheels and some tshirts but reorganising it helped with space.
Need to do their pants socks and pjs and my tops next. Also my ktchen is reaching levels of doom so could do with sorting that out. What does everyone do with the not used often but useful stuff? For example the big casserole dish that I barely ever use but is great for when I either have people staying or want to batch cook. Or the glass bowls that get used pretty much only at bbqs or parties...
We probably don't need 20 no we probably need about 12 (2 each) but we Have more as DP doesn't like me to use the tumble dryer and they take are to air dry on the airier
and he won't ever reuse a towel or flannel
I'm in. We move in a couple if months (currently renovating the new house) i do not want clutter in the new house. The dcs amused themselves for 4hrs in an empty room down there last week. They can't do 40 minutes here with a room full of toys. So I'm culling.
DH and I have both done our wardrobes. I need to attack dcs wardrobes at some point. I've done ds2s toy box before (and after) Christmas so there's only things he plays with/will grow into.
Right now ds2 is asleep on my lap and I can't do anything.
Is it too late to sneak in?
I always try and join in these threads but still have a house full of
I will report back later my
lack of progress.
Well done all!!
I need to do my wardrobe, but keep putting it off. My parents are down today for new year, but will do it before i go back to work on the 6th-it will be done!!!
I did a lot of clothes decluttering before Christmas - 3 different trips to the clothes charity bins with at least 4 bags each time - I now keep can see things in my wardrobe that I can wear instead of a whole lot of crap I have to sort through each morning before work.
Freakoid one tip I read (but haven't done yet) is to clean on top of your cupboards, line with several layers of newspaper (so that when it gets dirty, you just peel off the top layer) and put the seldom used but useful stuff up there in sealed plastic boxes (so the stuff remains clean).
Hi Justtired, I think the best thing I ever did with the toys was separate them into plastic boxes with lids - so that everything is in its proper set, with all its bits.
And then only have maybe one random tub of toys that gets sorted through once in a while.
It doesn't work perfectly but when you have a toy no one uses much, it tends to stay in its box for ever, and then at least you know you've got all the pieces when/if someone does eventually want to use it.
Btw we have a big age gap too so I am like you and hang on to the things that have been outgrown. It's a good thing to do I think.
Just having a break after having a rattle at my bedroom. No decluttering as such but I have tidied everything off the floor and given it a home. The room looks twice as big with the floor cleared.
All the packaging from Christmas presents into the recycling.
Some of the kids presents put away to be brought out in a few months time and they will feel like new.
Thanks Angrybird Well I have been to the tip, taken all the xmas presents out of bags and have either given a home to it or put it in the right room. I have also cleaned the kitchen completely from our 2nd xmas day yesterday.
not too bad
Lots of new people!! Hello, everyone!
I have been hard (ish) at it since 9am. 12 bags to the charity shop, a bag each to two friends and a few bags into the rubbish/recycling!!
Surely, after all that, I should see some improvement ...also, most of it came out of the kitchen .
Ds brough a good bagful out of his bedroom but we're going to go up there after tea
and Mary Poppins to try and get it properly straight.
I can feel my remaining days off slipping away without the house being how I'd hoped. My biggest priority is getting my paperwork in order and is what I'm going to concentrate on tomorrow.
Well done, everyone!
one bag of clothes for the charity shop and one bag of paperwork to be chucked.
Not much compared to many of the posters here, but it feels pretty good to me
I've sorted through DS's books and tidied and cleaned our bedroom and sorted our bedside tables. Got rid of a bag of rubbish from the bedroom. Haven't done the wardrobe or chest of drawers yet though, which will no doubt be a big job
Wow you guys are doing well. I can't wait to join in but am working again tomorrow and easier to wait until dh goes back to work on Thurs. My priorities are recycling wrapping paper and packaging, sorting kids rooms, taking down decorations then moving on to clearing a space in ds room for some sort of desk!
It has been much easier having time off without it being time off to do things.
I have now taken my bags of clothes to the charity shop - this turned out to be a bigger deal than expected, as all the rain had swollen my front door to the point where I couldn't get out, and once I eventually got out, I then couldn't get the door shut from outside, so couldn't leave the house. Fortunately, next door neighbour was in and came to the rescue, and I'm now free!
Wow we are a productive bunch. Finally attacked spare room today. Now 10 big black bags to go to tip and 4 black bags fr cash for clothes place. I now have piles of clothes on my bed to put away as we'll but they are sorted into piles so shouldn't be too bad. Couldn't see any floor in spare room and was hiding a settee in there so quite pleased with myself.
Good luck with the towels penguinbear! Does DH have any great ideas on storing them all?
I have had a fairly successful due cluttering day here too. I sorted out tshirts and jumpers, both of which I have far too many of and filled two large carrier bags. Will be more to lose, but currently pregnant so kept a few bits to stretch out of shape before going in the rag bag. Also got DP to go through his wardrobe as fed up of moving a pile of clothes each week to Hoover and told him I would charity shop them unless he wanted to sort out stuff he didn't want :-) So ended up with 3 bags for the charity shop and got DP to take them today. Also have a sack of rubbish, a pile of outgrown clothes to put up in the loft tomorrow, a bag of paper to take to be shredded and some recycling. Am shattered, but a productive day!
I am done in!
Just spent nearly two hours in ds' room and have come out with two bags of teddies, three bags of books/games, a huge pile of outgrown clothes and a bag of rubbish.
It's just never ending and still looks like a tip . There was I thinking I could do this whole house in 5 days...I'd need a month off to completely sort it all out.
I feel the same hiccup but I just look at the piles to take to the tip and feel better
Just keep,remembering all the stuff that has gone. I still have loads to sort through but concentrating on what has gone helps. My decluttering is taking ages to achieve but is slowly happening and house would be in a worse state if the stuff that has gone was still here.
Thanks, both .
I fell asleep on the sofa last night and woke up about half an hour ago so am making the most of my early start and trying to work out how to use my new steam cleaner but it's not doing what it's supposed to. Going to google for tips.
Next on the list is to load the latest lot of charity shop/tip stuff into the car then pop out to take them and to get some emergency supplies from the supermarket...it's been well over a week since I last went and I don't think I can put it off any longer!!
Hmm, steam cleaner not quite as amazing as the reviews led me to believe...either that or my bathroom is a disgraceful health hazard that even the most powerful cleaner couldn't fix .
Going to load the car now and get the shopping/charity shop drop off out of the way.
Well I've done my wardrobe DH has done his and we've also done dd's and ds1s. Ds2 isn't quite out of his clothes yet so that'll be another few weeks. Unfortunately our local charity shops haven't been open since the 23rd so I now have loads of bags hanging around ready to go to the charity shop.
I've done my wardrobe and my socks/tights/knickers drawers!
I have two bags for the charity shop and one bag for the bin.
feel v pleased, but now have to face the paperwork bulging out of the bureau- wish me luck.
BTW, Hiccup, i have been wondering about a steam cleaner- did it get any better or is it not worth the money?
Hi! Can I join? I love decluttering.
I've done my kitchen cupboards today! Some of my spices were years past their date! Lol.
Did my bedroom a few days ago, tomorrow I'll take down the tree and sort the living room.
I have a feeling I'm going to need a skip!
Well done on the wardrobe decluttering! I half-heartedly went through mine a couple of weeks ago but that was before the new, minimalist me so I should probably go back and clear the rest of the things that don't need to be there.
When I sorted through ds' cupboard, I freed up two units of plastic drawers. I'm trying to decide whether I actually need them or not. I suppose I should wait to decide until all the clothes have been sorted out and I can see exactly what still needs a home.
I'm working til late tonight so no major decluttering today but am only working til 1 tomorrow so will crack on tomorrow afternoon and all weekend. Hopefully, by Monday, I'll be able to see some significant improvement!
Clara - how are you getting on with your tree? I carry on using my out of date spices !!
Missmap - I think I will learn to love it. I had a 'little yello' (? I think that's what it was called) that was amazing. It had a really high pressure so it shifted the dirt/grime really quickly and easily. I was a bit gutted when it broke and replaced it with something I thought was similar but turned out to be a total waste of money. The latest arrival was almost £100 (reduced from £150) and more than double the cost of my original one but I think it will grow on me. It's a lot neater than my first one and easier to store.
I'll give it a good test run over the weekend and report back
Right, that's work over until Monday so really need to pull my finger out and get more clutter out of the house.
I've got a lady coming to look at my spare kitchen table this afternoon so need to tighten up the screws to make it look as good as possible and hope that she buys it and takes it straight away!! The kitchen looks so much better already and I've only moved it to the other side of the room .
There's someone else coming to view a food warmer tomorrow and if that goes, it'll free up a huge space in one of the cupboards...I've already mentally filled the space .
It feels like a switch has been flicked in my brain and I am on a mission to rid this house of all clutter...well, almost all clutter . After years of collecting crap and not wanting to throw anything, it is a bit of a weird feeling but I am loving it and trying to make the most of the time I have to do it.
DD2 has just moved into the spare room,so all the toys,clothes,books,stuff in the wardrobe had to be cleared out.Dh did a good job of clearing it out,but then just left it all over our room,DD1's room and the landing.. I have been utterly ruthless and put 4 binliners of clothing out for a charity collection,only they didn't come,so I drove to the shop and dropped them off before they got soaked and ruined.Got ride of 2 carrier bags of books and games too.
DD2 can't get into her room for all the stuff DH has piled up in there,and he has now decided to board the loft before putting anything back up there,and has piled up more stuff on the landing.I know it needs sorting,and have got rid of 3 more bin bags of old paperwork ect,but we have visitors tomorrow and I'm wondering why he had to start a major job now.
The guinea pigs need cleaning out,the ponies need to be moved to a new field and re fencing,so I could have done without more jobs today.
I love my FB local selling page! Strictly speaking, I have only sold one item but have three more being collected today .
As a regular eBay user, I think I have been converted...especially for the big stuff that's a pain to post.
I gathered a big sack of stuff, for the charity shop, out of ds' room yesterday evening. Also, a suitcase for the tip and a big bag of rubbish. Poor ds, most of what I cleared was my unsorted crap that had been hidden in his room . There are still a couple of piles of stuff that need to be sorted through before we even get to his own things. I feel so bad for making him live this way for so long.
Things will never get this bad again. Ever!
Mirage - how did you get on yesterday? I think I might be like your dh...I'm really good at pulling everything out but lose interest before it's time to put it all back . I hope you managed to straighten things out ready for your visitors.
I'm up early and packing away all the Christmas decorations and tree. The sitting room needs to be ready for work on Monday. That is today's goal.
Hi! Last couple of days of the holiday period and I've decided to tackle the paper pile...
Quick question - how long do we really have to keep all the bank statements? For regular accounts, not work related...? Can I start shredding stuff from 2012??
I am joining in too. I am here in an old pair of maternity pj bottoms while I take down the decorations. I have gone through two wardrobes ( everyday wear and special occasion) this morning, shoe cupboard and bags, have a bag for charity shop, rubbish bag and bag of good dresses to sell.
I have also sorted baby clothes for storage in the attic, had a bowl of soup and washed sitting room floor.
Roll on round two
Nice glass of McGuigans tonight!
Yay! Second (large) item paid for and collected! Just waiting for two more buyers to come.
I seem to have almost ground to a halt and just keep moving little things from one place to another. I think I need a rocket up my arse to kick start me into action!
Nk5 - my friend used to get rid of anything over a year old. Do you have Internet banking? You could get rid of the lot then.
Mrswelly - well done. Sounds like you're having a productive day. I'm yet to venture into my room but must get up there today to take photos of the drawers I want to put on FB later. If only I could figure out how to do an album on there, then I could put more than three things on at one time.
God this thread is so depressing.
People just buy crap thinking it will make them happy. Then they fill their house with all this crap and it just ends up making them depressed.
So they go and buy more crap to store the crap in, hoping that buying more will make them happy.
So many bags of crap taken to the charity shop or thrown in landfill and not even missed.
When will people stop buying into the myth that buying stuff makes you happy?
Thanks - I do have Internet banking so will at least shred the ones more than a year old.
Jayne - did you mean to be so judgy?
I for one am throwing away broken kids toys/missing parts. And shredding bills. And you?
Jayne - if it's depressing you so much, go and find one that doesn't and keep your unhelpful comments to yourself...like I frequently have to remind the children, if you haven't got something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
And, fwiw, how do you know it's crap that is being taken to the charity shop?
Hi everyone, can I join you all? First time on this forum but regularly lurk/post on others on MN.My whole house is in desperate need but just off top of head our bedroom /the back room and DS's room are the worst.I really don't know where to start it is so utterly depressing.I was in our room yesterday and clearing the clutter actually made me sick.I don't know if I believe in stagnant chi or whatever they call it but some of that stuff had been there for 5 + years it's embarrasing.I can't even get into my wardrobe I have so much stuff(mostly clothes) in front of it.Can clearly clutter make you vomit? I still feel queesey today but am determined to do some more.it could just be I'm detoxing too, doing the Dryatholin etc and trying to lose weight/be healthier so it is probably an unfortunate coincidence.I just get really bored, quite quickly.I can see I hoard and I know it's not healthy and it's got to the point of being quite stressful especially before xmas when friends would just pop in and the house was a mess(sad face).
Sorry for typing errors.
Welcome, lostin .
Sorry to hear you're not feeling well. I also had things that haven't been touched for years. Infant, there's a box upstairs, in a cupboard, that is still packed from my last move (6years ago!!!).
I don't really have any tips or suggestions. I've read threads like this, over and over again on this section but nothing really helped me until I realised that I just could not fit a single thing more into my home and something had to give.
The biggest thing that helped me was having 5 whole days off work, with no plans at all. I've got a very long way to go but am so much further than I was before Christmas.
I started this thread to keep myself focused and to find others who are in a similar position so that we could encourage eachother but there are loads of useful threads in this section which might make it feel like less of a daunting task for you
Yes I would agree with hiccup that the thing that helped was having time off this Christmas. We both work full time and the kids are still young (6 and 3). I felt that the younger one has kinda outgrown the really babyish toys and so have brought those to the charity shop/bin depending on the quality.
With the time off, we didn't have to rush to work/school/pack lunches/activities/ which really helped. In reality it took perhaps 2 days to break the back of things in terms of putting them in boxes/trays. We created lots of boxes even things like 'plastic animals' and 'ponies'! So every thing (more or less) has a place to go to. We found enough lollies, chocolate and little bags of haribo to fill a celebrations box!!!
After the 2 days of blitzing (not all done in a stretch though!) we are now motivated to clear/tidy away little cupboards/bookshelves etc.
I think we still have a way to go but I feel alot happier about the 'mess' because I know that they all belong somewhere. I will tackle my clothes in a bit. I'm umming about slightly tired looking tops (eg grey/black tops that used to be black) as they are good to layer under sweaters and things like that. I think i might hang on to them till we are out of this cold and will dump in spring!
I do paperless billing as far as I can be NK5BM3. The less crap falling through my letterbox the better. I have one box of paperwork. When it gets full, I sort it.
Of course we have broken toys, but they get chucked straight away, not left to lie around in bedrooms for years. My dd's are only 3 and 6 and know to put things in the bin or the recycling. They wouldn't dream of just dumping a toy that had broken and walking away from it. Who teaches their dc its ok to break toys and then just leave them?
Woohoo!! Another FB buyer has just been and left with two more bulky items . Fingers crossed that the third buyer comes this evening because her item is currently taking up half my kitchen table and its home has already been filled with other things!!
Right, I'm going to finish packing away the decs!
I need some moral support!!
Today I started on the DCs bedroom....it started well ive sorted lots, organised it and have 2 bags of rubbish/charity.
Although ive now lost my ooomph and its looking worse than when I started, im having 5mins out of there and am then hoping to get the rest done
Yay! Well done!
I had a similar experience in ds' room a couple of days ago and eventhough I didn't manage to finish, it looked so much better. Also, I can clearly see what's left to do for it to be finished, whereas before, it just seemed like an impossible task.
Good luck getting the rest done !!
Great thread Hiccup
Justtired sympathies, I have been there - concentrate on what you have achieved and that
-plus coffee- will spur you on!
Jaynejam life happens sometimes and things don't always happen how we'd hope. I don't believe for one moment that any of these lovely MNetters have taught their children to abandon broken toys.
I have been known to be quite disorganised and someone on another thread posted a link on how to become more organized. The posters on that thread (1 in particular) was super organized and shared lots of the routines she had in place at home. They were brilliant and she didn't once comment negatively on those of us who it didn't come naturally too.
Thanks and welcome, Iorek!
Hi Jaynejam. Can you share any good tips with us all? That is a good start, not to buy too much in the first place
Can I join please? I've got so much stuff to sort out, including boxes of crap in my spare room from when I moved in over four years ago . I actually started decluttering in the summer and I filled an entire Clothes for Cash bag but now their website says they're changing hands, so god knows what I'm going to do with that .
I've also got piles of paperwork to sort through and shred. It just seems so overwhelming. I know the house will be easier to keep clean once it's all done though.
Iorek Could you share that thread with us, please?
Thanks HHH, I am feeling loads better.I am just getting to the point where I'm sick of being surrounded by crap.I hate not being able to put my hand on anything, losing things and it taking absolutely ages to find things, that's if I ever do.I know DH gets/is stressed by it all and I know it's not fair on my kids (14 and 11) They do try and keep their rooms tidy.I have read this many times, something along the lines of, it didn't get like that overnight, it's not going to get fixed overnight, or similar.I joined Flylady but got bored, I have the decluttering pop up bags somewhere under a pile of stuff!My bedroom is looking better already, I have quite a nice carpet <<LOL>> in there.We have a newish young cat(he adopted us) I put the Henry on the other day and he jumped out of his skin, I don't think he had ever heard it.I want a house that my kids are not ashamed of bringing their friends back to.My daughter is getting to the stage where she might want to bring a boyfriend home.
Softkitty - this was a while ago I cut and pasted the things relevant to my situation, I'll see if I can find the thread. If not, I could c&p onto this thread the things I have. Would that be ok Hiccup?
You are in luck - LeQueens advice was particularly helpful for me
I wrote a really heated message to Jayne but decided not to post it. You can judge away, but you know what? You don't know me or anyone else on this thread (nor do I) and I'm using this thread for support and to help me sort my clutter out...
So you can go be perfect somewhere else, preferably where people actually appreciate it.
Iorek - I actually read that thread a long time ago - great to pull it up again. I actually started doing a few of those things, like having a bag of stuff to go (charity shop) so I can just fill it as I go along.. The dh however isn't too helpful in that aspect as he likes to store things away even though they are broken. Eg, his pair of jeans that sprung a few holes... I washed them as they were in the wash basket; hung them then realised that they had holes. Commented on it - did leave it to dry (thinking once they are dry, I'll put them in a bag to go to rags) and he ended up folding them and putting them in his wardrobe again!!!! Bloody annoying.
I've started putting things like school stuff on the fridge, noting things down on my phone calendar. I buy stuff in advance for birthday parties so that I always have a present in the cupboard - same as cards.
I just need to declutter frequently...!
Iorek - sorry, went off to cook tea! Of course it's fine...we need all the help we can get !!! I'll have a look at your link now...thanks for posting it.
I can't really help with the decluttering as I can't stand mess - it fries my brain and drags me down, so I haven't really ever built up any clutter.
I'm not super organised though and am well aware of my own weaknesses - spending hours filing paperwork into different household catergories would drive me as insane as looking as at a pile of dirty washing.
So I have to strike a balance - where I create a home I can bear to live in without spending hours everyday organising and cleaning it. Not easy when you have dc.
I've worked out what works best for me. I'm ruthless with crap, if its rubbish it goes. The kids have one draw in their bedrooms where they can keep their crap, thats it. I sort clothes out as soon as they outgrow it. I have a big bag for life in the bottom of dd1's wardrobe (labelled with the size of the clothes being put in it), as soon as it doesn't fit dd1, it goes into the bag. When the bag is full, it goes into the loft. When dd2 reaches that size, I just have to pull the correct sized bag(s) out of the loft. No need to spend hours sorting clothes. I do the same with dd2's clothes which will be passed onto dd3. And when dd3 has outgrown them I will take each bag to the local clothes recycling bin instead of putting in the loft.
When bills/paperwork come through the letterbox I sort straight away. No leaving lying around for weeks. If it needs dealing with then it goes into a file tray which sits on the kitchen side. I clear this tray once a week and do everything that needs doing. The stuff I need to keep goes into one meduim sized box kept inside a cupboard upstairs. I dont file anything - I 've worked out that the hours I spend filing far outweighed the length of time it took to sort through the box on the occasions I needed to find the home insurance documents for example. When the box is full, I go through and clear it out, throwing away old documents etc. Takes an hour maxonce a year, sat in front of the TV with a glass of wine.
I have one box of 'keepsafe' things which I have easy access to, so I can chuck things straight in there that I want to keep( things the dc have made etc) When it gets full, its gets labelled and put in the loft. No need to sort or go through.
I dont use a paper diary. I use the calender on my smartphone which is synced with dh's. Every little thing goes onto this calender. I also keep 'to do lists' on my phone so I dont end up with a thousand scraps of paper lying around.
Both the dc know the rountines. We come indoors and coats, shoes, hats, scarves are put away straight away. In the same place everyday. I refuse to spend hours hunting for things. Everything has a place.
They do not go to sleep in an untidy bedroom. While the bath is running they tidy up the mess they have made that day. Every morning before they get dressed they make their beds (I obv help 3yo dd2).
I've worked out that I do better if I get my arse in gear and do things first thing, rather than waiting till after the school run. So in the morning, I put a load of washing on ( loaded into machine the night before), unload the dishwasher, quick clean of the bathroom (normally while the dc are making beds and getting dressed). This means that when we come down in the mornings, upstairs is tidy, even the bathroom. Unloading the dishwasher means the kitchen stays tidy all day as dirty stuff goes straight in.
I'll stop now as I'm rambling too much
Funny Jayne - coz I do a lot of the things you say you do.. Apart from the bills/paperwork which was what I was doing today. The kids' clothes are decluttered quite frequently, and we pass on ds' clothes to a friend who's son is smaller sized. Dd's go to other friends. We get hand me downs from friends too so when they send things down to us, we declutter as we get the 'new stuff'. ATM I have a rather big bag of little girl clothes going to friends soon.
I also put things in my phone diary. So inset days go in the moment they get announced. Birthday invites too. Plus anything I between.
The crap from the kids crafts is what was getting me down so I did allocate 2 boxes to both kids for their stuff. I think the issue is they (or at least the older one) doesn't get the idea of tidying things away.... The younger one who is the girl is pretty happy filing things though. Don't let me get started on the gender difference!
Thank you JayneJam, it makes sense the systems you have in place help to prevent the cluttering
Yes - to systems and routines BUT if your DH/P is untidy, it really is soul destroying.
I try to teach my DC how to finish what you start + tidy up after. Unfortunately their father is a serial starter of projects
He will start something and out will come tools and 100 tape measures and the 'correct' drill(s) and then he gets sidetracked but all of the
-crap- tools get left out
These can be left out for months on every surface in the dining room
The last time this happened, despite suggesting he/I could put them away he wouldn't or let me do it. I had enough and put it all in a big box. He came in, looked and said how much better it looked
Moan over its time!
My third FB buyer has just been, yay!!
Thanks Iorek, I remember reading that thread at the time but will go back and revisit it again for tips.
I've been reading that other thread and finding it very helpful, thanks for posting the link.
If your kids are old enough to tidy away but refuse to then I would get a big black sack and threaten to throw it. I would actually start throwing it away if that still didn't motivate them. I tell my dc that its their mess not mine and its their job to clean it up. Otherwise you end up with entitled teenagers who think their mum is their slave.
We have a small chest for arts and craft, about the size of a bedside table. It all gets put in there. Or it gets chucked. Its amazing how quickly things start getting putting away when its a choice of clear up or lose it.
And if dh left crap everywhere, it would be thrown in a box and put in the shed where he could sort it out. I would last one day with it all spread over the dining room.
But like I said, I'm ruthless and living surrounded by mess drags me down.
Its about setting the tone. If mess isn't acceptable then people won't make mess. If you keep quiet, just tidy up after them or let them leave crap lying around then they will. Be ruthless.
I may have PMT Jayne but I do think you come across as sanctimonious.
I'm glad that others are finding the link helpful
Iorek - I started reading the thread you linked to...will read some more later, thanks .
I have approx 5 hours left to declutter . Work tomorrow so need to speed up a bit. Kitchen and sitting room are almost straight and much better than last week. My bedroom could do with
a lot of some attention so I'm heading up there after tea. Then I have a couple of hours of ironing to finish off my evening !!!
Jayne, why are you being so negative? Your first post on this thread was so aggressive. It's a support thread not a shit on everyone because you are perfect thread :/
I'm done with decluttering right now... I've got ft work from tomorrow. Toys have disappeared but they are in trays and their drawers. Not going to bother anymore for a while. My cleaner will be v impressed with the amount of space that's been created!
Maybe Jayne doesn't work. Maybe Jayne's perfect. Whatever...
Good tips there JayneJam. Sometimes a bit too easy to spend too much time on mumsnet and not on the important things. I certainly get distracted! House looking a lot better now, had extensive interior decoration done this year so has been a good opportunity to clear clutter and arrange things in a way that works.
I am finding that putting things away straightaway really helps to stop mess building up in the first place
Jayne - I find your post most out of place with the rest of this thread and in fact the whole housekeeping topic. I have been on here for a while and have always found it supportive. Whatever useful information you have tried to impart on the rest of us mere mortals living in their respective "shit tips" is lost amongst your sanctimonious attitude.
My house isn't a shit tip.
I don't run around with a bin bag threatening to chuck other people's things away <shrugs>
My point was that we live with people and we live together and I can empathise with others <double shrugs>
Oh and if you don't like the thread that Hiccup started hide it
Oh Buffy, loved you on screen and now on MN
Slattern I wish I were as eloquent as you!
I had 5 unexpected visitors this morning MIL, SIL,BIL and 2 of their adult children. 'Popped' in e route to somewhere . Luckily I do not live in a shit tip, but it did make me realise I need another sofa
Hmm, got a bit distracted. I managed to clear a shelf of CDs and just as I was putting them in the charity shop bag, an advert came on tv for music magpie or something like that. I spent half an hour putting in the barcodes and it offered me £10 for 30something CDs!! They're going to the charity shop tomorrow . Ds had predicted £100 before I entered the barcodes...I predicted a more realistic £20...anyway, they'll be out of the house tomorrow morning!!
Going to spend an hour getting my bedroom straight, an hour of ironing then bed early.
Keep at it, everyone
What is it with mn lately? There's always one arsehole preaching the tough love approach when it is clearly not wanted. It doesn't work for everyone and can quite often have the opposite effect for people who are already down about something and seeking support.
But ignoring that now.
Does anyone know what the best thing to do with old textbooks is (well old as in I don't use them but they are brand new never read haha)? I was thinking of selling them on amazon but the longer I keep them the less likely that is. Do universities accept donations of books that are still a new edition?
Buffy Freecycle ?? Textbooks are a pain for posting (often heavy and expensive)
Ah I didn't think of the weight, good point, thanks!
wtf Jayne!!!? Seriously fuck the fuck off.
I have a cleaner yes, but I do not live in a shit tip. That, I believe was your fucking word that you used to describe everyone's houses.
The cleaner cleans. I never said that the house wasn't clean. I keep it clean too when she's not here.
I have an issue with clutter, and perhaps storage, so I have the time these past two weeks (actually only one because we had to go away to see the in laws) to declutter and remove things that are no longer necessary in this house, away from this house.
You can really fuck off.
Actually Jayne, what are you doing on this thread then? I don't go around lurking and posting on the relationships threads when people are having relationship problems with husbands having affairs lording over them about why it's their fault for their husbands having affairs; or post on teenage pregnancy saying tsk tsk for letting their teenage children get pregnant or impregnate their girlfriends??
Buffy, there are people who go around in universities collecting old textbooks for resale. You can google them if you wish, or you can list them for little money on amazon? With postage you can still get £5?
I have had a mammoth weekend of decluttering and am happy. Dh has sheeted the attic. I have stored away baby clothes that no longer fit, maternity clothes, sorted the office with expedit. Very tired.
I can't part with my textbooks, old school uniform. Top I got engaged in.
But I am not a hoarder
I'm on this thread because its a free world. I'm not lurking though - I'm posting, as is my right.
And a cluttered house thread isn't really comparable to a family destroyed by an affair. Good job you do stay away from the relationship threads if you think it is.
Hows your pregnancy going Jayne? You are doing well to work, be organised, have 2 children and be pregnant!
Lost hearts - don't forget to add 'and be a paragon of cleaning virtue'.
I could add so much more but in the spirit of this supportive thread I won't. Although I think NK summed it up rather well at 23.40.
Good morning all!! (The sun is now shining )
My DC are back at school today and I'm not back to work until this evening so I'm going to pick through their books and see what they have grown out of.
DP has finished stripping the dresser in the kitchen. Yay!!
He has claimed the top shelf for his CDs. It's inaccessible to me, even using the step ladder.
And the rain starts again
I've just been reading through the thread and last Monday feels like such a long time ago!!
I'm working today so not much sorting for me but will take a big bootfull to the charity shop later.
Good luck with the books and it's raining here, too!
I'm lurking for tips...just had dd2 on New Years Day, so not much in the way of time or free hands to clear sort and tidy but I'm ever hopeful! DP and I are trying to sort out a lot before he goes back to work
Onedog congratulations enjoy your new baby !!
Thanks Hiccup! I have just been rounding up our Hiccup books
You must be very proud of how productive you have been
Onedog - aw, congratulations!! Could you make a list for dh ?!
Iorek - ds had put his copies in a pile for the charity shop
I've put them on my shelf.
I've been to the charity shop and just remembered I have another two big bags upstairs waiting to go. Might go to a different shop tomorrow, though, I think they're beginning to get a bit sick of me !!
I am pleased with the progress made and really hope I can keep it up until it is all done...then I'll have to work on maintaining it!!!
Thanks for the encouragement!!
My dd's back at school tomorrow so i'm going to give her bedroom a good sorting out.its her birthday this week and she has friends coming for a sleepover so i really need to get it done.
I sorted all my paperwork and drawers/cupboards of crap out just before christmas.i also took 2 bags of clothes and kitchen bits to the charity shop.
Can I join you? Our house was badly in need of a clear-out. I then had to clear my late parents' house in order to sell it. I couldn't clear everything, so brought loads of boxes over to my house. The result - we cannot move for boxes
I'm trying to do a couple of hours a day, as I work full-time. We have been taking 4 bags to the charity shop each day. I had to laugh when I went there this afternoon. There was a big sign that said that they couldn't take any donations today, on health and safety grounds - and I wondered whether I had contributed to this!
Dimestore - hi and welcome! Sorry for your loss. It must be so hard to sort through someone else's things, especially late parents' belongings .
Do you have other charity shops you can take things to? There seem to be millions here so am spreading my stuff around them all . There's a fairly large local charity which I visited today with an electrical item but they wouldn't take it and said I should take it to one of their other shops so I'll be off there tomorrow with aforementioned electrical item plus the two bags from ds' room.
Dimestore, that happened to me. It was really difficult going through my mothers things. But I did get to keep some treasure
I have a painting that was my great grandmothers, then my grandmothers, mothers and now mine! And some well worn and loved books, which are strictly for "display only" now
The trouble with this time of year is that my local charity shops stop taking donations because they are literally too full and no longer have space to store any further stock. I have more to give but will have to hold onto it for now
I read somewhere (and I did try this) to remove one item every day. So over the year you'd have removed 365things! It could be anything from an old toy or old clothes or appliances..
I did try that when I was short of time and frankly it was quite therapeutic.
Thanks! I kept walking to the next charity shop, as I would have felt like a real failure taking the bag home! It is actually a lovely feeling seeing my parents' belongings being used to raise money for good causes - and for a lot more than they would have paid for them.
I have got rid of a lot lately but seemed to have come to a bit of a standstill. Hopefully I will start again soon
I'm going to fill a bag with old clothes and then put photos on my fb buy/sell page, and list some stuff as free probably, just want rid!!
ok, I filled a large Aldi bag with clothes, seriously they are pretty old clothes now and will not fit me in the next year so I really have to get rid and free up some drawers. I like to do little and often (if I remember!! haha).
Take a photo of any lumpy/messy/bulky kids artwork. They will then let you get rid of the real thing.
Poor JayneJam is getting a pasting, but I agree with her. If you have to live with a congenital hoarder, her approach is about the only way which begins to get through. I think it's perfectly valid to tell someone that if you see something lying around on the floor where it can get trodden on and broken it's not unreasonable to assume it's rubbish and belongs in the bin. If you value it, why not learn to put it away?
The sort of hoarder I am thinking about is the sort of person who keeps piles of 40 year old magazines because they haven't read them yet, can't have a bath because it's full of jars and bottles of old junk which have half dried up, can't get into bed because it's covered with old clothes, can't use a table because it is covered with old catalogues, unread newspapers, empty envelopes.......
That level of hoarding is probably a form of mental illness, but is dangerous - infestations of vermin and falling over the piles of clutter spring to mind, so please don't let yourselves get like that.
Thank you LaVolcan for your wise words
Well, from my perception of this thread, nobody on here is anywhere close to dangerous levels of hoarding! This is a bunch of ordinary people, who just want to get rid of some unwanted stuff.
Had a charity bag in the letter box so was able to put the clothes I'd sorted out for collection.
Now I just need to get rid of the bag of toys and the box of kitchen stuff. Wish they'd put a bag through for 'stuff' but its all clothing only.
One thing I started doing a few years ago that might help some people is to use up toiletries etc before starting a new one-even if the new one is nicer! Saves having several opened bottles around. If it's a shower gel that smells horrible or a shampoo that makes my head itch for example, I'll either use it to clean the loo or throw it away without guilt!
Hoarding can creep up on you to danger level, if you are that way inclined. It only takes something like having a period of illness to go and get out of hand, and then you are constantly running to catch up.
Don't put it down, put it away was always my Dad's mantra. That's one of the problems I find now - there is no 'away' for the item to be put!
Good observation cremeegg! Or at least no one here has professed to have those tendencies. I do dread the day when I will have to clear out my dad's place. He has over the years accumulated stuff to the point that he even brings home stuff that others have dumped (like from the charity shop but there's no real use for him)...
I still have some of my old old stuff at his (long story involving country moves etc) and when I've tried dumping my stuff (at his request), he's actually retrieved half of them back! But that's another thread... Nothing to do with this current one!
Have been reading to get into the mindset for a big declutter next week.
Just wanted to pop into say that my Dad had a lifelong problem with hoarding, parrticularly books, newspapers and 'useful' bits of wood! It stemmed from his experience as a child with a ruthless mother who threw his things away when he wasn't around - just thought it was worth mentioning.
liger thank you for sharing
Good luck for next week!
...and let us know how you get on!
Hi everyone! I have done zilch since work started and have had a bit of a nightmare today. I needed my 2012 calendar to help work out the figures for my tax return and have no idea where it is. I remember seeing it during a pre-declutter sort out but haven't seen it since.
I need to get into a better routine of doing a little bit of clearing out, everyday!!
Anyone else lost motivation or still in declutter mode?
Definitely not doing as much but the house is tidier - easier to put things away on shelves that are not jammed pack!
We have got rid of our old curtains finally (from the previous owners who lived here for 40 years!!) because we've put up new curtain poles. Today, off to buy new curtains hopefully.
So not really decluttering but at least it's replacing something I've been wanting to get rid of for 2 years!
Also gave away one bag of Dd's old clothes. Another is on it's way so that'll go in 2 weeks when we see those friends.
Still struggling a bit with kitchen. Reorganised glasses cupboard yesterday which in turn cleared a box from on top of cupboards.
I don't have many cupboards in my kitchen and two are in the corners so although there is space in them it's a bit of a pain getting stuff in and out as you have to move the stuff at the front to get to the stuff at the back and to the side. Or shove it in and end up with a big pile of crap.
Going to try and reorganise them again today. There must be a way of making it work...
Nk5 - good luck with the new curtain purchasing! I agree, it's easier to keep things ticking over when it's not a constant battle to find homes for everything.
I almost bought 4 new kitchen stools this morning but closed the web page down before I could hit buy!! I have 8 seats in the kitchen...only ds and I live here ...in my defence two are highchairs and another two are Tripp Trapps (which everyone uses) for CMing. Hmm, thinking about it now, I might put the ikea highchairs away for a while because I don't have small children needing to use them at the moment. Infact, I wonder if I could just replace all my normal chairs with Tripp Trapps...maybe I should have just bought the stools.
Freakoid - well done on clearing a box! I have spent the last 6 years wishing my kitchen was better designed but after getting rid of so much stuff, I have realised that I just had too many things . I also have a corner cupboard that you can only access from one side so the hidden side has things in which aren't used daily.
Yes I've tried to organise mine that way too, but unfortunately I really don't have enough cupboards (rather than too much stuff), and there are 4 things that are used daily with only space to have two of them at the front iyswim. I've reorganised it again and hopefully it will work better this time. There's no way of telling until it's actually used though, every time I do it I think I've arranged it beautifully, then a week later its a massive mess again
Thanks hiccup! Curtains bought and up! They were 50% off at dunelm but they were still £99!! Anyway they look good if I do say so myself.
Right. Next thing would be the kitchen at some point. Hoping to replace them at Easter. Which will mean relocating elsewhere for a week at least. But it'll mean we can at least have good storage. The old stuff (from 40 years) just don't fit the modern appliances and things now - simple things like spatulas and pans etc just don't fit. Looking forward to that decluttering!!
We have just moved so have chucked a load of stuff and I am now working my way through the wardrobe. I have designed a dream capsule wardrobe and I am selling a load of stuff on ebay in a vague hope of being able to afford it!
I have been getting rid of clothes, two bags filled up today (supermarket bags, not bin bags!) and have already filled 8 previously, I found a clothes bin for a charity shop really close by that I never noticed before, so it has kept me motivated. I am so glad to have got rid of old clothes - once you start you really do think to yourself, why am I keeping this??!
I have not bought anything in the sales this year, I normally go out and buy a right load of crap thinking that they are all bargains because they r in the sales!!
I have empty shelves in my linen cupboard now. I got rid of some bits for free on facebook, and chucked out some stuff and just tidied up other bits. So now I know I have some space for things to be put away!!
We have had new kitchen work tops fitted and the kitchen sort of had a re-organisation because of the workman coming in, so that was also good!
anyway It has been small bits and pieces here and there but that suits me, I like to think about what I want to tackle and then give it a go. Perhaps one day I will keep on top of it all, all the time :/
Hi, can I join please? Just getting started - prompted by having to give up our storage unit (no loft or garage). My biggest problem is most of the hoarded stash is DP's and he doesn't mind the clutter. But reading people's advice I've decided to model some good behaviour! And then at least I can
nag request from a decent position!
Bin day today so have bagged a few items...
I'm afraid I have no advice about how to manage hoarding dps. My ds is extremely tolerant of my hoarding ways .
Shnicky - sounds like good progress! I have also avoided the sales this January
mostly and I don't feel like I've missed out much.
Please let me join!
Our house is really too big for the two of us now the DSs have their own homes, but it is brilliant when they all pile in with the DGCs for Christmas, birthdays etc. so we have no intention of down sizing. Counting the boiler/laundry room and the pantry (crammed with baking stuff, millions of glasses / vases and similar items many of which belonged to my DM who died 20 years ago but left me her "stuff" as she knew I would "look after it") we have 20 rooms, to say nothing of a big cellar and the old 'servants bedroom' , only accessible by an outside staircase and naturally used for bunging stuff which will be used even more infrequently than all the junk in the cellar.
Every drawer in the house, every cupboard, is full of things which might 'come in useful' . I am really determined to get rid of most of it but need keeping on the straight and narrow by joining . Please nag me to keep at it.
As well as all the unnecessary things stored everywhere, the whole place really needs a deep clean, but until the junk has gone this is not easy. I need you to assure me that 99% will never be be missed if chucked.
Just caught up on the thread - you are all doing so well
Me not so much
I have spent quite a bit of time sitting with a small (warm) puppy on my lap!
I have bought 2x expedits for the DSs rooms. Their rooms are
-unbelievably- tidy and organized!
My kitchen IS a disaster zone kitchen/cloakroom/kennel/wood store. It's not a very big space I have to move some things out...
I'm joining, hello
I will be decluttering for the next few weeks as we should be moving house, fingers crossed at the end of March. Last time we moved DS didn't exist and it was 14 years ago and we had far less stuff.
I do want to sell a few bits like a mamas and papas cot and some bikes in this decluttering spree.
Over the last week I have gone through DS chest of drawers and a big carrier bag has gone to the charity shop. I have also gone through both bathroom cabinets. Dodgy looking liquified stuff in bottles has been chucked and I am taking a carrier bag full of lots of samples of shampoo skin care stuff etc and hotel bottles of shampoo and a few bits of brand new make up to give to my friend. My skin has become extra sensitive, it has always has been a bit like this but has got so much worse I don't want to try new products.
The thing I'm worrying about is the loft, many things have been chucked up there and forgotten about.
I have no idea how or when I replied with "N"!
Anyway, been too busy working to make much progress for a while but if DS ever goes to sleep tonight I plan to clear out some of his outgrown clothes that I thought I wanted to hang on to so I could lend to friends.
I am very relieved go see the posts above, I thought I had killed the thread, and your 'N' , Freelance was rather alarming as I thought it contained some hidden message. I wondered if the mention of all the rooms in this house was perceived as 'stealth boasting' rather than an attempt to describe the scale of the task confronting me.
Anyway, I have started on said task, sorted out the utility room without resorting to sticking even more stuff into the pantry, been through dining room cupboards. I could not believe how many candles we own, no, not Jo Malone, mainly plain white ones and, as well as the whole ones, lots of stumpy bits kept with a vague idea of illuminating the garden by planting them in flower pots. As if! They have gone.
Four shelves in kitchen cleared out and lined with that metallic liner bought from Lakeland at vast expense, but it is a huge improvement on the mucky plain wood bearing many a record of spilt sauce.
Filthy grout on kitchen floor partly cleaned with the little handheld steamer prior to the acquisition of a steam mop which I doubt would have coped with the muck I got off but might keep things down given a chance.
Three bags of junk consigned to bin, some games and unopened jigsaws heading for Charity shop.
Plans for the week ahead: keep on with kitchen shelf lining, throw out huge accumulation of magazines kept for just one recipe. Why bother when internet can offer plenty of options?
Preciousbane and anyone else, do you find it hard to throw out old makeup?
Keep at it winklewoman: I really can reassure you that you won't miss 99% of the stuff.
Winklewoman good lord you really do have a MASSIVE task ahead! Well done for taking the plunge and making a start I also started with the Futility Room as its where I seem to spend most of my time
Hi Preciousbane I am a great admirer of your NN!
I don't wear makeup
Gosh, IBA and LV, thanks, I feel so much happier now. PB, yes as a former Salopian I appreciate the NN too.
winkle sorry for the scare - no envy here. More rooms means m
Means more space for DP to store clutter so no envy at all!
I hardly ever wear makeup now so I recently ditched everything over two years old.
Doing well today. Bagged up two huge bags of clothes for the charity bins. Next step is returning things to other people over the next couple of weeks which should make quite a difference.
FreelanceM, two years old? I suspect some of mine is more like 20. We bought the steam mop this morning and had a good go with it. It is a cheapy from B&M but seems to do what I expected. Novelty will probably wear off rapidly but I'm hoping our cleaner will like it. And yes, I know, but even with a cleaner once a week, the place is still in a state!
Can I join?
I am desperate to declutter. I look at stuff and thin we just have too much (but tbd we have outgrown our house a little).
My barriers are - well just getting started.
Looking at something and thinking havnet had monies worth and it seems a shame to get rid.
Or it's because it something I bought the DC when they were little.
Or because someone bought it for one of us - even if we dont use it.
Or because someone bought it for one of us - even if we dont use it.
This sounds like a good place to start: give it to a Charity shop, and you will know that they will get money for it, someone else will get the use out of it, and you will get a glow of satisfaction.
In the past I have had huge clear ours and and big cleans.
I have a toddler at home now. I think I need to accept it has be done in bitesize pieces.
Im going to start by getting DS (room is overflowing) to agree to me removing toys he simply does not play with anymore - at least to garage. Currently I can not get into his room to make the bed, hoover and he cant find anything. He cant have firends around either its so messy.
His clothes end upin our room in a basket as I cant gt in to put them away.
Right I am starting there.
Welcome ashamed !
I know what you mean . I have held on to
-many many useless and outgrown- things, but there is hope, you can do it!
It's almost as if you have to give yourself permission to part with the things.
To some it sounds ridiculous, but like many things in life, we all find certain things easy and straightforward. I have found, not only mine, but other peoples clutter overwhelming.
I found doing 1 cupboard/draw at a time,maybe for 15mins really helpful and easier than walking into a room with bin bags.
I did the shelves in the futility room. 15 mins created 2 shelves for storing laundry things. <proud emoticon>
Look around, pick a place and work through it. It really works
I did try and do a little bit of tidying/sorting over the weekend...but failed miserably
I really have to go and do something to my bedroom though. It is ridiculously messy and I can't find any clothes. While ds is at his class tonight, I will be locked in my room, tidying it!
Thanks for NN appreciation!
I have given a few bits of make up to two friends today, I'm now contemplating going through all my DVDs as I have about 250 and getting rid of some. My friend has 3 thousand DVDs so nowhere near as bad as him.
Hi Hiccup hope you have some success in your bedroom! Mine is a storage facility for the rest of the house
-and no one is allowed in there-
I think just starting really gets the ball rolling, you soon start to think why am I hanging onto this??! (like all of those candles Winklewoman!). Well done for getting rid!
I encouraged my mum and dad to get rid of loads of clutter yonks ago because the thought of having to do it when they passed away filled me with dread.
Perhaps if you have lots of your mums stuff you can just choose a few really nice bits and keep them and have them on show - perhaps better than keeping it all and never using or looking at it.
Perhaps if you have lots of your mums stuff you can just choose a few really nice bits and keep them and have them on show - perhaps better than keeping it all and never using or looking at it.
That's very much what I thought of my mum's stuff. She had some really nice things but we never knew of their existence because they were hidden away amongst all the clutter. It would have been so much better if she could have enjoyed them while she was alive.
Thanks for welcome Iorek
I keep telling my DS Im going to sort his room out to 'prepare' him. Ive been doing this since before xmas . Ive done it again last night.
When I go upstairs to get ready for the day properly Im going to spend 20 mins removing as much as I can. I must admit he has a beautiful castle with a huge amount (overspend I know) of sheikh knights. They are such lovely toys that never get played with. I think I leave them there as it kind of justifies my overspending in the first place.
Mayeb I can pack these away. I will leave the farm and schleich animals as DD has started to play with this.
So i think the key is to look at an objects value in terms of it's use and not of its origins ie costs or present from whoever.
<sighs> Im such a wuss.
Feeling virtuous this morning having cleared out the kitchen cupboard where the mixers are kept. I threw out two hand held ones that do not work at all, plus a mini chopper/processor which was very dangerous as the cut-out which is supposed to stop the blade whirring unless the lid is on does not work. I bought a replacement but hung on to the original finger-mincer for a rainy, or more likely very bloody, day. Also chucked various unidentifiable bits of plastic and some odd and chipped cups.
I have lined the shelves with the Lakeland metallic product and have spent some time admiring the effect. Onwards and upwards.
Yesterday cleared out a small bag of toys and clothes. Hard to do with a toddler around but am going through paperwork now and ditching as much as I can.
The discussion on candles reminds me I have a load of tealights we never never use. Ditch!
De lurking to post a cautionary tale.Cleared out a load of childrens books, off to the charity shop in town.Other day come home to find large pile of childrens books from Grandma,apparently she spotted them in the shop and thought we would like them
Moral;travel to further away charity shop!
outtolunch hilarious! I remember as a kid donating something to a bring and buy sale and then finding it in my stocking that Christmas - guess Father Christmas went to the same sales as my parents!
Joining you! I have decluttered in the past but wasn't ready to a) not buy a bunch more crap without considering where it would go or b) do mini decluttering often. I am now. So, onwards! Starting with clothes!
outolunch - that is pretty funny and a bit demoralising!!
We have shelves (and shelves) of cookery books but the reality is that we either use the internet for recipes (BBC Good Food never fails) or a basic cookbook (Goodhousekeeping) for staples plus maybe 2 others. has anyone ever been brave enough to get rid of the lot? Did you regret it or was it liberating?
DH wants to keep them all (he cooks twice a year). I want to reclaim the shelves for my maths books (whole other thread - I much prefer maths to cooking).
So do I get rid of my collection of over a thousand ladybird books?
They had purpose built shelves in our spare room but when DS came along I had to pack them all away, he then got them rotated for about 10 years so we did get good use out of them.
Have found a shop that buys DVDs in my town, will only get 50pfor each one so may just give to charity shop.
If you have over 1,000 and can get 50p each then that is £500. Best to sell them (as you know they will then be valued) and then give all or some of the money (if you want) to your favourite charity.
oh, sorry, that was the DVDs!
Ladybird books are collectors' items, you have permission to keep. 175 DVDs at 50p = £87.5. (Please check my maths ProfPlum).
I echo the cookbook dilemma. Good Food great if you know what you are looking for, but browsing through books and magazines sometimes turns up new ideas.
I also have vast quantities of Christmas editions of magazines, find it so hard to chuck these out.
I am taking three carrier bags of books and a board game to the charity shop later. I have made Rice Krispie cakes to use up Rice Krispies and also chucked away three bags of flour that looked manky and had been open for a while, ahem one since 2011.
I have chucked out large piles of old magazines plus torn out recipes and one or two cook books. We've got one of those huge Victorian dressers in the kitchen and all that stuff lived in the bottom cupboards, together, rather disconcertingly, with some mouse droppings. I have been looking reproachfully at our obviously idle cat.
Damn. Have not done much for days. Nearly got started listing baby stuff on eBay then realised it all needed ironing and it was getting late so listed one thing!
Need to get the pace going again... Oh, did find a local car boot sale which I could have a stall at - hopefully that'll prompt me to get sorting.
Where is everyone?
Reporting for duty here.
Kitchen cupboards' contents sorted and bottles and jars with a teaspoonful left in chucked as well as antique herbs.
Everything lined metallically and gleaming apart from the hell hole that is the built in cupboard where the bin is kept. I love our kitchen, we had it built by a local carpenter in a plain wood style to match the big old dresser. But unlike most modern kitchens, the insides were uncoated wood. We should have done something about sealing or lining at the outset, but never got around to it until now, 13 years on.
You can imagine what the inside of the bin cupboard looks like, or maybe happier not imagining it. I just could not face it and was trying to pretend it did not exist. DH however asked if I was going to treat it to metal lining to match the rest. He saw the look I gave him and instantly offered to do the necessary preliminary cleaning. So I armed him with my hand steamer, a bottle of liquid soda crystals, and left him to it, explaining that unless you remove every tiny bit of dirt and the surface is completely flat, Lakeland's finest will not stick. So he has just brought me up another cup of coffee as I lie in bed MNetting and Candycrushing, (you can see why I don't LTB) and announced he is off into town to get some heavy duty sandpaper to deal with everything defeated by steamer and soda.
So, work in progress, looking forward to its conclusion.
What are the rest of you up to?
If I have not joined may I join now?
I am not bad with clutter eg in living room but sometimes in bedroom and living room it gets a lot. I have 2 bookshelves in both rooms. Went through both at weekend and have ditched 20 books I haven't read - ditched = charity shop or to give to DB's FIL who's housebound and an avid reader.
Went through perfumes - undecided what to do with them. But sorted through a few bottles (hair stuff, body oils etc) and emptied ones not used, emptied, stuff I will never use.
I also went through receipts, papers. I mean what does one do with it all?! Investment companies/pension companies, plans etc keep sending me rubbish. do I keep most recent?
Winkle - your dh sounds like he's worth keeping
Hello - welcome!! Sounds like you've made a good start
I have done zero decluttering since New Year but have pretty much kept on top of the progress I made then.
My next goal is to try and get upstairs into a better state. I text my mum earlier to ask if she'll have ds for the weekend so I can have two days to make a start on it. He's more than big enough to spend the whole weekend infront of the tv/Xbox but I feel horribly guilty when it does happen so at least if he's at mum's he'll have a bit of a change of scenery!!
Well bin cupboard now looks beautiful as I lined the back and sides as well as the bottom. The Lakeland metallic shelf liner is very good, in that it is sturdy and adheres very well, but because it comes in stupidly short lengths and is quite narrow there is a lot of wastage unless you patch bits together which rather spoils the look.
Helloboys, I agree about the dilemma of what to do with paperwork. I tend to keep everything and bung it into envelope files, which fill up, take up a lot of room and eventually fall to bits. I'd love to know the solution.
You have inspired me to have a go at ancient cosmetic stuff by the way.
Hiccup and Winkle
I think with me I have to get into a mood (the zone) about whether to throw stuff out. otherwise I have stuff for YEARS.
Winkle - yes I have envelope files but main stuff is investment which I will ask them to send me online if they can, it's literally EVERY MONTH or two weeks, why?!
Does anyone have ideas for storage? for bedroom really. I have my living room etc sorted out.
I have an old wardrobe which is big and clunky with four drawers and a rail, a huge 4 and 2 drawer chest of drawers, and a four drawer plastic storage unit (all for clothes). I also have a 3 drawer (I think) unit for makeup, cosmetics, knickers.
Wish I could streamline but how and where... ideas would be great.
Damn it!! Today was going to be the day for decluttering but I have got sidetracked!!
Right, I need serious motivating (or a swift kick up the rear!!).
I am in my bedroom and have no idea where to start. There's so much stuff dumped in here .
Ok, going to start by changing bedding. Next, find 5 things to put on eBay/FB. I'll be back
Please, no judgy replies...can't cope with it today!!!
Bed done and 4 things on FB. Just about to list 5th item on eBay then a quick break to make ds some lunch and remove him from his Xbox!!
Next to do, sort out Summer clothes. Clearout the wardrobe and refill with clothes that are likely to be worn!! That should take the best part of
10 2 hours.
We all had the lurgy from before xmas until mid January so piles of papers and junk mail had built up. Started to sort it the other day and ds -who was off school.was driving me dotty basking what every piece of paper was. In the end I gave him a pile of stuff and asked him to out it in the recycling basket in the hall. Which he did happily. By the time he got back I had another oiled ready to give him
HelloBoys, yes that repetative investment info is so excessve. I also regret opening a couple of bank accounts with Santander. The amount of stuff which comes from them is unbelievable.
This weekend we are staying with DS1 and his DP. The house is pristine, admittedly they have had a lot of work done which has now been completed so they are at that stage where you are in love with your beautiful house and do not want a speck of dust or misplaced cup to sully it. Nevertheless, I suspect they will continue along these lines, proving that a disposition to hoard and clutter is not genetic. Just as well, really.
Finally made some progress today - trip to the charity shop to ditch one sack clothes and two bags of toys and books, and a picnic hamper, and a yoga mat. Listing the old printer on freecycle this week with some hand weights. Kicked DP to keep going sorting all his boxes of papers out. Feet a bit sore from kicking!
Starfish - well done with the junk mail! There are mountains of it here!
Winklewoman - hope you've had a lovely weekend...do you feel motivated to go home and declutter? I usually do if I've been somewhere that is decluttered and ordered. However, the feeling has normally worn off by e time I get home !!
Freelancemama - Sounds like brilliant progress!!
Not quite sure what happend to the rest of yesterday. After my lunch break, I didn't seem to get much done .
My family came over for lunch today which forced me to tidy up first so at least the 'seen' bits of my house are tidy.
Also, one of my FB items has sold, been paid for and collected. I'm delivering another two (big items) tomorrow so should clear a bit more space in my room.
Ds and I went through our summer clothes. We're going on holiday next weekend so I'm hoping to pack in plenty of time instead of the usual last minute panic. So far, the suitcase is empty and my bed is covered in clothes!! Going to get the iron out and get some of it ironed and packed.
I'm jumping straight in to say that I have done the easier stuff (we moved house in the summer and I did a mega de-clutter then) but that it's now down to the hard stuff... a drawer full of scarves I never wear, a cupboard full of shoes ditto. But they are lovely and I might wear them sometime... help!
Hi HHH, yes thank you we had a lovely weekend, during the course of which we admired DS's Dyson rechargeable stick vacuum. I have been seriously envious of this since our last visit, but they are expensive, around £279, though be got his cheaper from Ebay.
Back home now, but decluttering will wait until tomorrow.
MissAnnersley, we are kindred spirits. Yes to shoe and scarf problem. Also the perennial cosmetic pile up. I have lots of little tubes containing assorted potions, used once or twice then abandoned as they did not instantly transform me into a heavenly goddess. I shall have to harden my heart and chuck. The situation has been exacerbated by DH's Valentine's oresent - Clinique concoctions, and because he bought so many he got the 'Bonus Gift' - yes, yet more little optimistic tubes.
I wish we had the photo option on this forum. We could all show proud 'before and after' pics and cheer each other on.
Miss - I am exactly the same but trying to change my ways!! Scarves are a big weakness of mine, too but I did put a couple of eBay and got a reasonable price for them. Also, shoes are an issue here. Most of them weren't good enough to be sold or donated to charity shop but I hate throwing things in the bin. I eventually asked at the charity shop if they could recycle them. They can so I got rid of loads!!! The barely worn ones? Hmm, it's an ongoing battle
Winkle - I have the original handheld dyson and it is fab!! I believe the newer ones are much improved but unfortunately, twice the price!!
Three of my FB sale items have sold, yippee!! Ally pleased and it's cleared a nice little space in my bedroom!!
Before and after photos are a great idea! Not sure if I read about them here or elsewhere but I used to do it when I had a garden - to make me feel reassured I'd made a difference - but haven't thought about doing it to my decluttering.
Shoes, scarves and make-up - I think I must have become really lazy about my appearance since I became a freelancer. When you work at home a lot, comfort is the way forward, so I almost never wear makeup (ditched all but a handful of stuff), just ditched a load of hats, gloves and scarves, and shoes have reduced down to ones that are essential for smart outfits.
My weakness is books. I love having shelves of reference material - non-fiction stuff. And craft stuff.
I'm back after spending a whole afternoon in the loft of doom. So far six boxes of books to the charity shop, a rather nice rug and wall hanging and a picnic hamper to them as well.
I have found an absolutely beautiful framed print in the loft that I have owned for almost 30 years. However it hung in mine and exH house so unsure what to do as too many bad memories.
We have also sorted out DS bedroom, a whole carrier bag of small toy cars and a few games etc to the charity shop. So far I have sold one child's bike and subject to collection a leap pad with 5 books and cartridges.
I found a beer fermentation bin in there as well and my old Japanese parasols. My house has always been quite tidy I now realise it was because everything was just chucked in the loft!
glad others are in the same boat at least HHH, winkle
I might bag up all the scarves
which I never wear anyway and put them somewhere to see if I miss them. There is literally a whole drawer crammed full!
On the other hand I eBayed about 30 items from my jewlery/accessories so feeling better on that front!
DH says he is going to sort out the cellar this week as he has a few days off. It certainly needs sorting, but I am a bit wary about letting him do it unsupervised. There are a lot of my things down there, mainly craft stuff, but also some toys from my childhood - and we are going back a long way here - (does anyone remember Bayko building sets? Precursor of Lego; very precious).
I am perfectly capable of making intelligent decisions when it comes to throwing out his rubbish, but I don't believe he has similar discernment when it comes to mine. Anyone else feel the same?
Winkle - I find it very easy to make decisions about ds' things...mostly, I am happy to let them go. There are one or two things that I think
I he should keep but the rest is fine to go ...he almost always disagrees with me !!!
I am very of your dh's time off to be at home decluttering.
Ds and I are off on holiday next weekend, which is fab but means I can't take anymore holiday for a while so no chance of making big progress.
Miss - well done on the ebaying...I hope you got/get good prices!
Precious - I believe the reason for my messy home is my lack of loft/garage/cellar/shed...excuses, excuses . Sounds like you've made good progress, though. Re print. Could you just leave it up in the loft for now? Maybe in another few months you might feel you want to hang it up or get rid of it. I imagine it's not taking up a huge amount of space up there.
Just catching up ( like star we have had the lurgy forever so progress has stalled)
Just wanted to say, before I forget, photos are a good idea winkle can you put them on your profile? Then we can all admire each others (your) progress?
Returning to RTFT now
Iorek, I will think about it. I don't have a profile so must do that first. There was a pre-Christmas thread about oven cleaning on 'Chat' where you can post photos and I shamelessly flaunted before and after pictures of my filthy then sparkling oven.
I have chucked out a huge bag of ancient makeup today, it would have made a picturesque image.
Sadly not much sign of DH's cellar clear out, but he has had some work-connected things to do despite being theoretically on holiday, so is forgiven.
Had a busy day (not de-cluttering) with the DC and dogs.
winkle or we could link in a chat thread just for pictures?
Anyone any ideas? I have regularly taken photos of before and after to give myself a kick to get started.
Will take more than pics at the moment, I'm knackered
Hi Iorek the only problem with linking in chat is that you are exposing your slatternly self to all of MN, rather than the sympathetic sisters on this forum.
I have sorted out my knicks and tights and bras, and have chucked out countless tights, those with holes however tiny and those which have acquired a rubbed and knobbly look, and have tried on every bra and got rid of all things saggy and greyish. Lunch time now.
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